When Simple Things Are Ruined By Men

yooojimbo · 2021-04-17T02:29:28+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened to you. I don’t even have anything to add to this, it’s just gross and no one deserves a creep staring at them.

dixiecup3 · 2021-04-17T02:42:30+00:00

I am sorry this happened to you. I also had a recent experience of men ruining simple things- there has allegedly been a man in my area frequenting school bus stops and trying to talk to kids. The 9 year old I babysit heard about it at school and came home terrified. She is normally a super confident kid, but now she won’t leave my side whenever we’re outside. It’s one thing when men are creepy to me because I’m used to that, but seeing how it affected her broke my heart.

valkyriegoll · 2021-04-17T02:59:54+00:00

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thepsychopathhunter · 2021-04-17T03:27:08+00:00

I am sorry that happened to you! That sounds very violating. I know how uncomfortable and traumatic that can feel. In the past few months the catcalling and street harassment has escalated for me big time and is occurring on a daily basis. I was followed today too for twenty blocks (made four right turns just to confirm and noticed a guy who saw me and began walking with me out of nowhere was STILL behind me even after those turns) and the guy only stopped following me not when I confronted him/threatened to call the police (no he just grinned when I did that and continued following me) but only stopped when I began walking with another man who helped me out. It’s freaking exhausting being a woman. They only respect the threat of other men - it is sickening. I hope you and your sister get to spend some quality time without these types of creeps and their toxic presence.

FDS-GFY · 2021-04-17T04:50:34+00:00

I look men right in the eye. Hard. Unblinking. Stare them down like a dog until they look away, embarrassed. If they do not, I know to watch them because they are dangerous.

Corvus25 · 2021-04-17T04:47:42+00:00

Do what I usually do, stare them down until they are uncomfortable. Or! Say really loudly "can I help you?!, why are you staring at me, are you a sex offender?!" Works for me :D

baobab77 · 2021-04-17T03:10:11+00:00

I literally only eat ice cream in a cup because of this. Men are gross. I also won't eat popsicles around them, lollipops. The list goes on.

charmparticle · 2021-04-17T03:44:19+00:00

I'm sorry he did that. I grabbed a veggie burger for dinner and as soon as I sat down in the park to eat it, an old man strolled by and yelled "I NEED DRUGS!" and then sat down on the bench near me and watched me eat. Instant appetite loss, I had to throw away my burger and run off. They are everywhere. :(

IAteTheDragon · 2021-04-17T09:24:34+00:00

This made me realize I never eat bananas like god intended anymore, taking bites off the unpeeled fruit. No, I gotta break it into pieces first to not look PrOvOcAtIvE or else they stare and smirk cause I obviously wanna blow them 🙁

Big-Respond8481 · 2021-04-17T10:03:13+00:00

I noticed that men will stare at a higher rate when you just lick on your ice cream. Maybe in their mind they are threatened of us performing better oral sex on the ice cream than they do on women.

suzy_ko · 2021-04-17T08:48:44+00:00

Ugh this put me off ice cream. And men.

(mostly men)

the-worst- · 2021-04-17T12:56:36+00:00

It's a common porn trope for the video to start off with a woman "seductively" licking an ice cream cone/ eating a banana/ corndog/ any " phallic" like item while staring a man down.

That man was almost guaranteed to be porn sick. He was probably waiting there just to see any woman eat an ice cream cone. Sick bastard.

Suspicious-Leg-1407 · 2021-04-17T11:56:15+00:00

Real life needs a block and delete option.

AyemHerself · 2021-04-17T03:23:16+00:00

I don't order spaghetti in restaurants anymore for this same reason.

dr_mcstuffins · 2021-04-17T19:17:34+00:00

This is why I carry an Aztec Death Whistle, a little knife, and a taser everywhere I go. I’m also wired to be feisty and confrontational. I’m 35 (the age when women get their wings) so that also makes me way more open to some necessary aggression when I need to protect myself.

For real, everyone get an Aztec Death Whistle. It’s a sound weapon. I have the Carnivore version on Etsy. When you blow it, it’s extremely loud and sounds like a woman being murdered. It will draw a HUGE amount of attention to you because the sound is so instinctually terrifying. People don’t know what they are so the shock of hearing it can be enough to disorient someone enough to give you a chance to get away. Last summer there was a woman on woman racially motivated fist fight at a gas station I was at. At first I minded my own business but then it got too one sided and violent so I blew my Aztec death whistle twice as loud and long as I could. The fight stopped instantly, the women split apart, and three different spectators were shocked out of their inaction and called 911.

The taser I keep secret. Never threaten someone with one - all the value is in the element of surprise if someone gets too close.

IME, guys like this do NOT want you to make a scene. They get off on seeing our fear. A hard, direct death stare can be incredibly effective. It feels hard to do, but what it shows him is that you aren’t easy prey. If he didn’t stop, I’d get loud talking to my friend about the creep staring at us.

If he followed me out the restaurant, I’d put my meanest bitch face on and directly approach him, asking what his fucking problem is. It’s better to do quickly while there are still tons of people around. Don’t go ANYWHERE secluded. As I got closer I’d get louder about him being a stalker and threatening to make an even larger scene. Chances are, this alone would drive him off. This has worked like ha dream for me at lots of music festivals with predators.

If this didn’t work, I’d blow the death whistle like crazy. That WILL get attention that he won’t be able to bear.

That’s why I’m confident enough to act like that. I know I’m not capable of taking a man on, but I can cause a massive scene and ruin his day. I’ve never even come close to using the taser, but simply having it is enough to keep me from feeling too vulnerable. I’ve also got a death stare just as mean as my mother’s, which has kept me safe when I feel scared.

You did great. What I wrote won’t work for a lot of women. What I’m trying to recommend is women figuring out a defense plan, since nothing can keep us safe from these situations other than ourselves. Always have a plan. My plan is shrieking like the banshee I am, and having a stinger in my purse gives me the bravado to cause a scene.

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ShieldMaidenLagertha · 2021-04-18T02:43:07+00:00

I feel you. Disgusting Scrotes ruin literally everything. There’s a creep in my neighborhood that won’t stop lurking around my house when I do yardwork. Last summer it got ridiculous enough that I called my city’s stalking unit and his apartment building’s management company. They threatened him with eviction and his behavior stopped until this spring. It looks like I am going to have to recontact the cops again. We, as women, can’t even do the most mundane tasks without being hassled or worried about bodily harm.

afrodeasyak · 2021-04-18T02:14:22+00:00

I'm so sorry this scrote tried to mess up your otherwise lovely outing 🤗

This reminds me of being told from a young age not to eat certain foods in public for my own protection (icecream, lollipops, spaghetti, etc..) honestly screw these perverts..they ruin everything

Honestly_th0 · 2021-04-19T06:23:12+00:00

I wouldn’t yell at him, but I’d glare and take video and be obvious about it. Scrotes don’t like it when the tables are turned and the camera is pointed at them. Plus, you can use it for evidence later in case something happens.

Title	When Simple Things Are Ruined By Men
Author	valkyriegoll
Upvotes	539
Comments	72
Date	April 17, 2021 2:16 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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