Q4Men: What's the worst way a woman has ever mistreated you?

cxj · 2016-07-28T07:47:36+00:00

Physically attacked me over a text message from another girl asking if I wanted to go hiking, to which I replied no. Trashed my house, stole my mom's iPhone and wouldn't leave. I called the cops, and she turned the whole story around on me. I went to jail and spent 6 months fighting it, wasted 10 grand and delayed my education by a full year. Real life false accusation of dv, shit is every bit as savage as MRA s say it is. It's how I wound up on trp in the first place.

[deleted] · 2016-07-28T07:22:16+00:00

Cheated on, hit in the head multiple times when I dumped her. Stalked me for a few months after the breakup. Hilariously would turn up to get fucked even after she had a new boyfriend.

This was a good I don't know 12 years ago but I have to say it really helped me out. I never let "crazy bitch" behavior slide and will dump women early and often when I notice classic red flags. Have had much happier relationships since I grew a backbone.

InformalCriticism · 2016-07-28T10:26:16+00:00

Well, other than the obvious stopping birth control without telling me, and then cheating on me less than two years after we were married, I'll give you the real grit that made me think things I never thought any one person could.

I would later find out she had been dating this guy for over 4 months from when I finally had to look at her phone after knowing her password for 2 weeks, but she just kept texting this fucker in bed next to me before sleep. Word to the wiser cheaters, don't text your extra-marital boyfriend in bed next to your husband.

Anyway, I found out that while I was taking our son to a theme park for his birthday, she was playing paintball with her boyfriend. Oh, not bad enough? She took my combat deployment Army fatigues with her. The layers of betrayal and disrespect went deeper than I could have dreamed in my worst nightmare. Luckily I didn't see those photos until I was safely in the hands of some very good people as the legal rape had started to take root.

Edit: Oh, and the 10 months of infrequent, but pretty annoying physical violence when she couldn't get me to react to her emotional manipulation. That part seems bad, but she was like 103lbs., so I never felt scared, it was just a drop in the bucket next to the constant disrespect. The only reason I mention that was in the civil court proceedings the (woman) judge, her (ultra feminist lawyer) and my (female) lawyer shot me in the foot out of the gate. Same judge (woman) dismissed the one time I brought forward evidence of the assaults - (she scratched me up trying to get her phone back).

Edit 2: In other words, I can't think of a time in my adult life after college where a woman didn't jump at the chance to treat me as badly as she could manage.

sublimemongrel · 2016-07-28T12:25:59+00:00

Admittedly this was in high school, but even for high school I think this was pretty shit.

In our school we had a Christmas dance each year, and for a month before each dance our PE lessons turned into mandatory dance practices (we do Scottish dancing, shit's complex). Basically, we had a lot of 'dances' that you had to participate in. The practices had just the same amount of awkward teenage tension as the real thing.

All the girls in my year were either repulsed by me, or peer pressured into being repulsed by me. If they didn't make that clear enough, their friends would peg them as having a 'midget fetish' or whatever. When it was the boy's turn to ask a girl to dance, the girls had to accept. I'd be forced to ask out girl after girl who would broadcast as much as possible that they thought I was a freak. They'd pointedly not look at me once, pull their sleeves up over their hands to avoid skin-on-skin contact, pull away the moment we stopped dancing, loudly talk to their friend next them about how 'it sucks' to be with me, perfectly within earshot of me. The looks of utter dismay and disgust they had on their faces when I approached them to dance have been burned into my brain. And I felt guilty. I felt bad for them that I had to do this. I didn't want to make them dance with me any more than they did.

As an isolated incident it doesn't seem like much, but I went through 6 months of this. 6 months of 'you're disgusting, don't touch me, I don't want to be seen with you'. That definitely took a toll on my mentality. I still feel guilty about how people have to interact with me sometimes. I know it's stupid and irrational, but it's still there.

Also a girl basically sexually assaulted me out of pity, thinking she was 'doing me a favour'. That was fun.

AmericanHistoryAFBB · 2016-07-28T07:49:01+00:00

Oh God. They've all been so rotten I'm not sure where to begin. Way too tired right now and I just got finished lifting and doing cardio so bear with me. 3 instances stand out to me:

An ex in 2014 who dumped me in a North Dakota motel room after I traveled many miles on a greyhound bus to visit her ass...for no reason other than...you guessed it...her emotions and feefees. No logic onceoever.

An ex in 2015 dumped me on valentines day when we were on mushrooms, after I had taken her to a Zed's Dead concert rave thing in Portland that I paid like 300 bucks for tickets. That was pretty fucked up indeed.

An ex in 2016 who actually had the nerve to have her sister deliver the dumping over the phone for her...what a cunt.

Now for the unicorn, who was the one woman who treated me like a human being. She'd bring me food every day at college before class, and she still to this day checks up on me everyday on Snapchat to see how I'm doing. An ex, a best friend, and the one women who's treated me the best anybody ever has. To end on a more positive note!

alcockell · 2016-07-28T08:54:16+00:00

Sexually abused by predatory girls when I was 13 in 1984, running with as-yet-unknown Asperger Syndrome, so ti was like them abusign a 7-year-old boy. Silenced for 20-30 years by them threatening to cry rape if I talked. Militant feminist tutor (think homeroom teacher) victim-blamed me.

I was THAT CLOSE to throwing myself off Orcombe Point. Suicidally ate for 30 years.

got my career etc - but as i was socialised into the whole Josh McDowell thing - I'm still a virgin as I was told to not have sex unless I wanted to be a dad.

I didn't know this - but had a LOT of people looking out for me.

Carkudo · 2016-07-28T08:48:32+00:00

Leading me on just to pad her own ego. She knew I'm unattractive, and she knew I'm not successful. She was curious why I'm not as desperate as guys like me are often thought to be. I suspect she might have thought I'm asexual and wanted to "break" me. Unsurprisingly, it didn't take much effort to get me to fall her hopelessly. It was the first sliver of hope I had in about a decade, and I truly believed it was real. Well, turns out it wasn't.

lollygagyo · 2016-07-28T09:03:07+00:00

Had one sexually assault me while she was drunk and next morning all my flatmates just said I was stupid for not fucking her. Imagine if the genders were reversed on that one.

Other than that just the usual with ex-girlfriend shit: cheating, threatening to kill or hurt herself if I broke up with her, harassing and stalking me... pretty standard.

alcockell · 2016-07-28T14:29:49+00:00

The worst I have been treated by women is actually not that bad. But it is what led me to find at least some of TRP interesting. All the women I have dated have been very nice girls mostly. But every time the relationship would implode because of "beta behaviour" for lack of a better term. Women hate supplication in a man. It always amazed me how cold and emotionless women can become to a man in pain. A man they have professed to love no less. It's literally like a switch that just gets flicked due to something.

ppdthrowawai · 2016-07-28T11:00:45+00:00

-Fabricated a massive rape hoax to get attention.

-Same girl was physically abusive on a few occasions

-Girl 2s favorite form of abuse was gaslighting any time she wanted to win an argument or feel superior.

-Girl 3 was a straight up ID channel criminal. Without getting into the details, very intelligent, manipulative, and ruthless. Scary that people like that exist.

vorverk · 2016-07-28T09:44:00+00:00

After being emotionally abused for couple of months she cheated on me, then we broke up, then she told all our friends that we broke up because I locked her in an apartment for the night because she didn't want to have sex with me. Luckily my closest friends didn't believe her.

[deleted] · 2016-07-28T19:23:44+00:00

One woman gave birth to me without asking for my input. Typical self-centered cunt.

LetsThrowAwayTheKey · 2016-07-28T12:15:50+00:00

So, she got drunk, and then when I refused to have sex with her, she raped me.

Failing to stop her, it felt like I was raping her.

But I froze up, because I already had sexual assault PTSD.

And that wouldn't be so bad, but after she finished, she decided it would be fun to pretend her mind had snapped, and she had reverted to childhood. And she was going to kill herself.

With the knife I bought her.

I fought her for it, with strength I didn't even know I had. I thought it was my all fault, somehow.

Like her drinking had caused a psychosis.

But I won. I thought I had saved her.

And that's why, she told me, she doesn't believe I didn't want to be raped.

And then she told me that she wasn't actually drunk, just had a slight buzz. I should have seen my expression. So cute.

She told me could have spared me the mind fuck, but then it wouldn't be much of a rape, would it? It would just be sex.

What would be in it for her?

She was my girlfriend.

Before that, it was the woman who kicked the dog I was petting so hard that I can't touch an animal without seeing it in pain. The same woman who taught me that if I ever fought back, she'd make sure everyone knew how bad I hurt her.

Even if I didn't.

Before that, it was my foster sister, teaching a 5 year old that his consent is optional.

There were others. But past a certain point, you just become numb to it all. You expect to be hurt.

It's more terrifying when people are kind.

Fortunately, not all sadists who enjoy scaring me are evil. I really hope they know how awesome they all are.

[deleted] · 2016-07-28T12:34:19+00:00

One woman pulled the strings to have me kicked out of the career path I'd chosen, because I made the mistake... of making an offhand remark about her being pretty. Nothing specific. But I was a poor sob that dared look at her direction. Enough to ruin the only thing I really liked of my life back then.

Oh, another woman stole large amounts of money from a partnership we had. I recovered it. The stupid part of it is that if she had stuck with the original plan, she would probably had won even more money.

deskgrunt88 · 2016-07-28T14:10:26+00:00

Freshman year of college, (community college in a town population 24K) girl I never slept with but nevertheless liked/dated a few times told her friends I gave her herpes. The rumor didn't get very far because people who knew me knew I wasn't the type of person to be getting laid at all, but I guess it was enough for her to save face in the social circle.

prodigy2throw · 2016-07-28T15:46:52+00:00

Was physically attacked when I tried to leave her place and when I tried restraining her started making it sound like I was assaulting her. I stopped and stayed for a bit longer so she would calm down then bolted out once she went to the washroom. Then texted me for hours saying she was gonna call the police on me. Luckily I recorded her hanging onto my car door with her begging me not to leave and saying sorry for hitting me.

[deleted] · 2016-07-28T10:46:00+00:00

Idk about mistreated, but back in my much younger days I had a crazy ex that found out I was saying a girl she hated.. She did not take it very well.

One night me and this other girl got back to my place and two large white knights stepped out from the side of my house on between my truck and the front door.. Apparently she told them some bullshit hoping they would beat me up or kill me.

The one faggot just kept going on about how he respects women because he was raised by his mom (go figure, single mom). Luckily nothing happened. After the third time they threatened to kill me I pulled my .45 out and to my side and informed them it was time to leave. He mouthed off something trying to sound tough, but walked away peacefully.

bonerdude420 · 2016-07-28T13:11:48+00:00

My mum was BPD and schizophrenic. Childhood was abusive from when I was about 7 onwards. To be honest, even now I couldn't really say if it was really due to mental illness or that was just a shield for all the despicable shit she did. she would be reasonably controlled during most incidences if it was just me or my sister around, but became extremely schizophrenic whenever the police or some kind of authority showed up.

SexyMcSexington · 2016-07-28T13:56:32+00:00

Used for sex and thrown out. But at least I had sex, right? 🙃

c_in_macn · 2016-07-28T15:14:04+00:00

Lied about birth control when I was nearly black out drunk and she was sober. Got pregnant and said she decided to keep after a month of saying she was going to abort. Used it to manipulate me into spending time with her. She miscarried at 11 weeks which was undoubtedly for the best.

[deleted] · 2016-07-28T20:56:01+00:00

Physically attacked me when I was working in the garage, took our kid, and wouldn't tell me where she had gone for a week.

MealReadytoEat_ · 2016-07-28T23:38:42+00:00

Pinned me down in a position I couldn't get her off me without hurting her and forced me to have unprotected sex with her.

bornredd · 2016-07-29T20:20:18+00:00

My mother emotionally abused and manipulated me from as long as I can remember until I cut off all contact at the age of 32 (when I caught her doing it to my kids).

My ex had a fondness for Unidentified Flying Cookware. She'd hurl anything she could find in a kitchen cabinet at me with full force when angry. Plastic ware I didn't mind so much, but ceramics make terrible cuts & bruises and suck to clean up.

Got falsely accused of rape in high school and had to move states to escape the stigma, even after a full and undisputed exoneration.

You know, nothing major.

edit: there was the standard girls cheating on me and whatever, but outside of marriage/heavily committed relationships, I don't really consider that 'mistreatment'.

keepyouravocados · 2016-07-31T09:04:18+00:00

A girl threatened to kill herself when I tried to break up with her. When that didn't work, she falsely reported me for domestic violence. Thank god nothing came of it. Don't stick your dick in crazy, folks...

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648262 · 2016-07-28T13:09:50+00:00

All the anger and disappointment I've experienced in interacting with women have always been things that I should have expected.

It was my expectations that were skewed and misaligned.

Learning to accept other people and how they often won't behave like I want has been one of the healthiest additions TRP ever taught me.

AWALT is a good thing, and not a reason to hate.

But I would most likely go on a murdering rampage had I experienced some of the fucked up shit I read in this thread. What can I say? I'm only human and I won't always behave like others want me to.

ifelsedowhile · 2016-07-28T13:52:39+00:00

my mother was quite abusive both physically and psychologically but I didn't come to resent women because of that. I became resentful of them when I realized that they are not wired to be attracted to what's average but, as the females of any other species, they are drawn to above the average males.

FirionDarklight · 2016-07-28T15:59:42+00:00

Stealing my mother's jewelry(99% sure), tricking me into thinking that we will be back together only to invite to a bar for Christmas so she could use me to make the barwoman jealous and scamming me out of money. It's all on me. Should had known better than giving the person i loved the benefit of the doubt.

Entropy-7 · 2016-07-28T18:11:08+00:00

Actually - and as a Red Piller I feel terrible in not expressing my misogyny - it hasn't been that bad.

Case 1: I'm 34 and she is 18 and bisexual and goes off to do lesbian porn without consulting me. I find out, get drunk, and raise my voice in protest which triggers her because her ex was as violent, DV, alcoholic, and so she kicks me out of our apartment.

Case 2: I was a struggling entrepreneur and living with my GF. I wanted to make a change and applied to law school. She misinterpreted this as me abandoning her - not understanding that I wanted to take her. . .and her two kids . . .with me out to the west coast. She kicked me out (although later told my mother that is was the worst mistake of her life).

Case 3: I was in law school but had trouble finding a good job. My live-in GF went totally dead bedroom on me and then was incensed when I bailed on her and got an apartment with a peer.

Current case, well fuck me. We had a fling, my job posted me to another city, we agreed to keep out relationship going, after 4 months apart I dropped $4000 on a vacation to Thailand, we had a great time but about 10 seconds after getting back from Thailand it was rodent apocalypse: she released a thousand hamsters as to why we can't have an LTR. I slayed all but one, so here we are. I don't know where this relationship will go but with a bit of honesty and self awareness, she could have ended things a year ago and $4000 ago rather than wasting my time and money.

nomdplume · 2016-07-28T19:45:31+00:00

I think almost every woman I ever dated (maybe I'm forgetting one or two) ended up cheating on me. I'm not saying I bore no responsibility for creating that - I did - but I always saw myself as being the best boyfriend I could be and doing all the "right" things.

That was a primary motivating factor behind my embarking on my journey to try to figure out just WTF was the deal with sex/love/relationships. A journey that led me to many of the same observations and conclusions outlined in RP...

[deleted] · 2016-07-29T13:06:44+00:00

I was abused and bulllied by this fat italian bitch all throughout primary school. She used to beat the shit out of me. I'm not even being sarcastic or joking, but its left me scarred and I have a permanent hesitancy towards physically large and physically stronger women, in which I immediately feel fearful and scared of them to the point of hatred. I know its not fair, but my experiences left me that way.

[deleted] · 2016-07-29T16:50:03+00:00

Asked her out. Was rejected, politely. She then spread rumors that I was a pedophile and wanted to rape her using a chloroform-soaked rag. Fun times.

betterdeadthanbeta · 2016-07-28T16:35:26+00:00

Stopped giving me sex.

Bekazzled · 2016-07-28T07:56:25+00:00

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despisedlove2 · 2016-07-28T12:46:04+00:00

What kind of mistreatment do you have in mind? Can provide almost any kind of anecdote.

Title	Q4Men: What's the worst way a woman has ever mistreated you?
Author	lollygagyo
Upvotes	23
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Date	July 28, 2016 6:58 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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