There is this idea that to be in a healthy relationship, you have to be 100% honest with your partner about everything. You have to tell him your traumas, your darkest secrets, your twisted thoughts and your most embarrassing moments. I disagree.

Never tell a man information that he can use against you later on. No matter how trustworthy he seems right now or how much you think you'll be together forever, don't give him leverage to use against you because some men will absolutely break your trust and do you harm. You don't know who will do this to you until they do it. They might use your traumas and past against you in an argument, they might share it with other people, and they might use it to ruin your reputation. Just because you won't do it, doesn't mean he won't too.

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Ignore the men in the manosphere who make you feel guilty about being private. They're the ones who stand to benefit from women who don't know any better. Put your self-interest first above any man's opinions on what's right or wrong. Take care of yourself because no one else will.

Many women make the mistake of thinking that telling a man their dark side will absolve them of it. That with his acceptance of her darkness, she is finally worthy. Bollocks. The only acceptance you need is the one you give yourself. You don't need a man to tell you that you're good enough despite your past.

If you're over what happened to you in the past, if it's not bothering you anymore, and if it's not who you are anymore, there's no need to share it. Protect yourself because so many women have been blindsided by men who they thought they can trust, but they ended up to be treacherous.

Stay safe out there. I personally never regretted instances where I've been discreet, but I always regretted the moments where I did overshare.