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ORIONFULL23 · 2022-01-12T18:48:33+00:00

Maybe she's flirting with this guy as well, dont take it personally, as long as you guys are not exclusive this is fair play, just match her energy and dont put all your eggs in one basket

mabden · 2022-01-12T19:36:44+00:00

Couple of thoughts;

She may like you, but if she is not giving you the same "touchy/feely" she likes other guy better.

The other dude doesn't give a fuck about you, your likes, dislikes.

Don't shit where you eat.

Creative_Wallaby_439 · 2022-01-12T20:12:48+00:00

Bro, stay away from coworkers unless:

THEY (female) initiates, KEEP DOCUMENTATION OF THIS
one of you is leaving the job
There is no difference in rank

It can go south quick. It is best to have a discussion of expectations once things escalate.

Edit: im in this scenario right now.

It went south, now i have to see them 2x/ week.

sh1ftyswar · 2022-01-12T23:15:59+00:00

Op: hey! I like you!

Tg: I like you too

Op: bullshit

No_Raspberry3670 · 2022-01-12T20:07:50+00:00

I don’t understand, are you saying your problem is jealousy? Or that you’re unsure of how she feels about you?

TransitionNormal1387 · 2022-01-12T19:42:41+00:00

I hear ya I hear ya. Soo…when’s the date bro?

swansons_tv_dinner · 2022-01-12T21:25:28+00:00

Could be there is only friend chemistry between her and the other guy and that makes it easier for her to carry on. If there’s sexual tension between you two she may be more self conscious / less comfortable teasing with you cause it’s early days.

skinisblackmetallic · 2022-01-12T21:44:04+00:00

Sounds like she’s playing the crew.

FindingMeHo · 2022-01-12T20:35:57+00:00

Lol bro fuckin make a move

semaxX · 2022-01-13T10:48:07+00:00

It doesnt matter what she says. It matters how she acts

Ducharbaine · 2022-01-12T21:37:01+00:00

Maybe no one possesses anyone and you should chill. Ask her out and ignore him.

philzbadman · 2022-01-13T03:05:42+00:00

You will find that women react negatively to jealous men. So if you don't change your attitude or behaviour your relationship (if you get to that stage) won't last long.

NostalgiaUltr · 2022-01-12T18:39:22+00:00

Depends where you work but I don’t like to have relationships with coworkers. Don’t shit where you eat

i_love_crazy_hobos · 2022-01-12T20:44:41+00:00

Personally i would say don’t mess around with coworkers. Learn to go out and meet girls instead. You could start with Leo’s series on how to get laid https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=6DEGfopquio&t=7025s

Ozymandias973 · 2022-01-13T01:29:49+00:00

Don't date coworkers, period.

Sounds like she likes to get attention from everyone = not gf material, much less wife material.

Sensitive-Permit-877 · 2022-01-13T02:40:00+00:00

Act cool dont talk shit about the other guy. Actually talk him up and say you two look like bf gf awwww sooo cute whens the wedding. This will set her off. Do it jokingly not in jealousy. Then go about your life. Tell her about the ladies youve met and shit if she asks about your days off. She will be chasing you

thats0K · 2022-01-13T04:19:34+00:00

maybe she's shit testing you for jealousy? if it does bother you, pretend it doesn't. if you do start dating, and she's still all over him, ez red flag. ez dump. if you make it known to her that what she's doing bothers you, esp before you start dating, she will view you as weak, insecure, jealous. aka traits no woman wants in a man. just go on about your day. even try ignoring her (subtly). she will wonder why you aren't interested and prob try to flirt with you more.

tbh tho, don't shit where you eat. it never goes over well.

willgo-waggins · 2022-01-12T20:02:08+00:00

Dude is out working your ass and you’re an idiot to let him know that you have interest.

Step up and be alpha and don’t let him play you like that. Your game isn’t good enough if she’s playing both ends after admitting that she likes you.

Get her the fuck away from the office scene and for gods sake whatever you do, DO NOT ALLOW IT TO BE A SITUATION HE CAN CRASH!!!

No group get togethers. No “we’ll be hanging at the soho club Friday” or any other bullshit. Your moves are now TOP SECRET - EYES ONLY. This fucker is moving on your action. You do not let her catch wind of it but you find ways to subtly freeze his ass out immediately.

A real date. A fun one and somewhere he had no idea about and won’t “show up by chance”. And if he dies you know she let it out (TELL NO ONE) and you will know where things really stand.

Edit: the ONLY time I let on that I have “an interest” in a woman is when I have already slept with her and I want to let sniffers know it’s my fucking territory. Then I am loud and clear and mildly aggressive (not my norm I’m easy going so guys immediately back off because I don’t play) to let them know it’s mine.

Ryzza778 · 2022-01-13T03:43:36+00:00

Dont date COWORKERS WHEN WILL YOU PEOPLE LEARN

Woujo · 2022-01-13T00:56:56+00:00

Every single sentence of this post is wrong. Let me start from the beginning.

I told This coworker of mine that I like her and she ended up telling me she likes me too!

Sorry but this is not how it works. Words mean nothing to women. Emotions mean everything. Saying she likes you doesn't mean shit. Look at her actions. If she is not ACTING like she likes you, don't get so excited. Also, you shouldn't be telling women you like them either. Instead, you should reward her when she does something meaningful for you.

The thing is whenever she is working with this other coworker of mine they tend to be super friendly/touchy and i don’t know how i feel about that.

How do you how not how you feel? You need somebody else to tell you what your emotions should be? I can tell you how you feel: YOU DO NOT LIKE IT.

Dude knows im trying to make her mine too.

Women are never "yours." They are not property. Women do whatever feels good in the moment, and the problem is, she knows you are in the bag, so she is probably going to chase attention from somebody new she hasn't conquered yet. Sorry, but that's the truth. That's why you should never tell a girl you "like" her. The game is over, she has conquered you.

What should I do?

Move on with your life. If she is nice to you and does things for her, reward her. If not, go fuck other girls.

Also, you shouldn't be trying to fuck girls you work with. Go to a bar and meet somebody new.

Saint_Moogle · 2022-01-12T23:16:02+00:00

Mixing work and play is risky business.

You took the mystery out of your character when you told her you liked her. Keep yourself and your intentions mysteriously ambiguous. Let her come to her own conclusions about your feelings and you’ll occupy space in her mind. Step up your flirting game, too. Godspeed, OP.

lightlysaltedStev · 2022-01-13T00:02:25+00:00

Here’s my genuine thoughts on it:

As far as you’ve said in your post you haven’t started dating yet, you have just said you liked her. So in that respect it’s fair game she keeps flirting around as it would be if you was. Doesn’t mean it’s ‘nice’ to see but you both aren’t even dating yet.

Did you not arrange some kind of date when you told each other that ? Because that could be an issue. You’ve said that she’s said it back but then never arranged a date (I’m assuming here because you haven’t said if you have)

girls even if you get their attention very quickly move on if you don’t start acting quickly because they generally get a lot of attention so if you don’t act fast, someone will catch their attention and just ask her out.

It could be she’s flirting in front of you to get a reaction and ask her out etc🤷‍♂️ I’m not sure if it is but just saying it’s another possibility.

What I would say as advice, ask her out really soon. You’ve done the hard part and told her you like her and you’ve won half the battle of her saying it back. Now it’s time to escalate it and finalise an actual first date and fully arrange it with a day and time.

Once you get to the dating stage then I’m sure if she’s respectful she will tone down/stop the flirtation with other people :) and if the date doesn’t materialise when you ask or if she keeps flirting even after you are dating, then you know she ain’t for you. Either way ask her out !:£

thispolishitalianguy · 2022-01-13T02:23:58+00:00

Judge people by their actions, not their words or it might lead to disappointment

doovinator · 2022-01-13T03:21:41+00:00

Hold your horses! Talk to some other women and let her see you flirting with them. Give her a challenge. It's a test; she doesn't know who she wants and you need to back off and let her come after you. Jealousy is a threat, don't go there.

Jovan1000 · 2022-01-13T05:39:22+00:00

Don’t acknowledge it at all, her and his relationship is none of your business. What you should do is get what you want. If you want the girl I suggest you hang out with her outside of work. Ask for her number and set up a date. Don’t even worry about touching her at work they can have there fun there and you have fun with her outside of work. You like her so I’m sure you want to connect with her, your new friend should be her mind. Be aquatinted with her mind if you want to connect deeply with her. Be a man and tap in to your masculine energy.

iOpenClams · 2022-01-13T16:00:30+00:00

Sounds like she has attraction for more than just you at the work place. Last thing you want, is to make this girl yours just to end up with her screwing around with guys at work that she has already displayed mutual attraction with.

If I were you, I'd pursue her, but I'd make sure it's non exclusive. A friend with benefit kind of thing. Better that than you securing her, just to have it blow up in your face with the advances of these other dudes who dont give af about you. This way, your work place environment won't be toxic either. You successfully don't end up shitting where you eat.

In order not to develop exclusive type of feelings for her, you better start establishing relations with other girls too.

Berlinboy015 · 2022-01-12T20:16:09+00:00

I personally would suggest proposing eating her ass out, that will probably turn up the energy

Lombrado · 2022-01-12T21:27:04+00:00

OP, I did that mistake and I regret it a lot.

Dated a coworker and it didnt end up good. She got feelings and I was looking for casual time. Turns out she got obsessed with me and started flaming me to all the girls at work saying I was a douche and stuff like that. It got really nasty and is a shit situation to be in.

You have to account that If your thing go south, you'll have to deal with her flirting with your other coworker or worse.

Dont shit where you eat is something that I learned the hard way.

gangweedsavedme · 2022-01-13T02:04:11+00:00

Leave her alone, duh

CyberXydra11 · 2022-01-13T09:15:35+00:00

First rule: Don't shit where you eat

Second rule: Read the first rule again

fzgen · 2022-01-12T22:18:17+00:00

Is she touchy with you, too? if not, you are in friendzone actually. She just keeps in line if things didnt work with the other guy. Watch the attitude not what she says. She probably have sex with the other dude already. Touching is really thr message here.

Far-Difference6591 · 2022-01-12T22:36:41+00:00

Mind your business, and take ya possible dick slanging Out of the office.

Leave it, her alone, romantically speaking. Just stop. Many many people have hooked up at work. Most everyone that has, will also tell you, better off Not doing it. Literally thousands of women, everywhere you are. Why anyone from work? Just ...why?

Life don't have to be as hard as don't people make it.

SnooGiraffes5176 · 2022-01-13T03:29:09+00:00

If you want something or someone go for it. Don’t live in your head. Make your move. She’s got options and so do you. You got this!

Backheelfields · 2022-01-13T04:00:00+00:00

That’s women for ya ! Haha hope you figure out the puzzle cheif

SnooMachines1406 · 2022-01-13T06:00:15+00:00

Ah a tale as old as time Yea dating at work is a no. Girls love attention and they get it through that flirty stuff. Have you heard of the term work husband. Girls flirt with guys at their jobs because of boredom thats why its best not to pursue a girl u like there because you will see her doing it to other guys as well.Either way this will sort its self out it always does.

CustomAlpha · 2022-01-13T08:16:35+00:00

She’s manipulating people to get the best deal. Make sure you can be happy without her.

FIVE_6_MAFIA · 2022-01-13T01:59:26+00:00

The other coworker already has her, if she's friendly and touchy with him you already lost her.

Sensitive-Permit-877 · 2022-01-13T02:37:48+00:00

A little lesson never follow a womens words only her actions

AdDesperate2498 · 2022-01-12T20:57:23+00:00

When in doubt whip it out.

GeorgeKaplanIsReal · 2022-01-13T00:31:35+00:00

Eiffel Tower.

This solves all problems.

CrisprMyGenes · 2022-01-13T01:40:48+00:00

Hurry up and take her on a date dude

everythingharam · 2022-01-13T04:31:15+00:00

How do you know she likes you?

NoLimit_Curry · 2022-01-13T05:55:51+00:00

Invite her over your place and go for the kill.

FarLeftGoon · 2022-01-13T06:40:31+00:00

Work romance isnt a good idea , I was getting at this girl from work , and when it didn't materialize into anything , shit got awkward. Now there's a new girl in the same office and things are going to be messy if I get at her

Kief-Liege · 2022-01-13T08:34:48+00:00

Personally, id back off. More to do with the fact youre at work than anything. If you two go on a few dates, and they go on a few dates and she picks him, awkward for you. And vice versa. Idk, I jus wouldnt bother, too much hassle for one woman. Plenty out there.

Winter-Compote-9895 · 2022-01-13T10:30:39+00:00

Ask da dude if you can share her. 😂 lol joking.

Goudhaan · 2022-01-13T11:11:08+00:00

Doesn’t matter what they do. Focus on you and your approach. You’ve told each other you liked one and another. Have you asked her out for a date yet?

VDKay · 2022-01-13T12:44:27+00:00

I told This coworker of mine that I like her and she ended up telling me she likes me too!

So, you are together, right?

Dude knows im trying to make her mine too.

So, you ARE together, RIGHT?

bmunger718 · 2022-01-13T13:36:08+00:00

That’s her nature to be flirty some women are like that and it gets signals cross crossed. Unless you see it in your face that she is trying to make you jealous you will know for a fact. But, if not that’s how she is and it will be very hard to get her to stop doing that no matter what dude she’s with.

A relationship with a co worker has to be strategically done so no bull shit spills over into the job. Keep it silent move right and make sure no one knows for sure just you two people.

Notakas · 2022-01-13T14:28:27+00:00

make her mine

Good grief

icanchi · 2022-01-13T14:54:31+00:00

Ewww.

RStonePT · 2022-01-13T15:25:17+00:00

Don't fuck where you work.

You're the office husband, at best

agpc · 2022-01-13T15:41:36+00:00

Don’t fuck work people. We all learn it the hard way tho

kdnjimenez · 2022-01-13T15:44:34+00:00

Stay patient and make your move. If it’s not good for you make it clear and go after another. Men don’t hide their intent. You draw in the one you want and make it known. If not accepted then move on. Add your personality on top ;-)

She will either accept you or play with you. The only way she can play you is if you let her and don’t make yourself clear.

2022-01-13T15:47:42+00:00

Ok, so, rule number one: never try to posses another person or “make her mine”. She is not an object to possess; she is a fully autonomous human being who cannot be owned or possessed by anyone. Two: you should not be focused on possessing her; you should be focused on figuring out how well her goals and values match up with yours. Three: if your goals and values aren’t an absolute match then maybe she’ll be happier with the other dude. Maybe not; but maybe. And if you really care about her at all you will be more concerned with her being happy regardless of whether or not it’s with you or her. Four: don’t shit where you eat bro. Not unless it’s an absolute and immediate love connection and your goals and values are 100% in sync. Otherwise it’s not worth the trouble.

The best advice I would give you is to stick to the club/dating apps/social circle because it sounds like you’re already on some one-itis shit with this chick which is an absolute no go. Do more work on yourself to define your goals and values then start looking for a partner once you’ve started to live on your purpose. You’ll find lots of women will just start to throw themselves at you by default because you’re uncompromising with your integrity.

And never, ever, try to “make” someone else “yours”. Trust me. I know first hand, that shits a one way ticket to hell for the both of you. Good luck and blessings amigo.

Leviathansplunge · 2022-01-13T16:04:33+00:00

Best thing u can do is...nothing. stand back and let this chick and the other dude escalate and watch them ruin their personal and work lives, and as the drama unfolds u will feel alot better knowing it wasn't u when ur laughing at them, plus u will see firsthand why shitting where u eat is bad practice.

ofirman · 2022-01-13T17:46:26+00:00

I swear I never get attention when I post stuff on Reddit but when others do, they get more responses and I'm having the same problems as them so can I really be mad?

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