I’m so sick of women having to question whether they are crazy for getting upset over things that are completely normal to get upset over!!!!

wonkyeyes8877 · 2022-03-17T14:24:12+00:00

The fact he did it at all is horrifying then for him to say "good riddance". Holy shit. Divorce this POS!!!

MeanWhatISay · 2022-03-17T14:24:34+00:00

What a fucking psychopath family. She needs to get out.

alpinepunch2021 · 2022-03-17T14:47:29+00:00

Holy shit imagine literally giving birth to a child and having these insane freaks of nature fuck around with its name while you're unconscious. Also her husband is so disgustingly enmeshed with his family.

KitKat1705 · 2022-03-17T14:55:40+00:00

Thats a fucked up thing to do to your wife !!! I would die on that hill too. She carried the baby for 9 months, almost died to give birth to him just to be robbed of his name.

_cnz_ · 2022-03-17T14:41:53+00:00

Is this even legal?! This women was barely even alive and her husband signed papers without her consent.

Also, the fact that his family is readily promising that they’ll give their son preferential treatment over their other grandchildren just for using a certain name is appalling

oscine23 · 2022-03-17T15:26:38+00:00

Imagine being married to a weakling like this. Good riddance? My vagina would be as dry as the Sahara.

salthoney · 2022-03-17T15:31:36+00:00

Allowing that name to stay sounds like the beginning of a nightmare. The fact that all those benefits are conditional says it all. Either they love their grandchild unconditionally and give him all those things, or not. But to dangle that in front of them but only if they dance to their tune? Bad things lay ahead there, it won’t end with the name only. They’ll want to control everything and since her husband still wants their approval, he’ll accept everything.

askmeabouttheforest · 2022-03-17T16:13:26+00:00

He pretty literally used her as an incubator, and gave her almost as much respect as one.

jupitaur9 · 2022-03-17T15:15:06+00:00

I just read another story where a woman’s husband “pranked” her in the delivery room after talking about doing so and being warned by her not to. She had him removed from the room. He’s now acting as if this is her being a b and won’t back down thinking he was right.

swaylyn · 2022-03-17T17:57:39+00:00

The fact that she cannot trust him…to handle important matters in the best interest of the family (not just her but the child as well!) when she’s unable to/in a vulnerable compromised state. Scary. And says every thing she needs to know.

He knew and they agreed that they wouldn’t use that name. He went behind her back anyway. Wow. She should definitely get the name changed and get her affairs in order to exit this marriage down the road.

And him saying “good riddance” lmao and now fake sobbing and begging 🙄

I’m really over telling someone what you want from them. And then throwing a tantrum screaming “what do you want me to do” because they are willingly choosing to ignore your wants

Pahapan · 2022-03-17T20:01:30+00:00

Isn't it crazy how "ownership" of a child still defaults to the (presumed) father in so many ways? Like, without a paternity test hospitals should be operating as if the only legitimate, verified parent is the one they saw physically produce the child because that IS the only verified parent. Men should not be able to fill out and submit paperwork alone without the mother's approval. Her initial should be required on every pertinent page.

Tiltedwindmill · 2022-03-17T17:33:27+00:00

She should always use the name she chose for the child with the child. Then as soon as she can, go to the courts to get it changed. If it has to wait until the child is old enough to say they want that name, so be it. But never, ever call the child by the name the father gave.

PicoPicoMio · 2022-03-17T15:37:16+00:00

He pulled a Machiavellian power move while she was on the verge of death and expects her to put up with it. That’s her child she almost died having. Scrotes never seize to horrify me.

bamboohobobundles · 2022-03-17T16:07:53+00:00

My ex exerted control over our kid's name too. We did mutually agree on the first name, but then he hyphenated it with a family name (I didn't want my kid to have a hyphenated first name, I think it's obnoxious), added another family name (both of these names are from his family, that is) as the middle name, and demanded we use his last name too.

Kinda bullshit I suffered through almost ten months of hyperemesis, dizziness, and pain, plus an extremely traumatic birth experience that almost killed me, only to have basically zero say in what to call him. Most of all, I resent the fact that he has his father's last name and not mine. At the very least if he wasn't willing to concede that, I would have liked to give him a middle name from my family to make things more equal.

ironglaciers · 2022-03-17T18:41:25+00:00

Imagine being married to this nitwit and then be pregnant for 9 months, nearly die in childbirth, and he acts like this?

The_Cat_Empress · 2022-03-17T21:07:02+00:00

On the outside it may seem like no big deal but cutting the BS...WHO is birthing this child?

That's right, OP is.

Not the family, not the husband, not the BIL they seem to only care about.

She has every right to be angry because it's HER CHILD and SHE has the most say in who names the baby because no one else is bringing him into this world!

What an asshole the husband is, playing a switcharoo with OP last minute. This is proof you marry the family as well and to VET VET VET!

AnniaT · 2022-03-17T21:52:50+00:00

That sub is full of women in horrific relationships asking if they're the A for being upset at being abused or abusers trying to get validated on the sub.

woadsky · 2022-03-17T18:48:53+00:00

Yes, I'm weary of it as well. I get worked up, take time to type a comment, and then get mad at myself for giving my time to someone who probably won't change anything. The posts just keep coming.....

I guess if my words help one woman that is significant.

Biracial_tooth_fairy · 2022-03-17T17:25:00+00:00

Like, it's literally just a name, yall. Those people (except the wife) need to chill tf out

Edit: yall! I finally got my first reddit cares mesaage!!! I finally made it! LOL

FantasticBlood0 · 2022-03-18T14:19:14+00:00

I read this post. She should take that child and ruuuuuun from that family as far as she can. They are not normal, or at the very least they didn’t process their grief. Either way, this isn’t healthy.

Title	I’m so sick of women having to question whether they are crazy for getting upset over things that are completely normal to get upset over!!!!
Author	capresesalad1985
Upvotes	802
Comments	41
Date	March 17, 2022 2:20 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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