In my 40 years on this earth I have noticed that women are the ones left hurt and feeling like the fool more often than not. I started wondering, why? I observed both men and women and I'd like to share my findings with you ladies (even though it's not great to hear). Keep in mind, these things are not "all women" but way too many. No need to worry if you identify with some of this because if you follow FDS rules, they protect you from all of these ways men "win" and women "lose":

  1. Women don't listen to warnings. I have never met a woman who listens when being told her new love interest is a creep or abuser.. not one! Men DO listen to warnings, they will even dump her for silly and untrue ones.

  2. Women don't listen to red flags. She sees him being rude to other people or watches him punch a wall and she somehow doesn't link that with her being in danger. Even "pettier" red flags such as "cheapness" get ignored and then one day she is miserable and paying his bills. While this is happening, women are being ghosted by men for even imagined red flags.

  3. Some women don't even listen to themselves. This is the most tragic in all of the ways to refuse to listen. If she even kinda wants a guy she ignores her own gut feelings and valid reservations. Guys typically don't betray themselves in this way for anyone.

  4. When a guy lies, manipulates, breadcrumbs or love bombs a woman is finally listening. Instead of hearing a load of shite, these are the things tons of women hang on to. Men win because this crap actually works.

  5. So many excuses for men! "He is just tired!", "He has a five year plan!", "He is going through a lot right now!", "He promised he wont do it again!". It's mostly women who do this. Men tend to put blame on other people, it's usually unfair but gives them major advantage over women. She won't blame him but he blames her.

  6. Women don't even know they are playing a game. It is shockingly easy to lose a game if she is being genuine and not even playing. He has motives or he wouldn't get off his ass and most guys don't even give anything past sex a second thought.

  7. Some women finally realize that they are playing a game and try to beat him at it.. by giving him exactly what he wants. He wants cheap, easy sex and the ability to pine over what he can't have. Do you think women are somehow winning by giving him this?

  8. Women put chemical bonding over their functional brains. "The heart wants what it wants" scares me every time I hear it. The "heart" is a dumbass that wants to get laid to breed. This is why women think clearer before sex and men think clearer after. She chemically attaches to a man but his "job" chemically is already done. She is the one getting biologically screwed over.

  9. There is a "like bias". Women try to "pre-like" a man. She doesn't want to date a bunch of losers, get used for sex multiple times or be alone so she comes at a new men like she already likes him and his only job is to not screw it up. GUYS KNOW THIS! That's part of the reason why men lie and pretend their asses off. The smartest ones are quiet as a mouse, can't screw it up if he doesn't talk. So easy to win when he's already won.

  10. Sure, a lot men may want what they can't have.. but a lot women chase what they don't even want. Some ladies want approval or to be married so badly that she refuses to really think if she even wants the life with HIM that she is fighting for. This keeps noncommittal scrotes in business ..and business these days is good.

  11. Men know when they want something "casual" from a specific woman and that almost never changes. While women give up her whole heart and wait for "potential". This keeps women losing because she will stick around and give him free sex and labor in hopes he will change his mind (or himself) but he never will and he still gets all the benefits.

  12. A lot of women will look at tiny bits of the positive and flush everything else down the toilet: "Yeah he cheats on me, ignores my texts, talks crap about me to his mom, never pays for anything.. but once every few months he buys me flowers and he can be really sweet :)" . Look at all his ill gotten gains, all for the price of scraps.

  13. Women forgive. It is beautiful.. forgive your loyal friends, your pets and well-meaning people for not being perfect. Do not forgive men for their crap because most men won't forgive you (especially for cheating). It's just another way girls take the loss, sticking around with people who don't deserve a second chance when they wouldn't even do the same for her.

  14. It pains me to see but many women think they have something to prove. They don't want to be seen as a "slut", lazy, a gold digger, not cool, or a bad girlfriend etc. This can make some girls go full PickMe but even if she doesn't, this still sets her up to be exploited by men who win massively from her discomfort.

  15. The average woman will also naturally give way more than she receives. This one is obvious, both in observation and in how men win from that. She doesn't even need to be a PickMe to lose from this one, it can happen slowly and incrementally until any woman looks around and finally notices she has the short end of the stick.

  16. WOMEN WONT LEAVE. This is by far the thing that makes women lose the most. It doesn't matter who he is, what he has done, what she has accepted up until this point because she can start to heal and forgive herself if she walks away. He stops winning if she walks away.. but she won't. Most ladies will stay until he is won all he wants to win and he leaves her, or he pulls some nasty final discard that makes her go but that wasn't HER idea now was it?