Would you go on a second date with this man?

leosandlattes · 2024-10-30T16:56:11+00:00

No. The first date was bad. I do not even know how I would sleep with such a man if the date felt like an interview and I thought he was weird, much less want to go on a second date with him.

sanslumiere · 2024-10-30T16:58:16+00:00

No. I'm shocked they even got to sex after the interview portion of the date, but if a man leaves me hanging in that respect, there would be no second date.

MiddleZealousideal89 · 2024-10-30T17:35:35+00:00

No. If the sex was bad and he was weird, there would be no second date.

PracticalControl2179 · 2024-10-30T17:18:03+00:00

Would you go on a second date with this man?

No

A Brazilian acquaintance had this kind of a date a while ago and I wanted to ask women if they were in her shoes, would they go on a second date.

I wonder what the “gotcha” here is. Men here have a tendency to try to entrap women to prove their red pill agenda.

•while he owns his own business, he lives with his parents

I don’t care about living with parents. But for a lot of men, owning a business often means that he will depend on me financially and doesn’t have a stable income. He needs to be established in his 30’s and make enough to move out, even if he doesn’t want to.

they split the bill, the restaurant was a mid tier American BBQ restaurant

If I split the bill, I assume the guy isn’t interested. I have always had my dates paid for but offer to split. If the guy agrees to split, I would assume he isn’t interested or That he has a “red pill” view of the world and doesn’t want me to “gold dig” him for mid tier American BBQ

sex on the first date was bad, only he orgasmed.

Not only would I not have sex on the first date, but I would also not want to continue dating if the sex sucked and he didn’t want me to enjoy myself.

•he was a bit weird, the date felt more like an interview

So there was a personality incompatibility.

•he got braces

IDGAF

•he drove a cargo van

Why does he have a cargo van? I don’t care about this

Both individuals are in their mid 30s. Would you go on a second date with this man?

No. It sounded like the date didn’t go well and they weren’t compatible. Not sure why you ask if not to try to entrap women to try to prove a red pilled point.

My_House_on_Mars · 2024-10-30T17:19:59+00:00

•sex on the first date was bad, only he orgasmed.

•he was a bit weird, the date felt more like an interview

unless this happened because of first date anxiety, then I'd say no

MyLastBestChance · 2024-10-30T17:02:08+00:00

Not sure how sex happened but no. No second date.

NJFlowerchild · 2024-10-30T17:23:39+00:00

I wouldn't go on a first date with that man. Casual sex is a complete deal breaker.

SlothMonster9 · 2024-10-30T17:26:09+00:00

The only thing I think is not great here is:

he was a bit weird, the date felt more like an interview

The sex part, idk, I would never have sex with a man on a first date and without hints of commitment, but I would understand that sex can be awkward and weird the first time around. Totally depends on whether he was just nervous or whether he was selfish and didn’t care.

Financial_Leave4411 · 2024-10-30T21:56:55+00:00

I wouldn’t have even gone on a first date with him let alone had sex or even considered a second date.

A lot of these things I would have seen on his dating profile or social media account and I wouldn’t have given him a chance.

attendquoi · 2024-10-30T22:11:00+00:00

Nope. I wouldn't have even let him finish if he hadn't gotten me off first.

-Shes-A-Carnival · 2024-10-30T18:12:33+00:00

I would never see any man again if the sex was bad the first time. most of the other things are reasons i wouldnt have gone on a first date with him

EulenWatcher · 2024-10-30T17:42:07+00:00

I wouldn’t even go on the first date or be intimate with him. I wouldn’t go on a date if I haven’t already “checked the vibe” prior.

Feisty-Saturn · 2024-10-30T17:59:55+00:00

No. If his parents live with him it’s one thing. But him living with his parents is an issue at my age.

Splitting the bill on first date would be an issue for me. Not sure how they ended up having sex after that. But if you’re not giving the 5 star package the first time we have sex I’m gonna assume you’re probably not capable of it.

I will say that braces would not have been a deal breaker for me.

Gillionaire25 · 2024-10-30T20:14:57+00:00

while he owns his own business, he lives with his parents

Nope to that. He's in his mid 30s and it was time to grow up a decade ago.

they split the bill, the restaurant was a mid tier American BBQ restaurant

Restaurant choice is fine but he is showing me a future where I don't get romantic gifts from him. No flowers, no meal, nothing? Men give their best effort when they are still trying to win you over. If this is his best then no thanks.

sex on the first date was bad, only he orgasmed

There would be no sex on the first date.

he was a bit weird, the date felt more like an interview

Could be nerves, I'd really have to be on the date myself to judge whether he is nervous or creepy.

he got braces

Hell no, I've had braces and getting food stuck on them and not being able to floss properly is gross. People sort their teeth out in their teens and not their mid 30s. Absolute deal breaker.

he drove a cargo van

I don't care.

Ineedtogetthisout97 · 2024-10-30T23:33:43+00:00

I would never have sex on a first date, no.

HagathaKristy · 2024-10-31T04:08:14+00:00

No. No tolerance for bad sex.

Diamond-Breath · 2024-10-30T23:48:14+00:00

No, I wouldn't. I don't find 50/50 men attractive at all.

Even less so if he splits the bill and still expects sex on the first date, that would make me a clown.

StrugglingSoprano · 2024-10-30T18:37:04+00:00

Who would?

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Makuta_Servaela · 2024-10-30T17:25:31+00:00

Would depend on:

Does he have a plan to not live with his parents? I would go on a second date if he has a reasonable goal for independence.
Was the sex bad because he just finished too fast/was the only one who finished, or because he only care about himself finishing? I tend not to orgasm the first time I have sex with a dude due to nerves, so that's fine, but if he wasn't even trying/didn't care, that is a good picture about his feelings about me in general and is a deal breaker.
Depends on why the date felt like an interview. Was he just a bit shy and not good at conversation, so he brought icebreaker questions? That's fine for a first date. Was he emotionlessly grilling me? More red flaggy.

Nellylocheadbean · 2024-10-30T17:57:45+00:00

Nope, the interview style date is odd and would of turned me off immediately.

Fab_Glam_Obsidiam · 2024-10-30T18:32:45+00:00

Well in this hypothetical I clearly liked him enough to have sex on the first date, so I guess we bonded over something. I'd have a second date but I'd take the lead on sex. If he wasn't okay with that, then there wouldn't be a third.

S0yslut · 2024-10-30T19:52:35+00:00

There are so many reasons to not date this man the first being “American BBQ” which interests me none. I can’t even eat there because I’m vegan I’d have ghosted after he suggested taking a vegan to an “American BBQ” place. There’s no way this would have made it to sex on the first date under any circumstances but if I ever wind up in a situation where he comes and doesn’t reciprocate, I am absolutely saying something to him about that. Then never contacting him again.

Title	Would you go on a second date with this man?
Author	DrunkOnRamen
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Date	October 30, 2024 4:51 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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