Should I tell a woman I’m dating my body count if it’s low?

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MacDwest · 2024-06-26T14:07:30+00:00

Bro. Truth is that there is never a correct answer, you will be too high or too low. So never reveal that number until after you hook up.

I always play coy with that question “I’m a virgin 😈”.

At worst they are trying to DQ you from whatever criteria they have in their head, at best they evaluating you for STI risk. Good news is, if they prompted this question they are evaluating for sexy time.

So if they press, make sure you share how you’re responsible and get tested regularly. (Actually get tested regularly)

Jironasaurus · 2024-06-26T14:20:14+00:00

The correct answer is, "I don't keep count, because I treat women as people, not numbers."

sleepypabs · 2024-06-26T17:05:49+00:00

Never tell a woman your body count

GrislyGrape · 2024-06-26T14:05:55+00:00

Body count is wild to me. Sure, some numbers get ridiculous, but sex count is more appropriate. 6 year relationship > body count of 1.

People put too much emphasis on sleeping with a bunch of women. You could sleep with 50 and still last 2 mins and all can be unsatisfied, if anything, a 6 year relationship means she was at least (hopefully) satisfied, more than a lot of ONS can say lol

DaygameCode · 2024-06-26T16:39:40+00:00

Just say i don’t count.

ExpensiveGrave · 2024-06-26T14:24:57+00:00

Your reason is actually looked upon very well. I've been in the same position when I was 30 and most women found it very endearing. They thought, "Holy shit, this dude is actually quality and not a manwhore like everyone else I've met." If it was 1 because it was a one-time hookup in college then it would be different. You had a serious LTR and look to be very dedicated and not superficial/shallow/conquest oriented like many here.

Several_Ad_8363 · 2024-06-26T15:17:46+00:00

If she asks, then tell the truth, including that you've come out of a 6-year relationship.

But this whole situation (that you have time to ask how to respond) suggests to me that you are phone-zoning yourself instead of meeting in person and building attraction. You should not really be in a situation where they have time to think about it and ask this stuff.

Inconceivable1985 · 2024-06-26T15:47:14+00:00

Say you don't talk about how many people you've killed.

shushravens · 2024-06-26T16:40:28+00:00

Nothing good ever comes from talking about body counts

backizwack · 2024-06-26T15:30:05+00:00

Never share your body count with a woman, it causes a certain type of insecurity. It’s the same with men too. Just be playful about it

What’s ur body count? “Idk a prime number or something”

“All of them”

“0, vaginas scare me they look like the predators mouth ://“

Literally just make a joke of it!

supremekatastrophy · 2024-06-26T15:00:18+00:00

Stuff like that doesn't have to be disclosed.

Secrecy_Guaranteed · 2024-06-26T14:10:38+00:00

If that is the reason this is kinda ok even if 21 is still "very late" (according to our culture) for your first time.

KurtKoksbain · 2024-06-26T15:28:27+00:00

me as a guy, I like when her c(o)unt is high, then the chances that she knows how to fuck are better.

throwaway-research1 · 2024-06-26T15:41:26+00:00

You are going to fumble it, reason: you are taking her too seriously and asking the internet what you should say to her when you haven’t even had sex with her. Just say whatever you want

Born-Research-6406 · 2024-06-26T14:38:04+00:00

eh leave it a mystery and say it doesn’t matter to you

Wise_Appointment1273 · 2024-06-26T15:20:05+00:00

The discussion about body count came up with my current girlfriend a few months into us dating. I told her that I don’t want her to know my number and that I don’t want to know hers. I don’t see a scenario where knowing the number will do anything good.

Nearby_Advance7443 · 2024-06-26T17:45:31+00:00

There is no correct (numerical) answer to that question. If you’re too high, you’re a slut. If you’re too low, you’re low value. Find a clever way to evade the answer. The above dude who says he treats women as people and not numbers is a great example of how to do this.

Lucky-Dentist5407 · 2024-06-26T16:52:10+00:00

No. As a woman, I don’t see why that information is necessary. At ALL. Especially since you said dating and not in a relationship

sekshibeesht · 2024-06-26T14:19:12+00:00

Reply with “My past is ex, but you should be my next”

dsvengalis · 2024-06-26T21:58:05+00:00

If it’s over ten or so you should be truthful, but if you’ve only killed one or two people I wouldn’t bother.

NuKidOnThBlokchyn · 2024-06-26T22:06:34+00:00

Your number is none of her business and hers is none of yours.

As long as you're both tested/protected it's not a concern.

Unless this is a conversation that comes up often. But I think ignorance is bliss on both sides. Knowing the number is never going to improve the relationship IMO.

L3GiiT818 · 2024-06-26T22:12:21+00:00

it’s not worth mentioning unless she asks

Awsumguy68 · 2024-06-26T22:56:40+00:00

Don't ever talk about body count. Redirect the conversation.

Top-Donkey-5081 · 2024-06-26T23:48:18+00:00

I say to her that "I'm a man of God, how could you ask such question"

73738484737383874 · 2024-06-27T00:22:48+00:00

If it comes up, just be honest in my opinion.

AromaticPlant8504 · 2024-06-27T00:40:53+00:00

Just say “I’d rather not ruin the mood” and then change topic

NapalmJusticeSword · 2024-06-27T01:02:27+00:00

"You wouldn't believe me if I told you"

I'm celibate btw

AkakiPeikrishvili · 2024-06-27T01:41:49+00:00

Just say 5ish.

Nawfside_B_Rose · 2024-06-26T13:54:06+00:00

You either keep it real and let her know . Then If she leaves it's her loss . Or just say you'd prefer not to speak on that or at least not yet .

Tatleman68 · 2024-06-26T14:26:22+00:00

Just say it or don't but don't lie

RedditAtWorkIsBad · 2024-06-26T16:07:45+00:00

I can't believe this matters. First, I'm not bringing it up. And if she asks, I'm just going to confidently tell the truth.

I mean, FWIW, she may be the kind of girl who LOOKS for someone with a low count. She may be the opposite. Doesn't really matter though. I am what I am, and if that matters to her, well, she's an idiot. (Or worried about STDs if your count is high...)

Viktor2500 · 2024-06-26T14:13:16+00:00

Just tell her bro, be it 3 or 30. Keep it real and don't lie about this stuff.

c_setup_exe · 2024-06-26T14:43:13+00:00

Tell her its in a range from 1 to 30, don't reveal real number just tell her to keep guessing

Easy-Protection9096 · 2024-06-26T14:47:43+00:00

Nah…just say that it doesn’t matter. Im also 27 and mine is low by most standards (12)…i told a girl and she absolutely did not like it. She kinda shamed me for it because hers was lower. Then I’ve been on the other end where I’ve told girls and they just refuse to share their number and probably get embarrassed because their number is higher and they don’t want to seem like they get around. To be completely honest with you, if she told me hers was super high, I probably would’ve looked at her differently as well. It’s one of those things where it’s best to just not discuss it.

big_daug6932 · 2024-06-26T15:15:12+00:00

No. Why should it matter. Only if the subject comes up in conversation.

mikeslominsky · 2024-06-26T16:23:01+00:00

People act like they want to know, but it’s no one’s business.

owns-a-Gay-bar · 2024-06-26T16:23:20+00:00

I don't care what to say to your woman but learn to use commas in sentences?

_aoiv_ · 2024-06-26T16:29:57+00:00

Make a joke of it "does it count if i was on a porn set?" 👀 and she says "HaHa BlaH BlAh" then smirk and say " i dont feel quite comfortable answering that...you might possibly be the body count police" And never actually answer the question, always leave open ended answers when you're asked personal questions

canardu · 2024-06-26T17:35:16+00:00

Lie. Don't go too high though. Matter of fact even if you fucked 100 women there is no guarantee she'll enjoy sex with you. So just lie, then if you end up having sex she'll decide if she should continue with you or not. If the relationship goes on then that number will not matter.

McChickenLargeFries · 2024-06-26T17:36:47+00:00

You could try to be playful and funny by saying something like..

"Slightly more than 0 but way way less than 1000." That way you're keeping it light and playful.

Or you could change it to slightly more than 0 but less than 10.. So it keeps her guessing a bit, is truthful, but also shows that you haven't had a whore phase.

If I were you I would definitely bring up that you didn't get into your first real relationship until you were 21 and that lasted 6 years. So you spent most of your 20's in a long term relationship and that you value being with one partner vs going out and having random hook ups.

Mercvears · 2024-06-26T17:56:35+00:00

There is also the option of, I’m not telling you, going about it in a fun and roundabout way.

You don’t HAVE to tell anyone anything. Just say its a secret until I know you better, it builds mysteriousness too

Nate64 · 2024-06-26T18:13:41+00:00

‘Stopped counting when I was 25’

yardapesbb · 2024-06-26T18:29:20+00:00

Less history more mystery.

ArcaneAces · 2024-06-26T18:57:25+00:00

Do people really ask this question?

jiva_maya · 2024-06-26T19:14:28+00:00

she sounds immature man. Usually it's dipshit men who want to know that bullshit.

zack_snack · 2024-06-26T19:35:53+00:00

"You know, I'm a virgin. But I learn pretty quickly... ;)"

No_Practice_970 · 2024-06-26T20:01:42+00:00

Mature adults asking for a person's body count is so cringe.

lameo312 · 2024-06-26T20:10:02+00:00

No respectable person is going to want to know your body count.

Kobe_curry24 · 2024-06-26T20:10:07+00:00

Don’t talk about Body count lmfaooo

Hortos · 2024-06-26T20:51:26+00:00

No. Longer answer absolutely not.

WOWSOWHAT · 2024-06-26T21:19:04+00:00

I could show you better than I could tell you.

Sweet_Refrigerator_9 · 2024-06-26T21:37:27+00:00

To some people, body count matters, and to others not at all. It all depends on the context. if she just wanna a good time then probably. I don't know about you but I have never seen people going around telling others about their body count.

Sandvicheater · 2024-06-26T22:06:34+00:00

typically no most women will have higher body counts then most men its just statistical facts since women can get laid easier and have seasons of "slut mode" while us dudes treat the rare female who gives us a time a day all our love and attention.

Ampboy97 · 2024-06-26T22:21:31+00:00

No. That is a childish question.

Excellent_Scheme9542 · 2024-06-26T17:01:12+00:00

35 and ive only been with 10.. 2 were european, 1 black, and another 2 were ex junkies... strangely the Black girl was the only one who wasnt total Trash or just a waste of my space and time.. only 1 was a relationship too.... I just wouldnt care..

Id tell her if it was me.. honestly I wouldnt care at all.

felyyy79 · 2024-06-26T14:23:00+00:00

Just say "That's a dumb question, next one 😒"

growingcock · 2024-06-26T14:31:25+00:00

Why tf would you tell her out of nothing?

PrinceDestin · 2024-06-26T14:46:24+00:00

Always tell the truth, now I’m a young guy so young women probably understand I had a low count and older women would probably expect that of me, but I don’t mention it if they don’t ask

Nicotine-Enthusiast · 2024-06-26T15:39:35+00:00

If its lower than 10 then just say whatever Jironasaurus said.

Women love men who are loved by many women.

living_la_vida_loca · 2024-06-26T17:58:24+00:00

Never ever ever ever ever ever ever share that info with the person you are dating. Just say its private and done.

Honest_Bruh · 2024-06-26T19:49:00+00:00

"I stopped counting after a thousand"

Title	Should I tell a woman I’m dating my body count if it’s low?
Author	jgonzalez-cs
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Date	June 26, 2024 1:45 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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