I'm literally done watching people claim both extremes here. It's ok to disagree if it's 15% or 30% of men who have been involuntary celibate for the past year. But the bar can't be both so low that it's sad and so high that it's hopeless to try.

It should be possible to get some consensus here. Let's define terms,

If you are talking about your personal bar for who you date, make sure you specify that. You might have extremely high or low self esteem. The question here is what you observe is the bar for most women in your country, not the extremely attractive or unattractive women but the 20 to 80 percentile of desirable women.

When I say bar let's get precise.

Height - 50% of men in US would be taller than 5' 9". Would you say there is any objective height that's a bar? Would you just need to be taller than the girl you are interested in? Is that "high" bar?

Education - will men who doesn't have an undergrad degree struggle with most women? I think 30% of men have a bachelor's. So does this bar exist, is it low? High?

Looks - what percentage of men clear the looks threshold for most women? Is this bone structure, symmetry, and stuff that's immutable or hygiene, body fat, fashion, style and stuff that men can work on and aren't working on?

EQ - what levels of humor, confidence, assertiveness, leadership, self control, bravery, ambition, etc is the minimum required? How many men clear this charisma bar naturally? How many do you know that worked on it and developed these traits or skills?

Character - empathy, kindness, considerate, good communicator, listener, vulnerable, trustworthy, etc. Is this bar low? Are most women willing to compromise here? Is this the actual bar people are talking about when they say the bar is low?

Tell me what you mean by the bar and where you think it is right now.

Remember there are two meanings to saying the bar is too high or low. The first meaning is that it is so high that it excludes a large part of the population. That's a descriptive claim and I think we can and should be able to reach a consensus there.

The second meaning is that the bar is too high normatively. That morally speaking the pressure is too much on people due to the bar being so high. Or that the world shouldn't be such that the bar is so low and easy. That's a normative claim about the kind of world you want to live. Here we can disagree. Maybe some women think that we should collectively demand more from men, that the bar is "low" even if it excludes most men. Stuff like hygiene, kindness is so basic that it doesn't matter if most men fail to clear it, the bar can't be considered to be "high".

I think we should stick to the first meaning and get some consensus there before talking about the second type of discussion.