This post is regarding a previous post by /u/Dark-Ulfberht called "The Friendzone is an Insult". I originally posted this with a direct link to the thread but it was hastily removed as apparently linking to other Reddit posts is not allowed. My mistake. I feel my response merits its own post rather than a reply on the thread itself. I hope you agree.

A tl:dr of his logic is the following: When a woman who you wish to engage with sexually rejects your advances and only offers friendship i.e. The Friendzone, you should see this as an insult and cut her out your life. She does not believe you are good enough and that she could do better.

The vast majority of his logic and analysis is sound and exhibits some core TRP principles. It is true that when a woman friendzones you, she does not see you as good enough for her. In response, you must ensure that you have nothing to do with this woman. Reject the offer of friendship, not necessarily vocally, and continue living your life without her.

The part of his analysis that I take issue with, is where he states that you should be insulted by women who reject you. I'm not sure about you, but to me being insulted implies that you're bitter, and that it is somehow her fault she rejected you. I disagree with this.

Being bitter and insulted by rejection is indicative of someone still in the "anger phase" of TRP digestion. It could even be seen as needy, Beta type behavior; being hurt and insulted by one woman's rejection demonstrates that you have invested too much, emotionally on this woman. You are quite clearly not outcome independent nor are you displaying abundance mentality.

Don't get me wrong, the anger phase is a very natural, expected, and important part of swallowing TRP. Angrily rejecting the offer of friendship will, indeed, stop you from falling into the trap of the friendzone, but everyone here should be striving to move past the anger phase, accept the world for what it is, and focus on self-improvement. The thread entitled "Feminists and women have already won. Let them have their prize" by /u/RPB1 perfectly encapsulates the attitude I'm advocating.

Let me be crystal clear:

She has examined you. You have been weighed, and you have been found not worthy. And this. Is. Entirely. Your. Fault. She has her standards and you do not meet them. It is not her fault that she holds such standards. This is what biology and societal conditioning has told her she is worth.

Your job as a TRP man, is to understand this and develop yourself into a man who does reach these standards i.e. A man in the top 5-10% of the population. This is achieved by advancing through your career, building a better body at the gym, learning game, learning new skills, becoming a more rounded and interesting human being and learning to stick to your guns and hold your motherfucking frame.

Once you achieve this and meet her standards, an equal relationship where both people involved get the sex they want from the each other can be formed. One woman's rejection will not matter to you. Your abundance mentality will ensure that you are outcome independent and not feel insulted when you are, inevitably, rejected from time-to-time. If you develop yourself to such an extent that you convincingly surpass her standards, you can attempt to spin plates. That is, sleeping with her while openly sleeping with other women.

Blaming the woman and being insulted by her rejection serves only as an effective temporary measure to ensure you avoid engaging in a one-sided relationship a.k.a. "The friendzone". Not that we care, but being insulted by offers of just friendship directly supports the blue pill narrative that red pillers are "whiney losers who feel entitled to sex" and who can blame them for thinking that when a females rejection is met with bitterness and hostility?

tl:dr It's your fault you don't meet her standards, not hers. Move on and build yourself as a man, so that you not only meet women's expectations, but exceed them.

Feel free to comment and critique.

P.s. This is my throwaway account. I would never post on TRP with my main account as I like to browse and occasionally comment on other subreddits that hate TRP. I keep the two distinct.

Edit: It being your "fault" isn't necessarily a negative thing. You can replace the word fault with responsibility and the message would remain the same.