[Q4W] What is your ideal way to have sex with someone?

northernlights190 · 2023-01-10T23:13:13+00:00

I’m can’t say there’s any one ideal, except to say that sex is ideal when both partners are super into and connected with each other and just ride the vibe of that particular time where it wants to go.

For instance, my best-ever sex partner there was a great deal of variety, all of it wonderful. Often we had very slow, tender and incredibly erotic sex, where we’d explore and pleasure each other for hours, and that was mind-blowing. Sometimes we had much more raw, frantic and animalistic sex, and that was also brilliant. It just depended on what we were both feeling in the moment and how the mutual communication that is sex unfolded — and that is what made it ideal.

If you are connected with your partner, have good attraction and sexual chemistry, communicate well about sex and are mutually invested in each other’s pleasure, that’s the ideal. It can take many forms with the same person, and all of them will be good.

localmicrodosechamp · 2023-01-11T00:27:06+00:00

men's view of sex is so far away from my own its hard to even answer this bc the categories seem so random

Lysa_Bell · 2023-01-10T23:37:51+00:00

F. It depends on a lot of different things. My mood, state of the relationship, influence of drugs, state of my life in general, my hormonal cycle, what I've eat before, did I do self care during the day, do I feel good about myself that day, do I feel attracted towards my partner that day and so on and so on.

Some days I wanna have "cozy sex" where I'm just super close to my partner and everything is slow and smooth and I can feel their body and warmth and it's mostly missionary because that is the closest position so I can touch and stroke them everywhere and have eye contact and feel as much skin as possible. During these times I don't even want an orgasm because it feels like it would interrupt the intimacy I'm feeling.

And then there are the days where I just want to feel smashing of body parts and some sweet pain and longing and all that brutal extasy and passion. Where you want to grip on someone's skin and dig your nails into them and want to almost bite them until you break skin.

And then there are all these little areas in-between, where you get a mix of both or where you want to kiss them a little longer to bite their lip to hear a low growl while they moan into your mouth.

Sex has to be an experience for me. And I want to experience everything. It's not always the same routine until you come, it's the whole thing. And all of it is depending on different factors.

ProfessorFelix0812 · 2023-01-10T23:12:46+00:00

Depends on the night…

Lanzienator · 2023-01-10T23:56:05+00:00

Hmm... slow doesn't mean "romantic" necessarily. And slow can still be rough. For penetration, nice steady but hard stroke is usually best imho.

Then again, as long as I'm touching my clit, there's lots of styles that I can get off to so it's fine.

CruelAngelGradThesis · 2023-01-10T23:23:23+00:00

E in reality, my ideal fantasy is B with soft femdom play

YaKnowEstacado · 2023-01-10T23:16:26+00:00

There's no ideal. It depends on the mood.

chalkandapples · 2023-01-10T23:14:46+00:00

Depends on how I'm feeling. I'm surprised anyone only prefers one type of sex.

RocinanteCoffee · 2023-01-11T01:13:40+00:00

None of these options are applicable.

Pornos are made to get good camera angles, not what actually feels good in the bedroom.

Full throttle banging doesn't necessarily suck.

A mixture of A and B is not good either as both descriptions have absolutes that either don't make sense or aren't accurate to what real sex is like.

It can depend on the person but also you could have sex with two different people and have similar experiences.

None of the above just means none of the above. Doesn't mean the person is a nun.

januaryphilosopher · 2023-01-10T23:39:54+00:00

I generally set the pace and it's better when he's gentler than me. I just move the way that feels best which depends on the day but generally leans hard and fast until after I've came. No matter the pace or what kinks are thrown in there, though, there's always an underlying soft and romantic element.

howdoiw0rkthisthing · 2023-01-10T23:07:20+00:00

1000% B

Barneysparky · 2023-01-10T23:17:18+00:00

When I was sexually active my favorite way was 1/2 an hour or so of various forms of CBT and other pain play followed by a hard ass fucking.

I'm a gay switch bottom trapped in a womans body..

CimZim · 2023-01-11T00:28:26+00:00

Mix of A and B, also different scenes/roleplays. Honestly depends on what kind of release we need with each other.

lady_ven0m · 2023-01-11T01:34:21+00:00

D) Built up sexual tension in person and then whatever happens from there.

Substantial_Video560 · 2023-01-11T01:56:42+00:00

Slow and sensual. Lots of passionate kissing and foreplay.

poutresonantsystem · 2023-01-11T04:44:10+00:00

I have physical/mental issues surrounding sex so my answer varies. Or it’s more like what I would “like” to do I’m not able to do right now

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kirbypuff_ · 2023-01-10T23:24:58+00:00

Hard and fast. Jackhammering is beautiful to me

Thotlesswhisper · 2023-01-10T23:27:57+00:00

C— depends on mood. Sometimes A, sometimes B, sometimes both in the same sex sesh

Embarrassed_Cup2524 · 2023-01-10T23:57:43+00:00

thats not something i spend life thinking about

thetruthishere_ · 2023-01-11T01:41:59+00:00

We are hot for each other and want to please each other orgasming on each other.

Mythic_Punk · 2023-01-11T04:04:20+00:00

I love variety, so all of it

Over_Noise3530 · 2023-01-11T04:13:45+00:00

C) and if I just met you, keep the talking to a minimum. There's a good chance I'm using u as a rebound and want to fantasize about my ex while you get me off. You talking or moaning is a distraction. And no matter what don't skip foreplay

ThunderLife92 · 2023-01-12T06:59:04+00:00

Generally, I flirt and cuddle then grope her and stop, pretend like it was an accident and then we start breathing heavy and touching, no sex yet, biting....I need to stop I'm horny now. 🥲

rickjames334 · 2023-01-10T23:09:57+00:00

SeveralSadEvenings · 2023-01-10T23:09:20+00:00

A.

B puts me to sleep and is hella cringe.

GlumManufacturer1557 · 2023-01-10T23:58:25+00:00

B: really loving and gente most of the time tbh

Supreme_Salt_Lord · 2023-01-11T01:59:39+00:00

How God intended. Man on top 10 strokes to completion. No kissing. /s

Ok_Sail_2408 · 2023-01-11T02:07:59+00:00

impregnation then after that get married when pregnant

InfamousBake1859 · 2023-01-11T12:56:18+00:00

I ride them while using a vibrator

2023-01-11T16:13:46+00:00

A sex god does the following:

Lots of kissing and teasing. Clothes on to start with, with lots of grinding.
He then eats me out like a champ, he knows about building up intensity, teasing, pressure and getting the rights spots. He keeps licking/fingering as I cum and I start to see stars.
I then play with myself whilst he face fucks me (I adore giving head) we have rough and dirty PIV. (Alternating between missionary, doggy and blow jobs).
We then have doggy style anal whilst I rub myself. I cum again.
I get on top and ride him like a pony, he cums.

There's lots of dirty talking and he's very dominant.

I also like sessions where we just alternate between giving and recieving oral, BDSM and sessions where it's exclusively foreplay.

blueshinx · 2023-01-15T17:37:52+00:00

I mean I really don’t care whether it’s hard or sensual as long as the session is long lol

Title	[Q4W] What is your ideal way to have sex with someone?
Author	gobblegoobleoneofus
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Comments	80
Date	January 10, 2023 11:04 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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