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[–]painmakesyoustrongerFDS Apprentice80 points81 points82 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
If anyone wants to date this man, I have his number 😂
[–]miwamusFDS Newbie47 points48 points49 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I already got it. He calls you every 3rd month too?
[–]ImPiqued1111111FDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I do too!
[–]powerline250053 points54 points55 points 5 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
The seemingly inability to control sexual urges is a big one. I cant stand when I see fully grown men turning everyday situations into sexual ones. Like when men grab on a wife or girlfriend randomly. Or make sexual jokes all day every day.
Its disgusting. Its not "men will be men". It means you yourself lack the emotional/psychological ability or desire to manage your sexual behavior appropriately.
People also need food. We need sleep. We need emotional comfort as well. Imagine a person shoving food in their face every time it was present just because it was there. Just going to the grocery store and ripping packages off the shelf and eating it because "I gotta eat".
That would be unacceptable even though eating is also a natural human behavior.
But alot of men spend so much of their mental energy focused on sex. Watching porn. Harassing women online. Sending creepy texts. Gawking at and catcalling women on the street.
Disgusting. This behavior is the equivelent of a male child diddling his penis all day after discovering its there.
But youre an adult.
I like men that can be involved deeply into sex when its happening and then be able to focus on other productive things when theyre not having sex.
A massive preoccupation with sex isnt masculine, it isnt attractive, it makes you look like a person who allows themselves to be dictated by basic instincts.
[–]PmMeYourFountainPensFDS Newbie22 points23 points24 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It seems like hyper sexual men use sex as an outlet for their emotions. Because they won’t deal with their myriad of emotions, it comes out in the bedroom. Since that doesn’t actually solve their mental problems, they keep chasing that dopamine to distract them so they never have to address what’s really going on.
[–]XiekoFDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is spot on.
[–]HahaneFDS Newbie18 points19 points20 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This applies as long as they think you don't enjoy sex. Once they realize you do, it all stops altogether and they avoid you like a plague lol.
[–]getrippeddiemirinFDS Newbie12 points13 points14 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That’s because male sexuality is all about control
[–]mostdefinitelyntursFDS Newbie5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It makes them look like wild animals to me
[–]miloba_FDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Cold, hard truth right here. It is an enormous turn off to see this behavior and makes them look nothing more like children, complaining about wanting something and acting out to try and get it. It says so much about a man if they allow themselves to be governed by their sexual urges to the point where the woman becomes nothing more than a goal or a prize.
This behavior is not endearing or flattering to women. There are ways to make a woman feel attractive and desired, and more likely to respond warmly, without a brash sexual advance. Men like this appear immature and inexperienced, and nothing will make me reject someone more than this type of behavior.
[–]thepastamancerFDS Newbie46 points47 points48 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh my god how did this picture of my ex get here??
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[–]feckincovidFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My ex.
[–]Rebirthed_QueenFDS Apprentice12 points13 points14 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I had the distinct displeasure of experiencing a relationship with someone exhibiting all of these last year, especially 1, 2, and 9. Those three traits I had previously believed were innocuous and forgivable to pride and immaturity (us being university students, but are true red flags that should be noted in dating and friendships.
[–]MakeURegretFDS Newbie14 points15 points16 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I’ve met someone who was 3-8. Was hard for me to spot, because I’m so used to 1,2,9 being the giveaways for that personality type.
[–]galian84FDS Apprentice2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Are you sure we didn't date the same guy? Lol. My last ex exhibited traits #3-8.
Like you, I always thought 1, 2, and 9 were the only behaviors to look out for for that kind of personality.
[–]peachpy54FDS Apprentice10 points11 points12 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The man who most recently shredded my heart and self esteem is pictured above
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[–]pascalinesFDS Newbie[S] 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
AMEN
[–]willowgrowingrootsFDS Disciple0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Saved this comment. It’s spot on (and very reassuring). Thank you
[–]daisy_0720FDS Disciple8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My last ex only hit 2 of these while the previous one hit 8. So I guess I'm improving?
Thanks to FDS, the next guy will have none.
[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Psh, just dumped him.
[–]BackgroundPlankton8FDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Woooaaahhh this is SO spot on for my ex
[–]ayhtdws1989FDS Newbie3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is my dad 🤦
[–]kamace11FDS Newbie3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Ok I legit went to high school with Jake Woodard. He says some other stuff that's pretty sexist, so take his content with a grain of salt. I will give him credit though, he has changed drastically from being a truly awful little asshole.
[–]willowgrowingrootsFDS Disciple1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Even a broken clock etc
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[–]pascalinesFDS Newbie[S] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Performative woke men are 🤢
[–]wedonthavetobeishtarFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sounds like my favorite coworker...
[–]PollyAnnaSunshineFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My ex
[–]sarahbae03FDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ex-husband... is that you??
[–]peachpy54FDS Apprentice2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Does anyone know why this happens to men?
[–]ShieldMaidenLagerthaFDS Apprentice6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
This is what I was wondering too. This guy I dated was tall, really handsome, super funny and quick witted, ambitious, fairly successful, creative, and productive but he has some terrible insecurity because he’s ruining his life seeking validation by lying about his relationship status to constantly hook up with women. It was more than just him really liking sex, it was pathological, compulsive, and destructive behavior. What does he have to be insecure about? I don’t get it?!
[–]goblinwiseauFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Personality/mental disorders, trauma from childhood/his parents, the natural emptiness/void/need for more gone awry..(we all feel this, it's normal and humanity would never progress if we were all content with how things are). Could have a kink for it. Sometimes when you can have anyone you want you get bored.
That's my take on it..anyways..
[–]peachpy54FDS Apprentice0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
You mean, he was dating you and then went out and lied about being single to get other girls? If so, that's abysmal
[–]ShieldMaidenLagerthaFDS Apprentice0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Even worse...turns out he was married to a woman in another state, trying to date me, and several other women as well. 🤣🤦♀️💩
[–]peachpy54FDS Apprentice1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
That's terrrrible. But I do understand the feeling, I was in a very similar situation. He seemed like the most impressive HVM ever, I just basked in his glow. I totally fell for him, and I'm still recovering =(
[–]ShieldMaidenLagerthaFDS Apprentice0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It’s terrible when the veil is pulled back.
[–]peachpy54FDS Apprentice1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ugh, I'm sincerely really sorry.
[–]FaginRagetteFDS Newbie3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Their masculine ideology is destroying them. What it means to be a man is never properly dealing with emotions because "men don't have them "; promoting violence and domination as an outlet; discouraging impulse control and encouraging the acquisition of primal desires as a status symbol; discouraging co-operation with women; relying on the promotion of brotherhood and cameradie to keep eachother in line; and picking on and discrediting those who don't keep in line. It's really unhealthy and it psychologically damages them, but unless they become self-aware and improve, which is heavily frowned upon, they continue the cycle in their sons and take out their repression on us.
We're supposed to look out for these wounded men and they're good at getting sympathy from us. None of it fixes the problem and any criticism of their behaviour is perceived as an "attack on men" rather than...well.. their behaviour.
[–]buttercup_010FDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Whoa. I know this man 😬
[–]chateauduchatFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
What are yall doin talking about my ex here?!
[–]swatir24FDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That's a narcissist for you!
[–]ayhtdws1989FDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Hey can anyone of you kind ladies explain to me what the the point -"is busy and fidgety " means? Isn't it a good thing he has his own life?
[–]ShieldMaidenLagerthaFDS Apprentice7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
I think they mean someone who has a hard time just being calm, being in the moment, and sitting still. I went on a couple dates with a guy embodied all these traits and who literally could not sit down and just BE! When he picked me up he would pace the room and pick up and fuss with random items. He was always acting like he was in a hurry and had some important schedule to keep (he didn’t). It was a pattern that repeated, not just a one time nervousness on the first date. It was weird. At one point I actually wondered if he was on drugs because was so twitchy. So definitely keep an eye out for a consistent nervous or restless energy. It is a very bad sign.
[–]pascalinesFDS Newbie[S] 6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I interpreted it as relating to 8 and 9. Is he busy because he has a full life? Or is he “busy” and restless because he’s avoiding being present, sitting with his feelings, being vulnerable, and prioritizing delayed gratification?
[–]ayhtdws1989FDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ohh, this makes sense. Thank you sm ❤️
[–]Suitcase33FDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
number 9 is such an ill thats not talked about enough. its a direct consequence of materialism, consumerism and a disconnect from the mind and soul. they always fidget thru social media in moments of silence, they have to have some sort of a high, all topics r only surface level/superficial even if its perceivably ‘deeper’ topics because they never developed any sort of self awareness or connection with things that are not material. this is displayed in women too if we are being honest its just in different ways.
[–]Suitcase33FDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
one time this dude was like ‘wow i never thought about this before.......anyways im drained youre talking too much’
all i asked was what brings you contentment and peace in this world......
[–]Harper_721FDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Jordan Belfort, is that you?
[–]euphemiaroseThrowaway Account0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh look, a perfect description of my ex
[–]ResponsibleCharacterPickmeisha™️0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh hey, you met my ex
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