A warning about older men!

electroloop · 2021-03-22T02:41:06+00:00

Fact! Older men that target much younger are manipulative and predatory. I wish I could tell my younger self to avoid them like the plague but I was so MaTuRe FoR mY aGe according to them!

All lies.

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2021-03-22T12:00:06+00:00

The worst of both worlds:

Doesn’t have the hot, firm, non-bald body of youth

Doesn’t have the wisdom and maturity of age

It’s a shit sandwich without the bread

Aocwannabe · 2021-03-22T03:12:18+00:00

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jasmine-blossom · 2021-03-22T13:33:41+00:00

A lot of young women who tend to date older men say they are looking for someone mature; the problem is that almost all men who date younger women are not mature and are just manipulative predators.

Like it’s not inherently bad to have an age gap, it’s just that the older men who seek out younger women are creeps. A good man who falls for a younger woman is going to seriously hesitate if not avoid a relationship altogether bc he knows the age difference is potentially making the relationship more unequal.

Sewud · 2021-03-22T07:49:03+00:00

"He's not more mature, he's just more aware of how to manipulate you" 😮

If I understand this correctly, it means he has the knowledge to manipulate you, but he doesn't have the maturity to not do it.

Davina33 · 2021-03-22T07:23:35+00:00

Have you ever heard a young and old person talk? It sounds so forced because there is a huge generational gap. Other than talking about sex, what do the two of you have in common?

There are benefits to dating men around your age. Young men are less likely to be stuck in their own ways.

LexiJay94 · 2021-03-22T11:57:52+00:00

Just yesterday I saw a girl making a tiktok about "when he said I was too young for him" or something like that and it's accompanied by some kinda song that I don't know.

Lyrics "I'm 18 now, do you dare come over?!" Or something along those lines...

And I was like "what the actual..." 😩🥲

poody456 · 2021-03-22T14:23:41+00:00

Also important to note that your brain isn’t fully formed until 25 years old. This affects decision making and maturity which can be a bad dynamic in something like a romantic relationship involving an older man. I dated 24/25 year olds when I was newly 18-20 and one in particular would bring up the fact he knew I was much younger and ‘my brain wasn’t fully formed’ as a way to control and manipulate me. Not saying 18-24 year olds aren’t mature or capable of making good decisions but you’re more impressionable and biologically at a disadvantage, especially in conjunction with things like misogyny

throwaway32132134 · 2021-03-22T11:36:09+00:00

I think people need to remember something too. As I've mentioned in previous posts, I literally had all the characteristic of a parentified child growing up. My parents were both very absent so I didn't have a choice. I have heard "YoU ArE mAtURe FoR YoUr AgE" or "YoU ArE An OlD SoUL" by coworkers, family and friends my whole life and I am legitimately mature. I also have seen how a lot of times I have thought differently than people my age because of my childhood. That being said though, I look at it as even if you legitimately are mature. How are you benefiting from dating someone way older than you? The only times I have seen the younger person benefit in an age gap relationship is if they are in it for the money.

SayNad · 2021-03-22T16:46:09+00:00

Yepppp, just saw a tiktok of 18 FREAKIN' YEARS OLD dating a 50 YEARS OLD MAN!!!!!!

And she is like "dating an older guy is better because he is mature."

Kid, no. He is a f**king pedophile Oh My Godddddd.

cazzzaa · 2021-03-22T14:58:40+00:00

Long time lurker here, but felt compelled to finally comment on this one. Most of my relationships have been age gap ones and they were all controlling and manipulative. One was emotionally and mentally abusive (22 year old me with a 32 year old guy).

I feel gross thinking about it, but even two years ago I dated a 48 year old man (as a 30 year old). He ended up stringing me along and then ghosted me even though we have several mutual friends. I was really upset at the time but found out later from a friend who had known him for a long time that he had very controlling behaviors, even with friends sometimes. His ex girlfriend was younger than me (mid 20s) so that should have been a red flag.

There are so many older men who feel they are entitled to be with younger women. I’ve had so many 40+ year olds hit on me. Recently, a single and divorced 41 year old male acquaintance (just know each other via mutual social interests) casually asked me if I thought he should date women under 25 years old or should stick with 25. I was rather horrified and immediately said dude, please date women your own age. Neither of those are options for you!

minid2020 · 2021-03-22T14:31:07+00:00

I dated a 50 year when I was 25 and in 2 weeks he told me that we were getting married all while complaining about how I looked and talking to me like a child. He wanted to use my credit to buy the row house that he was renting because he had filed bankruptcy and had bad credit. I had no guidance from my angry, mean mother so I didn’t know to steer clear of men like this. Please talk to your daughters , nieces, any younger woman that trusts you. Luckily , I dumped him after about a month because I knew what he was doing wrong but was still stupid enough to not know why it was wrong. Even now at my age , dating a 50+ year old men, they are just as bad to women who are close to their age

Edit: I was 25, not 35

Hmtnsw · 2021-03-22T10:52:46+00:00

I get lectured all the time by my mother about how I should date older. I should never date younger. Ever. I try to stay in my age group but all this

"Do this. Not that. Act this way. Not that. Have this religion and not that. Dress this way and speak that way."

I just want to go out to the woods and be free.

2021-03-22T15:17:24+00:00

Many older men specifically date younger women because they are naive and easier to control, older women can see through their bullshit that’s why they prey on younger women.

zorra666 · 2021-03-22T09:33:42+00:00

I've happily avoided older men my whole life. I'm 45 now and still not interested.

However...I have tended to date men who are significantly younger. I haven't found it particularly problematic (men who behave like they are 33...when they are 33...seem more entertaining than men who do the same at 53). Also, don't have kids, don't want kids, don't like divorced men. Younger men I have been with typically don't approach me as someone who can be manipulated or deceived so easily. They aren't surprised by my strong views on relationships and the world. And I certainly can't be bothered enough to deceive or manipulate them.

Am I just as bad as these scrotes who date younger women?

intergalacticanon44 · 2021-03-22T13:02:20+00:00

What are the benefits of dating older (10+ yrs) men? I’ve always wondered about this, how can you be in a relationship with someone you don’t have much in common with?

Feminineprincess · 2021-03-22T16:24:38+00:00

He’s describing my friend’s dad. Her father is a very very good manipulator to women, and very charismatic. He has a very young wife (she’s 31 and he’s about to be 60) and he would make promises to her that he never keeps, they constantly fight, break up and get back together. So messy.

immortallogic · 2021-03-22T14:52:25+00:00

I refuse to date older.... Date younger ladies.

Denimiaa · 2021-03-22T14:40:44+00:00

Good message, and love that beard.

2021-03-22T20:07:28+00:00

A 40 year old man who fixates on 20 year old women will still fixate on 20 year old women when you are 25 and he is 45. Meaning, you will ‘age out’ of his age fixation.

Date men your own age. Much less chance of ending up with a weirdo that needs to keep reliving his frat days by getting with college aged women.

XMochiixMochiiX · 2021-03-22T06:45:28+00:00

Love this guy!!

Worldly_Sell · 2021-03-22T20:56:24+00:00

How in the hell are you younger ladies attracted to men 10 plus years older???? I’m not judging, I just simply don’t get it. How do you not see them as a father or older brother figure? I’m especially baffled by the 20 plus age gaps. I am 33 and the typical single 48 to 55 year old man around me reminds me of an old man. They have various health problems, receding hairlines, completely unkept appearance, etc smh

alexjames_sc · 2021-03-22T21:05:19+00:00

We're only "mature for our age" when it benefits their dick, but God forbid we disagree with them or call them on some BS then it's "you're so naive, too young to understand". SMH.

desertedstreets · 2021-03-22T21:35:26+00:00

Had me at "Old ass child"

BungalowBootieBitch · 2021-03-25T02:35:31+00:00

Unfortunately what happened to my friend. It didn't help that she was so unsure of herself. On one hand, she wanted a relationship with someone who she thought could pull her out of a toxic family. On the other hand, she didn't want to commit. She was okay just letting things happen as they did. No commitment on his or her part. So many red flags but she didn't care. She finally left when he reacted so horribly to a pregnancy scare. I understood where she was at because I was in a similar mindset in 2019. At least she knows now an older man doesn't mean more mature. He's in his 40s and unmarried for a reason.

CrepeCraze · 2021-03-22T13:16:00+00:00

I feel like this guy is kind of mansplaining but I agree. It just feels like he’s doing the thing he’s talking about a little bit. I know his hear’s in the right place, but this bugs me a little.

Title	A warning about older men!
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Upvotes	1094
Comments	81
Date	March 22, 2021 2:20 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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