When you’re such a pickme you cook for his female roommates and question how to resolve this

SansaDeservedBetter · 2021-01-08T07:07:39+00:00

He is attempting to build his own Harem. I bet he thinks he’s the next Hugh Hefner. He 100% has fucked, is fucking or wants to fuck one or both of the roomates.

Novemberinthechair · 2021-01-08T06:01:51+00:00

I've brought this up with him a few times and he says it's not an issue.

Her: hey, I have a problem with you expecting me to cook for 3 grown adults anytime I come over, two of which are women that you've actively chosen to live with. It makes me feel like a bit of a maid/sister wife and also cooking for 3 grown adults gets expensive. On top of that, you arrive at my home empty handed each and every time...with zero shame.

Scrote: oh that's no issue! :)

Like wtf?? So he essentially gets to THINK for her and decide what issue is actually an issue? Dudes a bum.

eluriaeve · 2021-01-08T06:07:38+00:00

What in the clown fuckery is this bullshit? Dump his ass and let the other girls cook for him. 🤡🤡🤡

Altowhovian93 · 2021-01-08T07:29:46+00:00

OP needs to stop doing wife things for a boyfriend. He never reciprocates. She’s not a GF, she is an on call chef.

My advice to her: drop him and you won’t have to cook for him and his roommates.

Espionagess · 2021-01-08T07:06:05+00:00

The thing I don't get is what his motive here is. Is it just the standard ordering people around to feel 'like a man', is it a weird flex in front of the roommates? I'm really interested to see everyone's comments. (edit: letter)

Shefthegooddog · 2021-01-08T08:19:36+00:00

what i don't understand is they both work full time in the same industry and she has plenty of time to cook for both of them and he doesn't even have time to cook for himself.. just dump him

SeaNegotiation8 · 2021-01-08T10:30:13+00:00

Do you guys remember the movie “The Help”? Remember that scene where Minnie serves her tormentor a delicious “chocolate” pie?

Suddenly, I think I know a really good way to show her boyfriend how she feels next time he asks her to come over and cook for him. The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, amiright?

savagecarebear2 · 2021-01-08T14:00:50+00:00

She’s literally Uber Eats for free 😂

oi_oi_oink · 2021-01-08T07:52:39+00:00

Why do I feel that the women he's living with aren't just his roommates? Poor girl is being taken advantage of, yet she doesn't realise it.

KevlarSweetheart · 2021-01-08T08:25:20+00:00

How do people allow themselves to get into these arrangements??

The audacity.

pawg_patrol · 2021-01-08T14:52:08+00:00

If someone replied to me that it was “no issue”, I don’t think I could control my reaction. There would definitely be an issue.

Delicious_Comfort000 · 2021-01-08T05:46:43+00:00

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oddcharm · 2021-01-08T12:28:38+00:00

My goodness one of the replies from someone else says they don’t want to defend the bf in this story but that their ex husband also refused to cook because their mom cooked for them their whole life. They said their ex would just get himself hangry without ever cooking anything because he expected her to do it. Now their daughter cooks for him when she goes on weekends and this woman is ok with this because she’s showing that this is an example of who not to be with...... why the hell is your daughter making meals for her own grown ass father father??? She’s worried about putting the daughter in between the parents by telling her to stop ... I am disgusted. Way to raise your child to be an enabler

Edit: I also just lurked the OPs comment history and she says she’s gonna “give cooking together another go”. This man is going to get away with this for MUCH longer. She also shared a story about how he expected her to pack his bag when they went on a hike.... jfc

v0ta_p0r_m0ta · 2021-01-08T06:25:53+00:00

Dude.. this is just STUpid. Just plain dumb.

Papaverinum · 2021-01-08T11:25:02+00:00

Why did she agree on this arrangement in the first place? It blows my mind.

AllTheBeanToes · 2021-01-08T11:10:13+00:00

I don't have sympathy for these pickmes. Their submission makes life harder for all the other women who want nothing to do with this shit. Just how dumb can you possibly be? They don't even live together, like - just leave???

mynameisrominka · 2021-01-08T08:50:30+00:00

"You can cook for your roommates". Or even better, dump him because he also considers not a problem to show up in your place empty handed expecting that you feed him.

MiaWallace995 · 2021-01-08T13:10:35+00:00

Aww does she also hand-feed him like a baby? Ffs

mystic-tealeaf · 2021-01-08T08:52:35+00:00

I would feel so weird if my roommates gf cooked meals for me... why do his roommates even accept it?

Fatt3stAveng3r · 2021-01-08T11:56:56+00:00

Why is she ok being a literal servant..? Does she not see that?

honeybeeroll · 2021-01-08T19:03:06+00:00

"looking for advice on how to approach this" girl you are twenty NINE (which, good lord, I'm going to be in a few months wtf!!), WHY are you doing this for him, WHY do you have no idea how to say no? Apparently Nancy Regan's "just say no" slogan really is that revolutionary for people.

This situation is not one where the intent to take advantage of is murky. He's asking her to cook for his roommates!? Like what!? If you really cannot say no to something this clearly burdensome and something that clearly is taking advantage of you, you need to remove yourself from dating completely and begin therapy to learn to enforce boundaries.

womandatory · 2021-01-08T13:06:53+00:00

Uh, most people I know grow out of roommates by that age. Why doesn’t he have his own place? Sounds like he’s got himself some serious inability to leave the college lifestyle behind.

The women he lives with should be mortified by this misogynistic trolling. When I was in college and unwillingly subjected to rooming with guys, I’d have had no trouble setting a guy on his ass for this kind of nonsense. She should just walk, but if she really wants to troll him back, she should turn up empty handed and act all surprised. Oh, I was so glad you said you’d all cook for me this time. What’s for dinner? Then help herself to a drink from the fridge, sit down in the middle of the couch and put her feet up.

veruscka · 2021-01-08T17:03:43+00:00

Omg this post messed with my head. Why can’t people want more for themselves?

Fresh-Presentation76 · 2021-01-08T15:00:57+00:00

so his roommates feed him all week and when it's his turn he makes his gf do it.

Summerisle7 · 2021-01-08T07:19:56+00:00

Has she sat him down and calmly communicated with him about her feelings??? Men aren’t mind readers

onceuponasea · 2021-01-08T15:28:46+00:00

Gaslighting is what gaslighting does. Please leave him and cook for your damn self.

Unlikely-Marzipan · 2021-01-08T15:30:26+00:00

Gross. Just dump.

We really need to knock this expectation out that women are born to cook and clean and be a housemaid for men (and their female roommates wtf?!) I mean, this woman works in the same field and works the same amount as they guy PLUS is travelling to him... HE should be cooking for her, if she’s travelling for him. What is she, meals on wheels?!

ulqui4nn4 · 2021-01-08T15:38:33+00:00

of course its not an issue for him lol

Mysterious_Service_1 · 2021-01-08T19:34:20+00:00

I remember when a scrote told me to “go pick up lunch” for him when I was out. Um...I think the fuck not. Good day, sir!

Meadow97 · 2021-01-08T20:40:06+00:00

Sis, he should have been dumped a long time ago because wtf is this.

theingenuelover · 2021-01-09T08:26:06+00:00

Hold up hold up let say...you live with 2 other person right? Y'all shared the same environment right? Your girlfriend doesn't live with you and your roommates right? Then why tf can't people who live in that house cook instead of making this woman a free maid wh-

catlady4u · 2021-03-19T05:49:51+00:00

Dump this scrote. Unless you enjoy being someone's free personal chef.

Title	When you’re such a pickme you cook for his female roommates and question how to resolve this
Author	kortiz46
Upvotes	298
Comments	54
Date	January 8, 2021 5:27 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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