Mad her boundaries got respected

loneliness-inc · 2021-07-06T15:29:42+00:00

Gentlemen,

Here is a perfect example of how...

Consistency is a tool of the patriarchy!!!

Stryng indypyndynt wymyns have been lecturing us for decades, on the concept of no means no. When a wymyns says no, you better fucking respect her wishes.

They backed up this demand with threats of prison time and public shaming and humiliation for the horrible crime of raping a woman by continuing to pursue her after she expressed disinterest.

Men listened and men changed their behavior patterns. Men stopped trying harder. Men stopped pursuing as soon as she displays even the slightest disinterest.

And they're unhaaaaaaaaaaaaapy, because they wanted you to fight harder to win her over 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

In their minds, a HVM "just knows" when it's rape-y type pressure and when it's a sexual dance pursuit.

We've seen this sentiment many times and have it displayed here from time to time.

Actually bitches, no. We can't read your minds and we aren't prophets. We don't know unless you tell us and what you told us is that you weren't interested.

So we walked away.

And now you're upset.

Too bad, so sad.

Consistency is truly a tool of the evil, muh soggy knees stick, patriarchy!!!

Cheers!

Overkillengine · 2021-07-06T10:55:04+00:00

Dudebro lowkey knew that anything other than a blatant "fuck yes" is a "fuck no" in disguise, and that it was not worth his time being an orbiter or dancing bear or whatever the fuck else her stupid little game was.

And fellas....also note that being polite and ghosting her is far more devastating to her ego than any amount of chastising her about being a timewaster or a thot. Reserve your displays of anger for women worth caring about.

Joaquino7997 · 2021-07-06T11:03:36+00:00

I don't get these women.

If he was willing to talk to her online for two months, then he did make an effort.

And by her telling him she "wasn't ready for a relationship," he took her word at face value, cut his losses and ultimately cut her off. I would have done the same.

Why tell him 'go away' if you want him to stay?

AmiablePenguin · 2021-07-06T10:57:31+00:00

2 months of talking???

If within two months I haven't gotten the most mind-blowing blowjob she could give, I'm long gone. Imagine spending 1/6th of the year in the talking stage.

F.

Aldabruzzo · 2021-07-06T12:23:39+00:00

No effort, no pressure applied.

Wait. What? Effort? Pressure? She wanted him to, like, work, and then apply pressure?

Pressure is bad. Pressure is rapey. You're not supposed to pressure girls to date/have sex/whatever. Whenever we men apply pressure or keep going when we meet resistance, we are called criminals, rapists, sexual assaulters, and sexual harassers.

Can you women please make up your minds? Which is it? Do you want us to push a little or not? Do you want us to put effort in or not? Do you want us to press you, or not?

JFC.

EmceeHammer1 · 2021-07-06T11:21:01+00:00

I had a girl tell me she wasn't ready for a relationship in my 20's and I responded similar but with out blocking. I didn't understand her game back then, but I still ignored her after that. A week later tops she approached me and asked if I wanted to hang out. She put out on the first date.

OldSamVimes · 2021-07-06T11:12:17+00:00

'I expected you to beg!!'

'Then you aren't really looking for a man.'

CuriousIncel2 · 2021-07-06T12:15:51+00:00

Now I understand what they mean by "done with games, looking for something serious".

They're done with torturing other people (for fun, now it's time to play serious game for money aka marriage).

2021-07-06T10:53:40+00:00

Chase excellence, not retarded whores, Gentlemen.

i7dE09 · 2021-07-06T10:54:33+00:00

Damn men, you have to want me! Get back here!

The_Legend_Of_All · 2021-07-06T11:55:53+00:00

the woman literally told the guy she wasn't ready for the relationship. so the guy left. i am extremely confused. i am also concerned.

Loud-Bottle-7879 · 2021-07-06T12:59:16+00:00

I agree with his moves except the blocking. Next time, don’t block and turn on read receipts. The “read” with no response hurts way more than a block. Utilize these more fellas.

DarkDoomDoom · 2021-07-06T11:11:52+00:00

fucking parasite

funny_like_how · 2021-07-06T15:43:40+00:00

A few years ago I dated a girl for a few months who I later found out was bipolar who acted just like this chick.

By like month 3 she would text me all the doubts she had and that she wasn't ready for a relationship. I said that's fine and to be honest and not waste my time if this wasn't going anywhere.

She got really mad that I wasn't fighting for her or throwing an angry fit that she was "rejecting me." I had enough of her games and told her I didn't want to see her anymore. She texted me on and off for the next year trying to get me back, that it was all a test, that she wanted a relationship and to be taken care of, etc.

She was 30 years old. If you are 30 and still act like this, you need to reevaluate your life, behavior, attitude, and overall approach to relationships...

RatingsOutOfTen · 2021-07-06T14:28:38+00:00

Women still want "no" to sometimes mean "try harder".

Men don't want to be "creepy" and get into social or legal trouble.

These rules, unwritten or otherwise, need to be clear and well understood. That might not be "romantic" to the immature girls in their 20s that think they have everything figured out, but it isn't worth it to the average man.

The idea of romance needs to die.

mikes47jeep · 2021-07-06T12:01:12+00:00

play stupid games, win stupid prizes

Bob_and_Virginia · 2021-07-06T11:42:09+00:00

I don't have time for games. Wait. Actually, I do! And she's a beauty.

Cyanide-Cookies · 2021-07-06T11:47:37+00:00

Lol no bitch is worth spending two whole months engaging with and getting no sex out of it.

Rule is If she ain't DTF after date #2 she ain't worth the effort.

2021-07-06T13:10:25+00:00

2 months. The man has the patience of a monk.

2 minutes of talking with these women is hell.

southerncraftgurl · 2021-07-06T13:24:15+00:00

wtf did she expect then? my God all the games they play, it's insane

NattyGains4Life · 2021-07-06T14:36:36+00:00

These low IQ hoes don’t realize that this shit hurts girls who mean NO when saying no

Guys will just think “ahh she wants me to apply pressure, she’s playing hard to get”

What a Chad the guy who fucking stopped talking to her, when people like this appear it’s best to leave them at no, either they mean no and you respected their boundaries, or they were playing hard to get and u rejected their shit test

Win/win situation

Endovelico · 2021-07-06T17:16:47+00:00

Everytime I do this (which is pretty much everytime a chick replied that way) they go nuts.

Last time I did this, the chick actually had to go to a mental hospital for 3 weeks. And she was the one to call it off.

meerita · 2021-07-06T17:07:40+00:00

Today I did this with a Russian model I've been talking about for a day, just a day. I told her to go to the beach and have a fun day, she said "I can't, and we need a process to know each other" and I told her 2 days later "good luck with the process". She unmatched me. I feel so good.

Enough-Staff-2976 · 2021-07-06T15:21:12+00:00

Walk off of the parking lot. There's no reason to haggle over a used car that doesn't want to be sold.

ShakenMemeMagic · 2021-07-06T17:06:55+00:00

....but as soon as he starts pressing, its sexual harassment??? The mental gymnastics involved here are astounding

JGFishe · 2021-07-06T17:32:19+00:00

She wanted to say no.

She wanted him to pressure her.

She wanted to regret having sex with him after the fact.

She wanted to get him arrested for rape.

KamadoJonathan · 2021-07-06T14:32:50+00:00

When you blow up on them, call them b!+ch, fvck you etc. You act weak and they can show their friends "see? he's psycho." if you act calm and collected, you're in control of the situation.

SmithRoadBookClub69 · 2021-07-06T15:33:28+00:00

Dude was talking to 4 other broads.

DrDog09 · 2021-07-06T17:57:05+00:00

Beware what you ask for, you might get it. She wanted groveling and got none of it. That is the only reason she is devastated, not because she ended it.

Natriumzyanid · 2021-07-06T16:45:38+00:00

They are always "devastated" or have been "abused"

Less every - day- radicalism, chicks

jws755 · 2021-07-07T01:46:15+00:00

He spent two months presumably chatting w her online. She decided to play the “relationship” card and he folded. Dude was done adding sunk costs to what was not going anywhere, while she wanted him to beg. She wasn’t into him, she was into being wanted.
Rules have changed lady.

Hunic_legionary · 2021-07-06T12:04:33+00:00

Or she could have said that you got my attention but you gotta keep me intrested wich is a green light that try a bit harder

Disciple_Of_Cheesus · 2021-07-06T13:26:41+00:00

As it should be.

shitpancake1 · 2021-07-06T15:39:24+00:00

SO TRAGIC

SO MUCH WASTED TIME

HOPE HE MOVES TO THAILAND AND GETS $40 HOOKERS EVERY NIGHT FOR A MONTH

sicrm · 2021-07-06T15:43:56+00:00

she wasn’t ready for a relationship with him*

Hy3w_mong0u5 · 2021-07-07T09:54:18+00:00

"I asked the waiter for steak and he brought me steak. Why didn't he bring me pizza!?"

aliceinlondon · 2021-07-06T15:05:41+00:00

Is she complaining that she wanted him to "fight for her" or complaining that she now realises she's lost a man who is so non-confrontational?

Fox6669 · 2021-07-06T16:07:06+00:00

I can't deal with these people, and they are also the ones to twist the story and call the man possessive if he would have wanted and explanation. Good for him for getting out, bad cause he waisted his time.

SpectrumWoes · 2021-07-06T18:58:30+00:00

Saw a prime example of this in the series Yellowstone. One of the characters Kayce (son of the main character ranch owner) has his wife tell him she’s leaving and taking their son because she can’t take his bad boy ways anymore. She gets set up in her own apartment, he comes over to see the kid and they argue later.

He says “You told me to leave so I did” and her reply was of course that anytime she says that he’s supposed to fight for her 🙄

Later on he comes over unannounced, he goes for it and kisses her and they bang.

If that was real life, unless you were a bad boy cowboy giving insta-tingles with your mere presence, you’d get the cops called on you and a custody hearing where you’d be yelled at by a judge for not respecting her boundaries and lose your kid. Hell even if you WERE Brad Thundersaddle you’d still end up there.

eternalstruggle1 · 2021-07-07T00:42:01+00:00

Wait a minute. Who are you?

Lol had to put this here. Jokes aside, isn't it considered near rapey if the guy keep pressuring once the woman said NO, one time? I am lost. If she is not interested, aren't men suppose to back off and respect boundary and not be apart of the patriarchy and oppress women?

I am lost, confused, bewildered, disoriented, befuddled. I don't know what is right and wrong any more.

PM_ME_NICE_STUFF1 · 2021-07-07T07:42:35+00:00

I am saving this for the next time some redditor tells me women don't want to be pursued.

GnomonA · 2021-07-07T08:21:14+00:00

Women still don't understand how disposable they've let themselves become. Beyond sex, and maybe childbirth, none of them have any idea what it is they're meant to bring to a relationship. They all expect to be treated like queens but aren't worth the effort.

Nanashi_Norigami · 2021-07-07T09:05:50+00:00

He did what was right. I'd have done the same, life's to short to be feeding females egos, they have enough simps doing that already.

Bing_Bang_Bam · 2021-07-07T03:05:20+00:00

Bye you fuckin birch.

HugeQock · 2021-07-07T03:29:07+00:00

I asked for X and received X and now im devastated.

Yet more proof to never, NEVER listen to a woman about what she wants.

lethargic_apathy · 2021-07-08T01:33:04+00:00

What the hell? I see posts every other day talking about how men are awful because they persist after being told no. Yet here we see a guy respecting her boundaries and he's somehow the bad guy for that? Wtf do women want?

DoTheSnoopyDance · 2021-07-06T19:12:38+00:00

The best part is the end, “no pressure applied”. What is it that’s going around now, even if a woman willingly sleeps with you if she can make a case that pressure was applied at all, even just to the point of asking more than once, right to jail.

NBA_MSG · 2021-07-06T21:18:23+00:00

Play stupid games win stupid prizes

BridgeViking1066 · 2021-07-06T21:19:02+00:00

Don’t ask for things you don’t want.

Sinestro617 · 2021-07-07T00:06:24+00:00

WTF did she think would happen?

EastEndMontrealer1 · 2021-07-07T01:55:18+00:00

Ironically enough, I'm in a remarkably similar situation myself

Grevhimself · 2021-07-07T09:48:19+00:00

Whatever you do, you’re doing the wrong thing lol

Typo-MAGAshiv · 2021-07-06T12:51:30+00:00

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8LinesOfWockMGP · 2021-07-06T15:37:28+00:00

2 fucking months?! Poor beta simp bastard.

Bob_and_Virginia · 2021-07-06T17:06:44+00:00

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Jabronskyi · 2021-07-06T22:09:52+00:00

What did she expect?

ErenYDidNothingWrong · 2021-07-06T14:08:54+00:00

Good morning

TheGeeksama · 2021-07-06T14:40:39+00:00

wah sher wah ! heavy driver

Devilsgun · 2021-07-07T04:45:05+00:00

I don't chase does. I don't put up with does that won't lift for me. Give it up or you're meat, NEXT

ScottyHoliday · 2021-07-09T17:43:51+00:00

I remember a friend getting harshly rejected after attempting polite conversation with a random woman at a lounge. She then proceeded to remain in his general area and stare at him all night. Their first reaction is 'No', usually a knee jerk reaction designed to milk more attention/validation. She seriously thought he was supposed to keep trying to 'break the ice'.

Det_Steve_Sloan · 2021-07-10T11:10:33+00:00

Googled this. The female in question is obese.

Sea-Buffalo · 2021-07-14T14:51:48+00:00

Men are not going to chase her endlessly to stroke her ego. Those days are gone.

They want equality so they can enjoy it.

Time-Amount187 · 2021-07-16T20:20:25+00:00

Simple explanation. She thought she was such hot sh*t that this rejected guy would plead with her, but when he didn’t her massive ego was injured. Good for that guy for moving on.

Mad her boundaries got respected

Comments

Consistency is a tool of the patriarchy!!!

Consistency is truly a tool of the evil, muh soggy knees stick, patriarchy!!!

Word definitions are tools of the patriarchy!!!

WhO hUrT yOu MuH sOgGy KnEeS sTiCk InKeL???

Making up your mind is a tool of the patriarchy!!!

JUST FIGURE IT OUT!!!

The cow says moooooooooooooood

Title	Mad her boundaries got respected
Author	RMBGold
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Date	July 6, 2021 10:41 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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