I know most men can't help being facially hideous at times but it is a waste of testosterone when they're fat or skinnyfat and can't even groom themselves

thanarealnobody · 2022-02-07T18:10:20+00:00

Men who whine about how “girls only want guys who look like Thor” are usually the ones who are allergic to the gym and have greasy pizza boxes on their floor. Guys who actually take care of themselves don’t really have the time to wallow in self pity and blame their beer belly on women.

All of my childhood friends have boyfriends and not ONE of them are in shape. So clearly, the schlubby guys still have no problem getting girlfriends.

spinsterchachkies · 2022-02-07T16:39:53+00:00

Your standards for “at least be in reasonable shape” are fine. You may have said it in a very direct way but I understand your frustration. Men have let themselves go. I look through dating apps and it’s frightening

SupremeDearLeader · 2022-02-07T20:17:33+00:00

I've been pushing myself hard at the gym for decades to be fit and attractive [ for myself] it kills me when a Lazy pudge with his belly flopping and chicken legs thinks just because he drives a Tesla that now he's " in my league " .

throwaway-fds · 2022-02-07T18:02:46+00:00

FR! The amount of skinny gamer men with a pudgy stomach I've seen is so gross. Do SOMETHING beneficial for yourself atleast.

queenofswordsxxx · 2022-02-07T16:50:13+00:00

Technically men have better skin too cuz when collagen breaks down in men, their skin sinks at a slant whilst women’s sink straight down.

But they’re still horrible at skincare and still end up looking worse than us 🤷🏻‍♀️

Men literally have no excuse. Their metabolic rates are higher, they can tolerate eating more food, they can work out more because they don’t have to be worried about being harassed outdoors or at gyms. They can go running in the middle of the night and literally not worry.

Yet they don’t do it, and they become ugly fatsos.

thanarealnobody · 2022-02-07T18:14:23+00:00

I once dated a guy and he was skinnyfat and complained about his body and felt threatened by fitter men and always had something shitty to say to bring other people down.

But when I asked him to go on walks by the beach with me in the mornings (which is my routine) he said “no way, I’m too tired. Just gonna play video games until you get back”

When I did yoga stretches, he told me it was all stupid nonsense.

When I said I wanted to join a womens boxing class, he told me I would never get the strength to do it.

It would’ve been so easy for him to be fit. A bit of cardio every day, going for a run … but he chose to stay the same.

stinkylittlecat · 2022-02-07T16:40:55+00:00

LOOOL holy shit I say this all the time I work out as much as I have time and energy for. I'm in my mid 30s and I just don't have the metabolism so I have to work out hard, and a lot, to keep myself as fit I was in my 20s.

Dated a couple skinnyfat men last year and holy shit dude it's so easy for you to build muscle. These men literally never work out, or they go indoor rock climbing once a week for an hour thinking that's enough exercise to justify eating like shit the rest of the week. Testosterone is an actual cheat code for building muscle. Do like five bench presses and you won't have manboobs. But nah, they spend hours a day swiping on dating apps hoping to find a hot fit woman to be ok with their skinnyfatness instead of doing productive things that actually make them desirable

DancingCatflower · 2022-02-07T19:33:33+00:00

My personal dealbreaker: those large, rigid, forward-protruding, Homer Simpson-like abdomens.

Why? Because it's not just fat, it's also shit. Those men have such a poor digestion that the build-up of shit and gas in their colon causes their intestine to expand like that. It just exposes their lack of self-care, life skills and awareness, and it's also a risk factor for lots of health issues, including cancer. Their breath also literally smells like shit. 0/10

daisy_0720 · 2022-02-07T18:53:04+00:00

The worst is what I've seen recently: men that are literally pear shaped. Wide hips and thighs and a heavy ass.

What is making them like this??? Men with this body shape literally didn't exist 30 years ago.

edwardianemerald · 2022-02-07T18:45:13+00:00

Normalization of the "dad bod" was a mistake

ItsFreezen · 2022-02-07T17:03:17+00:00

Scrotes can lose weight easy. No Excuses.

soundslikeautumn · 2022-02-07T20:55:44+00:00

Okay. So I have some mental health problems with anxiety and depression and I also have some chronic physical health issues. I try really hard to eat well and to look as good as I can. With my illnesses this can be a real struggle, but I still work very hard at trying to look and feel my best.

When I encounter physically and mentally healthy men who give absolutely no fucks about their body, physical appearance or their diet it infuriates me to the point of insanity. These men have zero reason whatsoever to not take care of themselves and yet they just don't care. The lack of give a fucks that so many men exhibit is disgusting and outrageous. These also tend to be the men who think that they're God's gift to women.

I can't even begin to put into words how angry I get thinking about how hard women work in their lives in so many different areas of their lives and men think that it's totally fine for them to just scrape by by doing the bare bones minimum.

Noemie_Mathilde · 2022-02-09T00:53:41+00:00

I attend a martial arts gym. Not a dad bod in sight.

If they wanted to they would.

LeaveMeAlone__308 · 2022-02-07T20:40:34+00:00

THIS and it's SO much easier for men to put on muscles compared to women because of the testosterone -- they can just increase their calories and lift weights ffs. It's not that hard, the latter (I do it too). AND women can't do this because they'll put on fat if they increased their calories. Stop equating women having abs with men having abs. 🤦🏾‍♀️

Sewud · 2022-02-07T16:38:22+00:00

What disgusts me the most is that they claim to be depressed. They literally have testosterone coursing through their veins which is a hell of a drug that makes them feel like happy confident delusional warriors (aka. the audacity) and yet half of them still mopes around claiming they can't deal with their anxiety, lack of motivation, shyness, inferiority, etc. Imagine having a drug that gives you superwoman strength, makes you super fit and ambitious, and you still manage to accomplish nothing and get fat?

jetcake · 2022-02-08T06:09:53+00:00

Good gracious, how many times I have read and overheard men knocking women on their looks. These guys are picking apart women on their phones (i.e. dating apps, bringing up her IG or Facebook) and the media. She is either a 10, fake, or ugly. Meanwhile the guys making all of these "assessments" are "HYYYNnnGG" (I don't know how else to spell that cringe sound when you see something so physically repulsive that this sound emerges from beneath).

So, I see a myriad of men on a daily basis. The well-coiffed sales representatives who come into my work wear cologne, nice clothes, and are even organized. They walk the walk and talk the talk.

Then I go to the grocery store or the mall and I see these scrubby men. Their clothes don't match, they obviously don't make it a point to shower (telltale sign is that their hair is greasy and their skin "glistens" with oil), and God forbid I pass or have to stand behind these guys in line? The smell. Today I could smell this guy's unwashed clothes. It's that swampy, skin/sweat stench. At least there are masks...

You want to know what's really eye opening? When a guy will start shit talking a woman's entire appearance - including her body type - to another woman. Nine times out of ten it's a woman that they were rejected by or "has a history".

It's not funny, it isn't attractive, and it is tacky. This isn't like when my friend and I go out and meet guys (she also does online dating and asks me opinions on who she swipes). If a guy with a grubby appearance approached us, we wouldn't hang out with him. Why should we give men the time of day who resemble a garbage bin.

xfelugirlx · 2022-02-08T06:11:36+00:00

Most of them let themselves go so easy because society don’t blame them enough like they do to women causing eating disorders, etc.

queen_azulaa · 2022-02-08T03:56:28+00:00

I knew one who had a clean image. Prim and fashionable. Always smelled nice. My girlfriend who hooked up with him a few times told me he wets his hair and layers perfume before going to work and that he rarely showers 🤣🤣🤣 He told her its bcs he has sensitive skin and it gets dry 🤣🤣 Why my friend continously met him knowing about this beats me 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Attheatelier · 2022-02-07T15:57:10+00:00

This should literally be the bare minimum. It's sad that "dad bods" are being normalized and gross, unkempt guys are marketed as "cute" and attractive when they're anything but that. It really doesn't take much to be well groomed and in shape when you're a man, they don't even have to put in half the effort we do to be presentable. They expect us to be hot 24/7 and have our shit together, yet they have shit stained teeth and smelly BO. Yikes..

333amelia · 2022-02-07T16:49:28+00:00

They want a VS model as a girlfriend, well guess what they better be Calvin Klein models!!!

/s

Get outta here with that bullshitttt

Affectionate_Stop602 · 2022-02-07T21:39:26+00:00

This always bugged me because it seemed like with every one of the bigger men I've dated, they drop one problematic habit (energy drinks, full sugar soda) and they lose a couple dozen kilos. They do the bare minimum in terms of healthy lifestyle, thrive, and then spew their biased asf "Eat less move more" in my face when I'm jumping through hoops trying to get my body to cooperate. One of the most infuriating things I've encountered in my life.

HurracainTortilla · 2022-02-08T17:48:34+00:00

It's such a double standard too, because they feel like it's perfectly fine to demand things from their partners in terms of emotional labor and expect us to constantly make sure they're still attracted to us :/

v-pyrz · 2022-08-23T12:38:44+00:00

I am gonna be totally honest with you, my dear. The % of the population who is dedicated to fitness consistently is very low compared to the total.

So, unless you are a high value woman, or you have fitness as a passion yourself or you are somewhat interesting to those like me who go to the gym and train on a daily basis, you are going to settle.

Let me be clearer and more specific: if you can't find one of those 8-10% of men who are fit and athletic, it means you are not considered good enough for them. You have only two options: you either try to become a better woman and attract more athletic men or you will have to go for a person who doesn't consider fitness as part of his life.

Title	I know most men can't help being facially hideous at times but it is a waste of testosterone when they're fat or skinnyfat and can't even groom themselves
Author	LoudAdeptness_2
Upvotes	316
Comments	88
Date	February 7, 2022 3:43 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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