Why FDS Exists

spinsterchachkies · 2021-05-20T16:57:15+00:00

It’s one or the other. It’s you are a piece of meat, prey basically, or you are invisible. And you are supposed to call it equality and empowerment because men can’t change so let’s cater to their selfish ego.

Twohagsover30 · 2021-05-20T17:11:34+00:00

Shout-out to the androgynous ladies that offer us a different path than the invisible/ piece of meat dichotomy. It may not be everyone's cup of tea, but there are absolute queens that are out there gender bending their looks and I'm living for it.

Determinedblonde · 2021-05-20T17:08:49+00:00

I definitely feel like a piece of meat in group settings. It’s obvious that most of the people talking to me are weighing me up as an option.

sexualfoodpantry · 2021-05-20T18:58:35+00:00

99,5% of so-called "male attention" is not only undesirable, it's often disturbing and even traumatizing.

Once I figured out that age is a repellent to creeps, perverts and most predators, I made a point of looking as old as possible.

laffytaggy · 2021-05-20T17:27:54+00:00

Oh please, men can stfu with their BS. I’m 35 and men of all ages stop and stare. They don’t know what they’re talking about, they just spew hate.

all_or_nothing_bet · 2021-05-20T18:12:31+00:00

I love masks! But on the other hand, they hide my RBF and make me appear more approachable, unfortunately.

janeaustenfan99 · 2021-05-20T19:15:40+00:00

I went out for the first time in a long time without a mask yesterday, per CDC mandates for vaccinated people in my city. And I was approached and asked out on a date, by a man twice my age. I don’t think that’s a coincidence. Men see the dropping of masks as some sort of a signal.

curlywurlyprincess · 2021-05-20T17:29:42+00:00

FDS angers those who believe that women are inferior to men. You can’t be anti-FDS and pro-women.

Edit: As a side note - pretty sure I have stalker scrote(s) following me around Reddit and downvoting everything. Lol get a life and a bigger dick while you’re at it

Twolipz_78 · 2021-05-20T17:58:41+00:00

I am 42 and far from invisible and that’s after gaining 50 pounds..🙄

modernmedusaa · 2021-05-20T19:53:11+00:00

This is why scrotes don't penetrate my skin too deep. I do not rely on them for validation. My purpose exists outside of their 'validation'- therefore whatever they do....cheat/neg/lie/gaslight etc I don't take it personal. I've witnessed countless men do this to women out of their league who went the mile for them. Men will dog you out no matter if you're a model looking trad wife who appeases them every step of the way, or an edgy 'pro sex work' cool girl lib fem who lets them cheat and engages in 3somes. It doesn't matter- most see us as objects and don't respect us as humans with more to offer than our looks....yet they demand we take pity on their undesirable genetics and stagnant wages/unresolved issues. How rich.

But oddly men chase women who feel indifferent to them like no tomorrow. They can't stay away like a moth to a flame. They will ram into me mercilessly in their futile immature bid to break me down, make me worship them/believe their lies and make me bow to their vapid presence and make them a priority. A man will never be a priority in my life so long as 99% of men are misogynists who do not hold eachother accountable. SORRY I will never cave. They will always come last. I would never give such undeserving leeches the privilege to destroy me.

They are confused and threatened by women who aren't obsessed with being some mans domestic womb slave trophy- by women who can take or leave them and do just fine without their company. By women who aren't scared of being alone and actually quite enjoy their absence/ don't see most men as valuable. See them as more hassle than they are worth.

Given that most men only value a woman for how pretty and young she is and how much they can pump their ego/boost their clout- so they can cheat and attract more......why would I could care about their vapid short lived attention? Everything men accuse women of, being vapid and superficial...is male projection. Somewhere there is an obese pathetic basement dweeb rating a model looking woman as 3/10. Somewhere there is an average white male gaslighting his perfectly loyal trad wife whilst complaining that 'modern women ain't what they used to be'.They are pathetically shallow and predictable- thats why many leave their loyal wives when they get a terminal illness or run into some money and trade her in for a younger model.

Men are about as loyal as a fat kid around chocolate cake. They have as much depth as an inflatable sex doll. The ego of zeus- no matter if they look and act repulsively. Impulsive, hollow, shallow, delusional, hypocritical beings. And very very replaceable because of that fact. Even men who appear to have more substance than the common scrote are often faking it so they can reign in a higher quality woman. Its all for show. All to benefit their ego. Its all smoke and mirrors to them. Most don't care about reciprocating love and respect. They will do what they gotta do to get what they want. They sell women lies- to get what they want, don't care about satisfying us or our mental health. They don't care about infecting their loyal wives with STIs from cheating or breaking up a family and the impact on kids. Most are insatiable, vapid selfish predators- a bottomless gaping hole that is never satisfied. You will make yourself ill and become a shadow of yourself even trying. Believe me they know what you want from them and the pain they cause women and children- they simply don't give a fuck. That's why they collectively gaslight us on our experiences, on a daily basis. Thats why men as a whole, don't change- whatever we do to empower or liberate ourselves they find a way to exploit it and suffocate us yet again. How could any woman of substance, truly respect a man who behaves that way?

Its not like most of them have any substance, or will ever love you for who you are anyway...they only care about how you make them look and feel in your prime....and most only see us as a set of services to benefit them (cook/cleaner/ sex doll/status trophy/bangmaid) etc. To many men- you're just a tool to stroke their own ego. You're an object. A thing to consume. Something to flaunt and fool. You could be anyone, so as long as you're attractive and have a vagina. They will sell you the same rehearsed lies as the last one. There is no real connection with most men- because they were never approaching you in good faith in the first place. They're just angry that you acknowledged that fact and they couldn't 'own' you and keep you trapped and enslaved into that lie. Their vapid self serving presence and endless manipulation- is no loss. Who can respect a man whos ego relies on destroying women and running them dry of trust, love and empathy? And still has the audacity to blame the fall of society on women?

Since every woman ages, why would I care to longterm partner or build a family with a porn fried gloating scrote who only acts fake nice whilst I'm young and beautiful? Who drops the mask after 12 months max lovebombing? Why would I choose a partner who only values me on my looks alone? Who's sole goal is to psychologically break me down to his vapid amusement? What happens when I age and my body changes after pregnancy? LOL. The absence of a vapid man like that, who will age ungracefully himself yet scorns me for something natural I can't control...is no loss at all. I'd prefer to live a happy life without the callous empty judgmental hollow death stare of a man who denies my right to humanity.

Yes - the majority of men- that is what I really think of you. You have MINUS value to my life. Men are shit scared of women who arrive at this harsh reality- because they can't control or fool us any longer.

judithyourholofernes · 2021-05-20T18:47:54+00:00

Men don’t believe what we experience day to day, so they characterize it as man hating. Men are the biggest misandrists of all.

They’re the ones who say they are unable to stop themselves from violence and rape.

Powerless to distinguish what’s on their porn screens with real life.

At a loss and emasculated when those they deem weaker than them do not submit to them.

And when they put on “feminine” clothing or mannerisms, sympathize with women at all, their man hood is destroyed among one another.

Leverage their weakness against them, it’s here to stay.

Old_Parsnip_3000 · 2021-05-20T19:45:37+00:00

Yep, ditto. I'm not very feminine (what you'd think would get comments out in public) and some 45-50 year old man yelled whore at me while I was filling my truck and gas cans. Not in 1950...2021.

Like, made eye contact and yelled while driving by. I know, my wranglers, Nemesis safety glasses and long sleeve Henley I mow in are just too tartly * for my own good.

* I am Joe Dirt in this scenario

candyfox84 · 2021-05-20T18:26:16+00:00

Once you start seeing things through this lens (aka reality), you may start to feel negative. Trust me though, it is liberating. Understanding and wisdom, self worth, and strength in yourself are just a few of the main objectives of life. It's harsh to grasp the way society is stacked against women, and how much we are a funnel for male anger (regardless of how it presents itself), it is omnipresent. This is the only way to be safe though.

JacksonPollocksPaint · 2021-05-20T17:44:26+00:00

Trust me: you aren’t invisible at 35...sadly! It goes on and on forever. I’m mid-40s and still get sexts from men a decade younger. Last night had to block a guy who won’t leave me alone. It’s neverending.

Risoa · 2021-05-21T10:33:02+00:00

I unfotunately ran into a horrid ex a few months ago at a small social gathering. He looked at me like a piece of meat the entire time, told me I "looked amazing" but also said that "I'm almost 30" as if that was supposed to be a insult? Oh and he has a girlfriend who conveniently wasn't there. When I asked about her to shut him up he replied smugly "I'm going to marry her someday" again like am I supposed to be offended or upset about that? The negging in this interaction was off the charts. So apparently I "look amazing" but I'm also old and not getting married to you so poor me? Such a repulsive clown.

Amazing post by the way, it really puts into perspective one of the main reasons why FDS exists and is important.

the-lonely-spirit · 2021-05-21T14:11:03+00:00

"There are some harsh words said on here"

See, you're a nice person. Me? I'm slamming my fists on the table like "NOT HARSH ENOUGH!!!"

As for the woman in the viral TikTok, the comments about her were horrendous. IDK if she had plastic surgery but a lot of people were commenting on her looks. I guess you can call her smug. but what's difference sis?? There are smug dudes all around every damn day!

So glad you found FDS though! We are a lot nicer than people give us credit for!

Title	Why FDS Exists
Author	Crazy_Meezer
Upvotes	323
Comments	58
Date	May 20, 2021 3:27 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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