I'm 5'10" with a very average face, but easily top 5% body and probably top 1% among men my age -- eight pack, vascular biceps, etc. I'm only attracted to very fit women, which I think is totally fair because I put a lot of effort into my own body.

The problem is that I'm mid-40s. Fit women my age are incredibly scarce; I meet like two of them per month. It's a numbers game, and when you have two prospects per month it's hard to be outcome-indifferent. And I'm starting to suspect that the few who are out there are just going for hookups with younger guys on Tinder because, well, they can.

It doesn't help that I live near a very large university in a warm desert climate, so the area around me is absolutely crawling with women flaunting their hot bodies -- except they're all 20 years younger than I am. Surprisingly, I can get dates with these younger women without much trouble. But being in a very liberal college town, anything that smells like age gap really triggers people. I can't even take younger women out for drinks or coffee without getting aggressively cockblocked and harrassed by the staff. Even if I choose to ignore this, it still spooks the girls.

So any ideas on where to find a high density of really fit late-30s/early-40s women? The men at my gym are a range of ages 20s-40s but the women are all in their 20s. I tried a few other gyms but the ones with women my age are definitely not fit (despite going to the gym).

I'm way better at daygame than night game, and prefer not to drink often -- usually just first dates; insisting on drinks instead of dinner works magic for filtering out the women who just want a free meal and attention. Dating apps are a massive waste of time and all the women my age with fit profile photos are catfishing with 10-year-old photos of themselves (yes, Tinder allows this).