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mjornir · 2022-10-03T20:16:26+00:00

you can still be attracted to women, still talk to them, hell maybe even ask for a date if one very clearly likes you. don't deny yourself how you feel in the moment. just find other things to think about in the mean time. fill your life up with commitments to yourself that demand your energy and focus-gym, sports, hobbies, friendships, work, projects, meetups, etc etc etc.

you can't change what you feel at all, and it's totally ok to feel that way. you cant just turn off your attraction. just find other equally interesting things to occupy your mind so women dont fill the vacuum

Marcus_Kovac · 2022-10-03T22:59:13+00:00

You’re fighting against biology lol.

It’s futile. Learn how to manage your sexual desires and impulses through stuff like meditation and to channel some of that energy into other pursuits, but know that you will always be interested in women and that’s okay.

masterduelistky · 2022-10-03T19:33:03+00:00

Please let me know when you find out man. I've been trying for years...

NewDay0110 · 2022-10-04T03:52:11+00:00

Just get divorced by one! lol. Here's a spooky Halloween story...

Imagine being married to the girlfriend of your dreams. You two have a kid. Your wife refuses to work because of course she has to stay at home being a mom, so you are the sole provider of income. You work - every day - and have been doing so for months possibly years. You don't really know how long life has been this way because the boring meetings just kind of blur together from one week to the next.

It's been a while since you've broken the routine, but you've been cash strapped ever since little Billy came along. It would be nice to go to a concert or a beach trip again someday, but that's out of budget. Plus, no time. You need to work on your career to get ahead. That consulting side hustle is your only hope of getting anything more than your paycheck, which is just enough to support all three of you.

It's 7pm and you're tired but you have to make food for yourself (and kid because you're a good dad). That meal ain't gonna cook itself. At least you don't have to cook for your wife. She's good. She just ate a tub of Chobani for dinner.

There was a time months ago when you thought you'd put your foot down and tell her like it is, hoping that would motivate her to contribute more to the chores. That spectacularly backfired. After 4 hours of arguing the "bigger victim", it ended with what felt like veiled divorce threats. At this time and in this blueish state, divorce isn't a battle you feel ready to fight right now.

"This kitchen is so dirty all the time! You always leave such a mess." your wife complains. You pretend to ignore her, leaning your head into your Call of Duty game. All that's on your mind right now is wishing she'd go call her mom or something so you can have some peace and quiet.

"When are we going out again? We never go out anymore!" she nags.

"But we just went out on a date last Thursday night. Didn't you enjoy the symphony?"

"Yeah but what about the next one? We just do that once in a while now." She hovers over you. "And...." she coyly pushes the game controller in your hands, then spreads her juicy thighs across your lap, straddling you. She makes a pouty face. "We haven't had sex in over a week."

Your throat gulps. Your mind races back to the close call last month. That middle of the night she ran into the bathroom to vomit. As you laid in bed, you worried it was the morning sickness. Your mind takes you back to that moment where your future flashed before your eyes, wondering what the next 20 years would be like if your obligations compound at this time. Thankfully, it was just food poisoning from the oyster bar.

The preppy utterance of your wife's voice snap you back into the present. "Are you even attracted to me anymore? Why can't we have sex like we used to? We used to do it like... all the time! Now I'm lucky to get it once a month!" You never imagined yourself feeling this beaten, this destroyed, this fatigued that you'd actually turn down sex with a woman who looks this good, but here you are. "I'm a little tired, babe. The magic just ain't working tonight."

28 MONTHS LATER

After she filed for divorce and fought a bitter custody battle against you, enough time has gone by since it all got wrapped up and finalized in court that you finally are starting to feel yourself again. You've been looking forward to getting a second shot at the single life, dating attractive women again as part of your newfound freedom from the plantation.

You sign up for a dating app, and begin swiping. But something is wrong. You find yourself swiping left on all of them. The red flags are glaring. On the profile of every attractive woman, you wonder if she could be a future Karen.

Maybe it was the trauma of the divorce court. Maybe it's recollecting the string of dead end, toxic relationships that came before you found "the one". Whatever it is, it's left you feeling hollowed out. Jaded. Dead inside. You suddenly come to the realization....

You. No. Longer. Want. A. Girlfriend. 💀

youngchampion · 2022-10-03T19:38:29+00:00

I share the same problem. Women always on my mind instead of the things I need to focus on

kevlikestodostuff · 2022-10-04T05:06:55+00:00

Become a homosexual

StrongWilledSky · 2022-10-03T19:45:08+00:00

In short, jerk off every morning and soften your impulses for the day.

Also, look into sexual transmutation (Google it).

Neo-Rio · 2022-10-04T00:58:22+00:00

I think you've identified the problem: spending too much time chasing women.

Ironically the way to avoid doing that is to invest very little time in any that you meet and get THEM to do all the leg work.

I think you'll find that by doing that you'll be more successful, AND have more time to yourself.

LordFlanders · 2022-10-03T21:38:49+00:00

Watch some hardcore gay porn

Woujo · 2022-10-04T02:15:49+00:00

This is a fool's errand. It is wired deep into your biology to want women, so you cannot just turn off that desire just like you cannot just turn off your desire to eat.

The thing you CAN do, however, is to learn to spend your time with women productively so you are growing and improving as a person, rather than just drinking and partying all the time.

Also, to control your desire for women you must feel "full" with respect to women. Just like a starving guy is obsessed with food, a guy who feels scarcity with respect to women will be obsessed with women.

DarthFarris · 2022-10-03T21:46:45+00:00

The easy things are: limit time on social media, delete dating apps, stay in on the weekends/ go to places where there are mostly dudes.

Mentally, every time you see a girl you find attractive, just remind yourself, "I don't have time for this right now."

jordanr03 · 2022-10-03T23:43:11+00:00

Are women currently harassing you? Pretty sure if you ignore them they’ll do likewise.

Impossible_Yellow751 · 2022-10-04T02:58:44+00:00

Man I was working on my self last year when I turned 30 years old I was trying to have a fun care free ho phase cause I didn’t have time to date or be with someone than boom comes my now boyfriend to come and settle my ass down with commitment got me planning my future trip with him and now I’m on Pinterest creating boards about future baby and wedding and romantic dates and now I’m listening to country love song like a 15 year old school girl all puppy love and now I’m all wanting to marry him and have a baby by next year and I didn’t even know I was capable of love I Was single for 30 years so I was so use to being alone they now that I’m in love I find my self missing him each and every day he’s at work and now I’ve turned into A clingy affectionate girl who only wants to stay home watch movies with him and eat fattening food with him . Life sometime throw you in a different direction than you planned

HotPieceOfShit · 2022-10-04T14:15:32+00:00

Listen to "Bitches Ain't Shit" by Dr. Dre.

caesarfecit · 2022-10-04T21:36:50+00:00

Totally not the wrong sub. This is a discussion that 100% needs to be had, right now.

Why?

Because if you want to be good with women, the one thing you must not be is obsessed with them. Women can smell that shit from a mile away and even if they can't, it's a sign to you personally that you're pursuing women for the wrong reasons.

You shouldn't want women in your life because you just want to get your rocks off. Porn is cheaper, simpler, and never has a headache. You shouldn't want women in your life for ego or self-esteem - because sooner or later, all women leave, and the later it is, the more it will hurt (like a motherfucker, ask me how I know this).

Nor should you want women in your life just for a social outlet. Go make some friends, even if it's just your coworkers. Do better and join a club or sports team.

You should want a woman in your life because you're attracted to her. Because she turns you on, impresses you, intrigues you. That's your gift to her.

Now how do you get your priorities in order such that you haven't got chasing tail on the brain, and are getting to know women for the right reasons?

Get on your purpose.

Why this? Because a man needs a purpose more important to him than women. Otherwise whatever woman is in his life will dominate him, and most women truly do not want that.

Now how do you do this? Simple. In business there's something known as a Hedgehog Concept. A hedgehog only really has one response to predators, but it's an effective one. Businesses should have the same relationship to their core line of business.

Now how does this apply to you personally? Find the thing that you're good at, that pays the bills, and is something you're passionate about. If that doesn't get to your purpose, it will at least get you close to it.

Canadian-Seductioner · 2022-10-03T22:28:15+00:00

Try hooking up with a guy, you might actually like it and decide to go for guys instead who are much easier to get laid with.

playboiferina · 2022-10-04T01:12:02+00:00

Time to chase cock bro

CometAzur42069 · 2022-10-03T19:45:53+00:00

go jerk off regularly, should work.

hummm- · 2022-10-03T21:17:43+00:00

There's several different ways. It's okay to hook up with different girls. There's so many different apps and websites that girls are on looking for only that. Quick easy hookups. But it sounds like you're going to have to find some girl who's wanting a friends with benefits and release some of your attention. There are also plenty of girls out there who want a hook up every now and then without any serious connection. The desire to want a beautiful girl is never going away you just have to learn how to get your feel from one or two so you can concentrate on the things you want to do

sumbuv · 2022-10-03T22:43:07+00:00

Try being interested in a man.

killerj666 · 2022-10-03T23:58:17+00:00

Try fucking guys instead

bandsupjay · 2022-10-04T02:16:18+00:00

Are u dumb? So stop thinking about women wtf lol? This is the silliest question or reddit post ive ever seen in my life. So then stop giving a fuck. Like i dont get it lol dude what? Go jerk off if your so horny

thetapebaper1789 · 2022-10-04T15:48:32+00:00

Bro there’s this miracle drug that came out that will help, 40 mg of manups.

Ayebooboobingbong · 2022-10-03T21:38:28+00:00

Find a fuck buddy. You’ll probably have to lower your standards

Kronuk · 2022-10-04T04:08:10+00:00

My solution was to land a solid girlfriend so I don’t have to waste time going on dates with new girls or dealing with all the hassle. I take care of her and she takes care of me and keeps me satisfied while I pursue my goals. I sunk a lot more time into dating when I was single. Now it’s sex every day or any time I want it.

2022-10-04T01:55:18+00:00

Jerk off to tentacle furry hentai at least 6 times a day until you pavlovian-style condition yourself to only be sexually attracted to characters in sexual situations that could never actually exist. Continue until your dopamine neurology is so thoroughly scarified and calloused by your behavior that real people's bodies have no sexual connotation for you regardless of how long you go without porn.

heyyou11 · 2022-10-03T23:33:18+00:00

Why do you not have time? What is so time consuming? Also why are you consuming your time with something you aren’t even passionate enough about to not be distracted from?

In other words, you’re either deluding yourself in how busy you are or you’re keeping busy with things that don’t have meaning to you. Hang out with those friends, man. Meaningful social relationships fix so much.

Conformist5589 · 2022-10-04T02:05:12+00:00

Tank your testosterone levels. You get to be a healthy male or have no interest in women and sex. You can discipline yourself to work through you’re desires but if those desires disappear you’ve messed yourself up.

neoda1 · 2022-10-04T04:02:08+00:00

Your making it sound girls just throw them selfs on you lol

Perfect_War5446 · 2022-10-03T20:12:35+00:00

I’m in the same situation rn OP, I’m confused too

Ok-Training-7587 · 2022-10-03T22:03:43+00:00

Have your consciousness transplanted into a robot body. Should help.

But seriously life is meaningless without relationships so don't waste all of this time. Youre barking up the wrong tree. You can improve yourself without ignoring other people.

OriginalMandem · 2022-10-03T22:40:48+00:00

I mean, it's not really possible unless you decide to be a monk or something and even that doesn't really work.

Mezmore · 2022-10-03T23:59:38+00:00

That's the neat part, you don't

lamahopper · 2022-10-04T00:54:13+00:00

Transmute that sexual energy into a worthy goal.

pusillanimous303 · 2022-10-04T01:07:19+00:00

r/wrongsub

RSNK10 · 2022-10-04T01:14:12+00:00

I think you have to go to one of those camps..

TANKAAAA0 · 2022-10-04T02:37:45+00:00

I can barely get hard anymore - It takes alot of effort and thought to be aroused, them females now crave my attention even more since I have absolutely 0 interest, it helps that I know I can get whoever I want if I tried aswell so I know I'll be good in 10 or so years when I want to settle a bit but I'm same as you have literal no time for them

How I done it?

Got a hooker pregnant and been in court non stop for 3.5 years attempting to get a increase in custody

Add onto that she was fucking a cop who was happily forging documents/misleading the court and legally fucking me left right and centre making my life hell since I didn't wanna be with her

I do keep busy, muay thai, motorcross, snowboarding, gym and alot of self education

Definitely copy my footsteps if what you're saying is true

I do have a worry that I enjoy the peace and one less hassle a little too much but I'm sure when I get to a older age my thoughts may change

It's dangerous how productive and enjoyable your life becomes.

Doctor-Rich · 2022-10-04T04:00:10+00:00

Just go on a date when you feel like it have a good time and be honest. Some girls are only feeling that anyway you’d be surprised how many don’t have the emotional room for another person. Or become a monk idk man

zapadz · 2022-10-04T05:33:28+00:00

Read and apply the mind illuminated and happiness beyond thought by Gary Weber or take the finders course and stop at location 4

Kobe_curry24 · 2022-10-04T06:11:12+00:00

Wrong sub my guy

Kobe_curry24 · 2022-10-04T06:12:52+00:00

Okay I’ll oblige if you actually find a women that fits your needs ,sexually and compatible you will be the most focused you ever been

WanyCaleb · 2022-10-04T06:17:40+00:00

That's the neat part, you don't. It's like a hunger or thirst that needs to be addressed. That's why the almighty right hand still remains relevant but don't over use it. Thank you and good night!

petorious08 · 2022-10-04T07:46:43+00:00

Grab a knife and a rubber band and then….never mind

LORD-THUNDERCUNT · 2022-10-04T11:45:08+00:00

Being addicted to Xanax made me stop caring about everything lol. The withdrawals will definitely make you not care about women.

Gaydame · 2022-10-04T11:56:41+00:00

You mean How do I stop being human?

Um..

A daily visit to madam palm and her 5 daughters should do it

Responsible_Part_901 · 2022-10-04T12:00:48+00:00

Cut off your testes ND dick! ND don't forget to dm me! Lol😂

Johnny_Kilroy · 2022-10-04T12:10:37+00:00

Hookers.

foxyua_93 · 2022-10-04T13:24:07+00:00

Why can you do both? With right women you’ll still be able to pursue your goals.

delgado437 · 2022-10-04T13:58:38+00:00

I thought this post was going to be about something else.

KrikoryanG · 2022-10-04T16:55:28+00:00

What if she is moving in the same direction?

150420throwaway · 2022-10-04T18:26:06+00:00

Mark Manson mentioned this as one of three ‘coping mechanisms’ for a lack of better word.

This is not meant to be a dig at you, but it’s an excuse. What you mentioned (I.e. finances, working on yourself, self esteem, etc), is achievable with a girl (or so I imagine) because I’m doing all of that right now myself, and all I would need to do is organise my time.

You are the priority, do not mistake what I’ve written above as me saying that you shouldn’t focus on yourself, but all of that is highly achievable, unless you genuinely have a huge business idea you really need to devote your entire life to right in this moment, or you’re going to be grinding for the next few months so much that you will literally be busy every single minute of the day, and not waste time at all on unnecessary social media or any other entertainment consumption.

I’m striving towards that myself - I still waste time, but I’m getting there. This year has been insane for me.

Don’t limit yourself because you could actually come across a good girl who isn’t going to drag you down.

NinetailsDestruction · 2022-10-04T18:52:43+00:00

You cant dude. That’s why your here asking it bc it’s impossible. We are designed to have sex and be attracted to women. What you need to do is accept you feel this way and move on with what you need to do like gym and stuff. There’s no magic sentence to be not be attracted to women or like mindset. It’s hardwired in your brain like wanting food. You cant stop being hungry right? So stop trying to fight that urge. Just use it to better yourself even more. Use it as a hunger.

_McLovin_01 · 2022-10-04T19:04:06+00:00

Wank a lot, job done.

Oranged9s6 · 2022-10-06T04:57:21+00:00

the whole point of not wanting to be with a girl is fighting against biology, sounds dumb to me lol

sandywreckedmybodega · 2022-10-08T04:14:15+00:00

Date enough girls and you will get sick of women. I guarantee it. The effort it takes to get laid is not worth getting laid. It's better to just live your own life and work on yourself and find that girl organically on the path. When you focus on women too much, you start giving them power.

They take your time and your energy and your emotions even when they're not physically there. You will lose so much of yourself chasing girls. You'll look back and think "man, if I just didn't focus on chicks so much, I'd be xyz". Don't be like me. Work on the man in the mirror.

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