Do you text a girl everyday until the date?

geardluffy · 2022-08-15T02:31:04+00:00

Yes multiple times in the day and double text when she takes time to reply

Impressive-Sun-4791 · 2022-08-15T03:24:35+00:00

It depends on the girl really. I personally don't mind not texting until the day of the date, I find it more exciting. However I wouldn't mind a small text every day or other day just to see the guy is reliable and we'll go on that date. my flatmate who's the same age as me gets quite worried or a bit offended if the guy doesn't keep the texting going until the date.

Cookies993 · 2022-08-15T01:57:59+00:00

If it feels natural, but don’t overthink it and don’t overwhelm her. I prefer to just send random snaps of what I’m doing, without expecting any response.

Like if I’m out climbing, I’ll take a photo, and send it to some friends and the date I’ve planned. If she answers with a question, then I assume she wants to get to know me better before the date, else I don’t overthink it and just treat her as any other person until the date.

yiggaman · 2022-08-15T04:25:50+00:00

Ain't no rules to this shit every women is different bruh. It's everyman for themselves till you smash or get ghosted

docbarbell · 2022-08-15T02:36:22+00:00

Only if youre trying to turn her off.

GhoulChaser · 2022-08-15T03:23:13+00:00

I believe you should be engaging but not overbearing .. once you set the date the only text that should be sent afterwards is like a heads up message. If she’s truly into you though keep the convo light hearted and brief.

debu206 · 2022-08-15T08:27:22+00:00

Sample text for dating

Text thread 1 : hi, lets get drinks this week Close this with a location near your place.

Text thread 2 : during the day of the date, hi see you tonight!

Sends confirmation and builds excitement

Text 3 : post successful date, hi lets meet during the week!

Keep texting to an absolute minimum, that way it builds anticipation. Texting DESTROYS sexual tension.

Talk in real life. Girls do not know how to keep sexual tension.

Thats your job bro ;)

CaptainDolin · 2022-08-15T08:56:58+00:00

Start everyday with a "good morning" and end it with "good night bby xx" and take weeks to arrange a real date; preferably letting her take the lead into arranging one.

Daily texting, avoid short sentence answers, write whole paragraphs about your personal life so she already knows everything about you and truly commit to this one lady online. If she doesn't respond within 10 minutes, send her another text because she might feel down and this will cheer her up.

Happy dating! Cheers.

Technical_Hawk8547 · 2022-08-15T02:38:30+00:00

Personally hate texting. Just use it to set up the date. Don’t usually send her anything till the day of. So much is missed through text and can be misunderstood. Texting is the worst thing to happen to dating imo

tudorcj · 2022-08-15T07:45:42+00:00

Oh boy, the comments here … absolutely awful. This sub is pretty much full of incels.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with texting, even after setting a date. This “being mysterious” approach is just bullshit - just be yourself; if she likes you for you then you won’t have to keep up a fake persona whenever she is around.

There are some girls that you just click with from the very beginning - you feel like you could both talk for hours on end, without it feeling exhausting. It’s rare to have that and incredibly stupid to fight it just to follow some stupid online dating coach strategy. Just talk to her, making sure to leave the best conversation topics for the date itself - I even use this line: “yeah, that’s a very good question - we’ll definitely talk about it on our date”; that way she knows it’s something interesting and you’re still looking forward to the date, making her more interested too.

switowski101 · 2022-08-15T13:48:45+00:00

Reciprocate the energy she gives you

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-08-15T05:21:41+00:00

Only if you want her to block you.

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-08-15T02:47:52+00:00

Yes absolutely...if you want her to flake on you and think you are no life loser.

unconditionall0v3 · 2022-08-15T04:52:00+00:00

I'm a woman and I can tell you my communication needs vary vastly from person to person and my current work load. I personally would just ask what level of communication she is comfortable with and go from there. How much communication do you need? Don't always settle for what the girl wants. Your needs matter, too.

xx_edgyyy_xx · 2022-08-15T02:17:59+00:00

Nope and I don’t text everyday either. Builds more suspense that way for the day of the date.

zisehuar · 2022-08-15T02:49:09+00:00

Good question. Let's say there's a week in between and you haven't met yet. Text a few times, initiate. Definitely do not play hard to get whe she texts, but wait a few minutes to respond when she first texts. Then, you can carry on the texting conversation if that's what happens. Once you've met, switch it up with a phone call here and there to stand out and ask her if that's what she likes.

CanUnusual8729 · 2022-08-15T03:08:56+00:00

No. No. No.

Mmm91for · 2022-08-15T03:19:41+00:00

By doing this your giving them what they want without anything in return: validation.

Jerbear3454 · 2022-08-15T03:39:42+00:00

I wouldn’t at all

unconditionall0v3 · 2022-08-15T04:51:39+00:00

I'm a woman and I can tell you my communication needs vary vastly from person to person and my current work load. I personally would just ask what level of communication she is comfortable with and go from there. How much communication do you need? Don't always settle for what the girl wants. Your needs matter, too.

Successful_Teach366 · 2022-08-15T06:38:50+00:00

Hell to the naw. Destroys the lure for her getting to know you. Unless you’re meeting up the next day lol

Delicatestatesmen · 2022-08-15T02:21:12+00:00

fuk no loser

Subject-Craft5870 · 2022-08-15T03:11:01+00:00

No!!!!!! That is a huge turn off! Do not text her! Remain a little mysterious

Nodnarb4740 · 2022-08-15T05:51:54+00:00

Minimal texting until first date

helpMeOut9999 · 2022-08-15T06:21:14+00:00

No. At best maybe one little breadcrum

YouGotTangoed · 2022-08-15T07:48:59+00:00

Nope, just text and call her a day before the date

incognito3107 · 2022-08-15T07:52:35+00:00

You can text her if it comes naturally, also to confirm your meeting. But otherwise, there is little reason to do so, date in real life will set your relation status in a big way anyway.

Neo-Rio · 2022-08-15T08:04:50+00:00

Dating sucks. Go somewhere, do your thing, invite her to tag along.

Set it up from the beginning that you want to see her, but there's a price to be paid, and that price is to make some effort. Of course you don't verbalize it, but you need to neutralize any sense of neediness you might be projecting onto her.

texting a girl all the time is just...lame.

jogustin · 2022-08-15T10:00:23+00:00

Never. I never text with girls in any way. A text massage is missing 80 to 90% of the communication its just the message no tone no body language no breaks not even the fucking smileys can do that stuff. When you want to set a date call her have a little fun on the phone while talking to her about literally anything that will make her smile, just a little bit is enough. Then tell her i am at anywhere you want to go with her at anytime you habe time and think maybe she has time do you want to meet there. If she says she has no time you answer. „Thats really sad i would like to meet you and hang out some time this week“ then shut the fuck up and let her think about what you just said her she has to reply first her reaction will tell you if shes interested in a date or not. After that i bet you are smart enough to set up a „date“ if you like. Do something fun nothing like dinner or cinema for a first date thats fucking boring and there is to much thinking involved girls like it when you get their emotions going and if you are not really good with words and talk dinner is not the best option in the beginning. When you have a set time and place do not Text again. If shes more then 10 min late to the meeting send a single question mark ? and start tondo something else after 5 more min with no answer leave and do not reply to any texts the next two hours it has to be at least a call from her. And donnot start texting afterwards you are allowed to text after at least two dates. I am in a relationship wit my lawyer girlfriend for 6 fucking years we do not text up until now and shes complaining about that for at least 5 years and 11 month. Texts are missing the biggest part of the communication and its the part thats important to women.

Jaded-Environment-95 · 2022-08-15T11:43:32+00:00

No, no, no! Big mistake. Phone is for setting date only! What is there to talk about on date if been texting everyday. Face-face allows for greater, more meaningful experience. The person will already know everything about you by time of date if been texting everyday. If they even show up. Lots of guys will talk a woman right out of date by over pursuing. Comes off as needy, having a scarcity, weak!

hookedonfonicsmunky · 2022-08-15T12:03:12+00:00

i've had either, i've had girls that would be up my ass texting a lot, which i don't mind, sometimes you can tell what they like, which is why, if possible it's best to get the number and plan the date ASAP like within a few days

Zubi_Q · 2022-08-15T12:31:04+00:00

Nope, you only text to confirm the time and place

grindforthegold · 2022-08-15T13:41:13+00:00

Ill type up my take. I usually text and ask them out on day one or like a few texts in. Then once set up I try to call them that same day if the date is a bit far to build some rapper and then say goodnight and imitate again a few days later. If the date is soon or they’re not down for a phone call i’ll just say i’m tired say goodnight and text her again two or 3 days later like hey how’s your week going text another day and then repeat

V-Future · 2022-08-15T14:18:11+00:00

Don't become the text buddy, only text her before and after the date for example "Hi, I'm going to this event and I want you to come with me so I will be picking you up at 8pm". So you are on the date blah blah then you finish the date and if it was a good one she will write you first so you write her too.

This is easy, please don't interview women during a date, "do you live by your own?" Or "What do you do for a living?" Or "Do you have sisters?" That's stupid and boring. Don't judge her because that's a pussy dryier. Just keep it fun, light and don't give her "friend vibes."

froze_gold · 2022-08-15T14:36:05+00:00

Hell naw mafucka

gillmanblacklagooner · 2022-08-15T14:46:19+00:00

Balance is key. Try not to overtext her but don’t be a ghost. Send her funny/cute things and analyze if she’s starting new conversations really into the talks or just answering you.

aspellman_ · 2022-08-15T15:09:32+00:00

Yes!!!! If you dont at least a few times throughout the week even as a check in then she'll think you either lost interest or are planning on standing her up, this happened to me and my date said he "forgot we had plans", it was not fun so even a little hey cant wait for this (whatever day youre going out). Just to show that you havent forgotten!

vicvicious420 · 2022-08-15T15:49:21+00:00

I lose interest if guys dont text me everyday before we meet up. I've actually canceled dates to go out with guys that seem more interested in me because I didn't want to waste my time if someone doesn't seem interested but that depends on if you are looking for casual or serious relationships. I was looking for a serious one so guys that played games got ghosted.

CollectionOld3374 · 2022-08-15T16:20:47+00:00

No…FaceTime only the night before

drewcer · 2022-08-15T17:44:07+00:00

Not necessarily. I text day before or morning of to give her tidbits of my life and to confirm, like:

“about to work out so I look super studly for our date. still on for [time]?”

Other than that I think it’s generally good to keep in contact every so often so you’re top of mind with how much women can flake these days, some girls that’s needed more than others. But if you do don’t do it in a needy way.

2022-08-15T18:04:38+00:00

Totally depends on the girl and how into it is she is. You have to read the room.

MikeeX1995 · 2022-08-15T18:18:03+00:00

Text for logistics only, save the talking when face to face.

Flamenco_Guy · 2022-08-15T18:34:07+00:00

No! Don’t! You’ll appear needy and unconfident!

External_Lifeguard49 · 2022-08-15T20:29:53+00:00

Not really. I just don’t like to give women too much of my attention and time until I see them on the date.

ThriftStoreDildo · 2022-08-16T00:16:06+00:00

you should be sending her long paragraphs about your future together. it works everytime

if this was actually a serious question, generally no unless she's talkative then I'll entertain it a bit but usually I set a date and then leave it until then.

Unlucky_Science_2674 · 2022-08-16T16:19:27+00:00

No, absence is as important as presence Give her the chance to look for you and invest in the relationship

Title	Do you text a girl everyday until the date?
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Date	August 15, 2022 1:37 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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