Silent treatment

What do you do if you find out someone’s intentionally ignoring your texts? Like doing silent treatment?

It’s supposedly a control tactic, a psychological weapon, meant to reduce the targets self esteem. The intention usually is for the target to chase after the person doing it, ask what’s wrong, or beg and plead to make things right.

It’s commonly used by narcissists, and in my experience seems to be commonly used by women and men with low self esteem. I have seen pretty ugly people, and single mothers, who were secretly desperate, use this silent treatment tactic of intentionally ignoring text messages. Secretly they thought it would get the opposite person to chase and want them more.

So the thing is, what do you do in response to silent treatment? What do you do specifically if you still want the guy or girl doing it? What if you don’t want the guy or girl doing it? Can you say whatever and talk trash then?

Since I know it’s a psychological weapon, when I have found out someone was doing it to me, my response has been to insult them like a controlled maniac. The insults and trash talk is perfectly calibrated to where I know it gets to them. And in almost all cases, there is extreme shock and awe and a reaction, or the person just ignores me entirely or blocks me.

There have been girls I actually wanted, but the silent treatment made me not want them anymore, so I decided I would end things and say whatever I could to get them to block me or tell me to F off.

Silent treatment is essentially telling the victim they’re worthless, not worth responding to, that they’re inferior, beneath them, etc. so taking that into account, why would anyone want to be with someone who’s subtly, indirectly telling them they’re worthless? At a bare minimum, you want someone who considers you equal if not superior.

On PUA and red pill sites etc there’s all kinds of explanations and advice given on how to deal with silent treatment if you want the girl. But why would you still even want someone who’s subtly telling you you’re worthless and insulting you? What kind of messed up scenario would it be dating or sleeping with someone who’s telling you you’re worthless?

I’m also trying to figure out what issues I have, or what labels would apply to me since I’ve had varied responses.

Specifically, this guy I knew in university for a few years, he would be bad at texting me back, but would be super nice in person and compliment me and etc.

We lost touch after graduation for a few years. Eventually i needed help finding a good car mechanic since i jeeded a trustworthy one. So i reached out to people in my contacts for help. This guy didnt answer, I forgot about it, a month or so later I went through old texts and noticed he never replied. So I sent a follow up text, expecting that he wouldn’t reply either.

The next day, as I expected, he didn’t reply, and I was offended. So I then forwarded him voicemails of a crazy friend of mine pretending to eat shit and sniff farts. i also insulted his wife referring to her as a whore wife. Expectedly, he read all my stuff and blocked me. I felt satisfied with the outcome and felt like I won the interaction. Even if he didn’t block me, just me saying that stuff made me feel like I won. I had actual excitement when I said that stuff to him, like I felt like doing jumping jacks.

Had I not said anything to that guy, if I eventually saw him in person, I’m sure he would have acted fake, normal, and friendly. Even though he apparently couldn’t take 30 seconds out of his day to tell me about car mechanic stuff or just confirm if je doesn’t know. I also felt morally superior to him as personally, if someone reached out to me asking for advice, I would help them free of charge as long as it didnt take tons of time to type out that advice.

This sort of response obviously cant be used with family and in professional settings. But if you’re reasonably certain the person doesn’t know your family and you won’t interact with them professionally, i see no reason why you can’t burn the bridge. Their refusal to help you is already the beginning of burning the bridge. But I’m wondering what this kind of behavior means. Other than it being “immature” or disrespectful or going against social norms. Is it related to psychopathy/narcissism somehow to do this?

Also, when I said the trash talk to him, I would have been satisfied whether he read the messages and ignored me, blocked me, or talked trash back to me. If he talked trash back, I would just say more trash until he blocked me, told me to not contact me, etc. If he threatened to get physical I would just threaten cops and tell him his violent family belongs in prison and raised him horribly etc.

I’m still trying to figure out psychologically what this all means. I’ve been told it’s immature but I don’t agree, it seems like logical normal behavior to me. He refused to help me which he has the right to do, and so I talked trash to him which I have the right to do. You could even argue ignoring is more offensive than talking trash because it takes energy to type and talk trash, but no energy to ignore.

Also I have read things here and online about how ignoring someone activates pain receptors in the brain? What is that all about? Would being ignored still activate pain receptors in the brain if you’re aware of why the ignoring is being done, and aware that it can activate pain receptors? I wonder if that pain receptor thing is related to my apparent over reaction to being ignored?

Also when texting my mom for example I’ll often say things like answer me, reply, fucking answer, reply rn, etc. I think that’s related to my behavior in other instances.