I feel my age is a -ve factor

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Back2theCouture · 2025-11-16T01:18:29+00:00

There’s always something to worry about. Age, body fat, body count, a birth mark, an accent, etc. There are things you can change and things you can’t. I would say focus on the former.

Another fact to keep in mind: people don’t give a fuck about all those. We are too selfish as a society and we worry too much about ourselves. Try walking around in public with your fly unzipped. Happened to me before. To my surprise no one noticed until I got home.

Armalyte · 2025-11-16T00:57:35+00:00

This isn’t some video game where you fucked up your build permanently.

Keep shooting and you’ll get your target eventually. It’s not a secret.

HeroicPrinny · 2025-11-16T02:10:27+00:00

Let me give you some advice. Once you get older, say upper 30s, you're going to realize just how young you were. And dumb to think you were "too old". I'm guessing this effect keeps continuing as we age, at least for people wise enough to realize the things holding you back are in your own mind.

I'm in my upper 30s, and the biggest shock is that women in their 20s, yes even as young as 20, will still be interested in me. There are tons of women who find older men very attractive.

Focus on improving yourself and building your life, and happiness will come.

hiiigherself · 2025-11-16T01:11:00+00:00

Bro. Time is a flat circle. Yesterday doesn’t exist, tomorrow doesn’t exist. Change now. Everything is happening in the eternal NOW!

JackSquirts · 2025-11-16T01:05:13+00:00

You're making progress, but your goal is all wrong. You have enough experience that it's not going to be weird for a woman vs your age, and "ideal relationship window" is bunk in general. Now, if the goal is to start a family, I'd say you're about halfway through your optimal age range, but you can go out of that range and be just fine.

Chasing numbers is what addicts and man-children do. You should be proud that you haven't gone after 1,000 women. Women will appreciate that. Find a woman you really really like and fuck her, it's going to be way better than 100 trollops from the bar.

throwawayofc1112 · 2025-11-16T00:58:18+00:00

I feel you, I’m 24 and my body count is only 1

ciurana · 2025-11-16T05:34:06+00:00

I'm more than twice your age, and I keep increasing the body count. You need to devote energy and time to it. Avoid serializing if you want to have fun with lots of partners.

If you are into the game for finding a life partner, then you should ignore the body count and work on your relationship aspects.

Game gives you confidence to not get all wrapped up in a single relationship. If you have good game you know that, even if you end up divorced, you have the tools and self-confidence to go increase your body count or find another good life partner, perhaps this time with better selection on your part.

Figure out what is it you want, then tune your seduction game to accomplish that.

Khower · 2025-11-16T01:14:33+00:00

All in your head. Just keep at it

srwat · 2025-11-16T01:49:30+00:00

Let's assume you have no social skills at all. With that absent skill set, If you're lean (athletically, nothing extreme) and you stay calm, willing to be in the moment with whoever, you'll be able to make way more small mistakes with many being overlooked instead of 1-2 leading to instant elimination if for example you were overweight on top of being socially inept.

If you aren't lean and have no social skills, it's time to hit the gym and hit the books, and then start to practice regularly talking to people, not just girls.

Vegetable_Anty · 2025-11-16T01:52:42+00:00

Age doesn’t define your worth, focus on personal growth.

SPENCEandtonic · 2025-11-16T03:14:31+00:00

Just wait until you’re 37. I remember thinking I was old at 27. Enjoy it my friend. You are as young as you’ll ever be.

norwegiandoggo · 2025-11-16T12:25:02+00:00

You're just extremely wrong. 27 is young for starting a serious relationship. Sincerely, a 38 year old. You have soooo many options when you get older

No_Albatross7934 · 2025-11-16T02:30:39+00:00

Consider reading a book related to seduction, it can help a lot.

I read some of them, I'm 22m and have a relatively mid body count 20+ atleast, and trust me it almost matters to nothing, other than giving you experience in sex.

A committed relationship is far better than any hook ups or ONS. It has much more to provide rather than only sex.

SurpassingSolomon · 2025-11-16T10:57:31+00:00

I lost my virginity at 20 and my body count was four when I turned 30. I'm now 31, and in the last nine months I have slept with eight new women between the ages of 22 and 27. It's never over my friend.

Prestigious_Water336 · 2025-11-16T00:57:29+00:00

Body count is just a number much like age is just a number.

As long as you have game aka confidence and you know what to say, when to say it, and how to say it, body count doesn't matter.

To me that's like saying I haven't done 50 math problems. I've only done 3 even though I know how to do it.

It's a numbers game approach.

treeonee · 2025-11-16T05:14:54+00:00

hang in there

No_Relief7644 · 2025-11-16T11:41:04+00:00

I lost my virginity at 25 and I'm 29 now with 7. But that really shouldn't be the goal. You'll hopefully realize soon that it really doesn't matter. And also you'll start doing better in the next few years. Also, why are you approaching so many people? That's such an unnatural way to meet people haha. 75 people wtf.

GO_Zark · 2025-11-16T14:30:32+00:00

I have passed the ideal relationship window

Hi, 39 years old here. Ignore the statistics like that go "most people get married before they turn twenty-whatever", they're almost always improperly skewed and also don't account for the slew of people who get divorced 1-2-3 years after that wedding. I worked in the wedding industry for a time; plenty of people who tie the knot had no business getting past the drunken hookup phase of the relationship and all of their friends know it.

Your "ideal relationship window" opens when you're able to go out and meet people when you're in a mental space that's logistically/emotionally ready for a LTR. For some people, that's really young. Others don't open up until they're past 40. Your timeline is what works for you and sets you up for the rest of your life.

A bad partner can screw up the rest of your life REAL quick so don't just force a relationship because you feel like you "should" be in one. A few of my friends are in that situation right now. Two of them have kids with those partners. Wrap it before you tap it, lads.

I don’t know what to do

Focus on yourself. Dig into social hobbies and solo hobbies. Focus on developing a friend group that's active and goes and does shit out in the world, get yourself into decent shape, get a good haircut, decorate your room so that it feels like a sanctuary, ok now get yourself into great shape, level up at work. Go through a sneakerhead phase or learn to drift your car. My buddy went to a superbike weekend out in California a decade ago and still talks about pulling 185 on the track to this day. We've been friends for 20 years and I'm so tired of hearing that story, but it is objectively fucking cool. Jump out of a plane, learn to scuba or sail. Travel. Learn another language. Travel to that language's origin country. Piss off a frenchman. Volunteer for causes that matter to you. Do improv comedy. I started out the whole seduction thing as a socially awkward introvert with a tiny social battery, I hated improv in all its forms. I hate it to this day. Improv comedy lessons and practice fucking work magic on social interactions in every form.

Don't visit the Titanic in a homemade submarine no matter who sells you on it.

Throughout all of that, keep having interesting conversations with the people around you. Invite them out, host parties, introduce likeminded people to each other - whether you think they'd hit it off socially, professionally, if they have the same hobby, they both think this year is the Dallas Cowboys year, whatever it is. People remember that shit and many of them will turn around and do the same for you.

There is no better way to meet people to fuck, date, or marry than to be putting yourself in a bunch of social situations surrounded by people who think you're one of the coolest dudes in the room.

Mountain-Link4598 · 2025-11-16T14:43:43+00:00

I was a late bloomer guy that had a similar body count at that age.

I got into self improvement and game around age 29 a year ago and the number is around 25 I think now.

It's a good skill set to develop and a fun experience but honestly I don't feel more fulfilled or whole as a result of that number going up. It really hasn't changed much.

What had the positive impact was the mindset shift, learning to reframe limiting beliefs, radical self acceptance, letting go of ego and attachments, doing things I want to do despite apprehension or discomfort. Obviously not perfectly, but leagues of progress from where I was before.

So I'd honestly say, game is an extremely powerful and important tool for improving your life, but because of the process and side effects rather than the results. Sex just serves as a bit of a carrot on a stick.

pie-mart · 2025-11-17T04:24:58+00:00

As a woman, body count in men being too high is low key not a good thing. It shows ability to get women to have sex but lacking the cognitive skills for a romantic relationship.

And as you get older and only have practice getting sex but not being able to keep women around for long term relationships, women will see your age and go "why are you so old and you have only sex experience but no relationship experience. You must have something wrong with you"

You get too old with too high of a body count and no real world relationship skills and women do start to question you.

But if all you want is just sex for like the rest of the next 5 years keep thinking in terms of body count

But if you eventually want a relationship you actually have to practice at the skills that pertain to relationships versus sex getting skills

I think only guys care about body high body count

Women like men who are desired by lots of women, but at the same time the man who doesn't sleep with the majority of the women who chase after him. Someone with self control, high standards and isn't just a emotionaless sex freak who fucks anyone who walks his way.

Its like a man who can afford 12 Ferraris is attractive. But a man who buys 12 Ferraris is seen as fiscally irresponsible if thats ALL he can afford.

We want desired men. Not men who constantly pursue sex. If you pursue bettering yourself then what you want will come naturally eventually.

But just be warned. Sex can be had with anyone once you get the skills. But sometimes dudes cant translate that to relationship and cannot pivot and sometimes, most of the times, women can tell you have relationship problems. But are a little preoccupied by sex thus not a worthy long term partner and only good for sex (which is cool if thats all you ever want from women)

Just tired and got off on an adhd tangent

wolfme1997 · 2025-11-16T01:54:24+00:00

I turned 28 a month ago and mine is 0. I’m trying really hard to do cold approach (don’t have any other way to meet anyone), and couldn’t succeed at all till now. I’m really losing hope, my body insecurities really f’ed my life (I have my pictures on my profile), and can’t seem to overcome it.

Title	I feel my age is a -ve factor
Author	Dependent_One_8131
Upvotes	54
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Date	November 16, 2025 12:50 AM UTC (8 months ago)
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