NEVER DO HIS LAUNDRY SIS

virginiadancer · 2020-06-03T00:08:24+00:00

Honestly, I think this is why so many of us older gals opted out. We had our kids or are child free and decided we are better off alone. Is there more stability and legal benefits in married life? Maybe. But more likely than not, you'll work 45 hours, take on the majority of the child work and house chores, and at the end of it take care of a sick man who dies 5 to 10 years before you do and you're alone anyway.

Ladies, hold out for someone that truly offers a more equitable relationship. And to my younger sisters on here- being alone has ALOT of perks. You do not need a man. Marrying a NVM or LVM is a much, much worse fate.

Wait__No__What · 2020-06-02T23:50:39+00:00

When I was a newlywed, my (now ex) husband criticized how I did his laundry.

Once.

I picked the laundry basket up off the bed, dropped it on the floor and told him "There's a way to stamp out this incompetence. Do it yourself."

Then I sat down on the bed, picked up a magazine and started reading. And I never did his laundry again.

YarikEnterprise · 2020-06-02T23:20:29+00:00

Don't forget, most of the time these days :

Pay 50% of the bills

Newwavesupport3657 · 2020-06-03T00:11:15+00:00

My mother died at 45. Her husband sexually abused me as a child and all in my teens had sexually charged conversations directed at me and objectified me. My mother refused to divorce him and blamed me. He also bragged about never doing laundry; I did my own laundry while she did everyone else's, he almost never made dinner and when the dog got sick and puked I'm the kitchen and I called him to ask where the cleaners were he said "call your mother." She died at 45. The autopsy showed nothing. One of the last things she said to me was "I know he can be an asshole sometimes! But what do you want me to do? Divorce him?!!" That stung.Yes. I believe she died out of terror of being outted as being complicit cause I was always honest.

I believe she also died because I was the last one leaving the nest which left her alone with him and I think deep down she was scared of him.

Mormon family, very sick. And he married 1 year after and bragged that she's only 13 years older and bragged that my mother was only 110 pounds when she died.

Never ever stay in relationships with these men this is abuse.

These men want a sex slave and maid.

Mother should've chosen me. (Sorry; she died June, 4th, 2016, this one is still fresh. And her last words hurt me so much. )

I will never be like her or make her same mistakes, or put men before my sisters and I'll never have kids but if I did a man would be begging for his life before he put his hands on my daughter. Women first, always, before LVM especially.

3554688 · 2020-06-03T02:06:03+00:00

This reminds me when my uncle once said to his wife "I met my mother before you in my life, so she always comes first".

My mom told my dad that if he were to ever utter those words to her, she would tell him, "Oh? Your mom comes first? Then whenever you want to fuck something put it inside of her instead" and leave him.

My mom has strong energy. I admire it and strive to be just like her.

4BigData · 2020-06-03T06:44:54+00:00

I want young women to be warned about the institution of marriage being set up to extract free labor from women, but we also have to alert them about how common domestic violence really is.

We are letting young girls buy into a fairy tale that puts them in danger.

2020-06-03T04:11:21+00:00

You forgot 50/50 bills aka requiring a full time 9-5 on top of this 🤡

Gaki-fan-too · 2020-06-03T01:11:52+00:00

I remember reading a comment a looooong time ago about a guy wanting to use his friend's laundry machine. It went something like:

Man: my washer and dryer broke

Woman: I hope you get it fixed

HorrorConfusion · 2020-06-03T01:39:05+00:00

This was my life for 11 years. I slowly stopped doing everything until we lived in almost squalor. Disgusting

bheyoka · 2020-06-03T00:26:13+00:00

I never did or do my husband’s laundry. And so it sits in a perpetual wrinkled ball next to the dryer for all eternity.

gendercrit_throw · 2020-06-03T00:04:18+00:00

That's not complete. Make him do the kid's laundry as well.

karmasbitchslap · 2020-06-03T03:13:20+00:00

Jesus Christ I am feeling this right now.

ny-lady · 2020-06-03T01:12:09+00:00

Good thing Im single with a great life.

Wait__No__What · 2020-06-03T20:50:10+00:00

Young, unmarried ladies, I'm talking to you here, so listen up and take this to heart.

BEGIN AS YOU MEAN TO GO ON.

This means BEFORE you just take on a bunch of chores and shit to show what a great wife you are, or worse, because it's expected, STOP.

STOP and ask yourself "Is this something I want to do for the rest of my life?" Do you WANT to be the one washing fucking dishes, and cooking, and shopping, doing laundry, and housework for the rest of your life? Do you WANT to be doing this shit in addition to taking care of one or two kids?

No? Didn't think so. Who, in their right mind would?

So, BEGIN as you mean to go on. If you're not willing to do this shit forever, then don't START. Never give the man ANY expectation that YOU are responsible for running the home, and he's just there to "help".

Don't budge on this issue, ever. Cuz once you add kids to the equation, the wheels come off real quick. Men will take everything you are willing to give.

leilaa29 · 2020-06-03T07:22:23+00:00

Have any of you managed to find a partner/husband who actually shares the load? This is one of the main things that terrifies me about marriage.

grand_tiremaster · 2020-06-03T05:41:19+00:00

I don't even have kids and my libido is in the gutter lol. I say no to sex 9.5 times out of 10. If a man expects me to be some sex lunatic then our marriage will also go into the gutter.

ringocometofight · 2020-06-03T05:44:34+00:00

And STILL get cheated on

leftclicksq2 · 2020-06-03T04:04:25+00:00

Admittedly I'm guilty of this, but it ended up being a great experiment.

An ex was living with his best friend when their washer broke. He called me frantic because his work shirts were in there. I had him come over and I did his wash while he watched TV. Mind you he didn't bring over the detergent he wanted, so I used the stuff made specifically for gym clothes since his work shirts were partially Spandex.

The next day he sent me a lengthy text cutting down how I washed his clothes. I fondly recall one line reading, "Someone has to learn what mass, area, and volume is". My response? The next time you ask, go to the laundromat or your parents'. I got called "mean", lol.

Leading up to breaking up with him - not specifically for the above instance- was when I met someone else. We got into the conversation about laundry -of all things- and he asked about what I use for my clothes because he had so many allergic reactions to other detergents. One thing lead to another and he asked if I would wash a few of his things (boxers were part of that) and see if he had a reaction or that would become his new detergent. I almost declined, but I thought better of it and accepted.

He was elated, not only because he didn't breakout, but because I had his clothes in a neat, folded pile. He told me he wouldn't have minded if I didn't fold anything, but it meant so much to him that I actually showed care to his things. Then he said he felt bad that I washed some of his underwear, but he couldn't thank me enough. The only thing he asked me was if we could go out on the weekend and pick up what I used for him.

So I know it was unconventional, but it showed me that a task like laundry is an accurate barometer of appreciation vs. expectation.

Wajirock · 2020-06-03T04:30:47+00:00

Do grown men really have their spouses do their laundry?

alluringiv · 2020-06-03T16:27:53+00:00

Honestly stepford wife type shit

SuchBarracuda · 2020-06-06T04:39:54+00:00

This has always terrified me about marriage....the thought if working a full time job then coming home to cook and clean and mind the children till bed time to a nagging husband.. no thanks! This is not the life I want... ever! My friend who's a well educated and successful woman dorsnt even realise how unbalanced her marriage is. She pays the mortgate( her house) but also contributes to the Bills and daycare?, on top of that teaches as an adjunct professor at the local university...her husband might be less depressed today to do something... no no and no

Title	NEVER DO HIS LAUNDRY SIS
Author	AlienUtterings
Upvotes	1632
Comments	97
Date	June 2, 2020 9:37 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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