HVM anticipate your needs!

super_thinker_ · 2020-09-26T04:32:56+00:00

This reminds me of a memory that I have from my longest pick-me/LVM relationship.

The two of us were watching movies in his friend's basement and I leaned over and whispered "i have a really bad headache" under my breath, because I did and I was hoping we could leave. My LVM pat my shoulder, shrugged, and kept watching the movie.

All of a sudden, my LVM's friend's little brother leaves and comes back into the room with a glass of water and ibuprofen.

That was a huge wake up call for me. I had never been taken care of like that by a man who wasn't my dad.

hypointellectual · 2020-09-26T00:29:10+00:00

Incels want to comment that this guy is a pussy ass bitch so bad but can’t cuz this is our sub 💁🏻‍♀️💁🏻‍♀️💁🏻‍♀️

One of my friends said her father went out and bought period protection and other female necessities for her when she was a teenager. Like a man who buys pads for you and notices when you’re running low on shampoo? Women across the world do this for their husbands but we can’t even do much as expect them to do this for us.

MoonlitPinkKitten · 2020-09-26T01:15:37+00:00

Aw 🥰 this reminds me of how my fiancé went to the store and bought me a box of tampons when I started my period during my shift. I completely forgot I was gonna start that day possibly and was so embarrassed :( He drove over 40 minutes to bring me the box and some of my favorite chocolate to make me feel better. All my coworkers playfully teased me after they saw me walking around with him :')

tellmesomething11 · 2020-09-26T02:07:38+00:00

Ugh triggered to when ex was like he hated my mood swings when I was on my period. I used to have a lot of pain during periods and he hated it. I was total pick me back then and I remember feeling so sad because I didn’t know how to control my tiredness/pain/irritation🙄🙄

MerleErEnPerle · 2020-09-26T02:50:06+00:00

I envy future generations of women that get to experience when this considerate and sweet behavior is normalized. I want more men like that in this world. Make it happen quick!

zombiessalad · 2020-09-26T02:18:54+00:00

My dad always picked tampons up at the store for me when I needed them, picked me up from school when my stomach was hurting from my period, and never made it weird or taboo to talk about menstration. Learning that it made other men uncomfortable was such a strange thing for me to learn growing up.

loserinasweater · 2020-09-26T02:19:45+00:00

I have an IUD so I don't really bleed, but I still get bad cramps and whatnot around every month or so. Currently on a cycle this week and things my husband has done for me: Reassuring me that I'm beautiful and he loves me multiple times a day without asking for validation, bringing me my Midol and a bottle of water when I looked pained, when I went to clean our bird's cage, he told me to sit and relax and cleaned it for me, etc, etc.

giggirltra · 2020-09-26T04:00:33+00:00

I feel like men like this (HVM) are unicorns... do they really even exist? 😞

Unlikely-Marzipan · 2020-09-26T04:46:33+00:00

I had an LVM bf who was so grossed out with my periods, most of the time I skipped them. I was really self conscious about my body around him because of previous trauma and also he tried to triangulate me with this girl who was completely different to me. He always wanted me on top and I used to feel so self conscious but I did it anyway. This one time I got my period during sex, and when he finished and I moved unfortunately his “juices” seeped out with some of my period. His reaction was “EWWW!!! Yuck!” I was mortified!!! Then I said sorry and quickly cleaned up for him. I asked him if he wanted to shower with me, and he said no. Which was another kick in the guts because I was usually so self conscious around him and seeing my body, that it was like me initiating something which I never usually would, was just thrown back in my face.

I never had any exes before that who cared about period blood, and would jump at the chance to get in the shower with me, even after we had already had sex. It was like “our” personal time and we would have shower chats. There was none of that with him, and honestly he really made me feel so self conscious that whole relationship. And lied. Gaslit me. And now I can see he never loved me. I think, sometimes I would even detect pure contempt in his eyes when he looked at me.

This story warms my heart, and even now, makes me think it’s crazy that I can still question myself and my needs as being too much (wanting honest and no Porn etc.) when there’s men out there who do stuff like this. And I’m guessing the ones who do stuff like this are like that because they aren’t wasting their time talking to women and watching Porn - they’re putting their energy into their relationship and wholesome things in life.

2020-09-26T06:09:54+00:00

The LVM I was married to used to pressure me for sex on my period, when he knew (because I told him several times) that I'm feeling uncomfortable and I'm in pain generally, also it doesn't feel good on my period at all. He still pressured me to have sex every single time (I think part of the appeal was that I was uncomfortable and only doing it for him). And I did give in because otherwise he would pout all day long and he had anger problems and was unpredictable. Well, I leveled up and I'm ready to find someone who actually cares about my needs on my period. I loved reading this.

IDontExist4u · 2020-09-26T03:40:48+00:00

So, there is hope?!

Hahane · 2020-09-26T07:22:47+00:00

This man is so empathetic, it's amazing! I love people like this.

2020-09-26T07:51:31+00:00

thats so sweet!! goals.

guavagoodness · 2020-09-26T13:44:04+00:00

If it ain’t this, I don’t want it!

LittleBiitchyBanana · 2020-09-26T13:55:09+00:00

Let’s find this man and clone him. 🤪 seriously, so precious

pancakejourney · 2020-09-26T18:32:06+00:00

Wow. I am so glad she has this HVM in her life! He sounds absolutely fantastic.And it's such a good feeling to know a little girl has a HVM (her father even!) in her life too.
He will show her what kind of treatment she deserves and should expect from other men!

When I think of my father.. jeez no wonder I haven't talked to him in 10 years.To hear about such a great man is so calming for my nerves.

AnniaT · 2020-09-26T09:27:22+00:00

This made me very emotional! And what a wonderful example for their daughter. She'll learn first hand what a HVM is by watching her father.

seekingcodingjedi · 2020-09-26T05:09:20+00:00

Are such men for real!! You are very fortunate.

suspended_animation_ · 2020-09-26T13:59:45+00:00

This is so sweet, I could cry 😊

VictoriaSobocki · 2020-09-26T15:15:19+00:00

Swoons

ThrowingItIntoTheSea · 2020-09-26T08:11:27+00:00

Oh...... the detail about the Cinderella story. My heart is just bursting! ❤️👑❤️

IAteTheDragon · 2020-09-26T09:31:20+00:00

Wow, it's pretty weird to read about such decent behaviour, after all the LVM reports and irl examples, you kind of don't expect it. That's lovely!

cellarevendicatore · 2020-09-26T09:05:52+00:00

What? I cannot believe the excellent human being ( Male???!!!!) with whom you live. It really gives hope, although I feel you took the one an only unicorn out there 😁 I'm so happy for your daughter, what a beautiful world she lives in 💓when all the right questions are asked. You re the family of the future 😍.

2020-09-26T10:47:07+00:00

Every daughter deserves a father like this, I'd feel so safe in his presence.

bear_sees_the_car · 2020-09-26T19:32:54+00:00

Reminds me of ten inch hero scene

https://youtu.be/ggRR_O0ZT70

My favorite bit, they got married irl.

Ahh, I need more posts like these, real bad.

lunatigre · 2020-09-26T20:50:47+00:00

There are so many things I would do if I magically turned into a straight guy with all I know from being a woman.

Tuning into my female partner's fertility cycle would be at the top of my list. Each phase effects our moods, energy levels...honestly everything because hormones effect everything.

Your cervix moves and gets firmer or softer throughout your cycle making different kind of sex appealing at different phases. It's like having a cheat code on a woman. LVM won't put in the effort to learn about female physiology but damn having that knowledge is truly a win-win situation for everyone.

orangeboobert · 2020-10-16T06:49:27+00:00

Alternatively my Narc NVM ex had sex with me on my cycle at his apt. Acted disconnected and grossed out upon seeing the blood. Then when I went to put in a new tampon realized I had none. I walked out of his bathroom informing him and he directed me to two stores and said “do you need me to come with you bc I really need to clean off.” I was in shock, walking bloody to 7-11 at 11 pm alone in the city at dark. And he had the audacity to call me immature for leaving without saying goodbye as soon as I got my tampons.

overthinkersanon8 · 2020-09-26T04:55:30+00:00

There is no such man.

riseoftherice · 2020-09-26T05:04:31+00:00

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Title	HVM anticipate your needs!
Author	NetfluxAndDistill
Upvotes	1323
Comments	82
Date	September 26, 2020 12:24 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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