TLDR: Having a Rotation is the only option for single men to stand a chance in modern dating.

Leave the deluded Romanticism and fake Moralism at the door if you want to Live

The Hollywood Myth is that ‘good men’ should immediately dedicate themselves to a beautiful woman they just met, while the Scoundrels and Rakes galavant with multiple women.

The reality is this: Even average and below average looking women have an unfathomable amount of interest and options on the apps. Hundreds of matches, DMs from pro athletes and high-status men abound.

The bottom line: Men who get attached and focus solely on one woman early get an absolutely crushed almost every time. The Rotation is the only way to ensure non-neediness and maintain momentum in dating. Momentum is essential.

The Dichtomy: Women want to feel special and not used, yet they are only seriously attracted to men that other women want

Women actually love Players—they love the chase, the implied competition with other women for his affection, the mystery and challenge of taming a man who is difficult to hold down.

Guys without options actually repulse women, it gives them The Ick. However, most would never admit this publicly, because they have been socially programmed not to offend men, even with the truth.

Biggest lie ever told: Only low self esteem, slutty, or dumb women love Players.

Women prioritize saving face and maintaining their public perception above all else. They deflect their true feelings (I love a man with options) and demonize women who Admitting to being attracted to Players implies they are willing to risk being used and compete with other women for a man’s affection.

Assumptions Get Men Killed in Dating

Never make assumptions even if there is heavy chemistry upfront. She WILL pull back at some point. If you are her only option, you will panic, become needy and make all of the wrong moves. With a Rotation in place, it doesn’t matter if she goes cold, let her be.

A man with a full belly doesn’t chase after scraps.

Also don’t assume that’s she’s not actively engaging with her other options behind the scenes. She is. Most guys are utterly deluded when they’re talking to women online, and are shocked when she ghosts. You mean she was talking to OTHER GUYS TOO?? Bruh. Don’t be foolish and let your Ego cloud reality.

OF COURSE she is talking to the hundreds of other thirsty dweebs in her DMs— you are merely part of the flock. She doesn’t owe you anything, you should wise up and accordingly.

Building the Rotation - 3 to 4 women at a time is the Sweet Spot

Online dating will be the primary driver of your Rotation. A lot of guys will complain that it’s hard to get a one date, let alone multiple women at the same time. If your online dating Game is on point, having multiple dating options is the norm, not the deviation.

I’m not going to go into extensive detail here on how to improve your dating life. I’ve written multiple articles about it in the archives if you want to check those out.

90% of online dating success involves your photos. If you are having trouble online dating, your photos undoubtedly suck and you’re in denial.

Hire a local photographer who specializes in online dating photos, it’s a one-time low effort investment that yields long-lasting results. The other 10% of success in online dating involves having non-boring profile answers and Text Game. Those develop as you notice patterns and gain experience.

Building a Rotation involves Maximizing Your Opportunity. You also have to get actually get involved in life if you want to have an abundant dating life.

Having a real life social circle, being involved in activities and social demographics, and Cold Approach should not be neglected. You will often meet more beautiful and desirable women through Social Circle and Cold Approach, rather than online dating, although the most number of opportunities will come from online dating. Guys with online clout already know this, but if you have some sort of status, fame, or prestige in a niche Online community, your dating opportunities catch on fire. Build a brand and an online presence.

There are risks of dating multiple women within a social circle. The social circle needs to be large enough that there’s not risk of true resentment building within it. Status within a social circle is one of THE most powerful engines for building dating momentum with beautiful women, but it comes with risks and can come back to bite you. Proceed carefully.

When I was single, the most women I dated at a time was Seven. I realized at some point that I was chasing validation, rather than enjoying life. Time management, elements of drama, and most importantly cost became factors.

Even if you’re not Simping, dating is an expensive endeavor. I found that when I was single, dating 3-4 women at a time is manageable, and keeps the momentum alive in your dating life. Beyond that, I’ve found that your life becomes miserable, centered ONLY around women and your masculine frame becomes weak and feminized. Making women your primary company socially erodes your masculine nature. There needs to be balance. But at the end of the day, it really depends on what you want your lifestyle to be like.

Maintaining the Rotation - Ambiguity and Evasiveness are essential. Accept that an Element of Dishonesty is required

Yup, dating multiple women at the same is dishonest and treats people as current to a degree. Well, guess what, the same thing is being done to you as a man. It most certainly goes both ways.

The more you get burned by the strategy focusing solely on one woman while being single, the less you’ll feel guilt over having a dating rotation. I was once idealistic myself, until I learned that real life and fantasy aren’t aligned.

You learn that’s modern dating is inherently transactional, dishonest, and treats people as currency. Yeah, it’s not moral or honorable, but it’s the truth, which is more important than anything else. To deny it is burying your head in the sand, and you‘ll suffer because of it. It’s like enjoying a steak dinner and denying an animal had to die as part of the process.

Having chemistry and liking a woman should not be conflated with being in an actual relationship with her. You have no true obligation to her, she doesn’t have one to you, and she most almost certainly views it that way.

Evasiveness and ambiguity are your allies. Never admit, directly imply, or brag. Women are highly intuitive, and they will know without knowing.

When you’re hard to get a hold of for hours or perhaps days at a time, moments where she can tell you’re not fully present, with a confident walk in your step and glimmer in your eye that comes naturally with the freedom that option provides—you will be highly socially practiced and calibrated by interacting with multiple women.

Your Game will be tight, and she will tell she’s not the only one, but will accept and will be excited by it.

The momentum and power of having a dating rotation gives you is truly powerful—it’s the lifeblood of your dating life. Even if it’s not politically correct, it makes you the type of man women actually want to date, even if they won’t admit it publicly. Without options, your momentum dies, your possibility of finding love withers.

However, at the end of the day, women don’t want to feel used—nobody does. The more you directly confirm that you have a rotation, the less tolerance she will have. After all, she has been programmed to believe that she is the prize, direct confirmation and Ego will turn her off. The mystery, implication of your activities will make it palatable to her, especially if she has feelings for you.

Having a past as a Player will make her love, appreciate, and respect you more

If you care about a woman you meet and develop feelings, you’ll be tempted to shut down the rotation to focus on her. This is tempting, but only abandon when an official relationship has been established, never make assumptions before then. You’ll know when you know. It’s a natural evolution of having options, knowing what you want, and having the practice and skill to attract a woman you truly value, not just what’s available.

If you decide to take a step to finally eject from the rotation, the woman you settle down with will respect and value you more because of your Player past—as counterintuitive as that may sound. Women only love and value men they fear losing, and know have the capability to easily attract women.

Women are drawn to a man who is dangerous, but chooses to direct and ground himself. His proven ability to seduce other women is an enticing danger that he chooses to redirect into his relationship.

Women who truly love their man will adopt his frame. Although society has programmed women into believing that giving a player chance makes her foolish, she‘ll reject this belief and love him more for it, and find it as a fascinating component of his

persona, and will never shame him for it.

Full article on topic: https://holdyourframe.substack.com/p/being-a-player-is-the-only-realistic