TW: r*pe very triggering, I almost logged off of the internet after reading this but I decided to post here so we can all see

Thereismorethanthis · 2022-02-06T03:02:59+00:00

aaannnnnddd it took less than an hour before some scrote reported me to reddit care for this post. soooo, because i’m triggered by someone else’s rape i’m the one with the problem? and that’s exactly why FDS exists 💖

RedWineandWienerDogs · 2022-02-06T02:38:53+00:00

sounds like she may have been interested in him, and even felt a sense of safety with him (hence why she asked HIM to walk her home), but just didn’t want to leave during the middle of a party to go have sex with someone she just met, which is…extremely normal.

Just…wow. Terrible.

WCAttorney · 2022-02-06T02:16:31+00:00

Fucking disgusting piece of self-absorbed shit.

swaylyn · 2022-02-06T02:29:02+00:00

….his whole confession is pathetic.

He KNEW he just did not care.

This all had an air of mock importance from beginning to end “look at what happened because of ME, I had the power to STOP it, I could have CHANGED her whole life”

He was basic in the story, giving an air of “reflective awareness” to gain points and that’s about it.

Personally all I saw is the use of a young woman’s tragic life story to center himself as a main character of importance.

Even when she’s gone she’s still being used to further their own ego and manipulation.

Pahapan · 2022-02-06T02:42:14+00:00

Notice how at no point does he actually empathize with her. No comment on how horrific being raped must be, no mention of how worthless and hopeless she must have felt when the school brushed it under the rug. And not only did he fail to help her that night, he failed to help her when she made her accusation. He saw her talking to one of his fraternity bothers but it was totally unbeknownst to him that was the guy making her uncomfortable? Bullshit. He could have come forward as a witness. He chose not to. He still chooses not to.

He doesn't actually feel bad for her, he feels bad for himself. "I will never live this down." It's all about him. The thing about guilt is that it's an emotion designed by evolution to spur action. It's not punishment, not something you're supposed to just sit around stewing in. It's so uncomfortable and unpleasant that it should get you up off your ass, making amends and trying to set things right.

A good starting place would be for him to get off Reddit (an enabling circle jerk where I'm sure other cowardice men in the comments are absolving him) and to contact her family, to discuss the possibility about going to the media with this story, suing her rapist, the school, whatever. He could probably link up with one of the dozens of awareness campaigns out there, give talks on campuses about how men need to stop feeling entitled to sex (this all started, after all, with his resentful bitterness that she wouldn't fuck him), the importance of men helping to protect coeds (yes, even the ones who won't fuck them), and how men need to police each other and hold one another accountable. If he really feels that bad he should DO SOMETHING. The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing. But good men don't do nothing, and good men are a rarity.

As much guilt as he feels, he lacks the emotional intelligence to even identify why he continues to be plagued by it. It's not just because he didn't give a shit about her safety and wouldn't walk her home that night. I guarantee he suspected it was his frat bro making her uncomfortable. I guarantee he'd witnessed or heard about him making other women uncomfortable, probably witnessed sexually abusive behavior firsthand, and he repeatedly failed to do anything about it. For two years he was actively maintaining his frat bro's innocence, and based on what? You didn't see him raping her, so it couldn't possibly have been true?

He was complicit, he was enabling. I hope the guilt eats him alive.

FUBARfromLSA · 2022-02-06T02:11:26+00:00

So not only was he partially responsible for her rape, by denying that he saw anything, he was also partially responsible for her Suicide.

“tHeN iT hIt Me”

Welp, I’m a bitch but Karma’s bigger- his day will come.

Thereismorethanthis · 2022-02-06T02:06:28+00:00

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ConstantNurse · 2022-02-06T03:27:09+00:00

The whole story disgusts me.

Her being left to her own devices by both her sorority sisters (What the hell, girls!) and the shitty rejected frat boy who doesn’t understand he isn’t a gift from God. Everyone failed her that night.

The fact that he was her only option for an escort home sickens me. I feel horrible for her. He can get bent for all I care. His self aggrandizing and comfort seeking scream narcissistic traits. I feel no sympathy for him and him seeking Reddit justification is ridiculous. Yes, you played a part you asshole. You are a selfish, disgusting man. I hope you never, ever find a loving relationship.

This is why there should be a back up driver/dd for things like this and/or emergency contact to hit up should things turn sour. It’s why I have a buddy system with friends and why my S.O trade off on monitoring. I can’t stress enough that we have to make sure we have back up for bad situations so no one experiences what this poor young woman had to go through.

adeecomeforth · 2022-02-06T02:26:10+00:00

I do not care how pissed off you are, if a woman tells someone that she doesn't feel safe, you put away that anger and walk her the fuck home and drop her off safely.

I hope he feels guilty for the rest of his life, I hope it hits him even harder if he ever has a daughter (not that he should have kids, since he is a terrible piece of shit, and also not saying that any girl/woman deserves to have anything to them) since apparently men seem to view women as human when they have a daughter. I hope he and his frat buddy are haunted by what they did to her their whole lives.

What a piece of shit, if there is any afterlife where awful people get punished, I hope he goes to the worst pits of it.

Edit: I took away the hell part, since I do not believe in a heaven or hell.

Playbackfromwayback · 2022-02-06T03:28:24+00:00

Honestly this guy is such a douchbag that if he walked her home she might have been raped by not one but two men that evening. I don’t mean to be cynical but this loser shows a significant lack of judgement and empathy.

Softrito · 2022-02-06T02:22:42+00:00

When I see post like this I assume they are looking for people to back them up. Like, "No sweetie, it wasn't your fault."

Maingurl · 2022-02-06T03:22:42+00:00

What a fucking bastard.

Technical_Moth248 · 2022-02-06T02:40:26+00:00

I would genuinely help anyone, even a woman I disliked, if she came to me messed up and frightened. Being rped is HORRIBLE and I would not wish it on any person (before some scrote comes to uwu what about men me). He should feel bad and carry this forever. He didn't just let her down in the moment because she wouldn't fuck him, he actively supported her attacker for years on top of it.

I know reddit is giving him big hugs and telling him what an awesome guy he is for being real sorry he helped end a woman's life 🥺 but there is no making up for something like that.

SeaNegotiation8 · 2022-02-06T06:15:49+00:00

“The common erotic project of destroying women makes it possible for men to unite into a brotherhood; this project is the only firm and trustworthy groundwork for cooperation among males and all male bonding is based on it.” -Andrea Dworkin

All men knowingly participate in rape culture. Every last one of them.

CrazyPaine · 2022-02-06T02:23:57+00:00

He's sorry. He's really fucking sorry. I hope that shit haunts the rest of his days in addition he's gonna be a piece of shit as long as he lives.

MsWriteNow07 · 2022-02-06T02:40:09+00:00

I remember watching the Kavanaugh hearings. And you know what my biggest take away was? There were a bunch of guys in the room with Cavanaugh and Dr. Ford. One guy tried to stop the assault, tried to help her. But a room full of men sat there watching. And people thought that was a legitimate position. The ones who weren’t helping him or egging him on were considered innocent, and even the ones who didn’t physically touch her weren’t considered as committing a crime. But there’s no neutrality between wrong and right. If you’re not actively helping a woman who is being victimized, you’re just as guilty.

This story is just another reminder that mean really do see us as objects. That’s why men get so incensed when guys do this to another frat brother’s wife, girlfriend, or sister. How could you damage another man’s property?! But if it’s just a girl who doesn’t belong to anyone, who cares. And in this case the shrew had refused him sex, so why does she deserve the treatment of a human being? Men as a whole are heedless of women’s genuine safety. Chivalry is a crock. Men evoke the specter of the bogeyman around every corner to make women feel afraid and get themselves closer to getting laid. But when we’re an actual danger, they could give a fuck. Unless you’re going to pay them with sex for saving you, chances are they’re just gonna let you twist.

sewingmachinesavior · 2022-02-06T02:21:25+00:00

He has the guilt he should and I hope he uses it every day to make the world a better place for women.

BasketLow8411 · 2022-02-06T05:57:12+00:00

Fuck. That is horrible.

MiddlingMe · 2022-02-06T06:40:49+00:00

Yeah, I read this earlier and it made me sick to my stomach.

He doesn't even sound that remorseful, honestly. That is the most disturbing part for me. He just wants to be told that it is okay and that it's not his fault.

Meredeen · 2022-02-06T06:21:23+00:00

Hey fuck this guy

aquietsword · 2022-02-06T07:20:23+00:00

This sickening excuse for a human is only posting to reddit so all the neckbeard men can tell him that he's not at fault. He's absolutely part of the cancer that is shit men and he has literally no worth as far as I'm concerned.

All of these zero and negative value men are the most worthless creatures on earth.

Title	TW: r*pe very triggering, I almost logged off of the internet after reading this but I decided to post here so we can all see
Author	Thereismorethanthis
Upvotes	324
Comments	44
Date	February 6, 2022 1:46 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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