I'm devastated. TW Caroline's murderer was her husband.

denimlace · 2021-06-17T20:00:11+00:00

Sad story. When the news first came out, I immediately suspected the hubby. We know the VAST MAJORITY of violence against women are perpetrated by their intimate partners.

straightouttashtetl · 2021-06-17T20:18:00+00:00

He rushed a teenager into having children. I can bet he didn't even wait a week after her miscarriage to knock her up so she wouldn't leave.

I pray for her family and the baby.

HermiticalyKermit · 2021-06-17T20:27:49+00:00

This is a well written post, much better than anything I would have written about the poor girl. He thought he would have a free slave for life with a baby. It must have been groundbreaking for him because she gasp woke up and saw the reality. She knew he was horrible when the baby was born and his mask dropped completely. He hated her for not being obedient. This is hate incarnate.

Frogspocket · 2021-06-17T23:24:49+00:00

I wrote a posthere once about this, but the summary of it is that my friend (who is very into true crime) claims that there is a serious correlation between age gaps and murder. His hypothesis is that incompatibility with adult women is an indicator of deep rooted fear and ultimately hatred for women. What I learned after posting that was that there are A LOT of women here who - despite all of our warnings, despite the higher rates of divorce, despite the pleading from loved ones to learn from their own painful lived experience - still insist that age gaps are fine or that their age gap relationship is the exception. I'm obviously not saying your older partner is going to murder you, but let's be honest, it's a red flag. They don't listen, but all we can do is at least keep warning them.

Also, not sure if this is true or not but I've heard that the most dangerous time for a woman is when she's leaving her partner.

Lavender_flow · 2021-06-17T22:27:49+00:00

I think it is extremely important that all parents tell their children the stories about age gap relationships and teach them why it is dangerous. I feel like so many parents are neglectful when it comes to teaching their children safety as an adult. My parents sure failed with this

Davina33 · 2021-06-17T20:36:29+00:00

This is so terrible. I just can't believe the cruelty of the older scrote husband. The poor dog too? Her baby finding her like that? It's too much.

midwesternwinds · 2021-06-18T00:06:53+00:00

One silver lining is that at least the poor baby was left unharmed. What happened to her? I pray the maternal family has her or will!

This is why anti feminists need to shut their mouths and stop pretending "oh, women in first world countries have it easy and need to APPRECIATE that they aren't being gang raped and stoned for it like in other countries." when we have stories like this. Women are murdered for hurting a man's ego every day, everywhere.

Fuckdoesithurt956 · 2021-06-17T22:27:28+00:00

I think there was a post here a little while ago of a woman who had a friend who studied true crime. He found in something like 90% of the cases of intimate partner abuse, the man was always older by 8+ years.

They knowingly pick inexperienced women to prey on, and when the women started recognising abusive traits for what they were, the men would increase the abuse to reinstate control. I think Caroline was realizing this, and he realized she was realizing this, and that's why he killed her.

cherryloaf · 2021-06-18T00:11:46+00:00

The only age gap relationships I've ever seen work were when the people were both established adults for a long while before entering the relationship. I have never, ever, in my entire life seen anything good come out of a grown adult pursuing someone in their late teens or early 20's.

Status_Theory_726 · 2021-06-17T23:50:45+00:00

My heart breaks for that poor girl - she deserved so much better, so did her dog and now her baby.

In an article that was posted elsewhere, it mentioned that her dad is 78 so she probably never stood a chance to learn what was normal or not :(

Ok_Passenger_5717 · 2021-06-18T08:59:39+00:00

Greek here. I heard about him confessing yesterday. Tbh I'm not surprised, just take into consideration their age difference, he obviously was with her because he thought he could control her. This is a prime example of the greek manchild mindset. They are raised in a society that values them above everyone else and they feel entitled to everything.

AyemHerself · 2021-06-18T01:09:13+00:00

I just looked this up. He's only recently been taken in for questioning. Certain papers ran with the sob story of him begging robbers not to hurt her and the baby trying to wake her mother. These same papers have yet to report on the case's developments.

Emergency-Feed8216 · 2021-06-18T07:19:02+00:00

Just rewatched the old film Frankie and Johnny with Michelle Pfeiffer. It struck me again how "Johnny's" romantic approach is classic bat.terer.

I was a dv survivors advocate and have also had near misses with "suitors" who later ended up on the six o'clock news. Yikes. The Johnny character reeks of ab.user, right down to his "rescuer/ally" pose, but is propped up as the good-guy-diamond-in-the-rough.

From when I worked in a media related job, I have a story about working with some protegé and "good pal" of the writer of that film (originally a stage play). The "protegé," a guy in his early 40s at the time, was an absolutely evil character. The. Devil.

Moral of the story: Don't get sucked into cinematic fairy tales that may have been, for all you know, spun by people who, at the very least, have zero sense of others' characters or, at worst, knowingly keep company with sadistic ghouls. They'll fuck up your red flag radar by idealizing "romantic" male behavior that should actually make any woman run screaming.

levitating_clam · 2021-06-18T08:00:04+00:00

I will never change my stance on age gap relationships, idgaf how many of my peers try to convince me that "their friend's cousins parents were an eon apart in age and they were fine".

ivy176 · 2021-06-18T01:48:51+00:00

Prayers for Caroline, her baby and her family.

pacificat · 2021-06-18T03:35:48+00:00

Thanks for sharing Caroline with us. Her story is important, I'm just so numb right now I can't express my feelings, but big hugs to everyone. I need to get off social media and rest

FDS-GFY · 2021-06-18T18:02:22+00:00

When my lvx threatened to hit me with a frying pan, y’all told me to go research family annihilators.

I did. It was chilling. Most of them had never had a prior domestic incident and nearly half annihilated their families with nothing more than a kitchen knife.

Women simply do not do this, at least not in any statistically significant way.

TrixieFriganza · 2021-06-18T08:20:03+00:00

Oh no this makes so sad but I must admit I raised my eye-brows at the age difference, that she was only a teen when they got married but I still didn't quite think he could be the murderer. I get angry at myself for giving him the benefit of a doubt because almost always it's the husband/boyfriend. How could this monster so this to the mother of his own child.

akashyaboa · 2021-06-18T10:47:11+00:00

The age gap is always the answer in this type of crimes. Also how did he call the police if he was tied up and ducktaped?

frostedgemstone · 2021-06-18T10:36:43+00:00

In my evolutionary psychology it is known that age gap relationships are literally dangerous and increase likelihood of fatality for women because men engage in more aggressive “mate guarding.” That is, the male is literally more willing to k*ll his partner because she is much younger (and he highly values that in his mind) in attempt to thwart her from leaving or finding another male partner

BetterDeparture436 · 2021-06-18T00:13:22+00:00

Am I allowed to say "men suck" right here? : /

Condom-Ad-Don-Draper · 2021-06-18T02:10:31+00:00

Oh god the dog thing triggered me. There was a case where I live years ago where an abusing boyfriend threw the girls dog out the window of the apartment. I think it survived and the community donated for its intensive care. Ugh. I’m not implying her murder wasn’t triggering but there’s just something about a man targeting animals, children, or the elderly that makes me want to cry and take up boxing as an outlet for my anger.

natashaalexandra · 2021-06-18T15:54:54+00:00

So awful 😔 I can't remember where I read this statistic, but being in an age-gap relationship puts you at a waaaaay higher risk for this. Don't date older men ladies. RIP Caroline 💔

suzy_ko · 2021-06-18T15:51:58+00:00

I thought it was the husband when I first read the news and saw the age gap. And guess where I learned that from? Yes, FDS. 👏

LondonDaPink · 2021-06-18T13:26:31+00:00

This is horrific! But not surprising, sadly. And you're always left asking why? Why do you have to kill her? Now that poor baby is without both of its parents because of this dirtbag. Just horrible. R.I.P Caroline. You were just a baby girl taken advantaged of and had your whole life ahead of you. I'm sorry our society failed you...

BigDebbie4ever · 2021-06-21T03:12:04+00:00

Thank you for sharing.

Title	I'm devastated. TW Caroline's murderer was her husband.
Author	Mcccy
Upvotes	464
Comments	64
Date	June 17, 2021 7:58 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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