I dont get it. I constantly see guys in relationships with females absolutely mogging them

VisionsOfVisions · 2022-05-18T20:59:04+00:00

Many aspects of attraction are invisible. Timing, confidence, security, assertiveness (and money) are all things you may not pick up on your first glance.

Dramadons · 2022-05-18T20:59:47+00:00

Why you hating from afar though

sakkara · 2022-05-19T05:16:09+00:00

Sounds like a pretty pathetic attempt at belittling everyone who gets some pussy. Maybe put a little more effort and focus on yourself instead of belittling others.

God I hate this sub. I used to take every word on here like it's the plain truth until it dawned on me a couple of years later that most of this shit is just pathetic losers trying to be "alpha" by treating women like an alien species with no empathy for them whatsoever. It seems like this is exactly what you are lacking: empathy.

7Birdies · 2022-05-19T00:00:36+00:00

It’s coz of their kindness, emotional dependability, and genuine friendship brother. Don’t hate.

vardarac · 2022-05-18T21:00:43+00:00

You're thinking of human relationships in terms of balance sheets and equations. Stop that.

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ResponsibilityKey427 · 2022-05-19T01:29:15+00:00

Face? Status? Money?

You didn’t mention any of these.

Gymming after a certain point doesn’t do shit for SMV

I’m gonna assume they are all lean and pretty boys which is a growing niche.

themarajade1 · 2022-05-18T22:12:36+00:00

This is a really narrow and quite frankly a stupid way to look at things.

My boyfriend hadn’t had a gf before me in a decade. (He’s in his early 30’s now.) He’s friendly, but he never flirted with me, he never made a move, he’s got a dad bod, and he’s a laid back, extremely introverted, nerdy programmer. Basically what you described as a “zero game” guy.

Me, I’m really outgoing and somewhat social despite being an introvert. I’m not taller than he is. I’ve had lots of hookups and dated a lot of people. I have significantly larger friend circles than he does as well. I’m also pretty high on the attractive scale (although I don’t personally feel that way about myself all the time) and have found it relatively easy in the past to fuck whoever I wanted to. I’m very type A and stubborn, and I don’t let people walk all over me either.

But none of those things about him matter to me. What made me want to snag him up was the fact that he’s kind to me and to others, gentle, caring, and he goes above and beyond for me every day. He listens well and makes me feel motivated to do better every day. He’s a gentleman, he makes me laugh, and we had two solid years of friendship with no expectations before we started dating. When I initially told him I just wanted to be friends, he was super okay with that and never tried to persuade me into anything else. So not only is he a good boyfriend, but he’s also a really good friend to me and it makes things SO much better. Neither of us thought that we’d end up here, but we did, and I’m glad for it. It’s been worth it.

And even though he doesn’t like me to say this, despite his inexperience, he really ain’t so bad in the sack either. 🤷🏼‍♀️

I’m not saying that you should aim to become friends for two years before you start dating someone, but seeing both men and women as alpha/beta instead of just people is a really immature way of classifying others you don’t know anything about, and a sure fire way to make your dating pool really small.

Edit: Y’all are really fucking bitter.

sunsetgal24 · 2022-05-18T20:56:48+00:00

It's almost like everyone has different tastes and what you consider attractive in a man is not necessarily what everyone else considers the same. Like, instead of making up some bullshit theory that villifies women (not females btw) just accept that they are happy with their relationships. You sound like a very sad person.

Fun-Ad-3658 · 2022-05-19T01:57:37+00:00

Instead of complaining about other men getting women, find ways to improve so you can get them too.

gkantelis1 · 2022-05-19T06:03:12+00:00

Lol this is me. Except I don't have much money or social status or social skills. She just likes me 🤷

TheCultOfGrogg · 2022-05-19T13:13:46+00:00

Statistically she will cheat on those guys. Statistically, if they get married there’s a little over a 1 in 2 chance they will divorce, and 88% of the time she will pull that trigger. And statistically most relationships fail before they ever reach marriage.

My point is, relationships are largely a joke and I think you think of them far too seriously. I say this because should you get one, you will likely be too overinvested to keep it - yeah, you read that right. And even before that, you’re probably too overinvested to get one, and I’m not trying to insult you.

One thing I’ve learned about women is status is everything. If you’re THAT guy, you can all but feel women throwing themselves at you. Thing is, it’s not even about you, it’s about them wanting to be able to prove to themselves and other women that they’re THAT chick. Needless to say, your power is in the promise of a relationship, not the relationship itself. Possession degrades desire. Women don’t want to be apart of any club that will have them as a member. Rejecting women is the best way to get women, and chasing them, the worst.

I don’t date anymore as I don’t like playing these games, I don’t like building towers just to knock them down, but if getting chicks is what you want to do, there’s how. Be THAT guy. This typically means being the guy a group of friends is centered around. Any chicks that come into that circle will see their “hierarchy” in that group and typically respond favorably to it. When they do, don’t overreact. Act like you’re used to it. Prime her for a relationship by rejecting her a few times, trust me, she will still be there, she won’t go anywhere. Then on some off day when you feel like fucking, invite her over, smash, then kick her out. She’ll become obsessed with you. She’ll start leaving her shit over your house when she comes to smash, she’ll start doing you favors like buying you lunch, cleaning your house, etc… Breadcrumb her while she’s doing all of this. Give her more access to you just make a little stretch a long way. You have to keep her investment higher than your commitment, the wider that gap, the better. Just be careful because if it gets too wide she’ll give up out of hopelessness, but if it gets too slim she’ll lose interest.

FaithInStrangers94 · 2022-05-19T01:59:03+00:00

People don’t like to admit it but luck goes along way

I know a nerdy schizoid guy who was paired up with a cute girl at school for a project and they ended up dating and eventually getting engaged. Of course he had to be willing to take things in that direction but it never would have happened otherwise.

A lot of women also have bitterly low self esteem, even attractive ones, so if you can make them feel good about themselves that’s a large part of it.

Also other people can look at a lemon and see a peach and look at a peach and see a lemon, it’s just how different humans

vermicompostor · 2022-05-18T20:44:23+00:00

Money.

sleeo_xoxo · 2022-05-19T19:12:47+00:00

The most incel of incel posts

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-05-18T21:51:05+00:00

There are women out there that are attracted to beta males. They enjoy emasculating a beta male and probably peg him.

Maymaywala · 2022-05-19T05:56:00+00:00

Someone's jelly.

Aarondhp24 · 2022-05-19T04:41:24+00:00

You look at women in a very unsettling way. Given enough time, they can tell how you look at them. I'm a shallow guy that's very focused on looks and its kept me single for a good long while; not everyone, man or woman, is like me. Sometimes people love the nerdy "cute" boys.

SnooShortcuts8381 · 2022-05-18T20:45:07+00:00

We don't make rules based off of exceptions.

Fun-Ad-3658 · 2022-05-19T01:56:04+00:00

r/trueoffmychest

Kadabrium · 2022-05-19T06:18:01+00:00

This gets reposted more regularly than your menstrual cycle.

Bo0mh3adsh0t · 2022-05-19T07:05:55+00:00

Simple the amount of "Game" you need greatly diminishes after every interaction.

Girls are mostly risk averse for biological reasons and the new hot guy is higher risk than the old ok guy. Women simply don't want to risk losing their known for an unknown benefit.

incognito3107 · 2022-05-19T07:48:01+00:00

I guess most people just get into relationships by social approval of their social circles, they don't hard calculate attractiveness. Besides, I believe most men have some attractive masculine features that are revealed in proper circumstances. I think "normal" people are not placing so much importance on picking partners comparing to pickup community.

YungE_Coli · 2022-05-19T07:52:42+00:00

Better yourself for you and not for the approval of other people, you’ll get nowhere if you are comparing yourself to other people, go outside touch grass and meet new people.

immoral_mage · 2022-05-19T18:49:27+00:00

I too have observed this where I live.

Your assessment may be correct. In relationships like those social circles play a big role. Even if the guy is boring with no charisma etc, access to a good social circle can be a huge draw to girls.

The other possibility is that the relationship started when they were younger. Now days many couples start dating when they’re younger and don’t break up. Girls have much fewer options when they’re younger and back then getting any boyfriend at all is considered “cool”. People like stability so often couples just don’t break up. Having mutual friends and knowing each others parents can also make breaking up awkward so it’s a common anchor as well.

Also shyer girls have a strong preference for dating friends when it comes to them dating average/below average guys. Contrary to the whole friend zone concept shyer girls actually prefer dating a guy they know and feel safe around as opposed to a stranger.

However when a stranger is good looking they are willing to date them and “give them a chance”

Title	I dont get it. I constantly see guys in relationships with females absolutely mogging them
Author	ohropax
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Comments	71
Date	May 18, 2022 8:36 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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