I want to ask them this, and see how they twist up and do mental gymnastics to answer. Here's my version of why it would add nothing, and in fact, take away from my quality of life:

-- having to deal with someone else's kids. Don't have any of my own BY CHOICE, damn sure don't want anyone else's AND NEVER HAVE MY ENTIRE LIFE

-- I am incompetent to babysit, much less parent. I lean hard into this. I think I maybe babysat once in my teens, hated it, never did it again

-- step-parents have zero authority

-- step-parents are always resented as interfering interlopers

-- if you have a living ex and a step-parent, there is GOING to be drama. Count me way out. My life as a widow is quiet, peaceful, totally non-dramatic

-- kids are loud and chaotic; I need peace and quiet, ideally silence, most of the time

-- I'm an introvert; I do not want to be "on" all the time. I want to be OFF most of the time, ideally in my own thoughts or doing a creative project or exercising

-- extra cooking and cleaning... big no thanks, I do enough of that for myself

-- I have multiple income streams; don't need your money AND I don't want to be bled dry by you and your kids and all their endless wants and needs

-- I own my own house; don't need some man's house, which if things were to go sideways, would mean I'd be effectively homeless if he kicked me out/we split

-- I have investments that I want to leave to family, not to some man and/or his kids

-- more people inhabiting a space means more psychic pressure, less time to think and reflect, less downtime

-- living with other people, no thanks, the single life suits me extremely well because of all the quiet

Can't wait to hear other reasons from you FDS queens about why dating single dads, much less cohabiting or marrying them, is the worst idea in the entire world. As an introvert, a creative, a HSP, and someone who's always been highly independent, I cannot ever imagine that working out to my advantage in any possible way.