I’m addicted to escorts.

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Naus1987 · 2022-03-03T00:19:10+00:00

At the end of the day, we only live to enjoy our lives. So if you’re happy and not hurting anyone — then you’re doing it right.

It’s not like we have some kind of fabled destiny. We’re not Disney characters.

Inareskai · 2022-03-02T22:45:20+00:00

I think you overestimate how many options the average woman has.

Yeah, probably not the healthiest coping mechanism. If it fully becomes an addiction, then you should probably seek professional help.

xXMachineWomanXx · 2022-03-03T03:44:21+00:00

The thing with dating apps is women get flooded with messages that turn into game-playing, flakiness, demands for nudes, or just nothing. I didn’t meet anyone on dating apps and have just given up on them. They’re a complete waste of time. Not to mention, a lot of women have to worry about whether the guy will physically harm them!

That being said, I’m not against escorts. If everyone is consenting and you’re getting what you need, why not? But understand that women who are looking for a relationship, or traditional dating, tend to not be interested men who are just trying to get laid.

rachulll · 2022-03-02T23:13:56+00:00

“If women can have all these options with sex and dating partners why can’t men?” Men do have this. A lot of men are just generally unpleasant people and do nothing to work on themselves in order to meet women’s standards.

Sad_Quote_3415 · 2022-03-03T00:35:28+00:00

I hate when people say "women have more options". It just tells me men have lower standards and that's not good. It also implies that women "have it easy", when in reality dating is hard for everyone and we deal with different issues. For instance, statistically speaking, women face a higher chance of getting raped or sexually assaulted when meeting new people. It's scary putting yourself out there, for everyone. Also, finding meaningful connections isn't easy. Women getting creepy unsolicited sexual DMs isn't "dating", it's just harassment and it's not fun. Rejection is a part of life and most people (including women) have to deal with it. But the tricky thing is (imo), to find a fulfilling, meaningful relationship, people should first accept that there is a possibility you'll be alone for a long time. Once you accept that, you can work on yourself for you, and not because you want a partner. Only then you can actually grow. Getting into relationships for the wrong reasons won't fix whatever problem you have.

BetaNatalis · 2022-03-02T22:52:32+00:00

Escorts won't solve your issues. In order to avoid rejection, (since it doesn't build any character, it just hurts) you have to try less but better. Choose carefully women not only for their looks, but also for the compatibility with you, this will boost you success rate, but there are no guarantees anyway.

WannaBeA_Vata · 2022-03-03T00:30:47+00:00

Addiction means it's a problem for you. You don't seem to believe this is a problem. Sounds more like a lifestyle choice based on your OP and comments.

bee_ghoul · 2022-03-03T09:57:03+00:00

Women definitely don’t have it easy. You’re also completely forgetting how fucking awful it is to have guys not understand the word no. I was friends with a few incels and they blamed my not wanting to date them on everything other than themselves. I wish I could have told them that it’s because they don’t brush their teeth and have cum stains in their jeans but I just had to smile and politely decline because that’s what women are expected to do. Yet we still get called sluts and bitched for somehow leading them on.

Ithrewallofitaway · 2022-03-03T02:15:29+00:00

Some people prefer escorts because in the end, its always cheaper than a wife/girlfriend. But, then again, escorts only feed into your sexual desires, but does not give you a fulfilling relationship.

tpobs · 2022-03-03T07:26:35+00:00

Being rejected many time is hard. I know that. Been there.

However, it is how humanity work. Some people would like you, and some people wouldn't.

You gotta need to find a right person, and develop sincere relationship with them.

Talk to people. Listen to them. Every individual is differen and has their own stories, just like you. Don't be bitter on some arbitrary concepts of some one else "having it easier". Others being successful(?) at dating doesn't have anything to do with you, nor change anything for you.

happymonday257 · 2022-03-03T01:48:20+00:00

The fact that you're willing to have sex with women who don't want to be with yo - but are either desperate enough for money to go ahead with it, or are being trafficked and force - speaks volumes about your character and the way you view women.

To not have a problem with the fact that you're supporting sex trafficking tells us you severely lack empathy for women and don't see them as human beings, simply objects to u se for your own selfish pleasure and validation. Women can usually sense this kind of attitude in men and perhaps that's why you can't get a real date.

I sincerely hope you take the time to really think about what you're doing and the way you view women. They're real human beings, not objects. I can't begin to understand how you can enjoy yourself and feel no remorse about paying to have sex with someone who obviously does not really want to be there. Personally I couldn't live with myself if I exploited someone like that.

Alternative-Skill167 · 2022-03-02T22:14:30+00:00

What’s the average rate and services provided? What do you do about personal safety and health safety?

RefurbishedMan · 2022-03-03T08:41:21+00:00

I mean i understand getting rejected sucks , but it's not all about looks bro, I mean if you're presentable , you know what to say and how to say it , i think that's more than enough ... my advice for you is to stop blaming your looks and start working on what you can improve , the way you dress, work out , how you talk and learn a little bit of psychology , it really helps.

and i'm telling you this from experience , I used to be the skinny kid , so I had to repalce that with the funny interesting smart guy. by going for escorts you are standing in the way of your improvement.

mylife50 · 2022-03-03T03:19:58+00:00

I messaged you about something urgent, please I need your expertise on this.

caulixtla · 2022-03-03T05:18:27+00:00

I’m not the most pleasing to look at and I’m not rich.

Please detail this. As a general rule, men can work on their appearance, and, with hard work, can work on their income. Appearance is easier to deal with: Just go to the gym. Go every day. Get your diet under control. As long as you’re not morbidly obese, you will be able to become attractive enough to date normal “civilian” women. What women really look for is self-confidence more than looks.

Also, prostitution and porn are very unhealthy. They both dehumanize women, and reduce an entire range of interactions down to just a sexual one. Successful long term relationships can not be based on just sex. They have to have an element of empathy and compassion.

A lot of responses here, as you have observed, lack empathy and compassion for someone who is engaging in problematic behavior. I am sure you know that viewing porn or seeking the services of a sex worker results in an interaction where the client lacks empathy for the sex worker. It’s not helpful to belabor the point, and I would like to remind you that Reddit is a resentment amplification bubble with little relation to the real world.

Reddit is not the best place to get help for porn and prostitution addiction issues [1] and I would seek help elsewhere. DM me if you want suggestions.

[1] Some people make the point there isn’t such a thing as “sex addiction”. It’s a pedantic point; people in the psychiatric and psychological field call it “compulsive sexual behavior”, which is the same thing with a different name.

Title	I’m addicted to escorts.
Author	Sorry-Watercress4589
Upvotes	41
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Date	March 2, 2022 9:43 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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