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[–][deleted] 228 points229 points230 points 4 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
In that case, if she haven't responded i go silent for 3-4 days. If she don't write herself i shoot her one last text - proposing to meet. If she agrees you continue, if not / doesn't reply - next
[–]Yerebeets 51 points52 points53 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Thank you, I guess I can try again in a few days (we planned something for friday so maybe I can reach out on wednesday) and if I get "seen" or "delivered", I move on to the other prospects :D
[–]willgo-waggins 27 points28 points29 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah. A follow up to confirm two days or day before but I wouldn’t count heavy on it and I’d have b/u plans.
[–]TuckerTheCuckFucker 19 points20 points21 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Do it in a way where you’re not making it seem like you’re desperate.
For example… instead of saying “are we still on?” Say… “hey I had something come up on Friday that’s going to set me about an hour back. So I’ll pick you up at 9 instead of 8”
[–]Leonisia 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Simple as that. Good luck anyway.
[–]IamRocksteady 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Did you get a firm confirmation from her, meaning she agreed for Friday, or was it just kind of a "maybe" or "call me later so I can confirm" kind of situation? If you don't have a firm commitment from her, I wouldn't contact her for at least another week or two.
[–]andrewpwiener 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Best advice -- I usually don't even give them that, if I'm messaging it's either for nudes or to set up a date right away. "hey it's Mark from wherever let's get drinks at the local bar for 7pm" if they bail or are unsure I follow up with some joke that kinda revolves around something like this "are you going to go your whole life living like a shuttered in an old lady? Or do you want to take a chance ; )" if they don't respond to that I'm out. I move on. There are other women out there. I don't really like messaging over and over unless it's for nudes.
[–]TestaverdeRules 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This is the way
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This method gave me another date with a girl, great time we had with some drinks in the city. I should have kissed her though. Now it's over, onto the next!
[–]MO_drps_knwldg 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is the way.
[–]therealslimshady1234 265 points266 points267 points 4 years ago (25 children) | Copy Link
Move on to the next
[–]IntrovertedButSocial 46 points47 points48 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
[–]Sumieru 35 points36 points37 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Hit the road jack
[–]Yerebeets 28 points29 points30 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
And don't you come back no more, no more, no more, no more, hit the road jack?
[–]HoneySquash 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
I'd say hit her up like nothing happened after a few days or so and invite her to a date. You have nothing to lose here, maybe it's a situation that has turned in your favor, knowing that they most likely talked about you and she could be curious after that. Just a guess, but you never know.
If she doesn't reciprocate after the second message then, yeah, move on.
[–]YediPublic 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just heard this song yesterday. Listening on repeat.
[–][deleted] 51 points52 points53 points 4 years ago (17 children) | Copy Link
I think this a very ego driven response that's quite wasteful with opportunities. Girls will flake for a myriad of reasons, and even if a simple follow up only works 15% of the time, that's still better than 0%. There's no harm in just sending a follow up text, drop your ego and do what gets the best results.
[–]kuavi 26 points27 points28 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Constantly trying to continue dead conversations does mess with your inner psyche though. It makes you enter/stay in a mindset of neediness, you're essentially trying to impress someone enough to continue talking with you that already has given you a soft rejection. If they liked you as much as you'd want them to, you'd know.
Gotta demonstrate value and good conversation skills from the get go. If she doesn't do her part to keep up the conversation and you're trying to keep it going, you're just wasting your time with someone who's on the fence about you at best.
I'm not into the instagram side of things so maybe that's an angle of naturally reigniting conversation without keeping flaky people in your headspace but that's a question for someone else to answer.
[–]Aristox 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
True. But if you can be internally strong enough to not let it mess with you (which i think there are ways to do) then you can get the benefit of those extra %s
[–]kuavi 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That's not the abundance mindset though unfortunately. The women that are sort of/are ignoring you just are not interested enough. If you're being put on read and shes not responding, you're her plan B AT BEST, honestly probably more like option #12 at that point.
There are techniques to cope with rejection by not being her priority but to pursue a woman that you've shot your shot with and is tepid at best about you is needy behavior and no internal technique is gonna change that that I'm aware of.
Her mindset about you being disposable isnt going to magically disappear if you somehow manage to go out with her. You know at least on a subconscious level you're way more invested in her than she is you and you have to continue winning her over or she walks.
It's a hard pill to swallow, I struggle with it sometimes still. It feels counterintuitive to be more successful by turning down potential opportunities but it's the best move for you and the women around you in the long run. I just want the best for all y'all.
[–]toltheplug 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
It's definitely not. Women know you texted them already. If they're not texting back it's because they don't want to. They spend so much time on their phones, believe me they've seen your messages. It's better to just move tf on.
[–]Aristox 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Plenty of women forget about text messages. Plenty of men do and women are humans too. But women generally have way more people texting them so forgetting to reply, being text fatigued etc is definitely a thing and probably happens even more with women
[–]toltheplug 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Of course they forget. You just where never that important for them to text back. If they really cared then you would be a priority for them. Even with all the other texts from friends and family they will still get back to you if you're the best option.
[–]Aristox 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Just because you haven't blown them away yet doesn't mean you have no chance. Yes, her responding to you straight away and being super keen is ideal. But there are plenty of levels below ideal that can still be turned into something if you play your cards right rather than giving up
[–]EngineerDude756 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
How would you go from a less than ideal position to a positive outcome?
[–]Aristox 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Doing a good enough job at texting that she increases in interest in you over time. Standard textgame. It's not necessarily easy, but there's no point in writing it off as if it's impossible
[–]EngineerDude756 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
My text game is to not text them anything unless I’m telling them where to meet me. I don’t feel like texting ever comes to a positive outcome. I feel like it just signals that you have nothing better to do but text them and can come off as needy. What do you do to avoid that?
[–]Aristox 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
Sounds like your text game is to avoid having a text game.
To avoid coming off as needy send some interesting texts that she'll want to reply to.
I'm not saying you keep texting her over and over when she's not replying. But it's not needy to have a conversation with someone you're both engaged in, so the trick is to develop an ability to hold an interesting conversation over text. There are some good resources available for that if you look, but really it builds off being able to have a good conversation face to face. Channels like The Natural Lifestyles and Charisma On Command can help with that
[–]tnilesh02 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Try 3 times, move on
[–]150420throwaway 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I tried to ask a girl out to do something twice, after the second “I’ll be working on that day” I stopped messaging, ain’t wasting my time.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah that seems like a good rule. Past that your behavior starts to look like that of a stalker.
[–]HoneySquash 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I like the "two strike rule". Once a mistake, twice a choice. Only on rare ocassions there could be a third time.
[–]150420throwaway 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Wouldn’t need to ‘drop my ego’ if their own ego wasn’t overinflated. Just because your (not you specifically) attention span is fucked up because of instant gratification/a bombardment of attention from thirsty dudes that doesn’t justify you.
[–]surfershane25 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
While I sometimes agree and maybe would in this case, I’ve revamped a few situations like this. Once it turned into a 5+ year relationship and one currently I revamped last week I’m now hooking up with, so idk if this is always the best course of action anecdotally.
[–]Nearby_Advance7443 20 points21 points22 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
While I struggle with women I’ve studied enough to understand the how, I just have nerves and application problems. But texting game is the same as the rest of dating game, in that it’s a game and should be fun. So be playful and entertain yourself with it. A silent girl in text is only a challenge that we should take on with enthusiasm. Wait an amount of time that feels appropriate to the circumstances, ensure you don’t sound too needy, and go for it. No amount of silence is ever total game over, just refrain from being needy. The only absolute game over is when she explicitly asks you to leave her alone. That is when you should knock it off and never text her again. Otherwise, it’s just a game.
[–][deleted] 14 points15 points16 points 4 years ago* (8 children) | Copy Link
Wait a sec, did you "kinda" set a date or did you ACTUALLY set a date? Solid date plans involve a DAY and a TIME and a VENUE. That wishy washy energy has a lot more bearing on your success than anything else you posted, a lot of which is based on speculation.
Also, a lot of guys are a bit too pessimistic about silence. It happens. Sometimes conversations come to an end. Or maybe your question was a lame/weird one. Anyway, if you've already made SOLID plans to meet a girl, small talking the girl to death is not the move.
Finally, you need to express healthy entitlement and confident persistence. My frame is this: If we've had established plans and she goes quiet once that's a bit weird. And I have no problem double texting in a playful way that assumes the positive, which is exactly how I would handle it if it was a homie I had plans with.
[–]Yerebeets 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Well I’ll try to make it as short as possible.
I asked her out and said I’m available on either next friday or sunday and we can go to a cocktail bar nearby at 8 o’clock.
She said she’d love to go out and that saturday suits her better. Then after 5 mins she told me that she forgot that she already has plans that day. I didn’t reply but sent her (and others) an insta photo that lasts for 10 secs of myself going out, she liked it and asked me “Where are you going?☺️” so she clearly has shown some interest. I replied today in the afternoon and sent a picture, which she opened and liked, but hasn’t responded to me rescheduling the date to friday.
Now this friend of her I am talking about in OP saw me last week while I was on a date with another girl, maybe she mentioned me and that girl told her that, which might be the reason for her ghosting me.
[–][deleted] 11 points12 points13 points 4 years ago* (5 children) | Copy Link
Ah, thanks for the much improved context. This sounds like pretty standard stuff and not a ghost at all. You're still handling logistics, but sometimes when you get a no/not yet, it sets you back to other phrases of conversation. You also replied a day later seems like (not saying it's an issue), where the energy of partying/talking about partying had died down. And she still did respond to the pic you sent in the form of a like.
but hasn’t responded to me rescheduling the date to friday.
In text logic, there was nothing left for her to respond to. You proposed two days, she counteroffered with Saturday but then realized she had other plans. Maybe true. Maybe not. But the point is as I said, you guys had moved on to other parts of conversation. If you want things to go back to plans, you've got to guide it back there -- in a smooth way.
Anyway, I'd circle back maybe Tues/Weds, build up the convo a bit again, and then ask her out. If she's still giving you the runaround, that's when you move on. But I don't think you can say that for sure yet.
Finally, don't plan dates a week out. Especially if you're on the younger side and dealing with younger women. Focus on date plans that are 2-3 days out. Anything else is eons away.
[–]OrangeMustard101 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Hey do you think you could go look at my recent post on this subreddit, could use some help
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
What's the story? Looks like that post was deleted.
[–]OrangeMustard101 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Oh yeah I think the mod deleted it. Anyways so I dmed this girl from my class and asked her about the project report. Then she agreed to go study with me over coffee on Saturday. However later she said she was busy and had work the next day so it was her only day to study.
Funny enough the one place I go to study, I see her but just make eye contact and go upstairs. I was with my roommate, and like an hour or two later I went up to go say hi to her.
I basically asked if she had finished that assignment that was due (we were in the same class). I told her she looks great and that it was nice to see her.
So the day before this is what happened in the dm:
In the dm after she had said she probably can’t study with me since it was her only day to study, I said “no worries I understand, maybe we can do something after break”
Her only response was to like the message and then gave me a follow on Instagram. Should I just not text her anymore or wait until break since we have finals right now?
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
Biggest issue here sounds like one of intent. Is this a romantic interaction or a platonic one? This needs to be clear. Obviously not over the top -- you guys are in the same class -- but you do need to bake that in. I would've framed it more like a "study break", one where you guys could've actually had some fun and had a break from this busy time. Or even an after finals celebration. This might've been a date best scheduled for a few days later, in other words.
Anyway, ya just leave some space bro. Now that you're following each other on IG, see if you can't build value that way and get her to view/respond to one of your stories. Then get another back and forth going and ask her out properly this time.
[–]OrangeMustard101 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Okay yeah I’ll probably message her in January when school is back in session. In the meantime I’m gonna hang out with my friends back home. Thanks for responding I appreciate it
[–]Aristox 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah man just send her a message proposing an alternative date/time for thd date. Sounds like she's up for it and was just busy, no need to be pessimistic
[–]Different_Spinach8 73 points74 points75 points 4 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Move on. F her. Go make money and hit the gym
[–]Yerebeets 27 points28 points29 points 4 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Maybe that really is the best thing to do, thanks man!
[+]Different_Spinach8 -19 points-18 points-17 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Bro. Never ever ever get hung up on a female even when dating. Only thing she brings to table is a box. Go out there and make something out of yourself. And these hoes will be lining up for you. Then you can show them the same attention they showed you. The door. 👍
[–]RobertChardonnay 29 points30 points31 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
This person doesn’t like or respect women.
[–]asilenth 14 points15 points16 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Yeah that comment does not indicate a healthy relationship with women. Any woman that respected herself who saw that comment would not date that person.
If you don't respect women you're only going to end up with women who don't respect themselves.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Respect is earned. Ignoring doesn't earn respect
[–]Different_Spinach8 -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Respect needs to be earned by women first. You'all will understand one day .
[–]Painkiller_830 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
ah, just my type. /s
kinda
[–][deleted] 10 points11 points12 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Her not responding was her response
[–]FrostedFluke 47 points48 points49 points 4 years ago* (12 children) | Copy Link
Everyone is saying move on because in those situations their ego's get in the way so it's easier to move on.
Personally I love a challenge and I don't take these personally.
Ghost her for a few days/week. If she reacts to a story of yours or messages you, ignore. Leave her on read.
Text her back a week or so like nothing happened and don't ask, but tell her, Let's go out sometime.
If you really don't give a fuck, you can get away with saying "go out with me." some girls love the directness.
Edit: You mentioned you have something set up for Friday. Don't text her on Wednesday it's needy. I'd personally hit her up on Friday with a quick text like "Hey you still good for today?"
If she makes up an excuse or leaves you on read or replies 10 hours later. 'all good' and then just message her the week after.
[–][deleted] 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
Pretty much this. Everyone's ego is on full display whenever this question is asked. They offer sub-optimal advice that'll get less results because it makes them feel more macho.
As for the confirmation texts, I personally don't even send one the day of. We have plans, she knows when we're meeting. If she needs to change that, ball is in her court to tell me. If she flakes, then I'll just go approach other girls instead.
[–]FrostedFluke 19 points20 points21 points 4 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
I personally don't even send one the day of. We have plans, she knows when we're meeting. If she needs to change that, ball is in her court to tell me.
I mean, I'll usually send one an hour or 2 before meeting up. You'd look like a downright idiot if you show up and she doesn't because 'omfg I forgot!' or because she assumes it's not on anymore because you didn't send a text. You're just waiting there like an idiot and you send her a text saying "hey I'm here" lol
A lot of the times they'd text you first for confirmation but these kind of texts are standard and common courtesy imo.
[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
I never send texts like that to my male friends. I know that we made plans and are both mature enough to remember the plans and to let the other know if something came up. Why should I treat a girl any different, I respect her enough to lmk if her plans have changed.
[–]RobertChardonnay 18 points19 points20 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Confirming the date the day of shows her YOURE not a flake and that she can relax because you’re a responsible adult, which is what she wants.
[–]FrostedFluke 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly. She's probably nervous herself if this is a new thing/first date.
[+][deleted] -10 points-9 points-8 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
If she's a mature potential partner, she'd trust me to let her know if something comes up, as I trust her to let me know. All I see confirmation texts as is insecurity. "I'm scared you won't show up so I'm going to needlessly ask you to confirm something you've already confirmed."
[–]RobertChardonnay 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Confirming plans is the mature thing to do because it handles any fears KF flaking, irrational or not. It demonstrates to the women that you’re an adult and you’ve got it handled.
[–][deleted] -5 points-4 points-3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I just don't see it that way, but that's maybe just because I don't send confirmation texts with my friends in the first place. It just seems like sending her an invitation to flake.
[–]FrostedFluke 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Lol talk about ego and machoism you're no better. It looks like your ego is on 'full display' right now.
It's a simple text to check in with a girl who you don't know and is probably nervous to meet you for the first time. It's common courtesy, it's respect, it's normal.
I don't check with my friends, girls or guys because I know them. No shit dude
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Look I just try to think about things in dating logically, and to me sending a confirmation text provides no benefit at all. Best case scenario, the plans stay exactly the same. While there is risk to it, she could see the text as an easy chance to flake. Like you said, people feel anxiety about meeting someone new for the first time, so in a moment of anxiety might take an easy way out of meeting up. I like to avoid activities in my life that have no reward and some risk.
[–]FrostedFluke 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
There must be a disconnect or miscommunication between us.
To OPs post, she just double tapped his message of meeting up... Which imo is not enough to assume the date is still on. Which is what you commented on saying 'I wouldn't text to confirm'
That's what continued our convo and just took a different turn.
If you agree on a date 1-2 days from now (no double tap reaction on the msg), then yeah, I probably wouldn't text to confirm. If the date was agreed a week from now, high chance a confirmation text is needed.
Ppl forget, life gets in the way, ppl are busy, I know I'd appreciate a text like that.
There's no 'set rule' you follow when dating, it's intuition and experience. You go with your gut. If it works for you good. I know what works for me.
And to your point, I actually think it's a lot easier to flake if you don't send the text. Easier for her to assume the date is not on if no one mentions it. You send her a text then it becomes a lot harder for her to reject you because now it's definitely on.
[–][deleted] 41 points42 points43 points 4 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link
The responses on here are very ego-driven. A bunch of guys who can't handle a girl not responding to them, so it's easier to just say "fuck her, on to the next." In reality, a simple follow up is going to at least some % of the time (probably somewhere between 10-20% depending on the girl) reignite the conversation.
Ego is a major results killer. It's just like with rejection. If you're too afraid to get rejected, you're not putting yourself out there enough and lowering the volume of girls you get a chance with to begin with. So just send a harmless follow-up message (change the topic completely) in 3-4 days, knowing she probably won't answer. Don't just directly ask her out in the first message, build up to it through some small talk. In the long-run, this will generate you several more date opportunites than letting your ego take control and just nexting her.
[–]cronasminate 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I personally experimented with this method and it "can" work if you really want to lay her. But from my experience, it's only really worth it if the girl is REALLY hot and if you are open to being in a relationship with her, otherwise it's a waste of your time and sanity. The hoops you will go through essentially makes it so that you are getting to know each other and utilizing "mere exposure" to generate attraction. It's fucking boring and just makes me feel like I might as well be your typical dude who puts up with a boring wife.
I guess each person has their own needs, but I have come to a point where if the girl shows the least bit of hesitation I right then and there tell her she just fucked up and I move on. I don't give a fuck about getting laid more. I've come to a point where fucking another girl doesn't add that much to my life. I care about feeling good about what I do and begging for a text is not one of them.
[–]chad2192 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Thank God someone said it. And it's not ego a lot of these guys have, it's just straight up insecurity
[–][deleted] 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Perhaps some would argue it's "self respect," but personally I've become so disillusioned with the dating game, that I've come to think of things very logically. It's a numbers game, and I'm not going to waste a chance to meet someone. The relationship doesn't really start until we get on a date, so just because she's flaky pre date doesn't mean she's not going to be your ideal type once you get her out on the date. Meeting someone new comes with anxiety for women too, she could flaking out of nervousness... Or maybe she just literally had something come up. I'm all for getting as many girls out on dates as possible. The more you go on a date with, the more likely it is you find the one you want to be with.
That's the crux of cold approach. Being willing to set ego and insecurity aside and be vulnerable with strangers, full well knowing 95 out of 100 won't date you. Because you know that in approaching those 100 girls, you just found 5 dates that dudes too proud to risk embarrassment didn't find. Because you view things from a long run perspective, and know dating is a simple numbers game.
[–]UnparliamentaryTea 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is absolutely correct. I’ve realized recently that my own ego gets in my way the majority of the time, even with friends. A double text at least demonstrates your intent to try to get to know that person. The “if they wanted to, they would” concept works way better for women than men, because of the differences in directness of both. Most women are going to test, send hot and cold signals, and be looking for a reason not to go out with someone. You can expect some flakiness early on. In OP’s case, this girl’s friend could think OP is a player and told the girl that. Maybe she had something else going on, whatever. Better to try to make the connection and fail (then say “oh well,” and move on) than pretend you don’t care and avoid someone you’d rather actually talk to
[–]daysofourknives 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Remember king we don't chase, We replace.. Keep your head up king 👑
[–]TheGnosionaut 36 points37 points38 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You should be texting 3 or more girls at the same time at all times.
[–]Yerebeets 28 points29 points30 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm texting with 6-7 girls at the same time because I'm well aware of flaking or conversations just not going in a right direction, but sometimes you just want to get this one haha
[–]gmilfmoneymilk 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You don't. Trying to re-ignite shows desperation.
[–]tanenbaum 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Should I directly ask her why she didn’t respond / ghosted?
No. Never. That shit is just needy. Bring up something new like her behavior never happened.
You don’t.
[–]chedeezybeats 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You don’t..
[–]khanhvu15 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How about no?
[–]Stevpie 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Send a funny meme reminding you of her.. Once she replies, start a new convo and ask her out again. If she's still being flakey than move on.
[–]maxkapital 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Acrobatic_Ad_9442 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Let go, move on, don’t let it bruise your ego. But the sooner you let this one go, the sooner you find the next. Do not waste your time with this one.
Do nothing and just wait. When a girl goes cold for any perceived red flag she’ll often work her way back if you don’t make any attempt to get her attention again.
[–]Cookies993 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don’t chase. If a girl wants you, she will make it easy. Chasing only makes you look low-value.
[–]Mmm91for[🍰] 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You don’t, on to the next
[–]JacobMoogberg69 -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My nigga stop texting and start making moves. Women want to fuck as much as we do but they can't find fuck worthy guys because they all behave just like you. Endless texting and beating around the bush until their pussy dries up.
[–]BrummieAMN19 -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Some atrocious advice in the comments here fucking hell. Respond with “Ah 2021, where the likes are responses” don’t be one of those guys that believes in “never double texting bro” or “make her chase” they’re just ego driven, entitled and insecure. Always be persistent with the girls you’re interested in, if it’s more than a day since she liked it send my response.
[–]Beezus333 -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Move on bro, FreshnFit on yt is all you need lol
[–]Nasacort420 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
cringe YT channel
[–]Beezus333 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Obviously u don’t like truth, but that’s ok, we’re all different!
[–]Transurfer_ -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Remove re and ignite with a new one brodhaaa
[–]Delicious_Jackoff -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ask her politely if everything is okay. Then ghost for a few days if she responds. Say you weren't expecting one and sent it for common courtesy. If you gotta ghost be good at haunting.
[–]STROOQ 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don't. Not worthy of your time.
[–]PupperMaster1205 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I like sending a meme or reacting to a story or something
[–]tryingmybestatm 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
if she's not acting the way u want her to act, dont give her attention.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If she doesnt respond, move on.
Call it a day and move on.Less drama.
[–]Fragmentsbysls 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I’m confused. Did she share the information with the girl you were texting? You gotta be more precise here like put girl A and Girl B.
[–]Yerebeets 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I don’t know for sure, but she might. The friend of a girl who now ghosted me, also saw me going on a date with another girl previous week
[–]Fragmentsbysls 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Conversation was removed smh :/ can anyone see it ?
[–]UrFavPlayerIsBack 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Depends how bad u fucked it up
In general- a week or two(if u have options) should be fine. IF you’re not gona be same boring ass loser like be4
Ghost her for now (including not watching stories) go for the next one, get laid at least 2-3 times, make some badass stories, then if u still will wanna ping her, then go ahead. The idea is: abundance mindset
Ps: never call her out when she’s acting disinterested (u can playfully flip the script but thats another story)
Call her out on direct disrespect only.
[–]TheBurgessChurchill 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
It depends. do not call her out. Regardless of what pick up artists say, it does not work. If she were your girlfriend then yes, you can call her out but she isn't so it's a completely different scenario. In my experience, when you call a girl out, it doesn't usually go the way you want it to go. I've never seen it go well. You said that she only liked your text. It might just be that your text didn't require a response from her. What did you send her? You can send me a direct message if you want and I can help you. I specialize in text game and seducing girls (models) on Instagram.
[–]Emper0rMing 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'd write it off and move onto new things.
[–]cormacru999 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Leave it alone, there are millions of other women. Or go ahead & poke that bear & see what happens. No one owes you an explanation or answer unless you have a relationship with them. If you're chatting with someone, seeing where it goes, you don't really know them that well, they don't owe you anything. It is the nicest thing to do? No, of course not. But often, everyone else is unsure how to handle certain situations too & in the long run, when you don't make a scene, you might run into her a year from now & she'll have decided that other girl was a jerk & remember that you were very peaceful about how this went & she'll be interested again.
Or you demand that she explain & you accuse her of siding with another girl that doesn't like you & she thinks omg the drama with this dude, good thing I didn't date him, & then both of those girls warn any other girl that knows them & you.
Evey choice we make has consequences & the wisest think out the extended ramifications of our choices long term instead of short term. It sounds like you have an idea about why she ghosted you. Do you really need to demand that she prove it? Does it matter? Would asking her convince her that you're actually a decent guy or would it confirm that you're not?
Like I said, let it go, move on to someone else..
[–]maplemario 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I love the way Todd V describes this, what you want to do is basically don't force yourself to text anything to her, give yourself a few days, and when you find an opportunity to, "send value into the void". Send her something cool that she will find interesting, don't make it so that she seems obligated to respond, counter intuitively this will make her more likely to respond.
(This is where you have to be able to read your audience, for example I meet a lot of girls through the music scene and I'm a musician, so generally I have something interesting and valuable to send to those girls a few times a week when I make something cool in the studio.)
And if she still ghosts, consider the ratio of the work you're putting in vs. the results you're getting and if you would be getting better value spending time on another girl.
[–]2wood4u 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Send a dick pic. Works every time
[–]Merenga 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Love should be easy
[–]skank_hunt48 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just don't text her if she's ignoring you she finds you and your insistence creepy
Stay on your purpose (working out) whatever it is that you like to do. Don’t force anything, show her you don’t need her (you really don’t). If it was up to me I would just drop her (not an ego thing but if she wanted to hangout she would, I wouldn’t want to waste my time)
Its checkmate. You dont
[–]smind893 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I met a sexy customer at my job in 2017, kept in touch via IG for all these years. She moved to Va (I'm in NYC) & when she was in NYC visiting a friend, I told her about a lady friend who sings in a cover band, this year!!!
She showed up cause she too is a singer so she was into going. We had drinks, got food, messed around, she had to head back cause she had an early bus & we talk now and then for a link up next year.
Always keep a lady around whether they don't respond or break a date or whatever. Unless she says she doesn't want to speak to you or blocks you, just play it cool.
Continue to "LIKE" her posts or leave a comment if that's what you normally do. When something you know she's into comes up, something unique not the new Spiderman movie or w/e, invite her.
The main thing is never focus on one woman, but never drop contact with a woman cause there's always tomorrow.
[–]Majestic_Meal_5655 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
When a girl ghost you, you take your "L" like a boss and keep it moving. If you want an explanation this means she has very very low interest in you. Why did she play around? Chicks love attention, that's what they all crave. Never double text thes dumb girls back after something like that.
[–]Puzzleheaded-Pack513 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Be persistent, keep texting her sweet things& asking how she’s doing. Show her you really care and are a good guy. Maybe not the same guy her friend knew. Don’t worry about the friend, show her you can control your emotions & thoughts about her & the other girl being friends & not worrying about what the friend says. Be confident& honest. Not confrontational or rude.
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