Sex with ex

Useful_Situation_253 · 2024-01-05T11:42:12+00:00

Bad idea

Samlazaz · 2024-01-04T02:33:54+00:00

You shouldn't. But it'll probably be great sex. Hysterical bonding sex is the best kind.

Excellent-Jicama-673 · 2023-11-21T04:43:52+00:00

You know the answer to this.

david10277 · 2023-11-19T00:47:46+00:00

Your going to trauma bond

Dont do it ..

Small_Quarter_3673 · 2023-11-18T22:39:44+00:00

You will do it anyway so why even ask?

ArtichokeSavings9472 · 2023-11-18T21:16:38+00:00

Sex without attachment is awesome if she sees how weak you are by dangling some ass in your face she will smell the weakness get your ass elsewhere move on

throwRA80bulldogs · 2023-11-18T20:24:53+00:00

Sex with my ex got me a set of twins…After we decided to separate I had plans to move outside of the US again, permanently but the plans fell through a month before I left and I decided to stay. I love my two kids to death and they’re the best thing that ever happened to me, but my life is pretty much stuck in one place now until they get older… that was a choice I made, but still…

Mental-Arugula1144 · 2023-11-18T15:34:12+00:00

Biggest lie ever told is “no strings attached”. You made your decision and as ugly as things will be at first you got to move on or reconcile with her the right way. Good luck bro

Brilliant-Tomorrow55 · 2023-11-18T12:51:12+00:00

Why? Seriously.

justaguyinhis · 2023-11-18T10:24:08+00:00

Very easy answer. If you are serious about leaving, then it's a hard no.

Blackbarnabyjones · 2023-11-18T05:45:27+00:00

Worst case - You get pregnant a woman you want to leave

Worser case - that was her plan and now you pay child support as you pay for her to train the kid to hate you.

Other Bad Case - You have sex and catch an sti she's been saving just for you.

Other Other Bad Case - She records the sex or references it in social media and uses it to set you up for a false rape charge, character assassination with work and friends, or even the courts.

Or you can MASTURBATE and bypass this bullshit OR you can fly to Costa Rica for a weekend and get with a fly honey for $100.

NewSunnEarth · 2023-11-18T02:12:42+00:00

Sometimes I read these posts and I think humans are just creatures that want to fuck people.

aquatic-dreams · 2023-11-18T16:18:44+00:00

If we didn't fuck while we were married, why would we fuck in divorce? What a Terrible idea.

Acceptable_Photo6956 · 2023-11-18T01:52:41+00:00

if you must hook up, get it in writing. no strings no feelings and that she understands that this doesn't change your plans. if she's willing to sign it for you, she must want it with you pretty bad. but i feel like it's a Micheal Jordan baseball bad idea.

ButSeeriously · 2023-11-18T01:30:19+00:00

I am in the process of getting divorced and I did the same thing. We have been separated, but I was easily enticed into partaking in situations that I knew would lead to sex. No matter what assurances she gives, there are ALWAYS strings attached. Don't fall under her hypnosis

Capable-Teach-1062 · 2023-11-18T01:06:07+00:00

I’d give her one actually or a couple. I’m doing it to my stbx now while we are still separating under the same house but different rooms. Both have urges and she always hits me up. It’s funny she’s doing a couple things she never wanted to do before. Just make sure you state your boundaries so you know where you both stand. We don’t kiss, cuddle and do anything affectionate…..works for me

Mynewadventures · 2023-11-18T00:07:52+00:00

She wants to get pregnant, dude. C'mon.

vodkanipples · 2023-11-18T00:00:54+00:00

My opinion. No. And I wouldn't hook up with someone else either. Wait until after the divorce is finalized. Then I'd still try to hold off for 2-3 months. Use porn, toys, dolls, whatever it takes. I say this for many reasons. You don't want to look like you had something lined up. It's a bad look for her and her lawyer. You might not be ready. You or the other woman could get attached a you wind up in another relationship. Give it a few months, and get settled into your new situation. Once reality sets in that this is now your new life. Then you can look for one night stands. Do that for a while, and if you make a connection, great, but go slow and make sure she knows that you aren't going to rush into anything. Date, maybe you or her stays overnight. Once in a while , do not move in with any woman until you have been together for a full year.

Just my 2 cents. I'm no expert, but that's what I'd do if I were in your shoes.

ramad84 · 2023-11-17T23:36:19+00:00

do not recommend. besides the psychological reasons - the "date of seperation" is a legal date of importance for when your finances are considered seperate.

engaging in marital relations may push out or reset the date of seperation so that she is entitled to your recent earnings.

start your own bank account - seperate financially - and you also may want to send a written letter explaining you consider yourself legally seperated at this point in time

Ethereal-Mage · 2023-11-17T23:29:37+00:00

Don't. You've already fucked her up enough by cheating because you have a different idea of what "marriage" should be based on your post history. And you call her manipulative? Don't blame your wife for issues you created. This is why we have a world full of scorned women being passed on gk the next guy that ends up shattered in this reddit. You can't be a shameless prick then blame the ex regardless of gender for what you've caused/created. According to you ya don't have trouble getting it anywhere else so stick to you clerks and wanted ads.

Theedon · 2023-11-17T23:11:11+00:00

P Diddy, is this you?

If it isn't, you are about to be him.

Useful_Situation_253 · 2023-11-17T22:43:18+00:00

I appreciate everybody’s input here as usual. I’m getting honest answers and feedback so thank you to everyone. I can’t do it. It’s not a good idea. It’ll cause confusion. I agree with everybody. I’m not proud of my decisions in the past, but moving forward I have to make the right decision to move on with my life and so does she thinks everyone to bring some clarity to my life this really helps.

Fantastic-Bonus4461 · 2023-11-17T22:29:30+00:00

No just say No… or you really want to have “the conversation” again, it will hurt worse the second time around. Take a cold shower

Training_Ad1368 · 2023-11-17T21:29:02+00:00

Give her dick.

rhett342 · 2023-11-17T21:16:41+00:00

No good ever comes from thinking solely with your little head. Keep using your big one and don't give in.

INeverSaidThat89 · 2023-11-17T21:14:31+00:00

You cheated on her.
You are asking for the divorce.
You describe her as manipulative.

Her idea of no strings sex is to nail your balls to the wall.

Think with the big brain and not the little one. She's setting you up.

AgreeableLeave4592 · 2023-11-17T21:11:22+00:00

Ok, from a woman's perspective

First off, you're the only one who knows fully of your situation, relationship, and her, past,present an everything. So only you can have a full understanding of the situation and if you're got a gut feeling saying no, then don't.

I don't know what kind of person she is. But I know I've had sex with an ex or soon to be one . it was kind of a closure thing or something i needed to be honest. but if she's not the kind of person to act that way. No, don't, that's a messy situation you do not need to get into.

hazalo9 · 2023-11-17T20:27:51+00:00

Don't do it!!! When women have sex it is connected with their emotions. She still has feelings. One day they will realize it's not going to work or can do what you do and they will flip the switch, the love emotion will change to hate and you won't recognize her. She will treat you like shit and mentally you will be after her. Just move on or you will pay for it later. That way you can keep a good relationship in the future. I have been through it and now we hate each other and don't talk anymore. Go out with honor bro. Good luck.

Jimbothebimbo696969 · 2023-11-17T20:05:57+00:00

Just being honest bub, but your kind of the asshole that most of us men can’t stand. Nothing worse than a cheater. Many of us were cheated on. That being said, don’t continue to have sex with her. It will only make it worse. Cut her off and find new puss. It’s harder than you think nowadays, but eventually you’ll find some.

PuzzleheadedFault305 · 2023-11-17T19:53:35+00:00

Post-nuts clarity is a great thing. Rub one off, then decide.

TLDR: don't have sex with stbx

PokerFriend247 · 2023-11-17T19:26:50+00:00

Both of you just hit the apps. Tinder special.

Convenience Sex is going to bring complications further down the line. End the pain and suffering.

captainchippsixx · 2023-11-17T18:54:55+00:00

There’s always a motive. rape accusation, abuse accusation, give you something you don’t want std. prep you for asking for something, draw things out- the longer you stay the longer you pay, could be a stall tactic.

Tell her to bring a girl friend and then okay. Lol.

Kerry120 · 2023-11-17T18:53:48+00:00

Go find some new pussy

SecretAltruistic6878 · 2023-11-17T18:27:08+00:00

No. Not unless there’s a glimmer in your opinion on your ability to find a common alignment that meets your goals. It’s not personal or against her per se it’s what you need. I personally filed, dated, dated my ex with her knowledge I was dating others as I was honest, she was dating and I didn’t seek details, and we sorted it in end and I pulled those papers. We’re messy from this but I found out I could sort it with her after I basically broke her mommy mode brain and her ignoring me for years. But I t’s messy my bro

upfnothing · 2023-11-17T18:17:10+00:00

Grow a pair and leave that woman alone. It reeks of indecisiveness and a fear of solitude. She deserves someone who will treat her with more stability and respect than you are capable of. The true crime here is you denying her to move on and find happiness.

leegiovanni · 2023-11-17T17:25:00+00:00

Don’t be a d*ck.

If you have decided on leaving her, don’t lead her on. That’s going to make her angrier when she finally realizes you are indeed leaving her. She’s doing this to hopefully change your mind and you are opening up a can of worms by giving her false hopes.

Certain-Line-6351 · 2023-11-17T17:23:12+00:00

She could be pregnant an trying to get you on the hook. Play it safe. Just get a bj. 😎

Signal-Dot2326 · 2023-11-17T17:18:19+00:00

NO!!!!!! Could open a huge can of worms could be a way for her to accuse you of assault or try and knock her up any number of things bad idea

Title	Sex with ex
Author	Useful_Situation_253
Upvotes	10
Comments	53
Date	November 17, 2023 5:03 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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