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CULTURAL MISOGYNYManchurianCantaloupe/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 10:58 PM
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I stopped reading at Must wear French Tips Bruh what? Ain't no one under 22 wearing french tips 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 08:33 PM
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Men are socially conditioned to feel entitled to control and exploit women for their own benefit. When you challenge this entitlement (in most cases, simply by not accepting their abuse), they literally feel like they're being unjustly wronged on a deep psychological level. Of course, most of them don't actually consciously realize that they think this way, but it becomes immediately obvious in the difference between how they treat women who say "no" (hate and violence) and the way they treat ot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 06:12 AM
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When more than 40% of cops openly admit to committing domestic violence, I have to assume at least another 50% of them lie about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 12:23 AM
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Hey all! Quick call to action for you: In the wake of the Gabby Petito murder, YouTube kept recommending me videos from a similar channel called "Observe With Logan," who also bills himself as a "Body Language Analyst." One of his videos was analyzing the police body cam footage from MOAB. In it, "Observe" called Brian a "normal seeming dude" and claimed Gabby "seems abusive," citing the obviously defensive, superficial scratches on Brian. The video was taken down once it came out that independe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 12:21 AM
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Even ignoring the 911 call, the fact that Brian was the physical aggressor should have been immediately obvious to anyone with eyes. She's completely distraught. He's laughing and joking with the cops. Domestic violence victims have many different kinds of reactions when law enforcement gets involved, but cracking jokes with the police while their abusive partner sobs uncontrollably ain't one of them. The idea that a girl who probably weighed 110 tops presented any kind of physical threat or had…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 12:07 AM
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His hands legit look like catcher's mitts. So nasty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 06:10 PM
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Replace woman with man and YouTube would've banned it in 0.00000001
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 03:58 PM
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I've never had any success reporting misogyny on any social media platform. Things that I've reported Facebook, Instagram, YouTube etc. and been told they're "not a violation of community guidelines": Blanket statements about womens' mental/physical capabilities, i.e.: "women can't drive." Men calling a random woman a "slut" or "whore" for doing literally nothing other than publicly existing. Men saying a teenage girl is "going to get raped" for the crime of wearing a crop tee and high-waisted j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 03:55 PM
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Projection 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 12:21 PM
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It makes perfect sense when you realize the advice he's giving makes it easier to manipulate women into accepting undefined situationships and shitty behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 03:09 PM
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This woman collects convicted criminals like Pokemon cards. Sis, why??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 02:52 PM
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It's called kneecapping and it's the most infuriating verbal tic in the world once you notice it. Now that I've consciously stopped kneecapping myself at work, male clients have started complaining that I'm "blunt." Men don't speak that way and never get called out in response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 02:05 PM
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It's because they know they're also the bad men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 10:22 PM
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Fuck him and it'll be your fault when he beats you within an inch of your life for "looking at another man," or "speaking when not spoken to," too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 10:17 PM
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Schrodinger's predator. You cannot assume any man is a sexual predator until he assaults you, at which point... what did you expect being alone with a strange man, you dumb bitch?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 02:23 PM
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Operative word: family. Not Karl. 🙃 He’s chasing fame. Not exactly a puzzle if you listen to him speak for five minutes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 08:57 PM
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He's stayed married to you so he can continue riding the coattails of a wealthy, successful, beautiful woman? That dude is scum. Seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 01:30 PM
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Anyone who is equating value with wealth is missing the point & playing into capitalism/patriarchy There's a dash of willful ignorance in there, for good measure. Acknowledging our actual argument would require admitting that we're right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 08:33 PM
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One of the things that has me hesitating to ever commit to a man again is the fact that they age so damn badly. I see attractive older women every time I leave the house, but I have literally never met a man in real life over the age of 38-39 who was attractive to me. ☹️ There are like, maybe four or five famous men in that age range I find physically attractive, but they were all still MUCH better looking in their 20s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 04:48 PM
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I get approached significantly more when I, objectively speaking, am not at my most attractive. Hair in a pony tail, sweatpants, no makeup, running errands? Dudes are trying to chat me up left and right because I appear more “approachable.” Nails done, hair done, outfit on point, natural makeup? I’ve noticed men even actively trying to avoid eye contact, FFS 😂 Men who pretend like this isn’t true are the ones who are intimidated by beautiful women. It’s such a transparent attempt at a neg it’s e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 02:43 PM
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You said it yourself - he is abusive. Abusers only pretend to change when they lose control of you and ONLY as a means of roping you back in. The "good side" you occasionally see is not the "real him." I promise you this - not only will he never change, his abusive behavior will escalate if you go back to him. He will still be the abusive asshole he was before, and then he'll punish you for the perceived "injustice" of you leaving in the first place. Please google "Why Does He Do That? Lundy Ban…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 01:30 PM
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Frankly, if LVM weren't following the same pattern of shitty behavior on a damn near global scale, this sub wouldn't exist. The problem has always been that women weren't allowed to share this information without useless scrotes and pickmes jumping in to say "nOt aLl mEn aRe lIkE tHaT!!" and redirecting blame onto the woman for something she must have done to invite such shitty behavior. We have more than 150k women here who have never met each other all telling the same exact stories. Each one …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 12:49 PM
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I wouldn't shoot up a fucking school over it. So, I was listening to Dr. Wendy's "Mating Matters" podcast a couple of weeks ago after seeing it recommended here. They were talking about societies where men now greatly outnumber women (such as China) or where women are straight-up refusing to date en masse because men are shit (Japan.) Dr. Wendy and whatever academic she had on the show threw it out there as a complete aside that more relationships "lowers" the number of "sexually frustrated" men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 12:33 PM
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Do these guys lie about wanting a relationship just to attract more eyeballs to their bio? Bingo. It's very easy to look like a HVM on paper (in part because the bar is in hell.) Even the most attractive, successful, and educated men know that if they were honest about their intentions, women wouldn't match with them. Take a look at Hinge, which purports to be an app strictly for people seeking relationships. Even going so far as to claim to outright ban people who aren't. You think that would e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 12:00 PM
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Plastic surgery involved, but absolutely. He has excellent bone structure and the high cheeks will go a long way in keeping you looking young. You can see the facelift scars under his chin and the way the wrinkles pull upwards at his ears in a lot of shots from the show, however. Nothing wrong with that, his surgeon clearly knows what they're doing and the end result is pretty natural/tasteful. Unfortunately, he's giving these divorced losers in their 30s delusional expectations about how desira…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:31 PM
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The one universal truth: men are the ultimate pickmes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 10:31 PM
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Pepper spray might not be, but Bear Mace/"Dog Repellant" and other similar alternatives might.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 09:16 PM
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Also, why are we humoring the notion that a bunch of emotionally stunted manchildren are going to be opening up over a video game? The majority of multiplayer audio I've overheard was just screeching noises and racial slurs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:47 AM
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Is... is this Yungblud? Why are we concerned about the opinions of men who look like reef fish??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 02:02 AM
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It's predatory behavior and most men are predators. Disturbing, but unsurprising.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 12:19 AM
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Men don't protect women. It is only garbage they spew when they want to limit or control your freedoms. Also for when they want credit for something another (likely nonexistent) man (allegedly) did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 01:24 PM
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Yep. My cycle has been perfectly consistent to the day for over a year now. Got my first round on the 5th and my period came a week early.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 06:53 PM
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A woman who has levels of empathy that would be considered normal for a man may very well be branded as having NPD or other personality disorder. The sexes are judged on their "average" rather than an objective measure. Their psychology is not our psychology. Their normal is not our normal. Never forget that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 04:41 PM
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Yep. One teacher at my high school was known for being creepy for approximately a fifteen years before anything was done about it. He wasn't my teacher - I was in all AP/IB courses and he was one of the losers who taught gym and also, like, freshman history or something. Yet, somehow he always found an excuse to be in the computer lab when I needed to use it. Once he grabbed an assignment I printed out before I could reach it and held it until I spoke to him. One of my friends constantly talked …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 07:49 PM
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You know how FDS constantly points out that society raises men to feel entitled to time and free emotional labor from women they don't even know? And how those men turn around and shriek about how that isn't true? They really show their ass when they do things like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 07:33 PM
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I have a theory that a lot of men are told "no" so infrequently throughout their childhoods that they're literally incapable of processing it as an adult. The amount of men who have gotten mad and asked me why I "didn't just tell them no" about something after I did very loudly, multiple times is absurd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 03:15 PM
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This goes beyond LVM/NVM. They aided and abetted an insurrection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 02:49 PM
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Mirror selfies of any kind. Holding a fish or other dead animal. "Quirky" patterned suits. The Office references. "Just ask haha" Anything about pizza or pineapple on pizza. "Funny" implied nudity pictures. Photo of his (or anyone else's) car. Picture on a motorcycle. Photo of how many matches he allegedly has. (Seriously, what the fuck?) "Thoughtfully" touching his chin pose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 05:21 AM
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Believe me, it's all the same tired old rhetoric ad nauseam. Not an original thinker in the bunch. Maybe we'll do a "best of" mocking the most butthurt idiots someday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 10:22 PM
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Oh lord, here goes... Sociopath #1 Context: Scrote travels extensively for work... "Hey. What's the name of that perfume you wear? I want to buy some so I can feel like I'm with you wherever I go." This is after introducing me to his entire family and his friends. Not even a week later he tells me, completely unprompted, that he's "not ready for a relationship." Sociopath #2 "I want to be exclusive." Date him for about 6 months. Introduced me to his friends and family as his girlfriend. Multiple…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 05:38 PM
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Most men don't believe in HVM either, for what it's worth. There was an attempted comment from a man on one of the posts that hit the front page yesterday. He was droning on and on about how we're unrealistic for expecting men not to manipulate and take advantage of us. He also insisted that "romantic love" and "marital bonds" are different things... so I guess we're also asking too much to demand men not cheat on us and use us as broodmares and domestic servants? Watch out, scrote. Your Madonna…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 03:33 PM
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"Women have RIGHTS, you misogynists!!!! RIGHTS to be used and exploited by us." - AHS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 10:39 PM
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It's a real Amanda Knox situation. The accusations say a lot more about the person making them than they do the accused... I find it really illuminating that we say "porn is exploitative and bad" and they're like "so you're saying I LITERALLY CANNOT masturbate??"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 10:35 PM
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Throwing around scary buzzwords is the new go-to ad hominem attack for people without a real argument. Ten, fifteen years ago you'd just get called a homophobic/ableist slur, but now that's no longer acceptable in polite society. Dipshits have figured out that if you couch your baseless attacks within the aforementioned "woke words," they seem slightly more credible. They also effectively nuke any capacity for finding common ground or thinking rationally. "Racists," "classists," et al. are obvio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 10:29 PM
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Usernames must be censored.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 09:52 PM
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Woke Word Salad is my new favorite term. So apt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 09:47 PM
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After a long, miserable life of watching women succeed without them... they can go ahead and die mad, too. 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 09:39 PM
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The LVM that don't outright hate women straight out of the gate instead pedestalize us and then get mad and end up resenting us when they're forced to recognize that we're independent human beings with our own thoughts, feelings, and desires separate from them and their perspective. The "perfect dream girl" high school ex is a construct that doesn't exist, and therefore cannot directly contradict their deluded fantasies. They'd grow to hate her if they ever got her, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 07:09 PM
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Post the study on r/science and watch everyone lose their fucking minds trying to explain why it isn't credible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 09:47 PM
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The longer I live, the more confused I am as to why we allow men to speak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 07:59 PM
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Yup. The way the aforementioned sister talks about her relationship with her boyfriend makes me want to die. It's dripping with this faux-maturity and emotional obliviousness that's super obvious to anyone whose frontal lobe is even halfway cooked. I love her to death obviously, but it's really funny. I was definitely the same at that age. Anyone who could argue that someone eight years younger than her is a fully developed human being capable of meaningful or conscious consent is a despicable p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:16 PM
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My sister's a sophomore in college and they look like literal children to me. I've never seen one of these mythical 11-16 year old girls who could pass for 18. Not once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:09 PM
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Am I proud of how he treats me? A word on this one. If you EVER catch yourself covering up for a man's actions by not discussing them with trusted friends and family because you feel like they "won't understand" or will react negatively RUN, DO NOT WALK away from that man. Many years ago, I was dating a guy. We were invited to his friend's birthday party. It was at a rooftop bar with a beautiful city view which they had completely rented out. My point is, this wasn't a casual affair. He was wear…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:06 PM
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From the comments, you would think this is the most unjust and pressing issue facing men today. Men don't even get to go around raping and exploiting 11 year old children without consequences anymore, you guys. They're so oppressed. 😭😭 I hope all their lives are ruined.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 08:41 PM
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Yo. Chin Wonder. No one gives a fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 06:49 PM
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Blocking exits or physically moving you when you've told him you're upset or have tried to establish a boundary is a MASSIVE red flag. Even if he's doing it "playfully," or in a way that doesn't seem blatantly aggressive (i.e. remaining calm or smiling, pouting, or saying "don't be like that! just talk to me!" while physically blocking you from an exit, picking you up, holding your phone/keys/whatever, etc.) Every man who has done this to me has eventually escalated to violence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 08:46 PM
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Quite victim-blamey. How about we shame the man who wants points for not raping a woman instead?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 08:08 PM
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Pun totally not intended, but... woof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 04:04 PM
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So... he breaks up with you and as "revenge" for his own goddamn actions... decides to smash a really nice gift you made him? The average man is a sociopath and at this point, nothing will convince me otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 03:37 PM
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Oh my gawd, that reminds me. When I was in college, I started dating a guy who spoke English as a second language. He used to hound me to practice all the time and get so fucking pissy when I couldn't. I was working a full time job, a part time job, doing freelance work on the side, was a D1 athlete, and taking 12 credit hours. I was completely spent 99% of the time. It wasn't even a practical issue. EVERYONE in his country speaks English perfectly well (far better than most Americans, tbh.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 03:30 PM
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Rule of thumb, don't ever click unfamiliar links... but this is a hoax: https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/irl-texts-trafficking/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 07:59 PM
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they hate them because they make women seem more intimidating to them NOT because they actually have a sense of taste. Bingo. You'll notice that any time these men actually have a shot with these gorgeous, dolled-up, "high maintenance" women, they absolutely leap at the chance to date her. I find it very telling how every single man I've ever met has told me how much he prefers "natural," "low-maintenance" women and "hates" anything fake, yet male celebrities, actors, athletes date women who are…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 05:27 PM
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Nice find, OP! A word to the ladies who would play devil's advocate and posit "WELL MAYBE HE'S TELLING THE TRUTH??" Even if he isn't lying (he is) and he really, truly doesn't know what he wants... Do you want a grown-ass 30+ year old man who's still confused about the basics of what he wants out of life? Of course not! Keep your bitchass, fencesitting, milquetoast energy away from me, sir!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 09:41 PM
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Even some women defend it in the name of "sex positivity" It's the "cool girl" mentality taken to the nth degree. "i dOn'T cArE iF MY MANTM lOoKs aT oThEr wOmEn!! iT's nAtUrAl!!" So what if the woman on camera was coerced, drugged, abused, or raped? As long as she's seen as the chill girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 04:42 PM
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Every woman who has received this should also report the message to the Reddit admins as spam so his account gets nuked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 01:32 PM
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Also they always have weak chins and jawlines. I don't make the rules. 💅🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 01:26 PM
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Uh... don't? He's not that into you. Block, delete, and read the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 01:25 PM
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Please report him to whatever dating app that is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 10:38 PM
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Although Feminism has brought equality to many aspects of our lives, a lot of us are still coy about approaching men. Oh my god. He really has ZERO idea how transparent this is??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 01:40 PM
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Divorced men in general. Now, I don't want to say marriages never end because of LV behavior on the woman's part or due to truly irreconcilable differences in which neither party is at fault... but I am saying I've never heard of it, personally. I just haven't. Not even once. Women initiate the majority of divorces. That is a fact. Marriage disproportionately benefits men. Think about it. If he was really so amazing and high value, would she be leaving? I've watched so many women rationalize out…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 09:30 PM
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Nope, no one should respond. Commenting, liking, sharing, clicking on, and otherwise engaging with the article (regardless of whether it's positive or negative commentary) results in a boost for the article's relevancy scores. This tells the platform the content is attracting attention and prioritizes it for search results. Meaning he's rewarded for posting stupid, false, inflammatory bullshit. The best move is to ignore it completely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 07:05 PM
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they need a bat to swing at all the men begging to buy her dinner, drinks, and take her on trips YEAH, DIPSHIT. FDS IS THE BAT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 06:45 PM
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Several thousand words of poorly-formatted, grammatically incorrect nonsense and all he achieves is outing himself as someone who has never had a meaningful conversation with a woman he wasn't related to in his entire life. The fact that you could ramble on at such lengths and still fail to convey any sort of intelligent insight into anything is impressive. Edit: Unsurprisingly, his other "articles" consist almost exclusively of him pissing and moaning about his lack of success with women. Calle…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 06:39 PM
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Or they are, in fact, rapists. 😳Either way, wasn't about to stick around and find out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 09:59 PM
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Haven't dated since the pandemic, but the last two dates I went on were arranged by mutual friends. Both the guys brought up, completely unprompted, the "prevalence" of false rape allegations and "how scary it is to be a man these days." They acted blindsided when I told them I didn't want to see them again. Like what the actual fuck?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 09:52 PM
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Um. Guys who look like literal neanderthals mock the appearance of the most attractive women in the world all the time. Like thanks for your insight on how unfuckable Megan Fox apparently is, Rocky Dennis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 09:45 PM
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I was gonna skip the gym today but now I'm going just to make sure I can continue to scare off any men like Randy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:12 PM
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Says this while being unable to coordinate a basic outfit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 05:15 PM
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"I'm shaken up pretty bad 🥺🥺🥺" God, I'm laughing so hard. Men are so dramatic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 01:38 PM
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Based on the glut of triggered male reports, no, they have not. "this is LITERALLY oppreshun!!! 😡😡" Yeah, we know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 01:23 PM
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But I thought “mEn aGe lIkE wInE”? Why do they feel the need to lie to us about their age? Could it be that they know we’re not actually into gross old men? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 08:55 PM
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If it’s “not all men” surely, they could come up with some good examples. Let's be real, though... 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 08:06 PM
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My raging alcoholic, BPD ex went undiagnosed for more than a decade. Told me his therapists all said he was "too smart for therapy" so he shouldn't go. Mhm. Sure, buddy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 12:22 PM
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I believe so. u/greenteaapplepie69 can probably speak to that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 12:02 AM
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They want to live by the pander, they can die by the pander 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 11:36 PM
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"HEY GUYS. I HAVE SEX. DID YOU HEAR? I SAID I HAVE SEX. I HAVE SEX WITH WOMEN, YOU GUYS. HOT ONES. THAT I HAVE THE SEX WITH."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 11:14 PM
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Serving deranged 👏🏻 serial 👏🏻 killer 👏🏻 looks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 11:12 PM
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Nope, it's often the opposite. One of the biggest tells is that every comment is OTT nice and "positive," but offers very little in terms of insight. They also usually go out of their way to make their posts stereotypically "girly" and saccharine in a way that absolutely no adult human woman speaks. You can just tell they think we're completely insipid and vapid, and that's how their comments always read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:34 PM
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Men are never good enough at larping to get that far, fortunately. I do catch men posing as women attempting to comment all the time. There's always just something "off" about the way they try to communicate. Reason being, they've been socialized as men their entire lives and have an unbelievably warped and inaccurate perspective of what it's like to be a woman. They can never properly empathize with or get into the headspace of a group of people they clearly hate, and so they're incapable of im…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:19 PM
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Yep. None of my friends who have gotten engaged/married have been dating HVM. All of them are dating guys they're constantly bickering with, or it's just evident the contempt has set in... and they still plan on marrying. We're in our twenties and there have already been a number of divorces in my circle. I don't envy a single couple. I really don't want marriage either, for what it's worth. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Too high a risk for too little of a potential reward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:53 AM
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Imagine even questioning whether you're the asshole in that situation. Men are incapable of having non-adversarial relationships with women. They hold us in such low regard that it's seen as a violation when we excel at anything or outshine them. Hope she divorces his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:39 AM
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That was my immediate thought when I read that he was jealous about her paying attention to the cat. What kind of 15 year old boy wants to spend a ton of time with their little sister? My brothers wanted absolutely nothing to do with me at that age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:46 PM
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I've said this before on here, but some luxury handbags (like the classic LV tote) are actually better financial investments than art right now 😂😂 I hope Betty got her bag!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:42 PM
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It is absolutely something we should question in all media when we encounter it. However, as it pertains to Euphoria specifically... the sex scenes don't ever really read to me like they're trying to be "sexy." They're largely either deliberately played as very cringy and awkward or otherwise unfulfilling. Maybe it's because I'm watching through the perspective of an adult, but I don't find any bit of the show "romanticized" or "glamorous" at all. It's pretty horrifying, actually. I think the ve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 05:25 PM
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I was always tacitly aware that Twitter was a cesspool of morons and Russian bots but holy shit was I blown away by the abject idiocy in that comment section. Imagine being that proud of your cognitive dissonance and poor analysis skills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 01:57 PM
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A slight aside, but you ever notice how when animals hate a specific gender, it’s ALWAYS men? I know tons of people with adopted cats and dogs that are like “yeah, sorry, he hates men.” I have NEVER encountered a pet that unilaterally hated women. I wonder why. Such a mystery. 🤔🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 08:36 PM
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I was the "sweet and polite" girl in college and from experience, people like me a lot more now that I don't try to be over the top nice to everyone. More importantly, I no longer get used by men or friends. I'm so much happier. I'm not sorry about my opinions, feelings, or boundaries. People appreciate that authenticity. Makes the would-be users scatter like roaches. The main thing is to understand that, within reason, it literally does not matter how you behave. You can be the nicest, most att…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 08:06 PM
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Eighteenth, actually. Apparently I misremembered. But still old as shit and irrelevant: https://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-24128176
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 06:36 PM
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Yep. The only men who "lose interest" in us as we get older are the kind seeking to exploit the naiveté of younger women. Good fucking riddance! I personally cannot wait until these would-be abusers finally leave me alone. There is no such thing as a high value older man who dates inappropriately young women. My mom's now in her 60s and getting chased by kinder, more successful, more educated, and more attractive men than she ever did in her 20s and 30s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 08:59 PM
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Yep. The overwhelming majority of our fertility "statistics" come from FOURTEENTH CENTURY birth records. THIS IS NOT SCIENCE. Zero credibility. Women often stopped having kids in their 30s back then because their husbands had already done the decent thing and gone off to war to die.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 07:52 PM
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Salutatorian of his home school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 02:25 PM
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Yep. 24 hours without notice is too long. He's also too old for you. Block & delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 10:59 PM
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Hahaha. Oh, god, no. Männer haben nichts als Dreistigkeit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 08:53 PM
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i'm in that stage tho where I'm daydreaming about him being my boyfriend and our future together cuz that's what girls do. sigh. Let's normalize deprioritizing men's importance in our lives, please. Especially the kind that see no issue with emotionally blackmailing and coercing you into sex acts, ffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 06:31 PM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 06:26 PM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 06:22 PM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 06:22 PM
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I've had men deadass tell me they only like natural women who don't wear makeup or have plastic surgery and then in the next breath tell me they'd sell their soul to sniff Bella Hadid. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:42 PM
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"Confident enough that your emotions and vulnerabilities aren't annoying to me and don't require any emotional labor/compassion/reassurance on my part. Not so confident that you recognize your value (and therefore refuse to tolerate my bullshit) or, god forbid, outshine me."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 11:21 PM
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Before GoT fell completely out of cultural relevance, I often used the "Sansa Stark test" to evaluate men. If he hated Sansa (even, and perhaps especially, if he couldn't articulate why) he ended up being a misogynist. It never let me down. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 11:17 PM
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Please repost in r/askfds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 03:15 PM
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Nooo, you don't get it!! Not allowing random men to use you as a therapist, ATM, homeless shelter, Uber driver, personal chef, and fleshlight IS manipulation!! :cc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 11:26 PM
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FDS: "Here's how to set boundaries, avoid abuse, and love yourself." Manosphere: "Here's how to pressure vulnerable women into violent sex acts." Smoothbrains: "BOTH SIDES!!!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 11:10 PM
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These are the same people who hear "black lives matter" and are convinced you just said "ONLY black lives matter."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 08:50 PM
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There's also a Beauty Rush Victoria's Secret body mist that was discontinued in like 2009. I know because the last time I was able to wear it was in middle school. Homeboy is probably posting oooooold ass photos, to boot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 04:00 AM
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Food for thought, OP. Is there any way that this relationship is exacerbating your symptoms? It’s a very, VERY common phenomenon for completely neurotypical women to be diagnosed with severe mood/personality disorders while they’re trapped in abusive relationships. If being in a relationship with a neglectful man can present the same symptoms as borderline personality disorder, I think it stands to reason chronic pain and fatigue could be worsened as well. I’ve been in MANY relationships where I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 05:01 PM
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"FDS is HATEFUL and HOMOPHOBIC!!! Buncha fuckin' lesbians." Just... what??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 01:20 PM
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RIGHT?! Leo doesn't even look good for 46. TF these delusion men talking about? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 10:38 PM
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Hardcore anti-religious here, buuuuuut... he doesn't run the account. He just doesn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 09:40 PM
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LOL you fucking nailed it. It really is the handbag equivalent of Jeffree Star.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 08:59 PM
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Not necessarily, although certain brands certainly do this (Coach comes to mind, but they're Coach.) Even the "Ultra Luxury" brands like Hermes, YSL, Fendi, Chanel, LV, and Gucci will inevitably have trendy, seasonal lines that come and go. The primary consumer for those is the nouveau riche, influencers, (plus sugar babies, I guess) and the like. It sounds kind of classist, but I work with the ultra wealthy and they just don't really go for this kind of garish shit. Handbags like that pink mons…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 08:53 PM
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Without question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 08:29 PM
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I've noticed this has definitely hit me hard in the last few years. I'm just not interested in the average straight man's idea of sex. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Even if they take direction and do what I ask, what they're getting out of it isn't mutual connection, bonding, and intimacy. They're not interested in that. Sex is a thing they're doing to me for their benefit exclusively. Pleasing me is only to secure continued access. Now that I fully understand how men regard sex, it's nearly impossible not to feel used…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 07:44 PM
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We’re made to feel like we’re worthless, replaceable, a homogenous mass with trivial interests and needs. That we are annoying, nagging, vain, stupid. Men on the other hand... they are individuals, with interests and desires that are worth paying attention to This is a huge issue in classic literature. A man could have written a novel about taking a shit and the (white, male) academic world of the 20th century would have beaten their dicks raw over the "depth and nuance." Plath was long panned a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 07:39 PM
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take a broken guy, fix him and he will leave you because he thinks he deserves better now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 07:35 PM
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All this societal coddling and they still piss and moan about how women aren't doing enough. You'll note there's not a word about the absent fathers (notice how the blame is placed squarely on the single mother), rampant pedophilia, or men taking accountability for their own actions. WE DON'T EXIST TO BE YOUR UNPAID THERAPISTS, YOU ENTITLED SHITHEELS. FOH. Girls are abused far more often than boys. Boys and girls are both almost exclusively abused by men. Yet, there are almost no female serial k…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 07:18 PM
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Projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 07:07 PM
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Not only a whore, but I'd bet every penny I have that he's a narc, too. This is a textbook NPD move. They want brownie points for their "self awareness" surrounding for their flaws, but when you don't argue with them and defend their worth, they get super offended. Of course, had you continued speaking to him, he'd end up showing his ho colors in 3-6 months, at which point he'd say "yOu kNeW i wAs lIkE tHiS."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 06:45 PM
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Delusion fed to them by pop culture and shitty popcorn flicks written and produced by other creepy old men. No amount of forcing Brad Pitt, Leo, and whoever else into movies and insisting they're the male standard of peak physical attractiveness is going to make me think their old, bloated asses are attractive. Sorry. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Edit: Just googled it. Apparently Leo is only 46. I thought he and Pitt were the same age. Jesus christ he looks awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 05:22 PM
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Good god, it's not even a 2.55. It's a tacky fashion line Chanel. Zero resale value within six months, guaranteed. I swear they're acting like it's a Birkin 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 05:13 PM
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Not only that, but they fought tooth and nail for decades not to allow women to join.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 01:41 PM
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Looking forward to the inevitable againsthatesubs post on how this somehow makes FDS "homophobic."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 01:40 PM
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UGH fuck. You're bringing back so many suppressed memories. I'm away for a work retreat. Boyfriend calls me saying he needs money so he's going to try to sell some of his stuff on Craigslist. Ok, fine. I don't think anything of it. I came home a few days later and started noticing some of my stuff was missing. Where's my espresso machine? Where's my Chanel bag? My Hermes belt? Cue the realization. I was furious, obviously. I've never been violent in my life, but... I came pretty close. He tried …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 04:48 AM
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I would rather walk through five miles of scattered leggos than deal with that for even thirty seconds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 10:36 PM
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I barely tolerate my family driving my car for five minutes. Let alone some hobosexual schlepp??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:37 PM
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LOL we get those in the modmail all the time! 😂😂 "CEASE AND DESIST, I'M A LAW ENFORCEMENT OFFICER!! WE ARE TRACKING YOUR LOCATION!!" It's so fucking funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 12:49 PM
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Software engineer. I feel your pain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 08:27 PM
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then later espouse your idea to other people as their own. Really boils the blood, doesn't it? And they have no shame about doing it right in front of your face. I've gotten very comfortable with the phrases "that was my joke," "he learned that from me," and "I was the one who taught you that."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 08:23 PM
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Killed it, girl. I can already hear the male screeching, and it delights me. Almost every woman I know settled majorly for her husband/partner. The lucky few who didn't have husbands who are their equal. Almost all of the men I know are batting way out of their league. The ones who aren't are perpetually single. Men NEVER settle. They don't even want women in their ballpark. Female hypergamy cannot possibly exist. The idea that the average woman somehow "deserves" only an average man stems from …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 07:59 PM
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LVMs and not doing it even after you tell them what to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 07:20 PM
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That's heartbreaking. I was also in the tomboyish camp at that age. Truly nothing can save women and girls from being sexualized by creepy assholes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 07:10 PM
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If you did that, they'd say you were a slob who wasn't taking care of herself. Truly no way to win as a woman. Refuse to play their bullshit game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 07:08 PM
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The entire point of OP's post is that this song is a big deal for all the wrong reasons. Cultural critique using pop culture as a narrative =/= endorsement of said pop culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:43 PM
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This. For such "visual creatures" men are actually dogshit at recognizing an objectively attractive woman. Good bone structure, symmetry, clear eyes, healthy skin, good posture - none of it matters to them. All they see is heavy makeup, well-done hair, tight clothes, high heels, and flashy colors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 01:27 AM
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I get closer and closer to doing this every single day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 12:33 AM
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Completely fake and absolutely cringe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 10:33 PM
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Then he proceeded to ask me how old he looks. (Probably intending to use my answer as market research and further lie about his age for future victims) I hope you told him 75, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 07:28 PM
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"Generosity" implies going above and beyond what is expected. Giving a woman oral before sex is the bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:08 PM
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screw being the next in line to be Britain’s figure head! Liz is probably going to outlive him anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:05 PM
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Diana is proof positive that even if you're the highest value woman in the world, you cannot under any circumstances inspire an LVM to act or love you the right way. You can never be beautiful enough, young enough, wealthy enough, educated enough, intelligent enough, caring enough, or giving enough to change a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 05:44 PM
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I watched the Diana: In Her Own Words documentary last night and that was the first time in a long while that I absolutely sobbed over something. What that entire family put her through is almost beyond belief. I knew vaguely about the Charles and Camilla thing, but not the full extent of what a disgusting, neglectful piece of shit he was. I was essentially a baby when she died. Seeing old archive footage and photos of her growing up, I always believed Diana was much older when she married Charl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 02:43 PM
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Another age related non-complement: I had a disgusting old scrote in his late thirties tell me "Wow! You're just not aging!!" I was 22. He knew I was 22. I said "Ohhh yeahh, because I'm just so old and aged I guess??" Although I guess I was by his standards, because his (now) ex-wife was younger than me. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 02:26 PM
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"Any man who has to say 'I am the King'..."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 03:27 PM
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Yeah, this is a really weird man thing I've noticed. They just... repeatedly, verbally insist upon certain aspects of their personality? Instead of just being that thing? I've never encountered a woman who does this. It's really jarring. I find it invariably coincides with deep emotional immaturity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 03:02 PM
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So, at the time I thought this was the most pointless lie I had ever heard... He said he didn't have any social media accounts because unspecified women had "stalked him" in the past. First, he was about 6'4" and jacked. Even if he was being stalked by a woman, they didn't pose any sort of physical threat to him. He could just block them and move on with his life. Second, he was in no way famous, noteworthy, or even particularly interesting. I was having a really hard time understanding what inc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 08:19 PM
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Amazing that Reddit tried to flag this for violence when we have scores of popular subs happily dedicated to promoting rape and violence against women. You made the critical mistake of not getting a man's peepee hard with your comment, I guess :<
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 07:18 PM
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When I read shit like this, it blows my mind that men still deny porn is causing them brain damage. You would have to be seriously deluded to sexualize a freaking hairstyle, let alone one popular with children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 01:45 PM
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Ew. My fundamental rights are not a "fun little debate topic," Thad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 02:06 AM
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Men: "Women are always choosing wrong. They only want fuckboys and assholes. Not nice guys like me. 😤😤" Also Men: "Not sacrificing your mortal existence for an asshole fuckboy is trashy."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 02:03 AM
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They can use their stupid religion to repress and enslave women for thousands of years, but when we use it to make an ironic meme suddenly it's "pRoBlEmAtIC."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 12:07 AM
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That's where they really jumped the shark. There are religious women here, because do you, but FDS philosophy is very antithetical to the abrahamic religions 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 11:06 PM
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Men think I'm desperate for their dick when I exchange a polite hello. TF these losers mean "men don't realize you're hitting on them"??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 10:58 PM
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Not even necessarily that. I've seen women who were astronomically, objectively, other-worldly gorgeous chase a very average looking man and get treated like a stained Goodwill sweater. The act of approaching them is, in and of its self, an attraction killer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 10:46 PM
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Saying (heterosexual) men only truly love, respect, and revere other men is "homophobia" now. Hope they stretched before that fucking reach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 10:34 PM
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Men don't respect women who approach them. Flat out. They will absolutely have sex with you (what a fucking treat /s), but they will not date you. These men are lying in the hopes that some gullible woman will believe them and they can get easy sex. The most beautiful, amazing, kind women I know have been strung along by completely average/below-average men they showed too much interest in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 10:23 PM
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It's amazing how the desire to "fit in" can so easily ruin your life. It can happen long before you can even properly conceptualize the future consequences of your actions. We put other people in completely undeserved positions of power over us when we do this. I don't know about you, but I was absolutely tortured in high school. And I never did anything to these kids. I was quiet and shy, and apparently that was enough for some kids to absolutely hate me. I didn't understand it (still don't, bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 10:18 PM
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I've never met a man who was afraid of being labeled a creep who wasn't, in fact, a huge creep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 09:32 PM
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I was just writing a post about exactly this! Society was purpose-built by men, for men, to serve male interests. 🙄The world cares exclusively about men's feelings. Give me a fucking break!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 09:27 PM
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LMFAO! Yeah, like, what if we just expected one gender to conform to ridiculous societal standards and roles by virtue of their genitalia. Like forcing them into childbirth/care. And domestic labor. And performative femininity. And withheld their rights. And prevented them from being educated. Or owning property. For thousands of years. Can you EVEN. IMAGINE?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 07:42 PM
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Fucking Sea Lions, man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 07:37 PM
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Um? Die maybe? Cackled. Also, he calls it a "big oops" in the beginning. A "big oops" is when you slip on the carpet and drop your aunt's antique porcelain teapot. Not when you almost kill your wife due to self-centered negligence. The fact like he's acting like he was a hopeless victim of misfortune/circumstance is disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 01:35 AM
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I had completely blocked this out until just now... Just after I graduated high school, I moved to a large city (far away from all my friends and family) with my first real boyfriend. He had received a job offer and was insistent that I come with him. He was a perfect gentleman up until the day that we moved in together. The only red flag was that he was much older and had absolutely no business dating an eighteen year old. One night, I came down with a fever of 104. I felt like I was freezing s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 01:11 AM
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1000%! I've heard it referred to as "the ick." It seems to hit women acutely and at the very moment they realize their man actually ain't shit. I've had it happen in several of my relationships and in every case it was because the guy was awful in at least some area of the relationship. I don't want to fuck a man who acts like a child. For example, leaving the cooking/cleaning/emotional labor entirely to me. Nor can I possibly be expected to remain sexually attracted to one who tries to act like…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 11:39 PM
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If you feel like you absolutely have to answer directly (and you shouldn't), keep the characteristics as brief and vague as possible. You wan't it to kind of work like a horoscope - things that could basically apply to anyone and that they have to find their own personal meaning in. Goes without saying, but don't give specifics as to how you want him to treat you. Horrible examples, but: Don't: "I want a man who always opens the car door, has lots of hobbies, and enjoys cooking." Do: "Someone wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 03:38 PM
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Yep. Can't even tell you how many men I've met who were convinced I was desperately into them because I showed... basic kindness? Actually, kindness is too strong of a word. I was polite. Held the door on the way into the office? "SHE WANTS THE D, BRO!!" Said "please" and "thank you" during a conversation? "THIS CHICK IS OBSESSED WITH ME!!1" I was so far out of their league it would make your head spin. They truly are delusional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 02:39 PM
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it's not a good idea to tell a guy you are only looking for something serious because that will make him run off That's definitely not at all why we advise against telling men directly what you're looking for. "Scaring men off" is indeed a good thing. The reason we don't tell them what we're looking for is because most of them will then proceed to pretend like they want the same things as you in order to manipulate you. If a man knows what you want, he will pretend to offer that so he can get wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 02:24 PM
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Please change this to an NP link so we don't get banned for "brigading." Edit: Thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 02:55 PM
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They don't exist. I briefly dated a guy who was in his mid-30s and had divorced a year prior. He claimed he had moved on and wanted something serious. He was ridiculously attractive. Probably one of the most attractive men I've ever seen. He made good money. Was intelligent. Fairly funny, even. He was having a hell of a time dating, let alone hooking up. He later admitted to me that shortly after he and his wife initially separated, he had tried using Tinder for casual sex. He got matches, but n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 02:48 PM
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gave me his dead wife’s half used face cream with her facial hair in it. What in the actual fuck?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 01:56 PM
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Yes. You're being used. I'm not saying she's necessarily doing it intentionally, but her mental health issues are not a hall pass to be a shitty friend to you. For your own sanity, you should set boundaries with your friends as you would any man. She needs to be an adult and take responsibility for her own mental health instead of employing you as a free therapist without even extending the common courtesy of remembering basic information about you. I had a friend who was like this back before I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 05:49 PM
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Why are you sending him novels? Don't justify anything to him! Block, delete, goodbye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 05:40 PM
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Men don't live as long as women on average, so life is even shorter for them. He can text me. 💅🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 12:59 AM
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Pulling a Kavanaugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 10:17 PM
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Because "she" is a man triggered by the fact that no one here would touch his golf pencil with a ten foot pole. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 07:54 PM
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Out of curiosity - and if you don't mind sharing, of course - which communist country were you parents raised in? GDR?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 12:32 AM
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This was (and still is) one of the hardest things for me to internalize. My work ethic and ambition have given me my career, my business, my education, my house, my body, my friends, my hobbies, my car, and my nice clothes. It was so difficult to learn not to chase men, work for them, and throw my boundless drive into yet another area of my life. Unlike pursuing a degree, learning a skill, or going for a big promotion, putting effort and energy into men would never earn me a positive return on i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 11:54 PM
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"My dad can't even figure out how to add water to boxed pancake mix properly, what a good man." Fucking... what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 09:58 PM
270

The heart of Pickmeism is the "not like other girls" mentality. Every Pickme, on some level, thinks she's the only one who really understands men and relationships. She's convinced she alone "gets it." She's totally egalitarian. She won't be like those other women "picking fights" with their boyfriends and having actual boundaries. She'd be fine with it if you went to a strip club and loves threesomes - unlike those other boring prudes. She doesn't care when you stay out late with your friends e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 04:48 PM
14

OoOooOoh, wow. Going out for coffee by yourself. SoOooooOOoOO interesting and unique. 🙄 How fucking dumb are they?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 04:25 PM
34

It's just a bartender. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 11:53 AM
12

It popped up on my Release Radar this morning and I'm not sure why. I don't really listen to her. I saw the title and immediately knew I was going to roll my eyes at the lyrics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 04:57 PM
1

Hi. Please repost to r/askfds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 09:07 PM
24

I mean they fall in love quicker and get carried away with their feelings when dating a lot more than women do Yeah. You see it all the time. Man proposes to woman he's positive is the love of his life after a couple of weeks (or days, in scarier instances.) You flat-out have no idea who someone is at that point. Amazing that they're incapable of realizing that isn't "love" by any stretch of the definition. They're simply projecting their idealized version of a person onto the woman, because the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 05:33 PM
29

There's a term for this. It's "child abuse."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 05:27 PM
35

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/28/nyregion/office-temperature-sexist-nixon-cuomo.html
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:43 PM
192

I'm in IT and previously worked out of a fairly large open-concept office. For most of the time I worked there, I was the only woman on the team. I took the desk at the very back of the space since the men kept the office ridiculously cold and the wall of servers put out some heat. Whenever we had packages delivered, the couriers would awkwardly walk ~50 feet beyond the front desk, past every man on the floor (including the actual office manager), and try to hand it to me. Every. Single. Time. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 02:54 PM
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r/askFDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 02:43 PM
9

It's always on the woman to "cOmMuNiCaTe" but never on the man to listen. Funny that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 04:38 PM
26

Women still die literally every day from blood clots and strokes caused by hormonal birth control. Young, otherwise healthy women who don't even smoke. And no one talks about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 04:12 PM
267

Easier to solicit nudes when you're already exchanging photos. Don't bother suggesting texting. Just block and delete if he starts with asking for your Snapchat. High value men do not do this. If a man had interest in properly pursuing you, he'd ask for your phone number.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 04:08 PM
179

With a teenage girl no less. How no one else at the ceremony called out his disgusting behavior is beyond me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 12:52 PM
222

You know, for someone who claims to have already found the love of his life, he seems really worked up about what single, independent women are doing. I wonder why that is? 🤔🤔🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 01:10 PM
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I don’t care if he changed. That's a problem. If no one can change, nothing ever gets better. For any of us. Not for our daughters, our granddaughters, or our great-granddaughters. Reevaluate your priorities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 03:21 AM
1

I've seen it. Note that the video you just linked is from eight years ago and "X", the special screencapped in this post, came out last year. I know you haven't seen the special because a massive part of it is dedicated to how he was forced to change his shitty, outdated opinions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 03:18 AM
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Thank you, this is so important. The divorce "statistics" implying women are somehow legally favored are bullshit. Men get 50% custody just as often as women... when they ask for it. The statistics favor women getting majority custody more often because men don't fucking ask for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 05:52 PM
30

It isn't regarded that way by anyone who has actually lived there 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 05:45 PM
53

Truly the living embodiments of mediocre white male privilege.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 05:39 PM
25

Just tacking on that it's available to watch on HBO. 😊 Two of his other specials, "Dark" and "Jigsaw" (super FDS-relevant) are on Netflix.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 05:35 PM
12

Based Sloss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 05:32 PM
2

Oh lord. Don't waste your time. Please read the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 05:29 PM
1

Don't. The only men dating during a pandemic are LV, inherently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 05:27 PM
1

Please seek guidance from a professional. This is above our pay grade.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 05:26 PM
52

Jorah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 12:43 PM
135

Men literally can't even stand to genuinely compliment a woman and have the audacity to call us the bad guy? FOH 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 02:38 AM
71

There was a post on the front page the other day about a member of Pussy Riot (a tiny, ~100lb woman in this case) being tortured and beaten on the street by a group of large men while the police did nothing. A horrified commenter remarked on how awful that was. Some astute intellectual had to comment to remind everyone that no matter the sex of the person being beaten, beating people up is horrible and wrong!! Like shut the fuck up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 02:30 AM
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Sometimes, I like to play a little game where I read through a post on AskReddit, TwoX, or any other sub where answers from women are specifically requested. I exhale and then I hold my breath and read until I hit a top-level comment written by a man. It's not much of a game, though. I always hit one by the time I'm ready to draw the next breath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 02:25 AM
8

I push Sloss here at every opportunity. "X" made me openly weep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 04:05 PM
66

Maybe it's because I grew up on the coast, but beach proposals are what tacky men seem to think of as the pinnacle "romantic." It's what the couples who have been together since high school and don't really love each other anymore but stay together because they have no idea how to function as independent human beings do. A public beach is generally low-effort and indicates a lack of thought as to what makes her an individual and what she would actually like. When you live in California, the beac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 03:18 PM
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Textbook narc move. It's so transparent and embarrassing. You just happened to go there and there just happened to be a paparazzo to snap photos of you crying? Ok, bro. Also... he proposed to her at the beach?! That's on the same level as a restaurant or Disney. Just don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 12:38 PM
98

You forgot to add "hot" to the second panel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 11:30 PM
1

We're not mind readers so... who knows? Maybe? Probably not. The point is he's already told you who he is right now, and you would be wasting your time either way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 06:18 PM
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You did the right thing. I have a hard time believing this wasn't malicious. You're talking about someone you've been with for four. years. and he didn't notice the results of seven years of effort you've made to grow and cultivate that tree? He had been with you for nearly half a decade and thought it would be funny to destroy something you're clearly quite passionate about? Is that level of ignorance really much better than malice? Your man was jealous of a plant. Instantly breaking up with hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 04:31 PM
14

Yeah. I've gone on dates with plenty of men who tried to lie about their age, but none of them were pretending to be older. 🤔🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 12:59 PM
64

Mace is likely to blow back in your own face, especially when you're being circled that way. Carry pepper gel. It's much more effective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 06:58 PM
11

I didn’t come up with the term, but I think we should absolutely all use it more! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 03:23 PM
428

"FDS iS aBoUt tRiCkInG mEn iNtO a rElAtIoNsHiP/MaRrIaGe!!!" is one of my favorite smoothbrain insults. Bro, if we feel like we would have to "trick" you into doing anything, you're just going to get dumped. 😂 Doing your share of domestic/emotional labor, taking care of your physical and emotional well-being, being an attentive, interested, commitment-minded partner... you either are or you aren't. We're not going to waste our precious time trying to fix you. We don't pursue. We don't set the pac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 01:15 PM
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Their chances of being falsely accused of rape are a looooot lower than 1%. Meanwhile, 1 out of every 4 women will experience rape. There are roughly 164 million men in America. Annually, there are about 98,000 reported rapes in the US. 10% of the victims are male (having been attacked by another male), 90% are female. Since this fucking degenerate is so sure it's going to be a woman who "falsely" accuses him, we'll say 88,000 annual reports. Sadly, a notable portion of these women will not be a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 05:17 PM
66

Several generations of cousin-fucking will do that to the gene pool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 06:54 PM
111

Not one jawline in the entire bunch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 06:34 PM
71

Beyond that, these men plotted to incite an actual civil war. It's blatant sedition, but no one cares because they're white and right-wing. Fascist scum can get away with anything in this country.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 06:28 PM
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It's so just not worth the energy trying to tell them shit. About anything. Most of the men I've dated have accused me of lying when I told them my bra size. Many of them didn't even believe me when I showed them the tag on the bra I was currently. wearing. There's no way I could possibly be a D-cup because their "ex was a D-cup and they know what it looks like!" It's a relative measurement, you fucking morons. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 01:09 PM
10

And this is why we used to have KEANU flair. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:23 PM
17

Right? The complete lack of investigative, critical thinking, and analysis skills is frightening. Especially from someone who allegedly holds a doctorate, ffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 08:56 PM
49

Right-wing media obviously has a stake in keeping women disenfranchised. Left-wing media would sooner die than risk appearing politically biased. We must hear about "bOtH sIdEs" at all times, even if they're not equally valid or even true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 08:22 PM
124

Yep. I always thought it was funny how almost every man I have ever met has been adamant that he prefers "low maintenance" women who "don't wear makeup," don't have plastic surgery, and "hate social media." In other words - women they don't think a lot of men will be actively pursuing. There was a time when I bought into this and wore no/minimal makeup because I needed men to know I "wAsN'T lIkE oThEr gIRlS." Unfortunately, the only thing I achieved was letting every slovenly, crusty LVM believe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:15 PM
6

Cringy animal comparisons and stills from Peaky Blinders with random "motivational" quotes are the bread and butter of 30-something average white male social media posts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:20 PM
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Oh come on, be reasonable. That's so demeaning. There's no need to speak poorly of animals like that! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:18 PM
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Don't post direct links, please. Just update to an NP and re-approve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 08:04 PM
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Disagree completely. The concept is already dignified in their minds. You're slamming the barn door shut but the horse is already long gone. When these social constructs are allowed to grow in the public consciousness without constant challenge or being called out for the ridiculous bullshit that they are, that's when they're actually given power. These kinds of male supremacists use specific language to identify their in-group online. That's why I use insults like "cuck" and "snowflake" against…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:59 PM
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Men should carry purses. I'm tired of being asked to hold their keys and shit. THE ASSHOLES EVEN GET CLOTHES WITH REAL POCKETS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:32 PM
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It sort of depends. I wouldn't recommend anyone in their twenties date more than a couple of years older or younger. For someone who is (as you said) naive when it comes to dating, I would err even further on the side of caution and try to date someone right around your age. A ten year age gap at 40 and 50 is a little different because, in terms of life experience, there isn't as much of a difference. The difference between 25 and 30, however, is huge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:48 PM
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LVM be like "Yeah, man, women just aren't funny. Also my favorite comedians are Joe Rogan, Bill Burr, and Chris D'Elia."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:41 PM
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I’m very naive when it comes to dating That's the concern. He isn't naive. You are and he knows it. The power differential makes you easy to manipulate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:34 AM
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The NP link for easier-to-read formatting: https://np.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/j6b2af/confessions_of_a_former_dirtbag_things_to_look/ DO NOT VOTE OR COMMENT IN THEIR SUB.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 09:47 PM
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Watch all the people (men) who are FURIOUS at the suggestion that women are as normal as men, then ask them if they're ever furious when men are treated as more normal than women. The reports on this post seem to indicate we've struck a nerve. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 08:28 PM
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DM me, too! :) I just whitelisted you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 08:21 PM
352

I dumped most of my male friends when I started a business for these exact reasons. Half of them felt compelled to offer constant, unsolicited advice. You're a fucking real estate agent, Aiden. What makes you think you know and I don't? The other half had absolutely zero interest in hearing about it. They'd be going on and on about their boring work problems but the moment I spoke passionately about what I was doing, their eyes would glaze over and then they'd just completely change the subject.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 08:15 PM
35

There was a period of time when I really wanted to buy another property to rent out. Then I realized I'd rather shoot myself than deal with these filthy, disgusting scrote tenants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 07:59 PM
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COVID hasn't helped of course, but the 5+ first dates I went on early this year were all a complete bust. These were guys friends/family set me up with. Not even randos from OLD. They're just getting worse and worse, I swear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 07:35 PM
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I've actually been very lucky in this regard. Well, I say "lucky"... but if a man does not enthusiastically state his desire for me to sit on his face, I don't sleep with him. It's just one of my things. 💅🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 07:25 PM
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I remember this image floating around the internet since long before the QAnon garbage (2017), but it's important to note this particular case has never been proven: https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/shelia-fedrick-human-traffickers/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 04:33 PM
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Removed for repost: https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/j5nr49/male_med_student_wants_to_be_able_to_examine/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 11:53 PM
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Like I'm paying money to see a real doctor. Not some self-important little entitled pissant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 09:35 PM
77

Bingo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 07:21 PM
249

Any time I hear a man begin a sentence with "I HATE IT WHEN WOMEN..." I make sure to very directly and bluntly inquire as to why they think women are doing those things for male approval. Predictably, not a single one has been able to give me an answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 07:15 PM
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It's worse than that, if you can believe. He's not even a doctor. He's a damn MED STUDENT and thinks women shouldn't have the right to deny male students the right to observe pelvic exams and the like if they're not comfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 05:49 PM
57

Men: "Women are so dramatic and emotional." Also Men: "WTF men's mental health matters too you stupid bitches hate men!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 04:56 PM
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Truth is I have never met a woman who would go on a date with a man just for a free meal. Not one. Ever. Going on first dates as a woman is never just a casual, zero-pressure meetup. Every woman I know makes contingency plans to get out of their dates if they feel unsafe. Most have experienced violent or aggressive behavior on a first date. Men are completely blind to this, which is the only reason why they think their stories about a cultural pattern of "dinner stealing thots" are in any way be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 04:46 PM
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All other dating subs: "bUt yOu nEeD tO CoMmUnIcAtE tHaT yOu dOn'T wAnT tO lOwEr yOuRsElF!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 04:31 PM
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Yep. This is a well-document psychological phenomenon. Though there are exceptions, in almost every case women internalize their abuse and mental illness (self-harm, repeatedly entering abusive relationships, etc.) and men externalize theirs (shooting up schools, raping/murdering, perpetrating abuse against others.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 02:06 PM
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Please repost this comment with an NP link.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 03:41 PM
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Haven't read the book, but I'm seeing a lot of whine-ass shit about men in the article (boo hoo, these men were treated so terribly by women!! :c) and some pretty blatant and gross misogyny. Nothing good in there that FDS didn't already know to be true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 07:15 AM
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The same kind of tacky, inattentive scrote who cheats 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 05:45 AM
86

Several years ago, "you seem really sweet" was the only complement that a guy I had been dating /for months/ and was crazy about could think to pay me... Just as he was telling me he "wasn't really ready for a relationship" but "was open to keeping things casual and seeing where they went." It made me physically fucking ill. I almost vomited on the spot. I am a lot of things these days. I make sure "sweet" isn't one of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 04:57 AM
261

"Bu-bu-but, I'm so self aware about being a disgusting piece of shit. 🥺🥺 Validate me!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 08:10 PM
30

So many people in my life are pushing me to date and just fundamentally do not understand my desire to be alone. They're like "You're beautiful and you're smart and you're funny! I don't get it!" I know. What does any of that have to do with men??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 07:10 PM
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I've been on Reddit since before Pao was hired and I remember the whole situation really vividly. Or so I thought. I was reading through this thread kind of confused by all the replies saying they were so much younger at the time. I felt like she stepped in only a couple of years ago. I googled it and it's been six years. Six. Holy hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 03:31 PM
1

Please censor the other sub's name and any usernames that aren't yours and repost this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 07:14 PM
1

Please repost with the names removed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 06:59 PM
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"STEM" is a huge field, so it depends on what you want to get into. There are many jobs that are in such high demand that you don't need to go to school if you understand the material (web/software development, etc.) Others require years of specialized education.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 03:40 PM
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Yeah. The whole thing reads like bad creative writing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 07:00 PM
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Nothing but blessings to all the women out there who took those bullets for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 05:26 PM
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A pencil sharpener that can sharpen thousands of pencils is a great sharpener. A pencil that has been sharpened too many times is tiny and useless. :c
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 05:21 PM
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Of course he has good points. If he was an unmitigated shithead right off the bat, you never would have bothered with his ass. Here's the thing: he knows that. He deliberately went out of his way to hide his bad behavior. And then once he knew he had you, he showed you who he really was. No amount of "good points" can compensate for monstrous behavior elsewhere in the relationship. Stop thinking about it like he's this genuinely kind, caring person who just occasionally experiences an involuntar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 05:18 PM
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For a long time I did, yes. Then I came to realize that behavior isn't being a good girlfriend. It's codependency. No one that is worth wanting actually wants you to be a doormat. If he doesn't love your self-respect, he doesn't love you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 05:09 PM
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You move on by repeatedly asking yourself what you saw in this absolute trainwreck of a man. No one deserves the kind of shit he did to you. Your ability to love him despite his obvious, severe flaws is not a reflection of his value - it has nothing to do with him at all. It is a testament to how amazing you and your capacity to love are. Go love someone who's going to appreciate and reciprocate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 05:05 PM
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You don't. Trying to "educate" a grown-ass man is a futile waste of your time and energy. Please read the Handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 05:01 PM
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This is the common thread that has tied together all of my relationships. Men were either internally indifferent to who I fundamentally was as a human being, or they were so pathologically obsessed with me they'd threaten and abuse me rather than see me move on. No one has ever simply met me as an equal. I would love them deeply and wholeheartedly for all of their nuance - even if it's now obvious they were shitty people. I was perpetually fascinated looking at things through their eyes and obse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 04:45 PM
1

Have you read the handbook?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 04:30 PM
1

This is why you block them and move on when you're done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 04:28 PM
15

Cackled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 01:42 PM
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Please repost with an NP link.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 01:15 PM
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So you've come to realize you wasted two months. Do you really want to waste even ten more minutes? He didn't care enough to properly communicate with you. Why are you putting more effort in than he is?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 01:01 AM
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They won't leave us alone because these men feel entitled to affection and attention from women, even if those women are unwilling and completely uninterested. Open refusal to conform to their expectations is a direct threat to their ego and very sense of self. Imagine if you raised a child in a totally sheltered environment where they were never told "no" once in their life and then abruptly released them into the real world. They'd be literally unable to process the concept. They'd probably be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 11:25 PM
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YUP. My brother always told me it was "fucked up" to expect men to pay. He dated a girl that lived in Australia - halfway around the world from him in Europe. He also paid for all her flights to come see him, their vacations, and all expenses whenever they were together. Lavished her with gifts. Her family was incredibly wealthy and she wasn't shy about letting him know how she expected to be treated. My brother does alright for himself, but her level of generational wealth is another story comp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 12:12 AM
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UGH. They repeatedly doxxed her in the comments and are now claiming she's not a real doctor. Now this woman (or some other innocent woman who works at Temple - how could they have any idea if they even found the right person?!) is going to get harassed and abused because their partner did something nice. Of course Reddit has done nothing about this because Reddit doesn't care when it's women being abused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 01:19 PM
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If any man has you up at 3am checking to see if he's cheating, you should just break up with his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 04:28 PM
17

Wow. Conan O'Brien's a real dick apparently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 05:00 PM
19

I feel like 99% of the attractive men on dating apps are just using it to advertise their Instagram. I matched and briefly went out with one of these guys, but I ended it after a few dates. He had a couple thousand followers, but nothing terribly impressive. What I noticed was they were almost exclusively women. We kept following each other only because I actually liked his content. He was a chef/mixologist and his photos were legitimately cool. About a year and a half later, he posted photo of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 04:53 PM
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the "strategies" we have, ARE "the bat" we're using to fend off idiots who take us on dates. I never realized what a huge issue male illiteracy was until I saw so many of them trying to explain to each other what FDS is. 💀💀💀 It somehow escaped every single man's notice that there are ZERO posts here asking how to actually attract men? They're all about weeding out the literal scores of losers we're stuck dealing with?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 12:04 PM
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Certified Visceral Cringe Post of the Day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 09:15 PM
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My financial planner/portfolio manager is an older woman and an SVP at her firm. I went with her because I know she's had to work twice as hard as any of the men at that level. She's always on top of her shit because she knows she's being scrutinized by her male clients. Nothing that woman has told me has ever been the wrong move.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:16 PM
20

Yep. Every single time a dude has asked for my IG/Snap before my phone number, he's been a low-effort loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 11:32 PM
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Yep! Her videos get shared here from time to time. My favorites are The Art of Sexy, The Art of Color, and How to Dress Better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 10:06 PM
8

I keep seeing versions of this quote accompanying photos of this couple like they're in any way connected? Rosie HW never said any of this shit and Jason Statham bought her a $300,000 engagement ring. 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 01:19 PM
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This is exactly what the handbook says to do. Did you read it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 03:16 PM
7

No, they're all terrible 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 11:10 AM
28

1% is generous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 12:44 AM
67

And the post didn't even say "men's opinions don't matter." It said, "men's opinions don't matter HERE, in this sub wholly dedicated to allowing women to share their experience without men constantly interjecting like they do everywhere else on the fucking internet."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 10:24 PM
11

All of the research on pedophiles indicates that they are incurable using punishment or therapy. They feel both compelled and entitled to victimize real children. They will go to the ends of the earth to justify their behavior. This is not controversial among psychologists actually tasked with dealing with them. The only cure is chemical or surgical castration, which they're obviously against. They'd rather compulsively rape and abuse children than consider taking some fucking pills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 10:15 PM
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Hinge is like: "We're a relationship app! We're exclusively for people trying to find serious relationships! We want you to use our app to find a relationship and then immediately delete it. Using the app for hookups is a bannable offense!" Men on Hinge are like: "WHY are these ENTITLED FEEEEMALES all looking for a RELATIONSHIP on MY HOOKUP APP?!?!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 09:41 PM
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It's way easier to whine about how unfair life is and how women are evil than hold yourself accountable for your own life and choices. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 09:13 PM
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I think we got way fewer reports and downvotes today than we have at any point in like the last three months? lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 09:09 PM
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Really, really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 08:15 PM
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Seems there's an "80/20 rule" for just about everything in life. The Pareto Principle can be applied to literally anything. 80/20 Relationship Theory. The 80/20 budgeting model. That should have been everyone's first clue that it was bullshit. Want to generalize but make it sound scientific so people might actually think you're credible? Just slap the 80/20 rule on there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 07:59 PM
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That thins the herd quite a bit. Yep. That's the idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 04:43 PM
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I've had so. many. cashiers and servers give me their number because I said "please" and "thank you" and apparently that means I'm into them?? I've had customer service reps ask me if I had a boyfriend or husband just because we had a short conversation about the fucking weather or whatever while I was waiting for my cable box to reboot. They really can't handle basic politeness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 04:32 PM
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How do you ladies steer men in the right direction when planning a date? You don't. They either take it upon themselves to plan a quality date from the get-go, or you drop them. The early stages of dating are as nice and attentive as any man will ever be to you. This is when they're trying their hardest to impress you. If he can't be assed to plan a date when you don't even know him, do you think he's going to suddenly put the effort in during a relationship or marriage? Of course not! You've al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 04:18 PM
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Well, the issue here is there shouldn't be a pattern of him "acting up." Regardless of whether or not legal marriage or cohabitation is your goal, it's far better to be alone than in a relationship with a manchild you feel the need to escape from? It's perfectly valid to want to maintain your own space and separate home, but if you're doing it because a guy can't act right? Dump his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 12:34 PM
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Nice guys also stop being nice when they do get what they want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 11:26 PM
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Almost anyone is capable of faking kindness, generosity, and attentiveness for one measly date. You have no idea if they have underlying issues or resentment towards women that early. I dated a guy who seemed lovely initially. Dropped thousands during the first few months of dating and rejected any of my attempts to chip in. Drove a couple of hours to see me a few times a week. Not once did he push me for sex. Was happy to introduce me to his family. He worshipped his mother and sisters. Three m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 07:30 PM
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Big talk coming from a man who has the hairline of a 40 year old accountant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:32 PM
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I've seen that episode sooo many times and had no fucking idea it was Will Shatner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 02:03 AM
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Resting bitch face: Maybe she's born with it, maybe it's cultural misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 09:14 PM
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Truth be told, I actually aesthetically prefer shorter men (5'5"-5'8"ish) I feel like it gives them far better proportions, especially when they're in good shape. I'm not into the tall, lanky thing at all. Even if they won't directly admit it, the short men have all gotten ridiculously passive aggressive when I've worn heels. I do know short men who aren't this way, but they're by far the minority. So at one end of the spectrum, you have men who are incurably insecure. At the other, you have men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 08:40 PM
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"No? Haha. Fucking ugly bitch."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:44 PM
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You won't regret it <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 04:46 PM
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I'm actually working on a series for the website detailing all the different types of LVM. 🤫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 04:41 PM
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A big reason why is because people like him doubt the validity of such claims and make women afraid to speak up. It causes women to question the reality of their experience. Gaslighting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 04:29 PM
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Yeaah.. also any guy who follows any faith that could be considered "fringe" relative to his race/heritage. For example, let's just say some WASPY New England asshole claiming to be a "Buddhist." He drank, gossiped, fucked like a rabbit, ate meat, and lied like a motherfucker but yeah, you're basically Buddhist, dude. 🙄 Not that I would date anyone who practices any sort of organized religion, but these types are a whole other level of obnoxious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 12:49 AM
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GOD, every word of this is fantastic and so true. I read Why Men Love Bitches for the first time when I was fifteen. You would have thought I'd been able to apply it since I was so young, but I was very much still in my "enlightened egalitarian libfem" phase. The book made sense, but I struggled SO. HARD. with letting go of wanting men to think I was a "cool girl." I noticed all the male behavior patterns the book describes everywhere as I began to experience dating and relationships. In my hear…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 12:34 AM
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I have never had a man offer me anything less than dinner when asking me on a first date. No questions, no negotiation, no explaining my expectations. Even the ones who were clearly just trying to sleep with me. I don't get this "drink date" phenomenon at all. Just when you thought the bar couldn't get any lower. If he offers you drinks, he's trying to... A: chemically lower your inhibitions in the hopes that you'll sleep with him. B: keep things inexpensive because he doesn't want to invest in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 12:06 AM
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Men literally go on killing sprees when women don't pay attention to them. No woman has EVER done this. We are not the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 11:11 PM
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This is a real thing. I gave Hinge a try for a little while before completely giving up on dating apps forever. "It's an app that explicitly states it's for serious relationships! Obviously higher quality men will flock to this app!" Hah. Smaller platform, so not a lot of good looking men who aren't obviously losers just based on their shitty profiles. The only two remotely attractive men I found on it told me a few minutes in that they weren't looking for anything serious. Meanwhile, every sing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 11:10 PM
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Like if a chode achieved sentience. Not completely sure about the sentient bit, actually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 09:53 PM
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WTF?! His behavior is clinically delusional, pathologically narcissistic, and utterly insane. She literally doesn't do anything in this story except exist and he still finds a way to turn it around like it says something about her?? This is why I don't believe men when they criticize women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 01:13 PM
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A few months back, a poster here submitted results from an online anger management psychology quiz. The quiz asked for the participant's sex before starting. She took the test once as a man, once as a woman. Though she answered both tests the same way and scored the exact same amount of points, the male result was "normal" and the female result said her responses indicated likely "extreme anger issues."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 03:20 AM
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Short answer: No. Long answer: Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo. "Training" a man to do his share of household chores is not "communication" between equals. That's a woman parenting a man who wishes to be a child. There is nothing inherent in male biology that makes them incapable of taking pride in their home and picking up after themselves, washing dishes, or doing their fucking laundry. Almost all women manage it without ever needing to be told. If a man hasn't figured out how to function …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 06:42 PM
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"FDS tEaChEs wOmEn tO mAnIpUlAtE mEn!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 05:09 PM
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We've done literally everything Reddit tools give us the power to do. Comments from malicious users almost never get through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 04:42 PM
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Always remember: Dick is abundant and low value!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 03:21 PM
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Yoo. Please repost this with an np link. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 05:53 AM
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As a policy, you're correct. In the beginning, we wouldn't allow comments through without flairing the user. But you could always submit a post/comment without flair. You still need flair to post freely - that part hasn't changed. Unfortunately, we got to the point where most of the people asking for flair had no comment history so flairing them would have been a risk. This slowed things down considerably as we had to individually respond to people to clarify how the process worked, and it only …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 04:21 AM
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You should see some of them going on about how they're "soldiers" in the "war" against social equity. God they're so socially awkward 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 03:44 AM
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We're literally training women to !!MANIPULATE MEN!! by.. telling them to leave the shitty ones, I guess? 😂😂 This is the cancerous plague upon humanity that must be stopped. Trash men really love telling on themselves, istg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 03:37 AM
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Sorry OP, this was posted a couple of days ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 09:02 PM
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All the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 08:53 PM
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Please censor personal information.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 08:44 PM
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Does breaking up in person leave a lasting impact? It depends. Some men will respect it. Some will snap and try to kill you. Most will be indifferent. The manner and reasons which you break up with someone isn't about his benefit. It's about yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 08:39 PM
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You're the average of your five closest friends. They feel comfortable enough making those jokes in front of him. That means at best, he doesn't care that they treat women like shit. At worst, he'd be participating if you weren't there. In either case, he lacks integrity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 08:15 PM
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One date? lol You have no idea if he's an HVM. Read the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 08:06 PM
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Please fix the title formatting. It doesn't need to be in all caps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 07:50 PM
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May I introduce you to The Myth of the Male Bumbler?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 07:48 PM
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This dude can have any woman he wants and he chose her ? You mean a 20-year-old supermodel? You're surprised he chose a literal 20-year-old supermodel? Isn't that like.. their gold standard for "desirability"? He's an almost 60-year-old-man with craters in his forehead, skin like a melting leather purse, and a billion kids. She's faaaaaar more than he deserves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 07:15 PM
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My intuition is never wrong. Never. I finally began taking it seriously when I immediately clocked that my boyfriend of over a year was cheating on me. I was able to determine this after seeing him interact with the other girl for no more than five seconds. They didn't even touch. He was literally just saying "hello." I had never met her before. She was the exact opposite of what he claimed his type was. She was wayyyy too young for him (so was I, but at least I was older than her.) Uneducated. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 02:13 PM
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Hey OP, just curious... Did you go to Harvard?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 02:30 AM
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Please repost this with an NP link. Direct links are against Reddit site rules.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 08:59 PM
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DO NOT. DO NOT. DO NOT. POST YOUR INSTAGRAM. Jesus christ, sis. You should see the kinds of death threats that get filtered out here. That's not safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 08:57 PM
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Physical attractiveness is important in any relationship. You wouldn't date a woman you weren't physically attracted to - nor should you. Why would you expect any different from women? What is considered physically attractive, however, is hugely subjective and varies woman to woman. Even if you don't consider yourself particularly good-looking or think your height is holding you back (It isn't. At least not as much as you think.), with a decent haircut and sense of style, you can easily put your…
/r/askFDS30/08/20 08:36 PM
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I have approved this conditionally. I'm going to need you to please point out anywhere in the sub where it's implied that height and HV status have any connection, though.
/r/askFDS30/08/20 08:27 PM
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That's because siblings have two unique sets of DNA to draw from. They're both roughly a 50/50 combination of their parents genes, but they're not necessarily inheriting the exact same "halves." You do appear to be correct, though. I did a little digging on this. Even assuming you weren't a carrier for multiple genetic diseases (which is unlikely), due to DNA being lost in the formation of the sperm and egg and the process of recombination, the child wouldn't be a clone. Interesting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 07:24 PM
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So... theoretically you could inseminate your own egg cell? Would that result in a clone?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 06:16 PM
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Yep. This is perfect example of the "grass is greener" mentality. 99% of men are, at best, completely useless in bed. They just use women's bodies to jerk themselves off. That's why I legitimately just laugh in their faces when they try to persuade me into it with lines like "but think how much fun it will be! You're going to enjoy it sooo much!" I've already had mind-blowing sex with a genuinely loving, giving man who was crazy about me. Nothing else interests me. Die mad about it. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 06:03 PM
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They literally act like we explode into an unfuckable pile of wrinkles on our 25th birthday. I dropped my baby sister off at college a few weeks ago. Got asked by several 18-year-old boys what I was studying. I graduated college years before they would have been high school freshmen. Unlike men, women actually take care of themselves so we age a million times better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:03 PM
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When I think about how many men must have wasted their time angrily typing up rambling, incoherent word salad rants and threats, only to hit send and get a notification that my DMs and chat are restricted 😩👌🏻👌🏻 It just warms the cockles, really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 03:34 PM
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The commenters in there are triggered as fuck and it's hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 02:13 AM
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A survey from UK anti-extremism charity HOPE not hate warns that half of 16 to 24-year-old men are entitled, delusional, self-victimizing pissbabies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 07:01 PM
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They really did Austin Abrams dirty with this caricature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:49 AM
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Hope you get picked, sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:24 AM
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Done!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:04 AM
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Can't tell you how many dudes I went to high school with attended a house flipping seminar and think that makes them a real estate mogul. Really, Brandon? With what capital? You're a line cook at Denny's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:21 AM
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😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:12 AM
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You've got one now! 😋 Welcome to FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:12 AM
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I love how the OP frames it like men are just out here suffering through dating these "awful, terrible women" out of some sense of duty or moral obligation lol They know what they're getting out of it. As long as she's putting out, they're happy to use women and let them think there's potential for a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:04 AM
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💀💀💀 deceased
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 12:42 AM
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If OLD is to be trusted, a solid 1 in 5 men are "CEO"s. If you're the only C-level employee of your small business, or you only employ a handful of people, you look like a presumptuous twat calling yourself CEO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 12:24 AM
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Women: "Please just leave us alone." Men: "HAH. You stupid, fat, ugly bitches WISH men would harass you. Here's several paragraphs detailing why you're a worthless cunt." Like the lack of self awareness is dumbfounding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 12:01 AM
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Men are the greatest possible argument for lesbianism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 10:22 PM
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Because women recognize men, and men categorize women. We're 2D stereotypes to them. You're either "marriage material" or "a slut." Or you're not attractive to them so you're completely invisible. A man cannot simultaneously claim a woman is "tainted" because he slept with her and call himself clean. But they do it. They want to have their cake and eat it, too. The "cock carousel" is male projection at its finest. They desire and want to sleep with "sluts" but would never marry one. They feel en…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 10:17 PM
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Don't waste your words on him. Save them for his wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 10:01 PM
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Right?? There was a post on PPD a few months ago where some utter waste of oxygen had compiled a bunch of photos of "FDS members." The tone of the posts was very much "BEHOLD THE FOUL, WRETCHED BEASTS!!!" And they were all well within a healthy weight range and good looking? Like those are worst examples you cretins could find? lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 09:51 PM
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You'd be surprised by the number of "I'm just a fair and balanced OBJECTIVE observer and, as the sole voice of reason here, I DESERVE to be heard!" messages. You get the sense that they really buy into their own bullshit sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 09:46 PM
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For as much of a bag of shit as some of the men I dated were, the one thing they all had in common was they'd never even dream of asking me about my past. They didn't care. The idea that asking for someone's "number" is a common or acceptable thing for adults is propaganda concocted by Incels who never emotionally matured beyond high school. The last "sexual experience" these men had was listening to more popular, sexually active kids posture about how many girls they'd allegedly slept with. The…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 09:45 PM
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Even they know RPW is full of larpers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 09:38 PM
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Telling women to shut the fuck up is par for the course. Telling men to shut the fuck up is "violence." Disappointed, but unsurprised 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 09:37 PM
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<3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 08:41 PM
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Their whole lives, they're never told their opinion isn't wanted. Their credentials are never questioned just because they're a man. Women and PoC are told this (implicitly and explicitly) and excluded at literally every turn. So we're used to it by now. Your average fragile, white Redditor has made it 15-45 years never having been told their opinion isn't wanted or relevant. They feel entitled to be heard in all situations because no one has ever tried to tell them they aren't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 08:41 PM
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I love how they're all like "hOw iS iT eNtItLeMeNt??" as they actively try to force me to dedicate my precious time and emotional energy to them simply because they sent me a low-effort text message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 08:19 PM
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Can your mom be my mom? Her texts got me thinking.. I used to have quite the codependent savior complex going on. I just loooved a "down-on-his-luck man with a heart of gold." Despite that, I have literally never met a man deserving of my pity. They just weaponize it. If the man you're dating is subtly (or not so subtly) painting the picture that he's an innocent "sensitive, caring guy" who just gets taken for granted in all of his relationships RUN. FOR. THE. FUCKING. HILLS. Without exception, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 10:41 PM
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Replace the https://www. portion with np.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 05:09 PM
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Hi OP. I don't want to have to delete this, please please please change the link in the post to NP immediately. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 04:51 PM
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You always have a choice. Right now, the smart thing to do is choose not to date. There isn't a man alive that can prevent you from feeling lonely or unhappy. Happiness comes from within. Trying to find it in another person will get you taken advantage of every single time. Read the handbook. Explore new hobbies. Try therapy, if you can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 01:21 PM
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is there a time soon you could offer? Don't do this. What you're doing is asking him to convince you that he's not trash - but you already know he is. If they don't offer concrete plans of their own volition within a reasonable timeframe, just unmatch them. Don't teach them how to manipulate you better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 01:11 PM
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You do not need to make a new thread for each screen cap. Please no personally identifying info.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 01:03 PM
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They legitimately believe we're all over here pining over the Leonardo DiCaprio types and other washed-up, aging, balding losers who date girls 10-30 years younger than they are. bOo hOo!! wHy dOn'T tHeY wAnT uS??! I've been trying to avoid the kind of lecherous men who would chase younger girls my whole fucking life. You're telling me those men will suddenly disappear when there's no longer a life experience gap between us? I can't wait to be 30. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 12:43 PM
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Nope. Horrible advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 12:28 PM
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It's like page three of the narcissist's playbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 08:57 PM
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Watch here if you don't want to give these asshats views: https://invidio.us/watch?v=3w3oDTkxZ5s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 08:39 PM
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Once I am allowed to... Speak my mind at work without being called a "bitch." Not be professionally judged for wearing minimal makeup. Dress how I like. Publicly like "traditionally male" sports without being called a "fake fan." Smile at/chat with strangers without it being taken as romantic interest. Travel the world alone. Sleep under the stars. Go to a bar/restaurant/movie/museum/anywhere by myself. Drink alcohol around people I don't know. Walk myself home at night. Exist in public, ever, w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 08:00 PM
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It's these. Several years back, a dude on Tinder superliked me. Before even looking at his profile, he was giving me massive American Psycho vibes. I found his instagram and he had been dressing up as Patrick Bateman for halloween every. single. year. Easiest left swipe of my life. Also went on a date with a dude who began raving about TWoW and said he was thinking about going to work for a financial firm as a hedge fund manager (good luck, kid) and said he had a "genius plan" to earn massive re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 05:56 PM
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Removed for low quality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 09:25 PM
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Male troll. Shocking. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 09:20 PM
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Now, when anyone says that men want sex more than women I just laugh and laugh. Yeah, they do. But only when women don't. So true. They're like this with everything. Their "dream girl" could show up on their doorstep tomorrow begging to date them and they'd shoot her down. They don't want an equal partnership where both parties are enthusiastic participants. They want to know they have the power to control a disinterested woman into being with them. And that's why so many men rape. It's patholog…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 01:19 PM
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Speaking from personal experience, idealized pop culture "love" and romance was the very foundation for how I thought it was supposed to work for most of my life. It was so engrained in me I didn't even begin to really question it until... I don't know, 21? Embarrassing in hindsight. My parents were very careful to project the appearance of an idyllic marriage around me - to the point where I was completely blindsided when they divorced. I also attended private schools in wealthy, small district…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 01:46 AM
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Psh. Of course it isn't? 🙄 Street corner hookers charge wayyyy more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 11:59 PM
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Nah, it's referring an image that's been floating around the internet for years from an Onion-like publication. A fictitious quote attributed to Victoria's Secret Angel Adriana Lima: "It's flattering to know men desire me. But then I remember a man would also have sex with a McChicken. So I don't let it get to my head."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 11:55 PM
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More reports on this than almost anything that's been posted to FDS. Apparently refusing to be coerced into sex is a hate crime. Stay mad, rapists. 🖕🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 11:36 PM
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Agree with you in general, but "software engineer" is a bit different than the other examples given. "Software engineer" still makes sense with the actual definition of the word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 04:46 PM
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Every woman I know is dying for a boyfriend/husband who will voluntarily express an emotion other than rage or cold indifference. They beg and plead for the men in their life to share anything with them and it's like pulling teeth. Men don't want to talk about their feelings, even when it actively harms the women in their life. And men want to blame us?! Fuck outta here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 04:42 PM
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No. LVM aren't picky. A woman dressing conservatively never stopped anyone from calling her a slut regardless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 04:11 PM
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Targeting you? Girl this is my first post on reddit in like months. Yeah.. that's her point. And you choose to waste it getting your tighty-whities in a twist over the one sub on all of Reddit advocating for women to stand up for themselves. How about spending your time shouting down male violence against women - which is everywhere on this site. Manosphere subs have inspired multiple mass murders. We're obviously the real problem here because sometimes we're mean to men who brutalize and abuse …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 03:39 AM
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I've had $500+ dropped on me on several first dates lol. And all by men who eagerly asked for a second date. Quite easy to do if you don't live in a midwestern shit hole like these broke, illiterate, cornfed fucks, actually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 03:19 AM
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Refusing to prioritize men who have nothing to earn it isn't "manipulative," "playing games," or "playing hard to get." The only people who believe so are the men who seek to gain from your lack of boundaries. You know, abusers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 02:57 AM
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Oh nooo! I'm so terrified that men are going to leave us alone to our wine, supportive friendships, cute shoes, and beautiful two story houses! Whatever will we do!? Oh nooo!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 09:55 PM
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100000% I used to date men who claimed they wanted someone low maintenance, straightforward, communicative, and honest. When I was all of those things, the guys were super into it... at first. Going on about "I love how easy things are with you!" and "yOu'Re nOt lIkE oThEr gIrLs!!" - all sorts of nonsense. But you know what? Every single one of those men inevitably lost interest in me. Every. Single. Time. They'd never say it directly of course, but I got hit with one "i'M jUsT nOt rEaDy fOr A r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 09:45 PM
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LOL yep. I hired a contractor once who I thought might be attractive for an older (late 40s/early 50s) man. Come to find out he was 34...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 02:36 PM
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It's funny how they talk about "the wall" like men don't hit it face-first at 200kph. I haven't seen a single attractive man over ~35 in real life. If we're including celebrities, it's maybe two. I see beautiful women in literally all age groups everywhere. Some of these 80 year old ladies are fresh to deathhhh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 12:26 PM
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Just in case anyone needed further proof that women consider men to be people and men think of women as objects. Trust me. Your 40-something year old bald head, grey pubes, and beer gut aren't more physically attractive by anyone's standards. We just want someone who's in the same general life stage as us. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 06:29 PM
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When we have standards, it's "you're just misandrist gold diggers!!" When we get abused and treated like shit, it's "why didn't you choose better? This is your fault." There's no rationalizing with someone who didn't rationally reach their position. The "racism" thing always makes me laugh, too. There's this perception on Reddit that the FDS community is primarily made up of black women specifically? I have a feeling this is their roundabout way of trying to claim "reverse racism" - which is A: …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 06:13 PM
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I can't believe this is such a huge thing. Men still ask about my SAT scores all the time. I'm a lot closer to 30 than 17 - you know, the last time they actually fucking mattered? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 05:00 PM
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I just physically retched reading that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 03:21 PM
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You had me in the first half, not gonna lie. You're not a soul to them, you're a service. Just... *chef's kiss*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 07:13 PM
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Modmail is a disaster. Routine rape and death threats, even from men claiming to be law enforcement (they're not, but still.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 07:07 PM
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He doesn't give a shit about your needs. Break up with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 07:04 PM
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but I personally never approach a man irl settings or make a first move ever Nor do we expect you to? Do things you enjoy. Join clubs, take up a social hobby, (if you have one) take your dog to the dog park. Talk to people (meaning expand your social circle, not in interest of dating them.) Things are shit right now in most places due to COVID. Can't you just take a break for now? Saying "we don't have many other options" is defeatist and untrue. There is no better or worse dating app. All the T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 07:04 PM
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Women experience depression at higher rates than men and no one asks "wElL iS sHe dEpReSsEd??" on the exceedingly rare occasion she doesn't want to care for her kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 06:41 PM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 06:36 PM
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YUP. I added the proposal thing for comedic exaggeration, but a guy legitimately did ask me for exclusivity, then introduce me to everyone in his life as "my girlfriend," only to later try to claim we were never actually official when I caught him cheating. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 10:50 PM
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Nothing could possibly convince me that the prevalence of male sociopaths isn't drastically underreported. It's a well-researched fact that men are nowhere near as empathetic as women. As a society we just accept this and call it "normal behavior" because so many of them are afflicted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 10:45 PM
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"As a woman" - no woman, ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 10:39 PM
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Misogynistic men have this problem where they can't distinguish between romantic rejection and rejection of their entire existence. They struggle with this because they don't actually consider women whom they perceive as unattractive to be human beings, so they assume we do the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 10:29 PM
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"Whoa, settle down there! Just because I asked you to be exclusive, introduced you to my whole family as "my girlfriend," and asked your father for his blessing for me to propose, it doesn't mean we're DATING! Why are women so CRAZY??"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 10:25 PM
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I'd rather be dragged behind a truck over broken glass and fire ants than get to know one more fucking LVM. The mere thought fills me with dread.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 10:02 PM
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Please read the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 09:46 PM
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"The League" is trash. I've never used it, but I've been told they "vet" profiles from OKC/Bumble/Hinge/Tinder and other dating apps. It's all the same quality of men you're getting anywhere else on OLD (which is to say, shit-tier and below.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 09:44 PM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 08:36 PM
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NP links only, please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 06:26 PM
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The "bare minimum" is already more than what roughly 70% of men have to offer. That doesn't mean you should accept it, of course. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 03:21 PM
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Story time! I was eighteen years old, dating a 28 year old man (🤮🤮🤮) who had groomed me for over a year... After casually expressing my complete lack of interest in having children, he tried to argue with me that I actually must want kids. After a couple minutes of "playful" back and forth about it his demeanor suddenly grew very serious told me that he would just microwave my birth control pills without me knowing whenever he felt like having a kid. Then, he said, I "wouldn't have a choice." I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 01:14 AM
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I want one where the tree flips the boy off with its little tree-branch arm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 12:39 AM
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We've got plenty of White Power Barbies, unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 08:38 PM
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OMG I didn't even realize it was the same name 😂😂 He's been renamed Brad. Fuck Brad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 08:28 PM
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Saying "I'm not a feminist" is not going to insulate her from rightwing rage when she states opinions that run counter to their conservative, male supremacist worldview. I know alt-righters are braindead sheep and all, but that's another level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 08:25 PM
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I am NOT a feminist Two seconds later: I feel like not a lot of women are saying this. Ah Tammy. You gorgeous idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 07:38 PM
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Bad idea. Bad, bad, baaaaad idea. First of all, you both need to be on the same page about the timing. The fact that he told you one thing and is seemingly changing the plan without discussing it with you is a red flag. Don't just say yes because he's proposing. The fact that a man is proposing shouldn't be the surprise. You need to have agreed upon at least a general idea of the timeline. The surprise is supposed to be how he proposes. You're going to change so much in the next few years. If yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 05:54 PM
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Outrage is psychologically addictive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 05:45 PM
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Yep. I got into weight lifting with Strong Lifts! Generally it's a good idea to avoid machines. They lock you into all sorts of unnatural positions and prevent you from developing the stabilizing muscles you would use if you had to balance the weight on your own. Free weights for the win!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 05:44 PM
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I've been lifting and eating fairly clean for years. I've met so many men who are convinced I'm lying because apparently if that were the case, I would be shredded by now. I'm thin and definitely strong but I don't look muscular at all. I'm sorry I don't have testosterone to make my life easy, Brad. How nice for you that you get to drink a six pack every night and eat pizza whenever you want and still have abs. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 05:34 PM
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I did (and do) have enough money for a dog sitter, but that dog might have never seen me. 😂 At the time I was young enough to have the flexibility to bail to another country for a month or two whenever I felt like it. Now that I have a business with domestic operations it's not quite that simple anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 02:40 AM
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saying that my period is no problem since he can just fuck me in the ass lol the next time a man tells me he doesn't want to talk about his feelings, I'm just going to say that's no problem because we can start discussing mine instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 12:29 AM
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I had a very similar epiphany. Six years ago, I was about as big of a delusional Pickme as you possibly could have met. I told myself I should live in a constant state of impermanence to find a man. That I shouldn't establish any real ties anywhere so I'd be ready to fit seamlessly into my Prince Charming's life. I figured I could contort myself into the shape of a perfect woman and then someone would see my value and be so wowed that they'd have no choice but to love me unconditionally. I'd fin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 12:09 AM
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☝🏻☝🏻☝🏻☝🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 09:28 PM
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LOL yes, that's exactly what it means. I have personal experience with the phenomenon. Most men don't actually understand sarcasm. For example, I met this guy on OLD last year. We dated for several weeks. I'm quite sarcastic and he could almost never tell when I was being facetious. His version of "sarcasm" was being a deliberate dickhole and then crying "i wAs jUsT jOkInG!!" when called out. Eventually I said I wasn't interested. I checked his profile before unmatching him and he had actually u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 04:55 PM
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"She" writes suspiciously like a man. "oOoPsIe dAisY!! I just keep tripping and falling onto all these dicks! Tehe! UGH. I don't know WHY I always DO THIS!! So clumsy!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 04:39 AM
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I moved in with an ex of mine and he lied about what "half" of our expenses were. Later found out I was paying the vast majority. For a fucking YEAR. 🤡 He wasn't anywhere near young or attractive enough to be a trophy husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 10:30 PM
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Being overweight never stopped anyone from grooming. There's no try anywhere in his hair, his beard, his clothes (on second look, is it naked??) or even his fucking expression. Literally a zero effort individual. 🙄 Overweight women can easily be attractive (Barbie Ferreira, Ashley Graham, Tara Lynn??) Never seen an attractive overweight man in my life. Not one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 10:21 PM
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These men who look like thumbs sure seem to have a lot of demands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 10:16 PM
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Circular reasoning. The men are the "logical" sex so everything they do must be inherently logical. Women are "emotional" so their very normal, human reactions are obviously some hysterical overreaction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 09:18 PM
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Yet another reason why we block. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 09:16 PM
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It's only an Evoque with basic wheels and trim - probably about the cheapest model they offer. It's hard to tell from such a small photo, but I think it's a 2015 as well. Which means the idiot actually bought one of the most unreliable, expensive to maintain vehicles on the road. If he really had any money (and wasn't mentally deficient) he would have leased.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 09:59 AM
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Girl. I wouldn't message the family of a dude I had just started dating if he was fucking dead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 11:38 PM
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"Leave her better (conditioned to be easily taken advantage of by sociopaths) than you found her"* Fixed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 07:09 PM
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At this point, the argument is essentially a semantic one. Regardless of your reasoning, the act does not change. The ultimate outcome does not change. Relying on blood donation for STD testing is unwise because it covers so few STIs and it would be a massive liability for the collection entity to present it as such. This, frankly, is nothing more than virtue signaling. You may have the privilege of being able to say things are different in your country, but I know dozens of Americans who have g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 02:56 PM
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Per the FDA: To date, there have been no reported cases of HIV transmission to transfusion recipients by blood donated by such individuals. The blood donation route has been suggested to me by both doctors and nurses. Most donated blood is sold for a profit. The reason they ask the lifestyle questions is so they don't waste money testing "high risk" blood. If you are acceptably low risk according to their guidelines, I think it's very silly to avoid donating? If you have a genuine suspicion or r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 11:51 AM
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I haven't watched much of the series but Ruth & Thomas are ADORABLE. I almost cried laughing at the Mango Chicken bit. So cheeky. So wholesome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 03:10 AM
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LMFAO I almost just made the exact same comment. Looks like Holiday Inn to me 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 02:13 AM
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There are hidden cameras in the other bedrooms and bathrooms, I guarantee it. Who the fuck would voluntarily choose to live with a man?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 11:13 PM
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Posting links to stolen content is a big no-no, unfortunately. You can (and should) buy the book secondhand for dirt cheap, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 10:54 PM
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The things I used to do to maintain friendships with people who never thought to invite me out, or only cared to see me when I was in a relationship. 🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 10:44 PM
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Haven't you heard that it's a scary time to be a man in the world? Our ancestors were literally fighting off saber-toothed tigers with sticks and rocks but having to be cognizant to not aggressively sexually harass women whilst holding unprecedented amounts money, power, and influence is definitely equally challenging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 09:51 PM
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Yeah, society has been telling unfuckable men that they're desirable and entitled to sex literally since the dawn of time but we definitely need this bootleg Maroon 5 frontman to remind us. Keep fighting the good fight, asshat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 09:46 PM
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Yeah, there is a lot of argument about this in the medical community. You can request a comprehensive STD panel, but a thing that bothers me is that many providers outright refuse to test for genital herpes unless you have active sores. Some providers don't test for it because they're notorious for false positives. However, some providers don't test for herpes unless it's repeatedly and specifically demanded because "the stigma is worse than the disease" and doctors don't actually trust most wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 09:38 PM
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"But you have heard of me."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 08:53 PM
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Their filters are already overloaded banning any woman who has something mildly critical to say about men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 08:52 PM
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I haven't been getting ads for her specifically (my algorithm knows I'm an angry, leftwing swamp witch.) I have been getting tons of ads for a goblin of a wannabe PUA and his Pickme captive demanding I "create an emotional rollercoaster to get the girl" for some reason. Buddy, if I were into women I can assure you I'd be slaying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 08:48 PM
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Not saying I don't believe you, but do you have sources? I remember Sarah and Whitney very explicitly coming out against him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 08:28 PM
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Amazing how many people don't realize this. I once went to a job interview and the guy (small agency, so he was the founder) was going on and on about how much he loved Tony Robbins. Noped right the fuck out of that one. If I'm gonna work for a moron, they better at least be smart enough to cover it up for the interview.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 04:04 PM
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I haven't met five decent guys ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 11:59 AM
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Absolutely nothing in the OP suggests the woman was dressed as you described, so I'm curious as to why you would assume that. Even if that was an accurate assessment of the situation (it isn't) I struggle to see what is feminist about demonizing a woman for being comfortable in her own home. The issue here is male sexualization of a woman existing in her own goddamn home. Women with a certain body type are often deemed de facto "slutty" regardless of what they wear, and that is problematic. I we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 11:16 PM
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I would challenge you to attempt to explain what makes an article of clothing "slutty" without relying on relativistic opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 11:04 PM
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Though they've happily gaslit and projected other ridiculous, patently untrue things onto me, at least none of the men I've dated have had the balls to try to call me a golddigger. I suppose they were afraid I'd suddenly catch on to the fact that I made more money than they did and realize they really weren't shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 07:18 PM
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SHHHH! No thinking, only peepeefeelz.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 07:06 PM
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Men: Feeeemales are so dumb and emotional. Why do they cry all the time? Men are logical. We punch holes in drywall and lock our families inside burning vehicles instead. Why can't you just be RATIONAL like us? Talking about your feelings is gay but it's not like you sexist whores care about men's mental health! You're so materialistic! Always want nice things! How dare you suggest I'm not entitled to spend all my money and free time on cars and video games?? You're shallow for caring about your…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 05:35 PM
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Other, shittier men. If you're "lucky." 🙄 If every man on the face of the earth disappeared today, there would be nothing we needed protection from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 09:17 PM
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I could. But I'd be lying. It was very much "better settle down with this handmaiden 10 years younger than me before all my prospects evaporate!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 08:50 PM
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And another thing... I'll just be grateful that someone is actually proposing to me. I won't. I've had half a dozen men try to hit me with a low effort "proposal," as have most women I know. It's not flattering in the slightest for some loser to ask you to commit to him (FOREVER!!) with the same level of enthusiasm he would have for eating a tuna sandwich. It's completely and utterly fucking dehumanizing because you realize in that moment you're just a box being checked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 06:04 PM
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"I don't care if the physical symbol of our eternal commitment to each other costs less than 5% of what the gaming console he replaces every 3-4 years does! As long as he occasionally pretends to love me for five minutes prior to ninety seconds of unfulfilling sex 😍"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 05:58 PM
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Yep. The Dirty and other similar sites exist for the sole purpose of shaming women - often falsely, if necessary. TD got successfully sued for publishing lies about a woman and yet they're still operating. Libel and defamation is notoriously difficult to prove, so that means it was pretty gratuitous. I guess massive lawsuits are just the cost of doing business when your business is harassing women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 12:39 PM
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Its been extremely easy to find guys who dont want kids. So jealous. I literally haven't found one. The closest I've found is guys who lie and say they don't want kids in the beginning before freaking out six months in and saying they decided they need someone who wants to be a mom. 😂😂🤮 Please teach me your secrets!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 12:01 PM
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It's been three months. Please find a hobby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 09:34 PM
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Same! That book gutted me as a kid. I used to hate reading it. Until I opened this thread I thought that was the purpose of the book was to show how ungrateful and awful the boy's behavior was?! This is blowing my mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:33 PM
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I can't even tell you how many men I've met that "hAtE pLaStIc sUrGeRy" but all their favorite actresses, models, and celebrities have had extensive work done. They LOVE plastic surgery. They just don't know what they're looking at. So "visual."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 02:57 PM
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lol no. I date men under 5'9" exclusively. Where is your anecdotal god now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 02:47 PM
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Most men have stretch marks, too. Most of the guys I dated had ones worse than mine. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 01:56 PM
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And a straight, white one at that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 01:04 PM
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Duplicate post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 05:20 PM
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... that's not even remotely close the point being made? It was given as a random example of a potential aesthetic preference. Not having blond hair obviously doesn't make one a loser. In this completely hypothetical example, I'm trying to illustrate someone who's particularly attracted to blonds shouldn't allow that superficial preference to make them to believe a man is perfect! Almost everyone has a "type," and she's entitled to that. But as I said (multiple times throughout the post) these t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 12:34 PM
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This reminds me. Many moons ago, whilst living in the desolate, frozen hellscape of Eastern Canada, my boyfriend and I were snowed in for almost a week. I was on the verge of going batshit insane and suggested an indoor camping date to lighten the mood. You ever made a pillow fort as an adult?? He said "haha no, that's stupid" and went back to playing Skyrim while ignoring me. Later that night he stumbled into bed pawing at me and asking for sex so I said "haha no, that's stupid" and told him to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 04:03 AM
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user reports: 1: It's promoting hate based on identity or vulnerability Brian, you dumb bitch, get the fuck out of my user reports. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 03:50 AM
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Ugh. I keep having people recommend that stupid podcast to me and it's driving me insane. "oMg sHe'S sUcH a sAvAgE aNd dOeSn'T gIvE a fUcK aBoUt mEn jUsT lIkE yOu!!" Way to miss my philosophy by a mile. It's lowbrow, vulgar for the sake of shock value, and offers absolutely nothing of substance. Letting old, decrepit scrotes fuck you isn't winning. Having casual sex with men you don't give a shit about isn't turning the game on its head. You think these absolute losers feel "played" when you fuc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 02:55 AM
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Yesss, this is from Jigsaw - but absolutely do check out the new one if you can. Without giving too much away, there is an important content warning at the beginning of X, but it's probably the best special I've ever seen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 01:04 AM
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Daniel Sloss. I initially recommended "Jigsaw" (one of his Netflix specials) here last year. His newest, "X", is now on HBO and fucking incredible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 12:43 AM
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Slossy <33
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 12:41 AM
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Exactly. He's picking apart the one thing she says she had confidence about? What a fucking coincidence. 🙄 "GOD this girl is perfect and I love her so much but I just genuinely wish she had thin, limp hair!" - no man, ever. Everyone wants thick, beautiful hair OP. He's just jealous that he's probably going to lose his soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 07:21 PM
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To be fair, RP/incels/MGTOW and other female hate subs have also been featured in national publications. It's just that when those subs are reported on, it's because their members have committed yet another a terrorist attack.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 09:28 PM
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"You look like a weirdo!" says the pasty white man in a tan suit, flashing the camera his best Dreamworks Face while awkwardly pretending to adjust his (obviously undimpled) tie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 11:43 AM
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NP links only, please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 11:38 AM
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Reconciling with the fact that 99.9999% of men are unwilling and/or incapable of seeing women as complete human beings rather than objects to be used was one of the hardest parts of internalizing FDS for me. Once you begin to recognize that mentality, you see it everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:27 PM
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"Pineapple doesn't go on pizza" "Fluent in sarcasm" Dead deer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:16 PM
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Yep. If they're speaking, they're lying. For example, whatever "type" of woman LVM/NVM claim to hate are the ones they really want. "I hate high maintenance girls!!" == he dates them exclusively.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 12:32 PM
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OMG totally hear you. Their behavior makes my fucking skin crawl. Men constantly call women "crazy" and yet you NEVER hear stories like this about unhinged women. Every woman I know has at least a few comparable stories about men. I've also had men react similarly, in terms of trying to provoke me. I was always very calm and refused to fight in my relationships, and men fucking hated it. Now that I'm loud, vocally opinionated, and unwilling to quietly tolerate situations that I don't like, stupi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 05:55 PM
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My mom has long been trying to set me up with the son of a family friend. She's known him his whole life, but he's a bit older than me so we were never close. Even just from what my mother has told me, the guy is a complete and utter pathological mess. He's smart, good looking, and successful so it's not like he wouldn't have options. Yet, he's fundamentally unwilling and unable to be in a relationship that isn't toxic as fuck. The handful of legitimately wonderful women he's dated were quickly …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 04:57 PM
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Ignoring for a moment how monumentally abusive and downright insane this is... She doesn't want to have sex for three whole days because she's physically ill and he actually has the audacity to whinge about "cOnStAnTlY bEiNg sHuT dOwN." Men are the biggest fucking whiners, stg. Totally incapable of soothing themselves or subsisting on their own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 04:46 PM
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Not even. Every "i lOvE tRaVeL" dude I've met was staying in shitty hostels and burning through all their savings to do it. Men who actually grew up wealthy have traveled enough that they don't feel the need to build their entire identity around it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 11:55 AM
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😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 09:54 PM
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Look at Miss Fancy Pants over here with her Franzia and full-sized Hershey bar! I only got some Trader Joe's Two Buck Chuck and a Hershey Nugget!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 09:44 PM
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OKAY FIRST OF ALL any chocolate that isn't going to ruin my skin pairs with RED WINE not white, you absolute dipshit. This is truly the heart-shaped jewelry of date proposals. I don't want it, nor does any other woman in the world. I'm really bemused by men who think they can entice me with these kinds of offers. Especially ones which are obviously tacky and low-effort. It's like... a classless man's idea of what women like. The date can only be as interesting as the person I'm on it with. I don…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 09:21 PM
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I dated a guy that would get drunk and threaten to kill himself every single night so I wouldn't leave him. One night, I finally stopped giving a shit and just called the police. He denied everything, so they left. Now he's telling some poor other girl ten years his junior the same thing. Statistically speaking, narcissists don't kill themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 07:55 PM
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Mm. Suspect. Apparently her previous "career" was "in the medical marijuana field." Now, I don't know about you, but everyone I've ever met that said they're "working in the medical marijuana field" has been a CBD/vape huckster making minimum wage or less. Which would explain the lack of applicable skills to find another real job. A woman who looked like Danny DeVito could make way more money on OF than she would hawking pot gummies like every other high school dropout from my hometown. Color me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 07:11 PM
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Resubmit this with an NP link, please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 11:44 AM
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As if he'd take no for an answer, either 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 07:46 PM
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Not only that, but Hinge bills its self intentionally as an app for finding relationships - and men will still shamelessly try to use it for hookups. I went on a date with a guy from Hinge pre-COVID. I asked him why he was on the app and he said the women were "classier" than the ones on Tinder/Bumble/etc. Gag. He then attempted to get me to come back to his house on the first date and ghosted me after I said no. They literally get on Hinge, an app marketed for finding SERIOUS RELATIONSHIPS, bec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 06:26 PM
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I ask how many women they've made orgasm. If they exasperatedly say "I don't know!" you can be sure the number is 0.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:46 PM
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Meanwhile, every article that involves a man being accused of rape has a comments section full of scrotes calling the accuser a slut/whore/lying bitch. Try reporting those comments sometime, you'll literally get a notification saying they're not in violation of community standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 09:04 PM
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Isn't it weird how men literally cannot tell when most women are joking (even in the context of a fucking stand up comedy routine) and then have the audacity to say women aren't funny/have no sense of humor? I'll say something that's absolutely ridiculous and clearly not something that I actually think and stupid men will get offended and start trying to argue. Happens all the time. I was once driving in a school zone and this moron I was dating at the time started bitching about the lowered spe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 08:56 PM
189

Latin men can straight up have a unibrow, gappy yellow teeth, a recessed chin, be 5'4", and feel entitled to cheat on a girl who looks like Adriana Lima.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 08:32 PM
83

"bUt yOu gEt sOmEtHiNg oUt oF tHe sEx, tOo!!" - men who have never made a single woman cum, ever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 07:30 PM
1

Software development.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 06:37 PM
5

Middle school "girlfriend"*, in my experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 05:33 PM
61

So cringe. I completed my BS in a STEM discipline at a top university while also working 40+ hour weeks remotely. And I graduated at the same time as everyone else my age. It really wasn't difficult. Anyone can do it if they're willing to just not go out getting sloshed seven nights a week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 07:40 PM
21

Feeeeeeemales just don't understand superior male humor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 06:31 PM
101

So many reports on this post from triggered men who like hitting women during sex. :c
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 08:32 PM
13

Thank you for posting an NP link <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 08:31 PM
12

That was her point. We distinguish between HV and LV. BPF especially would routinely have posts calling us "delusional" for thinking any HV men exist at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 01:19 PM
10

Do you actually get radical feminists saying they hate this sub? Yeah, we do. Most radfem subs are highly critical of FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 01:17 PM
132

Change your religion, change your personality. Your friends are bitches, you should change them. Get new ones who know how to respect their man. Marry me and change your name, change your family, then change where you live. Have my kids and change your diet, change your body, change your sleep schedule, and change your priorities and entire sense of self. Forever. Change how you cook and clean - and change your career while you're at it. What are you, a bad mom? You just had a kid and you're not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 11:57 PM
130

They can't. Doctors with lower empathy levels get sued for malpractice waaayyyy more often.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 09:43 PM
288

Not to mention, the "no expiry date" thing isn't even true. Sperm quality falls off a fucking cliff at 35. Women's fertility typically declines much more gradually. For most sperm banks, the cut off for donation is age 30. Older fathers put their kids at astronomically higher risk of autism and disability. So the idea that there's some sort of "biological clock" that exists exclusively for women is patriarchal propaganda.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 08:10 PM
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Sounds like if they would just go ahead and stop immediately pushing me and every other woman for sex, we'd all be happy? I'm so fucking tired of being told "wElL yOu mAdE oUt wItH mE sO oBvIoUsLy yOu wAnT tO fUcK rIgHt nOw!! fUcKiN tEaSe!!" They're creating all the expectation in their own pornsick minds. Me kissing you, just means I want to kiss you. If I wanted to fuck you, I'd say so. Then they hurt their own feelings and I don't care. Always remember they do it to themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 07:05 PM
80

This is what delusional scrotes actually believe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 06:50 PM
39

There are a lot of common proverbs that only seek to empower abusers. And we tell these things to CHILDREN for god's sake: "Kill them with kindness!" "Boys are only mean to you if they like you!" Eradicate that shit, and everything else like it, from the english language. Don't let people walk all over you. Be initially kind, but never so kind that you suffer for it. No one's going to treat you nicely or respect you more just because you were nice and respected them - they only do those things w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 03:14 PM
144

Guarantee you Rosie HW didn't say that. Her engagement ring was $350,000. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 02:42 PM
74

"Wait. I'm not allowed to rape literal children?! HELP, HELP!! I'M BEING OPPRESSED!!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 02:39 PM
10

This guy definitely looks like he'd invite you to the parlor for some h'white cake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 02:29 PM
272

White boys are the different species 🙄 The rest of us are people. God knows what they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 05:20 AM
27

BET.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 09:02 PM
4

They've done that. The scrotes just upvote the two Pickme posts praising pencil dicks en masse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 08:15 PM
36

"SHE GOES TO A DIFFERENT SCHOOL!! I MET HER AT SUMMER CAMP!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 08:13 PM
42

It's not restricted to the 20s age demo, either. Plenty of men in their 30s (Onision, Dahvie Vanity) and 40s (D'Elia) are also accomplished predators. The only reason the 50+ men don't pop up as often is because they don't understand technology or modern marketing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 07:42 PM
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They're also proof that men are perfectly capable of being empathetic, emotionally intelligent, and kind to others without the expectation of sex. Some days, I watch six hours of Queer Eye just to talk myself off the ledge of abandoning the idea of ever finding a decent man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 07:38 PM
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I love how when science "proves" men have the edge over women on something, they're all "MUH BIOLOGY" and "facts don't care about your feelings!!!" When it's the opposite, evidently they think facts do care about their feelings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 04:10 PM
42

Other absolutely ripped, ultra-inspiring grandmas: Ernestine Shepherd Vera Wang Rebecca Woody Ernestine is EIGHTY FUCKING FOUR and has better abs than me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 02:45 PM
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I've lived in five countries and America's healthcare system is a J O K E. It's hilarious when you get into arguments with people who have never left the states and think it's "tHe bEsT hEaLtHcArE iN tHe wOrLd."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 06:36 PM
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The most ripped dude (who I know wasn't on steroids) I ever met was also a functional alcoholic and ate McDonalds almost every day. Testosterone isn't fair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 06:19 PM
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LADIES, LADIES, PLEASE CONTAIN YOUR APPLAUSE! And these kinds of men actually wonder why they're single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 06:09 PM
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And not one source to be found. Enjoy your ban. - A "pickme" 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 04:51 PM
3

Yeah, god forbid we vote for someone with integrity who's actually stood for something in his life instead of just paying feel-good lip service while taking corporate interest money. What a monster. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 04:41 PM
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No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 04:33 PM
111

I can’t see any healthy, red-blooded straight male having THIS much visceral disgust for a woman. Porn and social media has ruined them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 04:11 PM
59

They're so fucking stupid. I had a guy tell me he "only likes totally natural girls... like Emily Ratajkowski." 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 03:17 PM
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As u/Salt_Satisfaction pointed out, not speaking allows men to more easily project their fantasies on to you. It's not a good thing. You will never be able to live up to them. You're also playing with deck stacked completely against you. They've done actual studies on this. If women make up something like 30% of a group, men consistently believe they make up more than half the people in the room. The same applies to speaking. Men think women who speak half as much as they do are "dominating the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 12:13 PM
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What is he trying to get me to do or not do? We don't know him. It's impossible to say definitively. We could spend all day speculating and trying to analyze his "true motivations," but they're ultimately unimportant. The important part is end result here. And that is that you can't have a basic conversation about your feelings with a person who you're ostensibly trying to figure out if you should the rest of your life with. Instead of hearing you out, listening to what you're trying to say, and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 07:14 PM
45

Your boyfriend is an emotionally immature manipulator, plain and simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 05:53 PM
168

Any time a scrote starts a sentence with "as an intellectual.." you know what's about to follow is the cringiest, most vicariously embarrassing shit you'll read all week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 02:42 PM
107

I've literally never been happier in any relationship than I have been single and doing whatever I want, whenever I want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 02:28 PM
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Can confirm. I was so frustrated earlier on in my dating years because I assumed men had this rich, complex inner world of emotional insight like I did and they were just being stubborn and refusing to share it with me. Several of my gay friends confirmed the obvious: most of them don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 12:18 PM
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Actual comment from that thread: this is kind of horrible and fake. a relationship should never be based on gratitude -- because then it becomes a mercenary relationship. I do something nice for you, you do something nice (sex) for me in return. Really filthy and demeaning. Relationships should be based on LOVE and not silly trading. No wonder girls get sucked into sexual bondage just because a guy pays for things. Pathetic. Men genuinely appreciating us and picking up a tab means we're being SU…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 01:26 AM
107

I've had pigs. Pigs are way cleaner than this disgusting creature 🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 09:30 PM
192

Not too harsh at all. Not harsh enough, IMO. I would have just blocked his ass with zero explanation. As you said, he's a grown man. If he hasn't figured out basic human decency being by now, he never will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 08:50 PM
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Fake profiles are easy to spot. Like.. hilariously so. I guarantee 99% of the "women" he's matching with are bots. Even if some of them are real women, it's just a right swipe.. it means nothing. Women have literally thousands of men right swiping on them on OLD. I right-swiped on about ten men. Each of which I was able to verify the identity and employment of before we even matched. I actually entertained a conversation with about two of those. Women don't sit around slobbering over what "a cat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 08:06 PM
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Men will sexualize literally anything. Even things that are objectively not sexual. There's a joke from Rick & Morty about the latter beating off to "an extra curvy piece of driftwood" and most men would do the same given no other options. Why do we allow men to have opinions on women's clothing or what is "slutty"? Why do we humor their stupid, ill-informed thoughts? It's all just a reflection of their completely delusional perspective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 06:38 PM
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It's all good. It's very easy to get caught up in the ideals of the sub. Once you finally see LVM for what they are, it all becomes so obvious in retrospect. I'll admit I've been a little short/unempathetic in certain circumstances when giving dating advice to my friends because it's hard not to be like "GIRL. I can see it as clear as the sky is blue this dude you "love" so much is a worthless asshole. Stop." but in those cases we have to take a step back and remember we're all at different plac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 06:06 PM
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Nah. I know tons of women who are absolutely amazing in every way who are in LTRs/marriages with dull, crusty, pornsick losers. They were programmed to think that love means "sacrifice" and all other manner of bullshit by patriarchal society. That conditioning is a lot to overcome without a push from a place like FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 11:21 AM
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Yep. Men are obsessed with me when I treat them like shit. 🤷🏻‍♀️ When I was a massive doormat who bent over backwards to be sweet, understanding, and accommodating like they all pretend they like, dudes were absolutely repulsed by me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 03:51 AM
32

Holy shit. You can actually pinpoint the exact moment it clicks for him just by watching his eyebrows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 02:56 AM
92

Didn't this dude just get outed for preying on high schoolers?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 02:41 AM
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I have a lot of family from the south and have never heard of this until now. What in the actual fuck 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 12:07 PM
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Really? Because just about every man I know could go out today and find a stable, committed relationship with a HVW if they wanted to. The most accomplished, beautiful, intelligent women I know have to try so. fucking. hard. just to find a man that won't treat them like absolute garbage. The only thing men have a "hard time" doing is finding unlimited casual sex with women who look like supermodels. Boo hoo. Men should shut the fuck up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 02:29 AM
32

The fucking audacity of this RC Cola brand version of The Weeknd...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 12:27 AM
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Speaking as another girl who was pegged as "emotionally mature" at your age... You should absolutely not date someone that much older than you. The only older men that will date someone your age are stunted and controlling. It doesn't matter how "emotionally mature" you are for your age, there will always be a power imbalance. You're still at different levels of life experience that there is just no replacement for. Date people your own age. Just don't take it too seriously yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 04:28 PM
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Yeah. You're probably not going to be able to get through to her, but you should definitely try anyway. That sort of thing just comes with age. Most young adults just don't have the life experience or perspective to realize how creepy it is, but it usually works its self in your early 20s. I dated a 28 year old at 18 (I'm pissed no one even bothered to point out it was weird, though) and by 20 I was finally able to see him for the loser he was and dump him. You can try by reframing it. Ask if sh…
/r/askFDS18/06/20 03:45 PM
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BH is absolutely full of these little tidbits of wisdom and I love it. Unfortunate that fanbase has been all but ruined by an abundance of men who find the abusive alcoholic protagonist "relatable."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 02:26 PM
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These kinds of men haven't opened their eyes to the one true universal law yet: Dick is abundant and low value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 03:12 AM
56

Yup. Spent months trying to help a girl leave her piece of shit boyfriend. She'd call me crying several times a week. Ask me to meet up with her just to complain about him. All our interactions were completely dominated by her complaining about this abusive asshole. He calls her a cunt, a slut, stupid, and every horrible insult in the book. He tells her she's worthless, gives her the silent treatment, locks her out of the house (THAT SHE PAYS RENT FOR), and steals her car keys on a regular basis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 03:05 AM
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stopped fantasizing he was similarly ethical, kind and motivated 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 What a difference this makes. I used to be such a hopeless romantic little pickme, clinging to the smallest indications that a guy was kind and genuine. I'd bend over backwards to see the good in men, even if it was very clearly hidden neck-deep in a trough of liquid garbage, cheating, lying, abuse, narcissism, and dogshit. I've literally only been interested in one guy in almost two years. I no longer feel bad abruptly cutt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 02:58 AM
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Eventually, I asked him if he wanted to go on another date Don't do this. (I’m not trying to waste my time) and it took him three days to answer. You're wasting your own time by not cutting off a dude who so very clearly has absolutely no respect for you. Ultimately, you'd been on one date with him. You have no real way of knowing if he "was invested in having a relationship" after one date. You just don't. You only have his behavior to go off of, and his behavior indicates he's not interested a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 10:14 PM
10

It's satire, but this mentality is absolutely real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 10:07 PM
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Hank Hill though? 😂 Hank routinely demonstrates he possesses almost zero emotional intelligence and is so anal retentive over his (and Bobby's) perceived masculinity that he'll frequently cause himself and his family great pain and inconvenience to maintain the illusion of it. Into the trash he goes. BWAAHH!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 09:39 PM
14

lol I'm probably dating myself now, but mostly I know Prince Harry for wearing Nazi regalia at Halloween parties. Dude's an LVM for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 09:35 PM
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Something, something broken clock... Jordan Peterson is still an unrepentant misogynist and objective LVM. It’s kind of like when men are all for abortions but only because it gives them an out and not because they believe in female bodily autonomy or equality. At that point, it doesn’t count.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 03:25 PM
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Be wrong about a small factoid or common misconception intentionally and then watch to see how quickly he jumps in with the "AKSHUALLY..."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 04:39 AM
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Absolutely objectify men! Whenever a creepy pack of dudes would try to convince my girlfriends and I to make out at parties in college I'd say "Okay, but you boys have to kiss each other first!" Sometimes they would. We never kept our end of the deal. 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 01:14 AM
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NP links only, please. Edit: If you downvote me for trying to not have this sub be banned from Reddit, you're a moron.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 12:54 AM
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"jUsT cOmMuNiCaTe!!1!" Telling a grown ass man not to be a fucking slob isn't "healthy communication" between partners. It's one person deliberately and maliciously refusing to grow the fuck up and be a functioning adult. Your dad is a cunt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 12:23 AM
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lol excellent chance people saw what was obviously a man who had gender swapped his photo and they were just taking the piss. The features that make women attractive are not the same features that make men attractive. Take someone like Henry Cavill. Super masculine face. As a woman trying to attract straight men, he'd never be as highly rated as a man trying to attract straight women because he'd still look like a dude: https://pbs.twimg.com/media/DVyfkgtWAAA0chp.jpg Perhaps you already have a v…
/r/askFDS16/06/20 11:10 PM
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I'm pissing myself laughing that he referred to risotto as "complicated." There's absolutely nothing complicated about risotto, you just can't negligently leave it on the fucking stove like it's spaghetti.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 10:45 PM
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And his bros will all act like it's the funniest thing in the world even if no one laughed when a woman told it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 03:07 PM
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Absolutely boils the blood. Dude was recently trying to explain my field to me, like I haven't been in the industry for almost a decade. I went off on him like "Why is it that instead of asking someone else a question every now and then, you assume you're the one with all the knowledge to impart here? In my experience, intelligent people can recognize an opportunity to learn something. Idiots are the ones always assuming they already know better." At lease the douchebag had the decency to turn w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 10:26 PM
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Oh god my blood pressure. I've made the mistake of telling a few guys about my side business. You ever notice how men seem to think they know more about sports especially by default? I took a common clothing item and refined/modified it to be easier to wear and more functional for a very specific athletic activity that most men know absolutely nothing about. Think ballet. That kind of complete ignorance. For some reason, they always take the mere mention of my business as an invitation to start …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 10:08 PM
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Absolutely. I found it in a $0.99 used book bin in the middle of goddamn nowhere. Thought it looked interesting and took it home. That book probably saved my life at least once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 11:17 PM
102

You might be interested in reading The Gift of Fear by Gavin DeBecker. Intuition is a survival mechanism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 07:55 PM
51

Maybe he should learn how not to be a fucking gargoyle in public. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 07:19 PM
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I won't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 07:21 PM
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NP links only, please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 01:15 AM
50

Pedophiles destroyed with FACTS and LOGIC.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 07:19 PM
17

Right?? Almost every man my (formerly) codependent ass has dated had some sort of pathological mental health issue. All manner of sociopaths, borderlines, narcs, and depressed little monsters. What an absolute fucking baby. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 07:15 PM
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Yep. I can't even wear a cute athleisure set when I run out for some quick errands. Delusional men think it makes me attainable to them and I get chatted up by the ugliest, fattest, sloppiest men you could imagine. When I've got my hair, makeup, nails, and outfit on point? No one attempts to speak to me 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 07:05 PM
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The fleshlight doesn't count because he thinks he's entitled to sex with a living, breathing woman and the pleasure of knowing he's successfully manipulated her into it 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 07:01 PM
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Yet they get so pissed off when we (accurately) point out that they don't actually see women as people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 06:59 PM
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Men like what society tells them to like because they see women as status symbols rather than people. It's influenced by porn for sure, but also pop culture in general. In the 90s, the "hottest" women were either rail-thin and curveless (Kate Moss), or had broad shoulders and tiny asses (Naomi Campbell, Cindy Crawford.) In the early 2000s it was huge boobs, small asses (Angelina Jolie before she took out the implants, Megan Fox, Scarlett Johansson). Now it's instagram thick (Kardashians, et al.)…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 08:11 PM
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This is probably gross enough to warrant posting every day, but this is technically a duplicate post so I have to lock it. Sorry, OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 04:18 PM
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Agreed. Locked & removing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 04:00 PM
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Mods have made the group decision to lock and remove this post. The focus is clearly on the wrong aspect as to why this is fucked up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 03:59 PM
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Your inability to see it as shaming doesn't mean it's not shaming, though. Telling her she's objectifying herself is blaming women for the actions, thoughts, and feelings of men. It's not her obligation to dress a certain way so men won't think about her sexually. Men have proven time and time again they will sexualize anything, even things that are objectively not sexual in any way. Multiple stories about Redditors literally fucking coconuts have made the front page, FFS. This is the exact vict…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 03:57 PM
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Implying you "respect yourself" and another woman doesn't because of an article of clothing is absolutely shaming. Good luck with telling men that those clothing are not supposed to be sexualised though. "Good luck with telling men showing ankles and wrists isn't scandalous!" - this exact mentality, circa 1500. Conforming to men's judgment and shrinking yourself as to not be a target is pickme behavior. Revolutions aren't easy. That doesn't mean you shouldn't fight. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 03:36 PM
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Glad to hear it's been helpful for you - it has for me as well! I sleep quite easily knowing I can attribute a lot of the success I've had in life to my own perseverance. I think that's much better than having someone hold my hand for my entire adulthood and ending up feeling like a fraud. I was unlucky within the microcosm of my own family, but very lucky when I consider the other privileges I've had in my life that most others could only dream of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 03:28 PM
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Women are shamed by men either way. That doesn't mean women need to shame other women, too. Normalization is the opposite of eroticization. The idea that a woman's physical appearance or clothing is in any way an indication of her sexual availability or consent status needs to be be torn right the fuck down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 03:09 PM
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Yep. Mine did it. My brother was a complete and utter criminal fuckup until his 30s. My mom sent him to countless reform schools, trade schools, and community colleges (never graduated a single fucking program) until eventually he decided he was ready to get his shit together. I managed to graduate summa cum laude from a tier one university despite my mother being completely unwilling to support any extracurricular activities, pick me up from sports, or pay so much as a fucking dime towards any …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 03:05 PM
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I noticed 100% of male profiles on OLD that complained about "basic bitches" also said something about "not liking pineapple on pizza" or some kind of reference to The Office. Self awareness is not their strong suit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:55 PM
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Pretty pathetic that your typical single dude can't even come close to competing with the effort and dedication put in by an actual dead man. Bless her, she must miss him so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:50 PM
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"Supporting other women" doesn't mean never acknowledging when a woman does something wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:40 PM
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... Where are women being shamed for being unwilling to show their skin? I literally said I would never dress like that - personally. That doesn't mean the opposite is suddenly okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:36 PM
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Nope. You're blaming women for the thoughts and actions of men. Stop doing that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:22 PM
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Okay. A lot to unpack here. I hate this title and the implication that the woman is at fault here. I don't think what a woman chooses to wear (or not wear) has any bearing on whether or not she "respects herself." What passes for "acceptable" varies massively based on a fuckload of complex cultural factors and there's no objective "correct" judgment. Men in certain areas of the world think showing your ankles is slutty, for fuck's sake. Your subjective opinion should not be confused with objecti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:19 PM
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Yes, we absolutely can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:04 PM
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LOL this is hilarious because Saoirse actually is blonde, just not usually the platinum kind. Still mindblowing she could ever be called "unconventionally" attractive. Men truly are visually stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 08:38 PM
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I like how she calls him "someone's son" as if that has any fucking significance whatsoever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 08:30 PM
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I can picture this entire thing coming out of Mac's mouth on IASIP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 12:17 AM
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lol this moron is out of her fucking gourd. There's absolutely no such thing as "forced fatherhood." Fewer than 200 women were arrested for forcible rape in 2012 - and that includes both male and female victims. Men could always just choose not to have sex if they're not ready to be fathers. Unlike women, who are under constant threat of male rape, coercion, and violence, this would actually solve mens' "problem" completely. Come on boys, just keep your slutty legs closed! Meanwhile, an average …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 09:20 PM
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I once dated a guy who who would constantly pinch, lightly slap, tickle, poke, and try to pick me up whenever he felt like it. He never did it out of anger so I didn't think it was abusive at the time. Like we'd be sitting on a couch watching a movie in silence and out of nowhere he'd start squeezing my waist or jabbing his fingers into the side of my neck. I told him no less than 100 times, very calmly, that I wanted him to stop trying to physically annoy me. I finally snapped and screamed at h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 06:35 PM
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A pencil sharpener that can sharpen many pencils is a good sharpener. A pencil that has been sharpened too many times becomes tiny and useless. :< Remember to slut-shame men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 06:09 PM
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It's not an "abuse of power" to remove content that doesn't fit within the sub guidelines. It doesn't matter if it's explicitly against the posted rules, or we feel the content just violates the spirit of what we're trying to accomplish here. We've had a massive influx of new users lately and we are aggressively removing low-effort, unthoughtful content in the interest of quality control. Any sub that has experienced rapid growth has also experienced a massive decline in quality of the average s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 04:30 PM
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Please read the FDS handbook before posting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 04:19 PM
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Borderline Personality Disorder
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 11:17 AM
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One of my friends told me a story about her ex boyfriend. She had been dating him for over a year and they went out for Taco Bell one night. She wasn't hungry but the boyfriend got a few things, so she ordered a soda. He asked her to Venmo him the $2 for her drink.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 12:52 AM
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You're correct. It's all marketing. When I was on hinge, they routinely suggested that I was "most compatible" with uneducated conservative christians of questionable employment even though I specified I was an atheist college-educated liberal working in tech for a fortune 500...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 08:27 PM
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It "isn't a big deal" except that it lasts forever, you can catch it and infect others even if you use a condom, you have to deal with the embarrassment of disclosing your status to everyone you sleep with, there's a massive amount of stigma around it directed at women, and it seems painful as hell in most cases. I don't agree with shaming women who have it, of course, but calling it "not a big deal" encourages slutty men to run around infecting more people and not telling their partners about t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 08:21 PM
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It's the "YOU CAN'T FIRE ME, I QUIT!!" of the dating world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 04:56 PM
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.. She said it, including in her suicide note? And he indirectly copped to it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 04:35 PM
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I don't know if I'd called it "rumored" at this point. He gave her herpes and then gaslit and abused her while she begged and pleaded for him to treat her with basic respect and decency. Jim Carrey is indeed one of those assholes surrounding people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 12:33 PM
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Who the fuck makes "possessive boyfriend ASMR" to begin with?! I have to imagine the only people who would enjoy that are the five women globally who haven't yet been in a relationship with a possessive man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 12:31 PM
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Many LVM need to feel like the prize in the relationship to soothe their fragile ego. They want to be the one who's "in demand." The one people outside the relationship perceive as "superior." It gives them a false sense of control over the situation. All men say they want a woman who's intelligent, beautiful, and funny, but the reality of the situation is that a woman who is too much of any of those things presents a threat to his precious superiority complex. As much as men like to deny this i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 08:34 AM
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Reaching can be an interesting conversation starter. I did the reach on a first date once and the guy excitedly said no girl he's been out with has ever offered to pay. He "not like other girls"'d me and honestly thought that was a compliment. He was so confused when I told him I didn't want to see him again. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 12:26 PM
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The term "nice girl" is so poorly defined because there's no real female equivalent to a "nice guy." That sub is just a bunch of scrotes that got butthurt and made a place to whine in an attempt to show men and women act "equally" (CHECKMATE, FEMINISTS!!!) entitled to attention from the opposite sex. The fundamental problem stems from the fact that women, uh, don't. TL;DR - stupid scrotes are gonna stupid scrote and can't interpret nuanced social dynamics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 07:50 PM
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In-window AC unit. Two deflated pillows. Hat that doesn't fit. Comforter stolen from a Holiday Inn circa 1990. Sir, you are a broke bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 09:59 PM
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Yep. Gassing them up (but only with your words, never your actual actions/feelings) in the early stages can take their guard down and make them start involuntarily spewing some incredibly valuable information that will give you a ton of insight into their psychology. One of my favorites tactics is to get them talking about themselves on a first date and then, after they've spent a while blathering on, smile and ask them why a "man like them" is single. Almost all of them will say something that'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 12:22 PM
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It's so pathetic how men are completely ruled by their dicks. Women aren't even allowed to exist in a public space without men taking it as an invitation for harassment. I can't seem to pull up this page on Twitter, though - says the account doesn't exist. Did you report them? Their Tumblr page is still up, I think, with the description "'Ladies' of the UK so desperate for a man they will show you their prized assets in order to get your attention." I don't see an option to report it. While ther…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 05:09 PM
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Oh, god. I found him quite hard on the eyes. That eyebrow ring is vile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 02:52 AM
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"HE HAD IT COMING!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 11:50 PM
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I dated a guy that was absolutely despised by dogs. He didn't have any pets, but several of his friends had dogs and they'd growl or be obviously standoffish with him, even if that was completely out of the dog's character. I had never seen anything like it. The guy was incredibly physically attractive, came from a normal, well-off family, had a stable job, was fairly charming. There weren't any obvious red flags. Turns out he was a serial rapist. I immediately adopted a dog after we broke up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 08:43 PM
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LVM are so accustomed to having society praise and validate every dumb little synaptic impulse that travels through their minds that they've lost their capacity for introspection. Their contemporary male critics violently beat off to Ernest Hemingway's shitty, self-indulgent writing and simultaneously thought Sylvia Plath's work was frivolous for no other reason than she was a woman. Men think everything they do and say is so interesting even if they're saying absolutely nothing of substance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 08:36 PM
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I made it to "We met on a penpal site when I was 17 and he was 25." It's abuse. Full stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 08:13 PM
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Yeah, wasn't her. Good quote though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 08:04 PM
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The Cardi B thing is infuriating. They're so delusional they think women actually WANT to have sex with the kind of disgusting men who have to buy it. 🤢 No woman, let alone a hustling prostitute, is going to try to fuck a man who's incapacitated. No one EVER even came forward and claimed she actually robbed them. For all we know she made it up for clout. Why is it that Cardi B gets demonized when male rappers can brag all day about selling drugs, abusing women, and killing people, and have the d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 08:00 PM
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I think Doc, Joe, and Carole are all terrible people, but Carole is objectively the least awful. It's amazing how men are so eager to lionize (heh.) a man who killed and abused tigers/horses/alligators/other animals, paid people slave wages, sexually coerced men with drugs, harassed, threatened, and attempted to murder someone just because he's a campy, loud-mouthed yokel. There is absolutely no female cult of personality equivalent that would allow a woman to get away with that kind of behavior…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 03:43 PM
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Never had any sort of cosmetic medical procedure/weight loss/plastic surgery/injection or anything else, but what I've observed is the following: If there's one thing that's really obviously fucking with your appearance and you think it's truly separating you from true happiness and self confidence, a cosmetic procedure might be for you. Maybe you love the rest of your face, but your nose is objectively crooked. In that case, by all means do what makes you happy. BUT... the overwhelming likeliho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 04:50 PM
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Pretencious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 03:48 AM
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He could have been perfectly average looking (for a bald dude) and easily found a woman if he bothered to groom himself, hit the gym, apply sunscreen, and read a book that wasn't Atlas Shrugged. Instead, he'll talk about what slovenly, unfeminine hogs western women are. Without seeing the slightest inkling of irony.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 01:21 AM
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I just choked on a swedish fish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 01:15 AM
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Grunting noises when playing tennis. Choking and martial arts - or "dId yOu kNoW wReStLiNg wAs tRaDiTioNaLlY pRaCtIcEd nUde??" My friends who ride horses tell me they get lots of weird comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 01:14 AM
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Ultimate HVW as it comes to her character and work with the community, imo. I still think the song is fire, even if I don't really relate to the lyrical content. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 04:50 PM
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Content of the song aside - do we really need to come for Dolly? The woman's 75 now and a saint. https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/entertainment/a29873267/dolly-parton-jolene-song-lyrics-meaning/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 04:37 PM
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WHAT. THE. FUCK?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 04:04 PM
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Another automatic nope: sexualizing my hobbies in any way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 03:17 PM
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Do not ever put a man, especially just a first date with one, above your needs. Reschedule.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 02:53 PM
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Leslie's face was gold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 11:52 PM
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He didn't propose to her because even at an age where statistically he should be dead soon, he's certain he could do better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 07:59 PM
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Why do men on OLD think liking The Office and believing pineapple "shouldn't go on pizza" constitutes a personality? WHY?? Either or both of those things were on a solid 80% of profiles before I deleted the app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 07:34 PM
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It stands for "nonparticipation" or "no participation" and we need to use these links to comply with Reddit's global anti-brigading rules. It disables downvoting/upvoting and commenting, but you'll still be able to read the post and comments. Just replace the "www" in any reddit link with "np", like so: https://np.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/grbrxr/i_found_out_that_my_bf_posted_a_video_online_of/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 03:32 PM
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Please post NP links only, guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 03:12 PM
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"SORRY BUT WOMEN JUST AREN'T AS FUNNY AS MEN." - men with this exact sense of "humor" Imagine thinking this was clever enough that you needed to film it and post it on the internet. The complete lack of self awareness. Cringy as fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 12:17 PM
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I never really wanted kids, but the thought that they would shackle me to an unpredictable potential monster absolutely fills me with dread. Planning on getting my tubes severed ASAP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 09:53 PM
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Other major life events/milestones that can cause abusers to begin to treat you like shit: Moving in together. Buying a house. Getting pregnant. Having a baby. Adopting kids. Getting married. Moving to a new city. Losing a job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 09:36 PM
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I love Max, but you should watch the original Catfish documentary. It's a fascinating look into Nev's psychology. The basic premise is he falls in love with a "model" he's never met before. At one point in the movie, he photoshopped a picture of himself and the model together. He's shirtless and she's turned away from the camera in some sort of backless dress and Nev implies it's supposed to represent a post-sex photo. Obviously, it's later revealed someone else is using this woman's photos. Whe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 12:20 PM
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Granted, I haven't seen a Blue Apron box in several years now - my ex used to get them. But it was literally just raw ingredients that came in a box with a recipe. You still had to chop/prep everything from what I remember? And the food wasn't incredible, but it was certainly never bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 12:57 AM
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What the fuck is it with men feeling like they have the right to make executive decisions about their partners' lives? Sabotaging birth control, throwing away clothes, calling your fucking boss to tell him you want your wife to be demoted, cancelling a subscription SHE FUCKING PAYS FOR?? You NEVER see women pulling this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 12:48 AM
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Men will use this as evidence that there's an epidemic of women "getting away with" rape because there's no possible way men could commit 99% of all rapes in their mind. "I tHoUgHt yOu bElIeVeD iN eQuAlItY?? cHeCkMaTe fEmInIsTs."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 07:52 PM
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"Fake News" - delusional men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 07:50 PM
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We don't do slut shaming here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 07:44 PM
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“If you have a guy who refuses to use a condom, this is a great option,” she added Phexxi’s side effects were minimal — mostly irritation and burning $250 to $275 for a box of 12 without insurance This article is full of what in the actual fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 06:11 PM
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Most of northeast and northwest DC are not feasibly walkable. You've got public transportation to take you into the heart of the district but going to the grocery store or trying to get literally anything done other than commuting to work is going to be a massive pain in the ass without a car. People of potential viable dating age (21-55) make up less than half of the total DC population. Granted, I'd never recommend dating anyone more than a few years younger or older than you, but for the sake…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 05:52 PM
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Everyone I knew in SF who had a car, also had a garage. I wouldn't describe it as "very few." At least, not in my industry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 05:34 PM
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Only 25% of people who work in DC actually live there, so "a lot of people in DC" are probably also certainly not "in DC" by your definition. Compare that to Manhattan, where it's 80%. You're also talking about an area with 700,000 people that's 3x the square mileage of Manhattan. Not all of DC is downtown and not all of it is walkable. There's significantly more sprawl. The "DC proper" men you're referring to are basically statistically irrelevant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 05:32 PM
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Lived in the DC metro area for a while. I absolutely would not live there without a car. Lots of people don't have cars in SF and LA as well and I'd have cars in both of those cities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 03:49 PM
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In NYC? I'm more lenient about it. Nowhere else, though. Anecdotally, lot of people who grew up there don't even learn to drive until their twenties. Insurance rates are astronomical, parking sucks, driving through the city is a fucking nightmare, you're 100% going to get hit at some point, and public transit/Uber is reliable and far more practical. My lifestyle has me on the road a lot, though. I don't like staying in one place. I'd be concerned we simply wouldn't be compatible. It's not necess…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 03:29 PM
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If he doesn’t live in NYC or if he lives in NYC and he’s over 30 this is a dealbreaker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 03:00 PM
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Ugh, jesus. He correctly points out that many a modern fuckboy want to be wooed in the way that women and females of all species have been for a millennia... and then goes on to say women have "incorrectly" labeled toxic masculinity as, well, toxic. All of his points about how garbage most modern men are came back down to pointing the finger at women as the root cause of the issue. Rather than take down the men who chronically abandon their children, he shifts the blame onto the "single mother" …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 01:11 AM
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Yep. Literally anything you do - or don't do - makes you a whore. Like my friend's loser ex-boyfriend called me a slut because several guys were asking me on dates. None of which I even accepted. Even things random ass men do can make you a whore! Their words are meant to oppress and control women's behavior, but ultimately completely meaningless. I was once called a slut and a prude in the same sentence, ffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 09:02 PM
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That there is a Pathological Pickme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 06:02 PM
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Don't cling to a mistake just because you spent a lot of time making it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 11:49 PM
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inb4 TikTok removes this for literally no reason like they do with all the other pro-woman content creators
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 07:59 PM
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Yup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 07:55 PM
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Locking duplicate post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 05:00 PM
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It's funny. The ones who actually make money never complain about paying for dates. They're actually insulted if you want to go dutch. These assclowns don't even realize they're outing themselves as broke trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 04:52 PM
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Boo hoo. Won't someone EVVURR think of the poor, oppressed widdle mayuhles?? 🥺🥺 I've made more money than almost every man I've ever dated and according to Reddit mouthbreathers I'm still a "gold digging bitch," for expecting a man to pick up the tab on a fucking salad soo... There's absolutely no winning with them and their circular reasoning bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 04:30 PM
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I find it very abusive to put pressure on women to provide men with a life they cannot provide for themselves as men. As much as men are not poverty eradication plans for lazy women, women are not private chefs, maids, therapists, child-bearers, teachers, and assistants for emotionally stunted, selfish, gluttonous, slovenly, useless men. We can do this all day, you pick-me-ass bitch. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 04:27 PM
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God, they're so desperate for attention. Just disable your private messages. Makes life so much easier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 04:17 PM
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Comments section is full of lovely, thoughtful commentary like "your sixteen year old daughter is a gold digging hooker" and "your wife is an entitled bitch and you should divorce her." Bright, rational people (definitely not greasy teenage boys) we're dealing with here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 04:01 PM
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Can't wait for the triggered male reports on this one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 03:46 PM
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An acquaintance of mine dated one of Jude's many exes. Jude is a serious piece of work. The ex-girlfriend got relentlessly trashed in the media for being a "gold digger." She was young (because of course she was) and not really established but her family's net worth is waaaaaaay fucking higher than Jude Law's. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 11:53 AM
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Consider this your daily reminder that most men don't see women or children as human beings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 11:48 PM
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This. Women in high stakes positions are being gunned for and challenged twice as hard as any man. It should be no surprise her boss was eager to agree with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 08:57 PM
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The more I learn about men, the more I actively want to stay single forever. I've dated dudes who displayed exactly this kind of mentality before. I have no doubt they would have eventually tried something similar. One of them simply threw out clothes of mine that he didn't like without my knowledge. Another "jokingly" said he'd microwave my birth control pills if I didn't agree to have kids with him someday. So many men are pathological, controlling, narcissistic, entitled, abusive, irredeemabl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 08:56 PM
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Whitney is my queen 🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 08:43 PM
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Good 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 06:47 PM
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Look at her hair, her style, her initiative. Now look at him. WTF. Jeans, graphic tee, cheap watch. Bet he's wearing tennis shoes, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 04:36 PM
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This is literally how they think. I've had so. many. dudes vaguely tell me their exes treated them horribly and abused them.. only for it to come out later that the "immense abuse" they suffered was her not wanting to fuck him three times a day or degrade herself. You're shit in bed, Brandon. What do you expect?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 04:17 PM
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They're gonna get divorced. I guarantee it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 04:13 PM
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YUP. I've been on dates with a ton of men I later found out were low value as hell. All of them still insisted on paying. I have never, not once, been on a first date where the guy would have let me pay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 11:20 AM
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You've communicated more than enough already. If he's going to whine about "closure" (he probably isn't) he should have been more interested in defining your relationship to begin with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 08:54 PM
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I know this will be asked... did i ever have a talk with him? lol no one here will ever ask you that. We actually believe in holding men accountable as human beings who are capable of proactively communicating their intentions and feelings. It's blatantly obvious this guy is stringing you along.. barely. As you've said, he's a low effort loser and you're doing 99.99999% of the work maintaining your "connection" to him. The rest of his issues are just extra frosting on the douchecake. Stop "worry…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 08:04 PM
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That would make even less sense for a 23 year old who probably can't prove consistent income or decent credit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 03:46 PM
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It's a joke. Especially the Porsche. Porsche SUVs depreciate harder than almost any other vehicle on the road. You certainly don't have to have a lot of money to buy one. You can get one three to four years old with <30k miles on it for the price of a new Toyota. You're going to be stuck paying more than the car's value in maintenance and repairs, but you can absolutely afford to drive it off the lot. You'll be driving the loaner car the dealership gives you more than your own vehicle. Believe m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 12:17 PM
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That's the difference between LVM and women. They believe they're entitled to your consideration.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 11:58 AM
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Yeah, the idea that you're some superior genius who would be able to "trick" women into following bad advice is some premium Male Audacity. As if we'd be completely incapable of critically assessing it ourselves. They really do think we're just dumb little automatons gobbling up whatever bullshit is fed to us. We're not men - we actually listen and anticipate the needs of others so the psychology of the opposite sex isn't a fucking mystery to us. It's blatantly fucking obvious how men operate on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 12:26 PM
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It's not a joke. Jokes are funny. Just another pathetic, recessed-chined LVM fantasy post. We don't post content telling women how to "get men" on this sub. Almost all of the women posting here seem to be inundated with male attention already. We post content telling women how to weed out the losers, abusers, and psychopaths, with a healthy dose of learning how to respect and love yourself. Anyone claiming the content here is geared toward "getting men" is a fucking illiterate. There are about h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 12:07 PM
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Big 'ol red flag. Completely disqualifying, actually. I can understanding not wanting to have pets of your own (I didn't have any myself for several years for various reasons) but I absolutely love animals. As you said, if a man doesn't have empathy for animals, he probably doesn't have any for people, either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 05:52 PM
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Yeah. You never run into dogs that hate women. Only men. I wonder why? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 05:51 PM
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Hating cats is a huge red flag for narcissism in men for exactly this reason. You don't need to loooove cats or want to own one or anything, but if you hate a living thing because it's not a complete fucking sycophant like most dogs are, you're a real piece of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 03:55 PM
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I actually don't know any women who want "bad boys." Every woman I know wants a man that's sweet, introspective, kind-hearted, loyal, emotionally intelligent and dedicated. Tragic that there's like nine of those.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 12:38 AM
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Speaking of tennis. All the men shitting on Serena for showing emotion on the court conveniently forget everything they let John McEnroe and other "bad boy" players get away with for decades.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 12:21 AM
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Spoken like a man whose greatest achievement is contributing to entropy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 10:45 PM
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80% of women in the military end up being sexually assaulted or harassed by servicemen. I'm sure they respect women very much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 07:48 PM
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She's done A LOT of therapy, but evidently not enough to recognize her codependency problem. Why do you care more about teaching a man to be an adult than he does, sis?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 05:29 PM
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You don't see men bragging about being better cooks for example. Or being better/stronger at anything. FUCKING WHAT?? THIS IS LITERALLY ALL I SEE MEN EVER DOING. If you ever state something that's been empirically proven (women are better at conflict resolution, risk assessment, shooting accuracy/fine motor control, etc.) men come out of the woodwork to tell you why that peer-reviewed, highly-credible research actually couldn't possibly be true and men are definitely superior. Just look at liter…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 05:22 PM
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Ugh. The cringe is so real. And to finish it with "BOOM!" like she just dropped some knowledge on us or something? 😂😂 Yo Sarah - I don't want to have to play mommy to a man I'm dating. Being alone is vastly preferable. I'm not attracted to children so why the fuck would I be attracted to men who want to act like one?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 03:21 PM
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Him: "whats up" Her: "Hey! Just got back from the gym. About to take the dog for a walk and then throw a steak on the grill. You?" Him: "lol cool. chillin" 1-3 weeks later: Him: "hey" I gave you like eight potential conversation starters. Why are you so stupid?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 12:08 AM
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"I'm boring as shit but lack the insight required to recognize that. This is your fault."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 11:23 PM
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He's the exception that proves the rule. Clooney is probably a man's absolute best-case scenario, given all the money and top plastic surgeons/dermatologists/nutritionists/personal trainers in the world. Still very meh. Christy Brinkley is almost decade older than him and still looks waaay better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 09:13 PM
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Y'all seen Simon Rex lately? That dude was smoking hot in his 20s. If I recall correctly, he's sober and a vegan too. Still hit the wall at approximately 2000mph. What chance do those Dorito-loving, hard-drinking, weed smoking, sedentary losers have?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 09:08 PM
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Dudes who are really interested in you will make sure there is no ambiguity. Despite what the average man's behavior may imply, they're fully capable of mapping out a date start to finish and communicating with you. Hell, they're happy to do it when they're actually interested. I've seen it with my own two eyes. If you let them know on day one that you're fine with them dumping all the coordination responsibilities on you, you'll be doing it the rest of the relationship. You set the tone early a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 05:57 PM
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Do people not realize that the story of your proposal is something you’re going to retell repeatedly? They don't realize this because they're a bunch of self-centered LVMs, awkward loners, and pickmes who will never be proposed to if they don't change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 01:08 AM
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Sad, but true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 01:04 AM
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I find it really nice when they blatantly hang up all their red flags right in their bio.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 11:00 PM
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Oh, god. You bet they will. You can never be good enough for a man who has not decided he's "ready" to commit. You just can't. Men aren't women. They can't see the value in what's in front of them. You can look like Adriana Lima with a PhD and get paid like her too, but fuckboys are gonna fuckboy. There's no level of high value that you reach where you're guaranteed to get any man you want, unfortunately. In fact, being high-value actively scares LV and NV men away because they know they can't l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 10:56 PM
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I feel like I'm taking crazy pills. They're attacking this woman for wishing the guy would take two seconds to get down on one knee?? We can never make ourselves small enough for these losers. We can never ask too little. We can never be passive enough. Insecure enough. Giving enough. Fuck Reddit and anyone else who thinks like that. u/LeoMarthaMOM Those people are batshit insane. You are not "high maintenance and entitled" for asking for the bare minimum level of effort. Jesus christ, lobotomiz…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 10:35 PM
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It's from a movie, which I'm sure you already know. The actress was not subjected to "violence" of any kind. The movie had nothing to do with gendered violence. I'm all for being critical of the way violence against women is portrayed in media - but come on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 09:35 PM
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The perfume one fucking triggered me, swear to god. I'm really particular about my scents and only buy high-quality perfumes. Friends and family have asked if they can buy me perfumes for holidays/birthdays and I've explicitly told them not to because I don't want them to spend all that money on something I won't necessarily enjoy. I was dating this guy that really expressed an interest in helping me build my collection and finding him an upgrade from his disgusting Old Spice spray. I relented a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 04:44 PM
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Everyone gets downvoted here no matter how innocuous or insightful their comment is. The sub is under constant brigade. Wouldn't take it personally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 03:36 PM
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Absolutely. I'm not fond of him at all as a person, but the interview format seems to lend its self to some interesting discussion. Provided that the guest is actually a decent person, or an actual expert in their field and not some fringe "journalist" or Elon Musk or something. Whitney Cummings' appearances have always been some of my favorites. So glad she has her own podcast now. I guess it's the same reason people seem to love Howard Stern despite him being actual human garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 03:26 PM
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I was watching Joe Rogan and he not infrequently has incorrigibly stupid guests on. On one occasion, he was interviewing this.. rather gruff-sounding blonde woman. Wish I could recall who she was at this point but I was so disgusted with her I reported the video right away. They got on the subject of teens sexting each other. She evidently has boys in high school, and she went on to say "So what they're saying is if MUH SONS share images of these underaged girls with their friends, I'll get in t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 03:00 PM
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This is just one of the many reasons we strongly recommend having one account dedicated strictly to FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 02:41 AM
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She can also be demanding when it comes to how much her dates spend on her. This is the real giveaway. What reason would he have to know what her dates are spending on her to even make that determination? I've been on a lot of dates and have never felt compelled to share how much was spent on me with either of my parents.. literally ever. Nor would they even think to ask. Call me crazy, but this feels like a concerted effort to begin some kind of cultural narrative that women are "asking for too…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 02:11 AM
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Rape is all well and good with god as long as you do the honest thing and marry your victim afterwards. She's just damaged property if you don't, after all. 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 04:40 PM
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My doctor friend said this actually kills tons of young women every year - AND NO ONE FUCKING TALKS ABOUT IT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 03:50 PM
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Yet every scrote in the comments is screaming "THIS SUB IS SO BIASED AGAINST MEN!!!!" on the off chance that they do side with the woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 03:38 PM
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Men with victim complexes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 02:55 PM
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He'd hide away in dark rooms, he went through a workaholic phase so he wouldn't be home "Pickme's" precious manchild wasn't even doing that, by her own admission. Frankly, "she" sounds like a man. he gave her the exact life that she wanted (marriage, kids, enough money so she could stay home with the kids) Vom. I'd rather go to prison than be someone's live-in bangmaid and heir producer. Even if that is someone's dream, that doesn't mean watching kids and maintaining a household isn't still work…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 02:53 PM
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I get disgusting, unstoppable water retention on birth control. I have a 24" waist when I'm not on the pill and balloon up to 27" within two days of starting any hormonal BC. I'll go back to normal within a week of stopping. No amount of starving myself (which is even harder, since the pill makes me incapable of feeling full) or trying to sweat it away makes it budge. When I brought it up, my then-doctor rolled her eyes and said the pill "doesn't cause bloating."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 11:28 AM
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Look at his body language. Absolutely does not attempt to "pull" any of the force behind his movements. There's no hesitation whatsoever. That man is straight up trying to drown her. My girlfriend once told me she dated a guy who liked to "roughhouse" like this all the time. After months of attempting to "jUsT cOmMuNiCaTe" that she didn't enjoy him physically hurting her at random (because duh), he still wasn't listening. Finally he pinned her down on the floor with his knee in her ribs. So she …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 05:35 PM
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And what you already know about him is he asks you out on low-efforts date and the people who have known you your whole life don't like him... The thought that you even mentioned the possibility of cutting off life-long relationships over a guy you literally don't know at all is very scary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 04:22 PM
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Flair is manually assigned by the moderators based on high-quality, consistent posting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 01:11 PM
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I love the comments like "wElL i lIvE iN lOs aNgElEs aNd tHeSe gIrLs aRe bElOw aVeRaGe." So you live in a place where both men and women with image-focused careers who have likely had plastic surgery tend to congregate? And then you'll shit on the women who have done so for being "fake." Cool? I lived in NYC for a decade and that's just not how it fucking works. You look around and the average person is still just fucking average looking. There are just more people in general. There are more att…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 03:38 AM
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Why so triggered?? 😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/20 03:10 AM
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While simultaneously proving all of those men are the embodiment of the "2/10 would not bang" meme...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 06:11 PM
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Shhh. Your Americunt is showing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 05:38 PM
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These were the worst, most cherry-picked examples they could find? lmfao All of these women are far more attractive than any twerp I've ever seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 05:33 PM
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Uh... so if I'm getting this straight, these beautiful, far above average women were the worst examples they could find?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 05:28 PM
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Not only that, but apparently he wrote and released an actual song bashing the ten year old child that he groomed and assaulted for years. Even if the allegations were completely fabricated (which, obviously, they are not) what kind of an absolute monster do you have to be to to write a song trashing a ten year old?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 05:19 PM
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If you're humble or put yourself down: "Omg. She clearly just wants attention. Stop fishing for compliments!!" If you're aware of your skills or confident: "Omg. What an overconfident, self-absorbed bitch!!" There's literally no winning with them. Their "opinions" are deliberately contrarian and therefore irrelevant. Been watching a lot of female comics on YouTube lately and it's the same thing. No matter what a woman jokes about, what her style is, how she presents herself, how clever her mater…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 04:48 PM
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Why are you dating right now?? Of course this is disqualifying!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 04:42 PM
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Dahvie definitely tried to creep on thirteen year old me via MySpace/email when he was still pretending to be a hairstylist way back in the day. I had actually forgotten about it until recently. Never had any interest in meeting up with that freak, thank god. Wish I had access to the account but I think MySpace obliterated all record of my profile when I asked them to delete it and admitted I was underage. Jeffree Star has flip-flopped several times as to whether or not he thinks Dahvie is a pre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 03:51 PM
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The importance of diet and exercise (and a buttload of cash never hurt, either.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 02:56 PM
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They're acting hysterical. Why are all men so sensitive and emotional?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 12:36 PM
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According to one of the comments, what the article failed to mention was that the teacher was immediately terminated. She obviously couldn't just go teach elsewhere, given the circumstances. When she was finally cleared several months later, she was pressured by the school not to sue the student in retaliation. If she had, she'd never get hired at another school ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 02:08 AM
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Speaking as a fit, attractive, educated, wealthy woman who has lived in multiple major cities, my dating history includes: Multiple flaming narcissists. A "bipolar" man (who was actually very clearly BPD.) Countless cheaters, liars, manipulators, and manbabies (usually a combination thereof.) A rapist. Exactly one emotionally decent, albeit deeply flawed, human being. And almost every woman I know has a similar story. Being a man is seemingly a pathology in and of its self.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 01:57 AM
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I attract everyone. I don't say that to be conceited, men will approach whatever. We've been lied to about the amount of near-sociopathic, personality disordered, commitment phobic, LV and NV men out there. It's most of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 01:48 AM
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Reading this has me about to score a 60.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 10:24 PM
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She was referring to Elon who is, genetically, a big fat baldy: https://nyppagesix.files.wordpress.com/2018/07/elon.jpg?quality=80&strip=all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 09:54 PM
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😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 09:51 PM
75

Even if that billionaire engineer is also a complete piece of shit, you have to be a real piece of work to compare yourself to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 09:40 PM
199

Daily reminder that men don't care about "false accusations" - only silencing women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 09:36 PM
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Their anger is righteous, and yours "hysterical." If that isn't a microcosm for cultural sexism, I don't know what is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 08:20 PM
37

Obsessed is still a banger. Far more catchy than anything he's ever written.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 08:19 PM
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NVM carry this delusional idea that everything in the world is for them. Anything that confronts that delusion is a fundamental attack on their rights that needs to be viciously attacked. Like, I would never walk into a gay bar with a group full of straight women and get upset that the crowd was "too gay." Because I know that space is not for me. Nor does it have to be. Its existence is not a threat to me. These men feel female spaces, black spaces, gay spaces, etc. are a threat to their right t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 06:28 PM
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All of us have instinctually felt this mentality. Amazing that he actually came out and said it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 06:04 PM
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Been getting tagged on all sorts of misogynistic subs lately. By men whom I've had zero interaction with. You'd think Reddit admins would do something about it seeing as though it violates their own ToS..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 06:02 PM
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They've done actual studies on this. Men consistently overrate their own appearance/intelligence/productivity and other positive traits. Conversely, women consistently underrate themselves. So if a woman think's she's attractive, you know she's really fucking attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 06:00 PM
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I'm far more surprised by the fact that her username was available than I am about her boyfriend being an unrepentant moron. Sad state of affairs, these boys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 10:07 PM
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He was legitimately telling a gorgeous, fit girl in the comments that she wasn't attractive. Guess he forgot we can see what he looks like? He's trying to walk it back now by saying "it was all a joke!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 09:36 PM
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This is the OP who posted the meme: https://styles.redditmedia.com/t5_s3aet/styles/profileIcon_fac2jsa28is41.jpg?width=256&height=256&crop=256:256,smart&s=0dc777f47a791e4a95a948454cede8613a68d066 He sure talks a big game for looking like a textbook homo habilis specimen! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 08:57 PM
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PPD was always just an extension of TRP and its ilk. All their mods are manosphere losers. And the OP of that post has a history full of discussions about his various mental illnesses and chronic conditions. He couldn't land a single one of those women in his life. He's just a bitter old loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 08:42 PM
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Bruh. Am I a skank? Or a fat, unattractive cow that no one wants to date? It can't be both. Take a look at yourself. You are FORTY. Read that again: F O R T Y Sorry you still clearly have nothing else to live for other than being a twat on the internet... at FORTY. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 08:17 PM
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I prefer they think we're all fat and unattractive, tbh. Lets us fly under the radar IRL 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 08:13 PM
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I browse both subs, but none of that makes you any less pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 08:07 PM
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Omg imagine being 40 and trying to digitally neg a gorgeous woman half your age. 😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 08:04 PM
109

"hehe wamen fat!" - the pinnacle of incel comedy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 07:55 PM
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Who Cooked the Last Supper? was super tragic/enlightening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 06:32 PM
117

This may all seem weirdly specific It is, because... Austin Powers voice: "That's a man, baby!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 06:28 PM
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Absolutely. The guy's been creepy since day 1.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 05:54 PM
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Yuuupp. I think it was his good friend's daughter, too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 05:51 PM
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Yep. That aged look has literally only ever been popular with men. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 05:37 PM
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Young, doughy-looking dudes that populate Reddit think looking older would make them "rugged and distinguished" because they're all pasty skin and "baby" fat (just fat) or (on the other side of the spectrum) squirrely looking right now. They think they're just on the cusp of filling out/trimming down so they'll finally look like a "manly man." In truth they're pretty much going to look the same, just worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 05:20 PM
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"B-b-b-but mEn aGe lIkE wInE!!!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 05:00 PM
14

BWAAA!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 04:56 PM
114

Yup. Every man I've dated that "jokingly" called themselves an "asshole," a "nightmare," "lazy," or any other negative trait early on in the relationship did indeed end up being exactly that. It's easy to hear this and think "haha - he's self-deprecating, he must actually be introspective and humble!" No. They know they're garbage. That doesn't mean they're actually willing to work on themselves. Rest assured they'll still act like the victim later, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 04:37 PM
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It absolutely can be that way. All couples look perfect on Instagram. In general, most couples are really fucking unhappy either way but refuse to admit it and break up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 04:22 PM
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No concessions, ladies. No fucking concessions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 04:03 PM
50

Oh my god, that man has the body of Hank Hill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 04:01 PM
138

Omg it's funny, right? I encouraged an ex of mine (who was a !!decade!! older than me) to go for a new job after he'd been slaving away making peanuts at the same company for years. The ex was an unambitious stoner and terrible with his money. He got a new job, (and doubled his salary) then suddenly decided he wanted to "play the field" and didn't want to settle down. I didn't mind and promptly kicked him out of my apartment. His company got acquired not long after, laid off almost everyone (inc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 03:58 PM
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Wait, what? I was getting 2k+ tax returns at my first job out of high school. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 03:49 PM
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It's embarrassing that Reddit dweebs think his lifestyle is in any way aspirational. It's not like age-appropriate high value women are lining up to lock down men like that. They know they're not "missing out" on some balding alcoholic running around with (relative) children. Plenty of men who are better looking, younger, have more money, and aren't emotionally stunted, predatory losers. Can you imagine how dull he must be to want to hang out with women half his age all the time? It's so beyond …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 03:42 PM
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These delusional neckbeards actually think Leo's level of wealth and status is attainable to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 03:37 PM
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I was already doing 10 over on a three-lane highway a few months ago and some scrote was tailgating me. He very easily could have passed me as there were no other cars around or in the left lane. I drive a higher end (heavy) SUV and he was in some POS beater. That's why insurance rates are much higher for young men. The thought that they could be injured/killed (or injure/kill someone else) just never occurs to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 11:55 AM
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It's probably like <0.5% for me. Reddit incels will pretend this is proof that all women are only chasing the most attractive men, but I've been magnetically drawn to some outright trolls who happened to be really charismatic. The men I tend to like typically aren't objectively the most attractive in the world (Luke Hemsworth, Jason Momoa, Brad Pitt and the like have never done a damn thing for me) but they do actually have to be attractive to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 12:05 AM
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Why do I know this? because he didn't mention it. Fucking got 'em.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 12:02 AM
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Yeah. Strictly a joke. Not something I would ever do to a dog. A man on the other hand...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 11:58 PM
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Can someone translate this to a language my old, lame ass can understand?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 11:52 PM
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The only mistake she made here was not rubbing his nose in it and firmly saying "NO!" 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 07:36 PM
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Locking as this is currently on the front page of FDS already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 06:49 PM
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Personally, I can recognize anyone (man or woman) as objectively physically attractive, but I don't really experience actual attraction until I've gotten to know them on some level or at least have some sort of a feel for their personality (in the case of actors/celebrities.) So, a random dude walking down the street will never make me think "he's so hot omg I want to fuck him." Maybe a few dates later when I've learned he rehabilitates injured baby animals, loves classic literature, and cooks l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 06:17 PM
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I meet a lot of people in the high school/college age range as they're the primary demo for my business. I can tell easily if a girl is in that age group. Most of the boys could pass for late-20's already. Not in a "polished and put together" sort of way, but in a "I binge drink every weeknight, Juul more than I breathe air, and haven't eaten a vegetable since 2006" sort of way. It's really scary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 06:03 PM
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A man wanting to take all of the credit for something he put no effort into and had nothing to do with? I'm shocked, I tell you! SHOCKED!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 03:22 PM
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Removing as this is a duplicate post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 05:38 PM
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Please read the Handbook before posting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 05:37 PM
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After dating someone who claimed to be fed up with dating crazy chicks and me being as empathetic, caring, kind, supportive, sexy, fun, and all that shit, he said nah not for me. Yup. Men choose relationships where they're treated poorly. Women are manipulated and gaslit into them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 02:42 PM
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I was already moving towards the FDS mindset quite a while before I found this place, but I'm so lucky that I did. Things really clicked for me when I realized the harder I tried to be this perfect, amazing, "low-maintenance," empathetic, loyal, caring, kind, supportive, dedicated, beautiful, successful woman men all claim they want, the more they absolutely hated me for it. You can never, ever be good enough for someone who doesn't know how to love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 01:40 PM
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Wouldn't be surprised if the entire story was a complete fabrication.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 01:24 PM
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She's probably not even going to come, the poor dear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 11:55 PM
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None of them ever seem to be aware of the fact that you can catch HPV and Herpes even when using a condom?? It's INSANE. Can't believe she thinks some mediocre sex with some schlep is worth the risk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 11:45 PM
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It's funny. I've known several male survivors over the years. All of them mentioned being dismissed and mocked when they told other men. Never women. And of course, their abusers were always other men. You never see a story about a man assaulting a boy making it to the front page of Reddit even though males make up over 94% of perpetrators. They only upvote the incredibly rare examples involving women. Complete mystery, there. /eyeroll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 11:39 PM
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Don't date guys like that. They have other shitty ideas about women. Those "natural beauties" they like so much end up being resented for having the audacity to age naturally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 09:56 PM
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Uhh, no. No he does not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 04:04 PM
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“It’s not some weird control thing.” Oh, but it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 03:38 PM
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Yet another reason I will never have children. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 03:33 PM
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I've lost it just about completely. I've actually dated multiple men who thought it was their right to just throw out clothing/accessories/possessions of mine that they didn't like. Like, a guy threw out a hoodie I had in my closet and only wore occasionally around the house. I was super attached to it because my dad bought it for me. There was absolutely nothing wrong with the hoodie. He just wanted to assert control over me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 03:33 PM
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She legitimately looks about 12 years old. Why the fuck was he swiping on her to begin with? For a bunch of men who can't seem to shut the fuck up about "virtue signaling," they sure are awfully quiet about OP's obvious "LOOK WHAT A GOOD GUY I AM!!" karma grab.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 03:33 AM
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I used to show up for work every morning at 7am, and leave at 5pm. Eventually, my boss called me into his office to ask why I was "leaving early" (my scheduled hours were 9-5) because my coworkers who showed up at 11am stayed until 6. I honestly wonder how he dressed himself in the morning. Edit: Never took a fucking lunch break, either. The goddamn twat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 01:05 AM
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I'm fucking dying at the users reporting us as "misinformation."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 11:13 PM
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spread them to everyone who can't be bothered to read past a headline. So... about 98% of people, give or take.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 08:22 PM
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In the 2016 cycle, corporate shills actually tried to pretend this was evidence of Bernie being "anti-woman."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 07:44 PM
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Even better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 06:31 PM
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While I fully believe Biden should be investigated, if the options are between an admitted rapist with over two dozen accusers and a man who's been accused once - I'm voting for the one that's going to replace RBG with a reasonable human being instead of a 40-year-old conservative hack (and probable rapist.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 05:30 PM
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Biden has a more popular name and face so the idiots here just vote for him out of familiarity. It's this. I also voted for Sanders. Both the "left wing" and "right wing" media conglomerates (they're the same thing) have their interests pretty solidly aligned with electing a corporatist above all else. They don't really give a shit whether it's Trump or Biden in the end. So they'll all be calling Bernie a "radical socialist" regardless. Boomer idiots eat that shit up. The people in power have en…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 05:25 PM
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I love my short, neutral squovals, but rest assured I will still 1000% rip your fucking balls off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 04:36 PM
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We do not endorse particular celebrities/politicians/public figures as HVM here. We have no idea what they're like in their private life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 03:42 PM
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Obligatory Handbook mention: Read The Gift of Fear by Gavin DeBecker. Just do it. You can buy it used for dirt cheap. It may be the most important book you ever read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 03:22 PM
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Being distant, doing your own thing, and focusing on yourself are the opposite of pretending to love someone. You'd think this would go without saying, but it seems like a certain type of Reddit-frequenting man is completely in denial. "I hate it when girls play hArD tO gEt!" Dude, she's just not into you lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 11:46 AM
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This is me. At first, guys always talk about how much they love that I'm independent, dedicated to my career, don't always take their calls, and don't want constant company/attention from them. Three months later they're like "DO YOU EVEN LIKE ME AT ALL?! I FEEL LIKE YOU DON'T NEED ME!!" Every. Fucking. Time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 11:26 AM
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When I first heard OCD several years ago, I was kind of blown away by it. And then I dated someone with severe bipolar depression. There's no doubt he's wickedly talented... but it's grim as shit imagining the several women that have been the object of his obsession.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 04:36 AM
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Neil Hilborn has entered the chat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 07:21 PM
64

All of the "EWWW I am NAWT a feminist!!" girls from my high school changed their tune immediately in college.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 07:20 PM
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LOL. I love how she posted it to the "off my chest" subreddit. The gravity of that bold confession must have really been weighing on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 07:14 PM
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Sorry, we've been up to our neck in brigading over the last few days and I seem to have missed this one. I concur we could all use a refresher not to let these definitions slip (myself included!) :-) Pinned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 06:55 PM
45

Crabs in a bucket. They're miserable and they want you to be, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 12:18 AM
258

Yup. Almost every single woman I know has been in at least one legitimately abusive relationship and still has this amazing capacity to want to love someone fully and without hesitation. Meanwhile, every fucking LVM and their brother is like "Yeah my 8th grade ex cheated on me and it really fucked me up so I just can't commit rn."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 12:14 AM
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It's a joke, tbh. This thread is still being brigaded and it's completely obvious it's not our members downvoting/leaving cringey Reddit "awards" all over shit. Amazing how little it takes to draw the impotent wrath of petulant tweens with nothing else to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 07:06 PM
20

I haven't seen the movie, but I think I remember in the book she does tell him off initially but ends up kissing him and asking him to go to New York with her anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 04:25 PM
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Yuup. My generation grew up with John Green YA novels. All of which seemed to boil down to "I must make this spectacular, kind, intelligent, beautiful, confident, capable girl realize what she needs is ME - a greasy, unremarkable, emotionally immature, possessive teenage boy!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 04:01 PM
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Pop culture tells them women will love them for "what's on the inside" - even if the "inside" is a pile of trash and dog shit stacked 6' (5'10" if we're honest) high. When they find out women are also people who like their partner to be attractive, they realize they've been lied to by the wish fulfillment garbage movies, books, and vidya games they love. Then they rage at the women who had literally nothing to do with it for not meeting their delusional expectations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 03:38 PM
2

lol "we." You and your army of two other whineasses are off by an entire continent, but feel free to get banned for brigading.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 11:30 PM
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Agreed. What he does (i.e. - threatening suicide with no intention of following through to control his romantic partners) is a huge hallmark of BPD. Which he was diagnosed with. It's literally emotional abuse, but no one gives a shit about what he did to Ariana or Cazzie. If you say anything even remotely critical about a person diagnosed with a mental illness, "woker than thou" kids get mad about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 10:29 PM
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Thank you for having a reasonable, nuanced view of the situation. I wouldn't pretend to stand by everything she's ever said, either. But I'm disappointed to see a sub about women leveling up and getting what they deserve out of life has devolved on some level to shit-flinging over YouTube drama.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 10:17 PM
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So, based on the screencaps we have here (assuming they're all legitimate - they're credited to a Twitter user named "selenATEors," so I'm dubious) she made some incredibly shitty comments roughly a six to ten years ago and there's... very little evidence of her doing so since? Can people grow and improve as people over time or not? If you think it's the latter, I don't know what you're doing here. I maintain that a lot of the "evidence" in the tweets you linked are complete non-issues. The Shaw…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 09:46 PM
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Selena has nothing to do with whether or not a post regarding Shallon gets removed? Titling a post "YouTube Pickme at it again" (as if an FDS-approved YouTuber has a history of being a Pickme..) and posting unsubstantiated rumors in the comments with nothing to back it up has everything to do with it. Again, there have been multiple posts over the last few days. The ONE POST you commented in is not the totality of everything that has been posted here. The comments are GONE. I don't know what to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 08:31 PM
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I think the mods are just calling us to not jump on the bandwagon and drag her. It's this. Like her, hate her, whatever. I don't care. Calling her a racist, bigoted pedophile with absolutely nothing to substantiate it is not going to fly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 08:20 PM
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I couldn't tell you without knowing the specific post you're referring to. Do you have a link?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 08:10 PM
3

Judging by your post history, you did not comment on the post in question. There were many, quite shitty comments in the most recent Shallon thread.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 08:08 PM
3

Deleted, I guess. One was up for almost a full day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 08:04 PM
6

You nailed it. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 08:01 PM
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Being pro-woman does not mean everything a woman ever does is beyond reproach no matter what. In the video where she discussed Selena "stalking" her exes and investing her energy in getting their attention, I thought Shallon presented some fairly strong evidence. The music videos were almost identical. It's basically the artist equivalent of subtweeting. What would we say to a woman here who was passive aggressively posting for the purpose of getting her ex's attention? We'd tell her it was LV b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 07:48 PM
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You're totally fine. And feel free to correct me if I'm wrong on any account here - I know very little about Selena Gomez. I think it's important to keep in mind that Shallon's content reframes and contextualizes celebrity gossip in a way that allows her to provide relevant advice to her audience. Operative word: gossip. It's not necessarily 100% truth, and I've seen her make a point of explaining exactly that in several videos. But... these are celebrities, after all. Information about them is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 07:31 PM
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This was my take on it as well. Nothing she said about them was even remotely racist or hateful. Those "idols" (the men and women both) are completely owned by their label and "handlers" and physically commercialized in order to sell them to young girls. It is fucked up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 05:13 PM
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Yes ma'am!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 04:40 PM
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This is correct in spirit, but generally, FDS recommends going a little more subtle with it. Definitely agree with them and turn their statement on its head, but "Yeah, I've been thinking about it and you're totally right! I don't think this would work out!" really fucks them in the head. Saying "Who said I want a relationship with you?" when you're not sleeping with them is a bit more transparent, imo. Obviously you know you're still in the process of vetting him. But in a man's mind, if you're…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 04:17 PM
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A video of hers resurfaced where she's being really forward with two 18 year old men while they are clearly uncomfortable. She said stuff like "it's okay, I'm usually with men much younger than you." She also tweeted about Justin Bieber multiple times when he was 15 and she was 25. Do you have a source for these? I haven't seen them. Not saying I don't believe you, but I'm still trying to get a handle on what the situation really is. The only people I've seen dragging her so far were taking issu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 03:53 PM
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I don’t understand guys wanting everything that comes with a relationship, but no relationship? He wants to be able to fuck someone else at any time and not catch shit for it because "wE'rE nOt iN A rElAtIoNsHiP!!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 11:41 AM
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It's because society doesn't demand that he does. The most capable, competent women in the world are written off as "crazy" and "difficult" for absolutely no reason. Men are allowed to be mentally ill and violent all over the place and other men call them artists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 12:10 AM
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Then report them, because I certainly haven't seen it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 06:55 PM
8

Financial security is a HV trait, but having money doesn't inherently make a man HV and the sub's position has never been otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 06:50 PM
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No one here calls being rich inherently HV lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 06:44 PM
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Oh yeah, it's definitely Manson. Interesting how a man Reddit loves to trot out as this "misunderstood dark genius pacifist" because of his interview in Bowling for Columbine is also an admitted woman beater and rapist? Only his gentle treatment of violent, sociopathic, psychologically stunted boys matters to them, I guess. I wonder why?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 12:44 PM
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Daenerys, obviously. Her burning the city was completely out of character and yet idiots try to act like her prior behaviors could be called "warning signs" of her going mad. "Look how CRAZY and RUTHLESS she was for killing the men who tried to rape, enslave, and murder entire cities!! How didn't you see it coming?! Woke, but too much??" Meanwhile, Ned, Robb, Jon, and countless others do the same exact thing to men who have done far less and are seen as honorable heroes. Classic scenario of a wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:47 PM
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lol that's hilarious. What was he trying to gain with that statement, out of curiosity? We were just having a discussion the other night in the mod chat. Most of us have only one or zero male friends, by choice. And we certainly didn't find them on this godforsaken website.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 11:52 AM
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"Make Women Great Again" say men who look like the missing evolutionary link.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 09:47 PM
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Yeah, I think the fuck not. Banned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 07:52 PM
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He's got over two dozen posts about her. Homeboy is crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 09:22 PM
17

Choking, slapping and spitting are also symbols of masculinity Impotent pissbaby detected.
/r/askFDS17/04/20 06:17 PM
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lol banned. Run along, go be a loser somewhere else.
/r/askFDS17/04/20 06:12 PM
67

You nailed it. "Marriage material" women aren't really people to them, either. And as soon as you have kids with them, they'll no longer be able to see you as a sexual being (would destroy their very deeply rooted Madonna-Whore complex) and they'll start looking for some "fuckable" women on the side. Don't worry, they'll still "really love you" though. Clownfuckery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 03:45 PM
48

Except instead of Trixie Tang, they look like Ephialtes of Trachis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 12:35 AM
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They're so desperate for someone to talk them out of it. They're the dude in a "fight" yelling "HOLD ME BACK, BRO!!!1!" Just fuck off already. Literally no one cares what your NVM asses do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 12:07 AM
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What the fuck? Diplo looks like 2/3rds of the men in a gas station parking lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 10:03 PM
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Locking as this was posted here already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 05:44 PM
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Self confidence does not come from knowing that you can get any man. It has nothing to do with men at all. Self confidence is knowing, even if you don't attract a man you're interested in, it doesn't in any way devalue or define you as a person. The beauty of really, truly loving yourself is that you don't need someone else to do it for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 06:29 PM
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Literally. I once went on a date with a guy who couldn't stop trashing his ex for being "aggressive" and "high maintenance." Even given his own attempted spin on the situation, the examples he gave just sounded like her having reasonable requests and him being a fuckwit. I told him his ex sounded cool and that I'd probably get along with her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 06:14 PM
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King has always been massively overrated garbage, don't @ me. Also, no one ever points out that in the novel IT, the book ends in a child gangbang. Like for real. Granted, I fully believe most people just saw the movies. WTF, Stephen?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 04:07 PM
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It's the Sympathy Olympics. When we point out that many women's problems are actually statistically caused by men (like how they beat, kill, rape, and abuse us at hundreds of times the rate that women victimize men), they have to make sure the exact same amount of resources and attention are paid to them. They don't care about the unequal root of the cause, they just want their equity (even if it gives them even more attention, access, and privilege in the end)... because.. reverse sexism or som…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 10:52 PM
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being persistent with a woman who clearly wasn't interested Proof positive that, despite their claims otherwise, men can actually understand "soft no"s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 10:45 PM
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Duplicate thread. https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/g0pxti/infant_is_left_with_multiple_broken_bones_after/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 10:44 PM
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Not in isolation, but that was never implied. He could do every other thing on the list and if he cheats (which is astronomically common for a man with his amount of access) he'd be as much an LVM as anyone else. Context clues, babe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 10:41 PM
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We don't generally unilaterally endorse men as High Value on this sub. While it's easy to detect LVM behavior due to our culture constantly endorsing and enabling bad male behavior, it's much harder to accurately declare someone an "HVM." There is one, and only one exception to that rule. The one. Keanu. Mothafuckin'. Reeves. All available evidence suggests he's a genuinely good dude: Dates only age-appropriate women and dates them proudly. Gives millions to charity (secretly) and volunteers his…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 09:05 PM
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Going to remove this as the image has been posted here several times in the last week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 08:16 PM
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OP’s Comment: IDK why he stuck around, maybe for free rent. He's not the father of the child, and he abused her after he was on babysitting duty. Not justifying his actions whatsoever, but you have to wonder what his mental state was. I’m so sick of this notion that you have to “think about the mental state” of a violent criminal - especially one that preys upon a completely defenseless victim like an infant. It’s not enough for them to call this man a disgusting human being and condemn him for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 07:34 PM
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This is why the y chromosome is dying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 06:01 PM
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I cannot fathom going through life with this total lack of self awareness. They sound like a complete parody when they speak. "Women are the ones with REAL PRIVILEGE!!!" They wouldn't last a fucking day as a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 03:41 PM
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If only there were some kind of a place where we could collectively house these kinds of violent, narcissistic sociopaths so they would be unable to wreak havoc among civilized society. Any ideas?? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 03:01 PM
13

Dear god. This has to be satire, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 07:36 PM
115

Cumbrains are the adult equivalent of five year olds threatening to run away from home because their parent set a boundary. You go ahead, sweetie. I'm sure you won't realize that's a terrible idea in fifteen minutes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 04:32 PM
14

He's got the nose and eyes of a bush pheasant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 06:45 PM
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There have literally been numerous mass killings and murders carried out by members of Reddit's manosphere. FDS tells women not to accept being abused and we're "tHe MoSt ToXiC sUb oN tHe sItE." These men are DELUSIONAL. I thought it was hilarious when this first came out and Reddit was calling her "the female Bill Cosby." You think the prostitute you hired, who literally does not want to fuck you at all, is going to rape you after you pass out? AND YOU THINK YOUR USELESS LITTLE SHRIMP COCKTAIL …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 04:11 PM
115

I hate it when men get haircuts and think that compensates for their soft as fuck facial features. Nice pair of dick sucking lips on him, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 02:41 AM
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He's like the fourteenth buffest lesbian I've ever seen. Tucking his tee into his pants like a suburban mom on a school field trip isn't helping.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 02:40 AM
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Well-known phenomenon. Majority of men can't see a woman as a mother to their children AND sexualize/desire her simultaneously. Madonna/Whore Complex. Man brains can only categorize you as one horrific stereotype at a time. This will be blamed on the woman for "letting herself go," or being "frigid" for declining his disgusting, ogre-like advances, naturally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 01:40 AM
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I've literally never met a woman that ever started dating a guy and then, after a month or two of treating him like a boyfriend, said "I'm sorry, I just don't know what I want right now!!" 99% of men do this. Classic projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 01:30 AM
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Regardless of how you feel about the introduction (which I don't actually think is embarrassing), something about you obviously kept him hooked, wouldn't you say? ;-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 01:26 AM
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So.. sounds like you should create some content, then? A lot of women here likely don't feel like they can speak to your experiences, so asking us to produce content that does is kind of silly. You say you've married an HVM. It sounds like you have an interesting perspective to share. Why not tell us how you found one despite not conforming to typical feminine beauty standards?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 11:23 PM
27

It's always the latter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 09:56 PM
11

Here's a short list of things men have tried to pass off as "jokes": "You should put on some heels and cook for me." "I like those boots, they make you look like a stripper." "Please can I sleep with (woman we both know personally)?" "You and (other woman in our group) should make out right now." "Wow! That's quite the bar tab. I'll drop you on the corner and you can start working to pay it off." After I made a joke that all his friends laughed at: "How long have you been sitting on that one? Do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 08:00 PM
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FDS, as a sub, is against Bumble for exactly that reason. We tend not to recommend OLD in general, but many ladies here are on it. Meeting people through friends/activities/whatever doesn't guarantee you'll find a winner, either. Hinge might be more your speed. It's like Bumble in that it's (in theory) more relationship-oriented, but it doesn't require women to make the first move.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 07:51 PM
12

Becoming enraged is taking control of your own feelings where you were previously under-reacting. I've never felt rage. How nice for you. And by calling him out I meant stopping right there, like, You said WHAT? That was very clear? That doesn't mean he gets to explain it away. You think you say that and then he just... stops arguing? And says "you're right, that was messed up. I'll never do it again." And then actually never does it again? LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 07:46 PM
12

How is it giving him "power"? Calling it out gives him the opportunity to explain it away. Again, this is literally in the Handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 07:35 PM
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They haven't been married either because they never wanted to be, or no one would marry them. If you're hoping to get married.. proceed with that information accordingly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 07:33 PM
19

Men I "actually like" wouldn't make such a joke in the first place, though. If he does, I've obviously done a poor job of assessing his character.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 07:28 PM
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Rage is not the end goal. The end goal is to feel indifference. With that said, training yourself to have an immediate, visceral internal negative reaction is sometimes what it takes for women to condition themselves to realize they're being treated inappropriately and respond accordingly. This doesn't mean fly off the handle yelling and screaming at him - he shouldn't get any hint that he's upset you at all. But many women are quick to talk themselves into thinking they "overreacted" when reall…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 07:24 PM
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You can just calmly tell him his behavior is unacceptable and not to do it again. Nope. You leave his ass and you don't give him the opportunity to argue or manipulate his way into convincing you it was "jUsT A jOkE!" Dumb Fox Credo, read the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 07:17 PM
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and they targeted girls more so than other boys Can. Fucking. Confirm. There were plenty of girls who I didn't even know who "didn't like me" for whatever reason, but they weren't active bullies. Boys were the ones making things up and physically assaulting girls. A guy on my bus I had literally never spoken to before told all of his friends he saw me fuck three different dudes at a party. Which was hilarious for two reasons - first, he wasn't even invited to that party. Second, I hadn't even ki…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 05:31 PM
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They've got a new one on the front page right now: "Girls make worse bullies than boys do, and are responsible for most of the bullying that goes on in schools." You know, despite all those peer-reviewed studies showing the exact opposite is true. I thought males cared about "logic and facts"? Send the little shits back to school already. COVID Reddit is even worse than Summer Reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 03:25 PM
27

I thought "Karen" was the entitled, middle aged woman who wants to speak to your manager? They don't even know how to use their own misogynistic terminology correctly?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 03:21 PM
21

I once advocated for a woman to throw her husband into a wood chipper after he was diagnosed with a terminal illness and spent all of her savings/retirement fund (literally MILLIONS of dollars) on prostitutes, fancy vacations, gambling, and drugs. He was already dead at that point, though. Creative funerals don't count.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 12:32 PM
13

Where are all the good men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 12:28 PM
26

I recently dated the most attractive man I've ever met. Turns out he was pretty LV. Not as bad as some others I've dated, but enough for me to call things off without a second thought. Attraction will always be important, but raw physical appearance is a depreciating asset. You will only want to be married long-term to a man whose personality is at least as attractive as his face/body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 11:43 AM
35

Keep driving that traffic, boys. Every time we hit the front page, we get a huge surge of ladies happy to have found us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 11:24 AM
29

"She" was already auto-banned months ago for being an active participant on WAATGM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 11:23 AM
123

I hate it when men speak and you can tell they think women owe it to them to be beautiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 09:23 PM
26

I dated one earlier this year. Dude was driving two hours out of his way to cook me dinner or treat me to a nice restaurant three nights a week, bringing me thoughtful gifts, not pushing for sex, introducing me to friends and family, paying for me to travel with him. Then out of the blue one day he decided he "didn't want a relationship right now." It happens to all of us. The guy I was seeing literally told me before our first date that he wanted something serious. We can't control it in some c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 07:18 PM
19

Bingo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 04:06 PM
10

It's because "perfect"-looking women are a dime a dozen in major cities - they are still "the girl next door," regionally speaking. ;-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 03:16 PM
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They've actually done studies on this and men feel more strongly attracted to women who they believe are attainable. It's essentially the "girl next door" trope. Their obsession with Jennifer Lawrence is a perfect example. Don't get me wrong, she's still beautiful and miles out of their league. But she's closer to average-looking than many female celebrities, so the dumbasses think they might actually have a shot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 11:27 AM
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Back when I hadn't given up completely on OLD, I set my age range to max out at 30 (and quite honestly, that was pushing it. Sorry boys, you all hit the wall hard.) There were still quite a lot of men clearly in their late 30s-early 40s in my stack. Predators and insecure losers everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 12:40 AM
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Scrote's comment: Of course it's not easy to wade though that all the time and worry about threats. But imagine trying to find a romantic partner when the default assumption about you is that you're a violent person who will try to kill, maim, or destroy the social life of other people. Being treated as either toxic or invisible is demoralizing for men at best and can lead to social isolation or self-fulfilling prophecies. It's never cool to lable entire groups of people. I'm prejudging literall…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 08:36 PM
17

By "in practice" I meant an actual participant on this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 08:33 PM
97

She's one of us in spirit, if not in practice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 06:05 PM
65

We've been pretty much at the same level maturity and life wise since we met. LOL oh, honey... I also graduated early, got a job for the gap year before I went to college, met a near-30-year-old-man through work and thought "omg, we're the same!! Power couple!!" He was a fucking loser. Your husband is a fucking loser. He has such an advantage in terms of experience an insight on you it would make your head spin. You literally are not even in a position to comprehend it right now. Your brain is l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 05:37 PM
1

So leave! It's your life you're wasting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 01:26 AM
7

... why are you with him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 01:21 AM
28

Right? Important to consider the intimidation factor, as well. I'm looking into doing a complete style overhaul once this shit blows over. I've noticed when I put more effort in, random, ugly scrubs don't even bother trying to talk to me in public. When I'm groomed "low maintenance," dusty males must think I'm more accessible for some reason? As if wearing athleisure outfits with my hair up changes my impeccable bone structure? Pffpt. (Just kidding.) But honestly, I want to dress up nice and put…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 11:20 PM
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Speaking as what men often refer to as one of those "low maintenance" (barf) women... There are few things in the world LVM love more than shitting on "high maintenance" women when they think it might score them sex, but also pursuing them aggressively at the first sign of interest. Whether you're comfortable going out in public having just rolled out of bed or like your hair, makeup, and nails on point at all times doesn't matter. What's important is being comfortable and confident in who you a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 11:11 PM
65

No surprise. The podcast is operated by Barstool Sports and their target audience is loser college-aged males and pickmes they want to influence to fuck those loser college-aged males.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 09:01 PM
0

Not sure what's "unnatural" about it? I've dated a range of men from late 20's-early 30's and I'd say more of them have naturally hairless chests than not.
/r/askFDS07/04/20 08:55 PM
10

Extreme amounts of body hair is gross, sorry.
/r/askFDS07/04/20 08:49 PM
19

He didn't even cook that. Those are literally Whole Foods buffet potatoes and their bakery sourdough bread. Shit's still gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 04:45 PM
16

She wishes. Unfortunately for her, she's nowhere near relevant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 11:43 AM
55

Yuuuup. So many "heyyy! :)"s from unsaved numbers. Been swatting them down like flies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 12:41 AM
247

I feel like most men are legitimately mentally ill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 10:21 PM
21

She's right. I am the reason I'm still single. I've got dudes lining up around the block to date me. I'm just not willing to lower my standards for any of them. That's exactly how it works. even when I dated in the past, most men insisted on paying anyway, whether it was brunch or coffee or dinner or whatever, it’s only on reddit that this is some sort of horrible idea. This. I have literally never had a dude not offer to treat me to dinner for a first date. Pre-lockdown, a guy told me prior to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 10:10 PM
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She doesn't actually want to be a mommy, though. She only wants the social proof that a man has chosen to make her a mother. That she's special because a man appointed her "worthy." If she has to take care of a manchild in the process, it's a sacrifice she's willing to make. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 10:02 PM
72

Princess Snaggletooth here, otherwise known as Lauren Chen, is a paid a shill for Glenn Beck's The Blaze. She's previously discussed us on her podcast, called (without a hint of irony) Pseudo-Intellectual. You'll be absolutely shocked to learn their audience is overwhelmingly alt-right males.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 08:03 PM
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For sure. I thought certain bits in her specials were great, and at other points I'd be like girl, really? She's also definitely had her nOt lIkE oThEr gIrLs moments in the past: https://www.vulture.com/2017/06/iliza-shlesinger-came-after-other-female-comics-and-it-did-not-go-well.html
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 03:21 AM
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Iliza has some really great, poignant commentary on this kind of thing. And then sometimes she turns around and says the most unbelievable "pIcK mEeEeEe!!!!" bullshit it's ridiculous. Her book was awful and contained lots of stories that basically boil down to her being great, and other women being stupid and awful. One such story involved the boys in her eighth grade class holding a "bikini contest" at a pool party. Iliza assumed she'd win because she was the only girl with big boobs. Looking b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 03:14 AM
3

Then they aren't "responsible, reasonable and sensible HVM" at all. HVM recognize that sexual assault and rape have some of the lowest false reporting statistics of any crime. HVM recognize that women are people and not horrible, spiteful monsters just waiting for an opportunity to "ruin" some random man's "reputation." HVM support the #metoo movement because HVM understand boundaries, soft nos, body language, and consent. You appear to have little grasp of what an HVM is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 05:20 PM
2

You cannot determine if someone is an HVM from a fucking video. That's idiotic. I didn't "misinterpret" anything. the #metoo movement discourages responsible, reasonable and sensible HVM to approach you in real life since they have so much to lose These are your words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 04:58 PM
7

Uhh.. what? Do you know these men personally? the #metoo movement discourages responsible, reasonable and sensible HVM to approach you in real life since they have so much to lose Sis, this is absolute goddamn clownfuckery. There is not a single high value, non-predatory man who is concerned by the #metoo movement. Fuck outta here with your victim shaming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 04:37 PM
65

Have you ever noticed with these dudes that women are always "just as bad" as men, but they're also somehow never as good? They're quick to scream "mUh eQuAlItY!! feeeeeeemales can be pedophiles, too!!!11!" when you point out the fact that the people who abuse children are overwhelmingly male. Yet if you were to mention that the average man is physically stronger than the average woman, this is obviously indicative of inherent male "superiority." No "women can be strong, too!!" out of a single g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 04:26 PM
23

No? lol None of those women give a shit about the opinions of the men who follow them. Pickmes feel validated through male attention and approval. Streamer girls are using it as a means to a financial end and that alone. Trust me. Those girls think their fans are fucking mouthbreathers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 01:43 AM
88

With Floyd Mayweather for a father, that girl never stood a chance. The importance of not having children with LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 08:17 PM
2

The divorce rate is still astronomical, though? Good, happy relationships don't just implode out of nowhere. There are clearly a shitload of people getting married despite apparent, fundamental issues in their relationships or with their partner. There are no good relationships that end in divorce. There are plenty of bad relationships that still don't end in divorce for religious/financial/familial reasons, or because people are just flat out stubborn and don't think they can be alone. Pair tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 05:16 PM
32

HVM are incredibly nice. But they're the same kind of nice to everyone, regardless of their sexual attraction to them. Most importantly, HVM have strong boundaries. “not good without you” This, generally, is not "being nice." Would he have said the same thing to a platonic male friend? If not, it's a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 04:16 PM
8

Almost no one gets married actually thinking, that’s the issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 04:06 PM
5

Ditto.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 02:41 AM
46

Varies wildly depending on where you are in the country, in my experience. I have distant family in the south and they're all hounding you to start popping out kids as soon as you turn 18. Major east/west coast city? There are a few who want kids, but in most cases it's not until after 35 and they're still pretty fucking lukewarm about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 10:11 PM
61

The overwhelming majority of them don't even have/want kids, believe it or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 08:36 PM
250

I'm in my mid-20s and watching my friends start to panic and get engaged to people they are absolutely, objectively not compatible and happy with is fucking mind-blowing. Meanwhile, many of my friends in their mid-30s are in the process of getting divorced. Or are openly miserable but refusing to call it off because.. reasons? I'd much rather never be married than get married and inevitably end up divorced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 08:04 PM
17

Legitimately. I've had guys, whom I wasn't interested in at all, complain to my face that I was "playing hard to get." I'd be like "nah bro, I'm just not into you," and they would try to convince me that I actually was. The fucking audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 05:36 PM
9

It's men asking other men so they can circlejerk about women. The point is not to learn anything new, or expand knowledge (as evidenced by the fact that the exact topic makes the front page once a month minimum and the replies are always exactly the same.) It's literally just an excuse to piss and moan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 05:34 PM
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Christianity, like all abrahamic religions, does not seek to serve women's interests. Also, this man is a tool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 04:23 PM
80

Those threads are always hilarious. Reddit thinks women are "playing hard to get" in a bid to attract them. In reality, those women probably aren't interested in them at all but don't want to be blunt about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 11:56 AM
2

Yeah. All Uniqlo tops are crop tops on me. I'm not even that tall. Found their pants really cheap, too. I don't get the appeal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 11:23 AM
9

I'm a bit pressed for time at the moment, but I'd like to do some sort of series on this. Depends on your definition of "affordable," but generally speaking, quality clothing doesn't come cheap. That's not to say being expensive is a good indicator of quality, though. Brands like The North Face, Diesel, James Perse, and GUESS, while definitely not high-end, are massively overpriced for their general quality. Versace is complete shit, too. Most shops you'll find in a basic mall (Gap, Express, Abe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 11:19 AM
45

They also report tons of posts in here as "sexual or suggestive content involving minors" hoping the admins will automatically remove it. LVM are so triggered by us calling them out. It's hysterical.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 10:37 AM
22

Known violent alcoholic NHL player Patrick Kane also got away with rape, both legally and socially, several years back. Dude had admitted on several occasions to assaulting, robbing, and berating people while intoxicated and gotten off scot-free. Every NHL fan knew it and mocked him for it. Kane is eventually accused of raping a woman who turned him down, to the surprise of exactly zero women. Male NHL fans, meanwhile, are completely aghast. "Who could ever have seen this coming!? How dare that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 09:44 PM
12

I'm an atheist, but every night I pray to god that he makes me a lesbian.
/r/askFDS31/03/20 10:55 PM
5

always assumed it was the range of men one is dating? This is correct.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 11:19 PM
22

Surprised to hear this is the case, as I'm a software engineer. In my experience, dev dudes are the fucking woooorst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 11:07 PM
74

This is why I had such a hard time on OLD. I'd ask open ended, though-provoking questions because that's literally how you fucking get to know people. In 99% of cases, the men would answer the question very bluntly with absolutely nothing insightful and never follow up with any questions of their own. It's like they just expect us to carry the entire fucking conversation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 05:23 PM
255

I've dated a couple of guys that, for whatever reason, felt the need to ask me if they could sleep with another woman we personally knew. I told both of them "Go ahead and try. What makes you think she'd ever fuck you?" I broke up with them shortly thereafter, of course. But if you watch closely, you can see the exact moment where you completely crush their ego. It's great fun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 11:08 PM
85

I'll never forgive Joe Rogan for making every unexceptional white man believe he can also have a podcast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 08:53 PM
37

If they're bothering you just... don't.. read them, then? You admitted the posts helped you when you first started reading here. Why would you deny other women the same opportunity to benefit from that content?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 03:39 PM
108

He was legitimately surprised that Amber Heard had read Atlas Shrugged. EVERY HIGH SCHOOL SOPHOMORE KNOWS WHO AYN RAND IS, JESUS FUCKING CHRIST!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 09:33 PM
42

If you think Elon is liberal, you haven't been paying attention 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 08:53 PM
6

She absolutely does. I mean, the woman can't go two videos without reminding people she was the editor for some celebrity gossip rag. But the value of her videos lies in the analysis and dissection of psychological tropes. Whether or not the premise for them is strictly true is secondary, imo. Edit: And in the strangest coincidence, this video was in my recommended section this morning, where she explains exactly that: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ST7FF45DhcU 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 11:59 AM
45

"Surprise, bitch!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 09:06 PM
9

I want to believe. But no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 06:50 PM
31

You dodged a bullet. I can guarantee you he has at least a couple of skinned cats in his freezer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 10:12 PM
93

God, I can smell the social ineptitude from here. You can tell just based on his petty dine & dash move that he's absolutely incapable of communicating directly. I'd be shocked if the woman had any sort of inkling that he was expecting a date. The comments in that thread are absolutely fucking vile. Suggestions that OP should have coerced them into sexual favors before leaving. Suggestions that he should have ordered shots with hot sauce or other gross/painful shit (men will literally get violen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 10:06 PM
39

"My boyfriend put frozen slugs in my food without me knowing, how can i forgive him and repair the relationship??" Oh good, I was hoping to not want to eat today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 11:40 AM
32

r/menwritingwomen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 01:15 AM
38

I've told this story on here before, but I had a relentless pickme for a friend for a couple of years. We'll call her Jenn. She'd call me her "best friend" (she wasn't mine lol) with one breath and then throw me under the bus to impress a man she had literally just met in the next. It was real insidious shit, too. It was common knowledge around our college town that she caught an STD from a much older, married man and she felt like shit about herself for it. Naturally, she needed to drag me down…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 09:32 PM
95

I'm so fucking sick of this cultural gaslighting. WE'RE LITERALLY JUST ASKING NOT TO BE TREATED LIKE SHIT. STOP TRYING TO TELL US WE'RE "MANIPULATING" MEN!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 08:30 PM
6

INTJ
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 11:49 AM
18

Yep. Dated a dude who was diagnosed bipolar, though his symptoms were far closer to BPD. Misdiagnosis of BPD men as bipolar is exceedingly common. At first, he was exceedingly sweet and was excellent at faking emotional intelligence. Then he started getting nearly blackout drunk and threatening to kill himself while sobbing hysterically literally every night. I did everything I could to try to help him for months. He refused to be medicated and claimed his therapist told him he was "too intellig…
/r/askFDS15/03/20 09:14 PM
88

TIL wanting two eyes that point in the same direction is "asking too much."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 07:02 PM
111

Being told by society that you're special and entitled to things just for having a dick really does a fucking number on men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 06:10 PM
192

Classic projection. He's fat, old, and unattractive, so obviously all of us must be as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 06:01 PM
43

Obviously he's too busy counting those fat stacks of cash and sleeping with young, beautiful women to finish basic home renovations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 05:55 PM
66

I'd call him a pig, but pigs are in better shape and much more attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 05:48 PM
39

lol, Elon. As was already mentioned, Elon is well known for leaning into women for that support he needs (or whenever he feels like having someone pop out another kid for him) and then abandoning them if they don't shut up and take the emotional neglect he offers in return. The guy was actually openly surprised that Amber Heard had read Atlas Shrugged. Dude is patently misogynistic. Why is ‘growing together’ not a popular idea with women The idea of growing together is incredibly popular with wo…
/r/askFDS15/03/20 02:06 PM
54

I bet the average age of all of their t-shirts is 11.2 years. This is so specific and so fucking accurate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 09:39 PM
58

You know when you're out at the club dancing with your girlfriends and some creepy, drunken rando sneaks up trying to grind on you? He's the guy you see when you turn around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 09:38 PM
29

Yeah, I’m still mystified as to what he expected me to do? Either I break up with you, or I’m admitting that my words and boundaries mean absolutely nothing. Not going to fly. They back you into a corner and they’re shocked when you bite them. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 05:38 PM
26

I’ve seen more than I need to, sir 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 05:34 PM
57

Everything in those posts is dead on. It’s 100% about controlling you. I dated this guy for three or four months, he was super sweet and attentive to begin with. Super eager to call me his girlfriend, take me out, the whole nine. Then one night he made plans to go out with me and... just never showed up? He finally texted me around midnight apologizing, saying he had gotten “caught up with his friends.” I said “I don’t care if you want to hang out with your friends, but if you want to cancel pla…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 05:09 PM
76

You've been working there for two weeks and you're labeling dudes "HVM"s? Why the fuck would he need to get something that fucking serious "off his chest" to an absolute stranger (which is what you are, objectively)? He is definitely testing the waters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 06:24 PM
255

Women internalize their mental illness and perceive it as a personal failing. Men will refuse to seek treatment and blame literally anyone but themselves for their behavior and feelings. This is a well-known psychological phenomenon. It's not fucking worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 05:48 PM
11

All of the highest value men I know have ~300 social media "friends" or fewer and they're all people those men know IRL. And these are younger men who grew up with social media. It's not a coincidence. Imagine being fifty-fucking-two years old and adding random women as friends on FB for validation. I can hardly imagine something sadder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 05:40 PM
25

I'd go as far as to say most of them do. When LVM finally decide the "time is right" to start settling down, they'll take the best looking or biggest doormat of a woman that's readily available. The individuality of that woman be damned, he needs to immediately fill the void with a warm body. Then they cheat as soon as they get the chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 05:14 PM
36

Your post history reveals you're a regular poster in T_D and were previously "in love" with a stripper. Multiple posts referring to women as "hoes" and asking where "slutty girls" hang out. Women aren't into you because you're not an HVM. You're a misogynistic moron. Edit: You don't make the kind of money you're claiming to here, either, otherwise you wouldn't be so concerned about finding a cheap AF $300/night hotel in Manhattan.
/r/askFDS13/03/20 05:05 PM
2

Don't feed the trolls, this encourages them. You should probably also disable your PMs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 10:04 PM
10

That guy has been messaging everyone the same exact thing for several months now. He's trying to get women to participate in his weird fetish. I would disable your messages, if I were you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 07:04 PM
32

a man crying on an average day is seen as more pathetic as a woman crying on an average day It's seen as pathetic primarily by other men. FDS is over here openly complaining about the fact that men are incapable of understanding and expressing their own emotions, and you're trying to blame women?
/r/askFDS12/03/20 05:07 PM
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