The male loneliness epidemic is a good thing.

WanabeInflatable · 2025-11-15T05:17:04+00:00

This is a ragebait, don't give her attention

Environmental_Day558 · 2025-11-15T03:13:39+00:00

The fact that the majority of men struggle with dating means that the majority of men have been coddled by the benefits of patriarchy and simply were never fit to reproduce.

The majority of men don't struggle with dating, the male loneliness epidemic is about as much of an epidemic as the trsns women in female sports epidemic. It's mostly exasperated by the media.

With a fair playing field, natural selection is allowed to take course, and the next generation of men can be better.

I dont think it works that way. Boomer women were the first generation where women enjoyed the freedoms of "second wave" feminism. They weren't forced to being in marriages they didn't want to (no fault divorces came about in 70s), majority of them were entering workforce after m the equal pay and civil right acts were passed in the 60s, which allowed them to be "strong independent women who don't need no man" if they so chose. So if your theory is correct, natural selection wouldn't have bred male loneliness epidemic victims.

Logos1789 · 2025-11-15T03:58:56+00:00

I appreciate you at least acknowledging that large swaths of generations of men will bear the burden that enables women’s freedom.

I would recommend keeping this in mind when considering how to pacify these men through what would conceivably be an incredibly difficult socio-sexual dimension of their life.

It’s no secret that abortion and modern trappings like video games and online porn have gone a long way toward reducing crime among men, whose peak offending age range is teens through early 20’s.

I think this effect will become weaker to an extent, because with social media and legacy media mirroring it, everyday life is less avoidable and it’s harder to truly immerse oneself in a mindset that doesn’t revolve around status and sex.

SilverSaan · 2025-11-15T07:36:00+00:00

You seem to think that loneliness means singledom. Yet you don't see that when men are single, women are too, with similar negative effects for their well-being, as women want to be in relationships and see them as essential or important to a fulfilled life.

So you think it's a good thing that women are not having a fulfilled life? You think women are less lonely than men?

hehechibby · 2025-11-15T02:49:01+00:00

Isn’t there a growing percentage of women choosing not to reproduce at all?

Kinda goes against the whole natural thing no

NiaNia-Data · 2025-11-15T02:42:44+00:00

With a fair playing field, natural selection is allowed to take course, and the next generation of men can be better.

A fair playing field and natural selection are mutually exclusive. Women are artifically selected, not naturally selected. You would still be concubines and dish washers if men didn't take pity and afford you some faux freedoms. In fact, in some parts of the world you still are. How natural do you want this natural selection to be?

Kapoue · 2025-11-15T02:51:02+00:00

The male loneliness epidemic is a clickbait article based off poor research.. and according to the research women are only a few percentage points from men on not having close friends.. in other words, it's not even a thing

Emergency_Might6995 · 2025-11-15T05:02:53+00:00

women have the power of choice. They choose. They have always controlled access to gash

but women are hybristophliacs and they all fight over Ted Bundy

The patriarchy has nothing to do with this.

your faith in natural selection is wildly misplaced

southwestheat · 2025-11-15T03:40:23+00:00

LOL the entire post comes off as extra-strength penis repellent 😄

But yes, that's nice that other women are enjoying dating.

Nitrodist · 2025-11-15T02:17:44+00:00

Facts

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eluusive · 2025-11-15T06:09:05+00:00

I think what you've said is mostly inaccurate.

Both genders are struggling with dating in different ways because there's no clear norms around courtship anymore. Both genders are struggling to find healthy companionship. I honestly think that women are struggling more. In 1950 women were overall more happy than men. Today women self-report higher anxiety, higher sadness, higher loneliness, and higher rates of depression than men and it's significantly higher for both genders than it was in 1950. Women just kill themselves at rates of about 1/3rd that of men. Women are also in significantly more debt than men.

Women were not "forced" into marriage, and men were not "coddled" by Patriarchy. Life was hard for most of history and it required two people just to have a decent non-subsistence life. Not getting married was a hard life for a single man or a single woman. Men were the workhorses outside the home for what should be obvious reasons.

Even today, it's really hard to be single compared to being in a good partnership. It's good to have help, and it's really nice to have someone to find sanctuary in.

It's no coincidence that feminism gained foothold at the same time that air conditioning, birth control, penicillin, washers, dryers, and tampons became available. Housework went from taking around 60 hours a week in 1900 to around 30 hours a week in 1950s. Women's quality of life improved drastically due to inventions that were all made by men for women to make their lives better. It also gave women a lot of free time to think about things.

"Too much empty time turns reflection into rumination and thought into torment."

I also think it's funny that you say "instead let natural selection take place." Because what is happening is that radical feminist women are selecting themselves out of the gene pool. Catholics, Amish, Muslims, and Mormons are outbreeding everyone else.

caption291 · 2025-11-15T16:50:58+00:00

Women being financially independent from men is a good thing.

I wish, the average woman is a net negative tax contributor over her lifetime and men are the ones paying for it. All that really changed is that society created a bunch of layers of obfuscation so women feel like they are independent because they don't understand where the money comes from but they are arguably more dependent than ever.

With a fair playing field

It seem like your idea of a fair playing field is one where men actively handicap themselves to give women a chance. That's not fairness that's kindness and if I were you I would not take advantage of it because "natural selection" is not exactly concerned with what you feel is fair.

Popeoath · 2025-11-19T04:01:56+00:00

Women had equal rights from the 1980s to the 2000s and there was no loneliness epidemic.

A loneliness epidemic is not a requirement for women to have equal rights.

Today's social arrangement is just fucked.

With a fair playing field, natural selection is allowed to take course,

It's not natural, there are plenty of employment regulations and government programs disproportionately artificially benefiting women.

Nature is never fair. You pick one or the other.

and the next generation of men can be better.

Loneliness is increasing per generation, not decreasing.

Downtown_Cat_1745 · 2025-11-21T00:41:25+00:00

I unironically agree with this. If men want to be with women, they can start by being better people. Good men still do just fine.

tiddymilkguzzler · 2026-01-01T13:16:53+00:00

This makes sense if you’re a woman

If you’re a man it is not in fact a good thing

There is ultimately no reconciliation between the interests and goals of the two sexes now

Whether or not that becomes dangerous for women depends entirely on if modern comfort and safety can be maintained long term

If you’re a woman you kind of have to support techbro dystopia and hope it succeeds and continues to sustain itself through innovation because the alternative is capitalism’s unsustainable growth collapsing in on itself which is bad for men but really bad for women’s freedom and autonomy. Elon musk and trump could never harm women or their rights more than the lights going out and our supply of food and porn being cut off

I can see it going both ways tbh

Personally I prefer complete destruction of modern society even if I die in the process. I can’t care about women’s wellbeing given how absolutely apathetic women openly are about my wellbeing as a man, and it’d be worth it knowing women would once again be violently subjugated even if not by me

Jon_Boopin · 2025-11-15T03:36:36+00:00

This is a eugenics argument. What about disabled/neurodivergent men? In particular those who align with you on the political spectrum (Most incels, btw, are center-left)?

You are literally making an actual, historical Nazi argument. You cannot claim to want to destroy patriarchy whilst upholding anti-human ideas like eugenics; it is fundamentally self-contradicting, and quite frankly sickening.

mcmlxiv1 · 2025-11-15T03:42:04+00:00

You know women aren’t going to change anything in a good way. Look at poorer communities you think women are choosing hardworking kind men or good looking bad boy criminals?

cuddly--suar · 2025-11-15T03:48:01+00:00

There are women who are lonely as well. Wonder if you would say the same for them and let natural selection do it's thing

thestraycat47 · 2025-11-15T06:17:42+00:00

With a fair playing field, natural selection is allowed to take course, and the next generation of men can be better.

I think you're making an assumption that the majority of women prefer to associate with nice/honest/non-aggressive men. The reality is that a criminal record on Hinge will bring you more matches than a photo with an innocent smile.

Erdenaxela1997 · 2025-11-15T06:32:19+00:00

When I see the number of single mothers out there, it seems like women are making poor choices.

When you're stupid and make bad choices, it would be better if your parents chose for you. That's how it was when I was a child and it worked; I think that should extend to women until at least age 35.

OMWSpuds · 2025-11-15T06:38:49+00:00

LOL the natural selection argument again. Not sure you would be down with what actually happens in nature. The most "fit" to reproduce are the organisms strong and brutal enough to maim and r@pe those into submission. So yes, the ugly ass jacked ogres with the most power would come out on top. An estimated 40% of pairings in natural are involuntary. The natural world is an absolutely horrible model to use for civilized human societies.

The male loneliness epidemic is a good thing.

Comments

Modern biology does not apply r/K selection theory to human groups, social classes, intelligence levels, or socioeconomic behavior.

Why Y-chromosome diversity collapses

Only a subset of men reproduced—many male lineages went extinct.

a. Female mate choice (anthropologically consistent)

b. Male competition (also true in many societies)

hello???

Early Homo sapiens (inferred from anthropology & genetics)

Why Y-chromosome diversity collapses

Only a subset of men reproduced—many male lineages went extinct.

a. Female mate choice (anthropologically consistent)

b. Male competition (also true in many societies)

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