What are some eye opening thing that led you to a successful dating life

Trikdonkey · 2025-06-05T14:34:31+00:00

Touching. In my early twenties I respected women and wouldn't touch them without first being given a green light. I friendzoned myself countless times. Then I learned to touch playfully and eventually sexually.. absolute game changer

Ryan_the_Scion · 2025-06-05T14:39:59+00:00

What are some eye opening thing

What an immense difference good photos make in online dating. You might think yours are good, but if you're not an Instagram denizen, likely they're not.

unevendopamine2 · 2025-06-05T14:39:47+00:00

Women fuck and date people for the most random reasons

So being rejected might be because she had a bad day at work…. Same way the reason she met up with you is because she had a bad day at work. It’s rarely simply because of you

Knowing this rejections hurt less and acceptance also meant less

It’s all whatever

mysteryplays · 2025-06-05T15:16:47+00:00

women game is selling you purity. She says she doesn't fuck on the first date, yet here we are in her bed.

SuperPoop · 2025-06-05T15:01:51+00:00

dont force it. if you're not feeling it, move on

Powerful-Ad9392 · 2025-06-05T14:55:41+00:00

Not dating but a long time married guy here. I think the advice holds though.

Cultivate emotional stability. Learn not to react emotionally to things.

originalgainster · 2025-06-05T18:43:46+00:00

Although it improved my dating life, I can't say it led me to a successful one yet in the way I want it, but reading Models was eye-opening. Don't get invested in someone you don't even know. It's okay to be rejected or if things don't work out. Don't be needy. Be vulnerable. Be honest.

Makaveli676 · 2025-06-05T20:44:38+00:00

My life in that department surged when I took my Instagram posts more serious and realized that dating is basically just marketing… that is once you past a certain threshold of confidence and looks. It’s literally just a numbers game after that. You approach irl and initiate DMs regularly, it’s only a matter of time before the flood, not to mention the women that your pics alone will attract. Also, learn to surrender to your nervousness, don’t try to act like you’re not nervous because you are, you’re supposed to be nervous when doing something unfamiliar, so when approaching do it for the routine, not the results. Then you’ll notice that after like the first 50 girls you don’t even get nervous anymore. Yes, it did take a lot of exposure for me to stop being nervous to approach, but it’s definitely worth it because now I do it whenever and wherever and say whatever just to amuse myself. And wind up on casual dates with these women

No-Buy7459 · 2025-06-05T21:39:14+00:00

went from 5 matches per month to almost 500 per month, just because of pictures.

TeachMePersuasion · 2025-06-05T14:32:12+00:00

There is no bigger turnoff than neediness.

The "i dont need you because I'm higher value than you" can be a massive turnon sometimes.

heavysteve · 2025-06-05T20:10:04+00:00

Get yourself some decent shoes

MidnightCookies76 · 2025-06-05T19:47:59+00:00

Having solid boundaries, knowing what you want, and not settling for someone “good enough” could have saved me from 7.5 years of emotional abuse. They say leave at the first sign of major red flags and I wish this advice existed in 2017. 🤦🏽‍♀️ Bc once I ignored the first red flags I just accepted the ones that came after. Now if I decide to date in the future I’m sticking to preserving my peace and not just pairing up bc I am attracted to them and I’m just lonely. Nope.

chadisntmad · 2025-06-06T01:42:56+00:00

DO NOT GIVE A FUCK DO NOT CHASE

Certain_Process_7657 · 2025-06-05T16:33:35+00:00

Since you're asking mainly for advice on ONS and quick hookups, I'd say the key is to always be closing. Escalate as soon as you sense positive vibes and energy from her. Always go for the kiss and try to sleep with them as soon as possible. Much lower chance of disappointing her if you make a move too fast than if you wait too long.

becomesharp · 2025-06-05T20:48:20+00:00

"Fortune favors the bold".

There's a huge, disproportionate boost you get when you take massive action (e.g., do 20-50 approaches a week, approach the hottest girl in the bar every time to numb yourself to the anxiety, etc.) and realize that that's like 50% of the battle.

"Open the first set"

Old school advice but has stood the test of time. Open the first group you see when you cold approach at night. Literally the first group. Could be girls, guys, two gay guys making out, dogs, doesnt matter. Approach without hesitation and without excuse. Sounds stupid and easy but you'd be shocked at how many excuses come up. You'll also be shocked to see how much momentum it creates when you do it consistently.

shyphone · 2025-06-06T09:46:07+00:00

Having healthy boundaries and standards. And have other priorities in your life other than women. It should be something to make your life better.

Dating is not about making women like you. It is about vetting someone worth to keep among women that likes you. If women doesn't respect you or doesn't meet your standards then let her go. It is not gonna work anyway. It is not about meeting women that counts, it is about meeting someone who meets your standards that matters.

If you can't meet someone that meets your needs then that means you are not someone who deserves kind of women you want yet. Work on yourself is 1000% more rewarding and strong game than chasing after women and trying to make them like you.

MisterMoogle03 · 2025-06-06T14:27:46+00:00

If she’s open to going on a date with you she likes you enough for you to not question whether or not there’s attraction (unless she’s a meal/gold digger). There’s no secret sauce other than playing it cool, not talking to much (it is so easy to talk yourself out of getting laid), and a decent amount of flirting to keep things light and enjoyable.

Girls really just want to have fun. Most women I date stick around for a while even if there’s no long term future because I have fun, with or without them.

Hot_Cherry_84 · 2025-06-05T21:59:04+00:00

That I can’t win so I gave up dating and instead I pursue other things that life can offer. It’s been a relief.

ioppijj · 2025-06-05T18:35:01+00:00

Long distance is shit even if we have a lot of chemistry

Anonymous-Man-2024 · 2025-06-05T17:05:16+00:00

opening my eyes and observing the real world.

DirteeMouth · 2025-06-05T14:53:47+00:00

Once i stopped “cold approaching” and hitting on women things started to work in my favor because i became the one getting approached and hit on. Which showed me that a lot of women are just as perverted & horny as guys. I remember one confirmed it and told me “every woman brings out the slutty side for the man they wanted & got”

FreeProfessor8193 · 2025-06-05T21:13:07+00:00

So is this sub just Indians regurgitating old PUA stuff?

domdomdom333 · 2025-06-05T16:49:48+00:00

I feel like I'm in a dimension of opposites. I've tried a lot of these things people say but that's led me nowhere.

SnowmanRandom · 2025-06-06T12:48:23+00:00

Going to medical school and just trying to be around the cool guys there. Monkey see monkey do is the most effective learning strategy for game.

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Title	What are some eye opening thing that led you to a successful dating life
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