[24M] A dating conundrum I cannot understand

AnnieJ123456 · 2022-07-16T16:32:13+00:00

You guys are so damn logical. Women are emotional creatures. Emotions is the currency. I mean y’all are designed that way but maybe first get in touch w your emotional side before approaching women. Most young women cannot rationalize their emotions due to lack of life experience. It’s just all about emotions.

Nullroute127 · 2022-07-16T18:16:35+00:00

Stab at the dark, but I'm going to guess your conversations are too platonic. Thus, when you ask for a date or something in that sphere - there's no precedence for it and comes out of left field.

You might need to practice some push-pull, showing intent, and making the conversation man to woman.

eszibit · 2022-07-16T15:35:10+00:00

Friends will bump you up a few points. To be nice and because your personality will influence them. If a friend tells you you're a 7 i'd say probably 6-soft 5 territory.

Wheat waffles does really deep dives on face symmetry and stuff. I would take it with a big grain of salt but he is trying to be as objective as possible. He does blame usually everything on looks so i wouldn't go past the "rating" benefit of his channel.

But if you're truly looking good and having no success maybe you're not giving a good vibe. I'd start by sleeping at 10-11pm, no porn/masturbation for a few weeks/a month and reevaluate then.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-07-16T15:59:42+00:00

Well, it probably has to do with not understanding women, and social dynamics between women and men.

Many guys also think they have to act like they see in romantic movies, which is a mistake. The guy acting like a good boyfriend trying to prove he would make a good boyfriend hoping the girl will realise that it makes sense to be with him.

Other guys, are just too logical and generic with women, they don’t stand out, and are generally boring with them, they don’t take risks with her, they are too respectful with women, and wouldn’t even there to express how how the girl is or the things he would do to her. They act as if sex was disgusting or for pervs because they think women hate guys who want sex.

And also other guys just try to get so close to girls, that they become best friends with her, they hang out a lot, talk a lot of time, they can talk about anything with them, and then the guy confesses his feelings and the girl says she only likes him as a friend.

Babymonster09 · 2022-07-16T19:01:38+00:00

I will tell you something, good looking guys are just good looking UNLESS they have a personality, then they are attractive in my eyes. What I mean by this is that you can be “pretty” or “handsome” but without a nice personality then it’s just pretty packaging, know what I mean? Work on the out stuff but work more on the internal stuff. I will legit prefer to date an “average” or non conventional looking guy with a great personality (and I have) over dating a pretty guy with none (have as well and it Didnt even take off because of this). Best of luck op!

GordonGecko69 · 2022-07-16T17:19:40+00:00

I truly f@&king hate this way of thinking. It is by far the most detrimental to your success with women. Every clown who can’t get laid sums a woman’s interest into two things, money and looks. That’s a f@&king cop out. It’s your excuse and your rationalization for why you can’t have luck with women and why if you DO believe you have one or the other of these two traits you question the universe on why you don’t get p@&sy. If you don’t believe me, scroll through the posts in this group and see how many are saying “I don’t have this particular trait so I’ll never get women” or “I have this particular trait so why don’t I get women”. It’s not the trait, it’s YOU!

How many women have you seen throw their lives away over some f@&king broke ass low life or dude who looks like an extra from the walking dead? If money and/or looks were so important this would never happen. And this is a GOOD thing.

Brad Pitt should be the Holy Grail of PUAs. Google his high school pics. He was a tennis playing dork with glasses. He built a persona, moved to Hollywood and took that shit over like a f@&king BOSS.

Work on building an image that is attractive holistically. Men are visual creatures. So WE are the ones who are more focused on looks (even though we’ll f@&k a snake if you hold its head open). Are you interesting? Do you appear to be a sexual being to women? Are you appealing to other women? Why would she want to f@&k you? If being a 7/10 is all you got, good luck with that.

VisionsOfVisions · 2022-07-16T16:42:35+00:00

Your post describes nothing about you. I know your age, gender, attractiveness score of 7/10, and 100% failure rate. You ask generic questions and want to be asked questions in order to provide clarification.

Now, I know this post isn’t your dating profile, but if it reflects 10% of your profile, it’s not looking good…

Other than your 7/10 looks, what are aspects of you that you believe are attractive about you? What aspects of you do you believe are unattractive about you?

SleepyBeast89 · 2022-07-16T19:59:40+00:00

You’re not making them laugh enough.

KaleWeekly · 2022-07-17T15:08:12+00:00

You must flirt. Flirting is how you avoid the friendzone.

SizzleLumps · 2022-07-16T16:56:23+00:00

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angrypuppy35 · 2022-07-16T15:38:06+00:00

Is your friend group really going to tell you whether your ugly or below average? Post your pic here and I’ll give you an honest rating.

grindforthegold · 2022-07-16T16:04:51+00:00

Look man the only way you’ll know if you’re good looking is how women react to you. If they’re giddy and super nice and like giving you signs then you’re good looking. If they’re not they’re either taken or you’re not good looking. You’ll know objectively by how strangers (women) treat you

Hunterhunt14 · 2022-07-16T18:56:36+00:00

My guy most women aren’t gonna tell you how you really look, 7/10 is the number most people will default to because it’s above average while attempting to remain humble about looks. In short they probably lied to you about how you look. Now that aside dating is literally about how you can make the woman feel in that moment. Women aren’t logical creatures they run their logic through their emotions therefore their emotions are their reality. That’s why they say if you can make a girl laugh you can get her, it’s all about controlling her emotions and strategically making her feel certain emotions at certain times. Sounds horrible when put like that but that’s really how it is

NatashOverWorld · 2022-07-16T20:54:35+00:00

If the women in your life can't figure it out, start observing your guy friends in action. A lot of behaviour is via observation and modelling.

Relevant-Spinach294 · 2022-07-16T21:55:41+00:00

I usually go for the ol’ toe tickler!

They can never resist it, and now I have so many girlfriends 👯‍♀️

THAT_LMAO_GUY · 2022-07-16T22:19:13+00:00

You are good enough but not seen as sexual. You need to do more eye contact, teasing, flirting

Fresh_Leek7371 · 2022-07-16T22:39:51+00:00

You need a bigger funnel bro. Everyone gets rejected

JLifts780 · 2022-07-17T02:12:58+00:00

Are you making them laugh and creating sexual tension?

ResponsibilityKey427 · 2022-07-17T03:47:08+00:00

You probs the decent guy, but not the hot guy that they wanna fk right away.

P7o7s7t7a7l · 2022-07-16T16:26:16+00:00

This probably sums it up.

https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/vz2utw/how_to_calibrate_properly/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

The receptive/neutral behavior. Sometimes women are neutral, but will follow along if you ask, but it doesn't mean she's receptive towards you.

Title	[24M] A dating conundrum I cannot understand
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Date	July 16, 2022 3:28 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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