For me? without going into specifics, my kids, financial and emotional stability, sleep, my job, health and my ability to feel safe around anyone who wants to connect again. Every night I loop over the same thinking what if I had done better, approached her better, maybe I'd still be unhappy but I'd have my 3 y.o baby girl come to bed at 3 a.m to cuddle. I think of a color or a smell and it takes me back to the court room, the arguments, the ability to pay for a lawyer in this current market...what I got in return? Resilience and perspective.