Her pornsick cheater will send her to an early grave and she's still internalizing all of his abuse...

_differentmentality_ · 2021-04-13T13:04:31+00:00

First sentence and this relationship should have already ended eight years ago.

localgirlcult · 2021-04-13T13:14:37+00:00

"My husband said I was ugly. We reconciled"

When someone tells me we aren't living under patriarchy that makes women overvalue men, lmaaaao.

This is all so barely readable honestly. It's tiring to even get through it. Do you see the massive amounts of energy this woman is wasting? All of that energy that could go into herself. She is giving herself health problems over an objectively shitty no value man and we're not living under a patriarchal rule somehow? No woman who grew up in an actually fair society that really made her aware of her human worth would do this to herself.

purasangria · 2021-04-13T13:21:00+00:00

Your "pretty" or his "ugly" never has anything to do with cheating... "Pretty" never mattered for princess Diana, Whitney Houston or Beyoncé and so many others. It won't matter for you either...

miphasgraceful · 2021-04-13T13:11:55+00:00

This is one of the most invasive, insidious parts of men who view porn: the lasting, horribly negative ramifications it has on their partner/GF/wife. He’s only thinking about his dick, but now her whole life and health and wellbeing revolves around and resorts back to his incessant porn use and affair. Men don’t realize the tiny seeds they are planting within their relationships when viewing porn, because they then begin to view their partners/GF/Wife differently.

An unfair trade off doesn’t even begin to describe what happened here: 2-5 minutes of him wanking off, and the woman is completely unaware how quickly her own health and well-being will be going downhill by this action. The insidious part is that he’ll begin to treat her differently and look down on her. (i.e. what the porn girl does “for him” versus what the actual, breathing female in the relationship does for him.) Men who view porn view women as objects, just a means to ejaculate. And that’s all before the emotional abuse and negging begins.

My heart breaks for his poor woman.

K0rla · 2021-04-13T13:04:06+00:00

I agree, no confrontation. Just break things off and walk away. At least then she will be able to take care of her health without any extra stress and bullshit from this asshole

2021-04-13T14:10:24+00:00

scrotes literally have cheated on angelina jolie, beyonce and kim k. this shit has nothing to do with beauty at all someone get this poor woman out of there.

millennialpink2000 · 2021-04-13T14:33:27+00:00

For those who quit reading before the end, she has maintained the same weight since they met, he's doubled his weight. Yet he said she was "old, fat and had let herself go" to his sidepiece.

RUNNNNNN

EffectiveHoneydew422 · 2021-04-13T13:10:49+00:00

She got a Hopium problem. Shes been with the tumour of a "man" for 12 years and her health is deteriorating because of it. If shes asking reddit what to do about it it just is crushing because there is only one thing she needs to do, surgically removed him from her entire experience, she must know it. her intuition would be screaming it. Yet this self blame and co dependance (this is a result of 12 years of gaslighting- not her fault) is still running the show. I hope she sees the light and just packs her shit and vanishes in the night.

GIfuckingJane · 2021-04-13T14:43:46+00:00

Hint hint: you'll never make yourself small enough.

Fuckdoesithurt956 · 2021-04-13T17:29:26+00:00

My porn sick cheating ex was like this. He told me "yeah when it comes to looks you lose that battle, but i love you for your personality". The battle was between me and every other woman out there.

There is no saving a relationship with a man like that. He will always choose you last. You have to choose yourself, as lonely and scary as it might be.

Yellowsunflowerlover · 2021-04-13T14:46:13+00:00

She isn't ugly, fat, old nor let herself go. Regardless of anything, people get cheated on. And it's nothing they did. Let's use Beyonce as an example. Men are gross and instead of working on things or leaving, they cheat. Her husband is a scrote and she needs to cut him off. She forgave him the first time and clearly it didn't work. And let's be real, his side piece probably isn't better than OP. She was just new and available. She needs to leave and focus on herself. Her mental health will get better.

IllusionOfColours · 2021-04-13T17:16:45+00:00

This was painful to read. Honestly the only way for her to get better would be to just leave. It’s hard to leave someone you’ve known for a while but if you leave, a day you’ll feel heartbroken, 1 month a little less but moving on, and 1 year you’ll be living your best life wondering why you went through all that pain.

KateJ1982 · 2021-04-13T19:53:15+00:00

"Obviously I need to confront him." There's something she obviously needs to do and it's not confront this parasite. It's GTF away from him. So sad he's damaged her so much she can't even see it.

Once again, a woman thinks she can communicate a loser into treating her better. She can't. He would if he wanted to. He doesn't.

It's exhausting and demoralizing just to read about this, I can't imagine voluntarily living in it.

PinkBlair99 · 2021-04-13T18:47:12+00:00

As usual, if you happen to come to Reddit for feedback to confirm what you already know about your relationship. There is no hope.

melonmagellan · 2021-04-13T18:58:23+00:00

Great. Porn is literally going to give this woman a heart attack.

janeaustenfan99 · 2021-04-13T19:39:59+00:00

She has to leave him in order to save her health. It’s a matter of life or death. The other stuff is irrelevant compared to the heart issues.

sassenachpants · 2021-04-13T18:53:21+00:00

Jesus WTF.

throwaway32132134 · 2021-04-13T21:07:27+00:00

I can't believe this guy really had the audacity to say "I cheated because you are really ugly." Like what in world is going on.

Unfit_Needleworker · 2021-04-13T20:45:55+00:00

Wtf. Why are women still dealing with this BS? “I lOvE hIm ThOuGh” go find love within yourself, dang. Women would be so much better on a mental scale than dealing with this.

FrozenExpanse · 2021-04-13T22:42:04+00:00

My God. You'd think at least writing it all out like that would make her realize...!

FabledAngryVillager · 2021-04-13T22:35:06+00:00

I used to wonder why a lot of these dudes seem to smoke weed. I'm not against weed, per se, but I learned excessive smoking can impair empathy. Especially if you pair it with a SSRI.

And if they're assholes already or what little empathy they had was keeping them in check...

I personally don't encounter this with women so much. I think they probably need to care less while scrotes are the opposite.

localgirlcult · 2021-04-13T13:21:45+00:00

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Title	Her pornsick cheater will send her to an early grave and she's still internalizing all of his abuse...
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Date	April 13, 2021 12:59 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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