What patterns have you noticed in the people you tend to date and/or attrract? What kind of conclusions could you draw about that?

DetectivePure503 · 2021-03-27T14:03:32+00:00

Women I attract/ Women who want to sleep with me are

• Drunk • Single, but everytime just dumped a few weeks ago • Mentally unstable/depressive • Physically attractive, but not top tier • Extremely clingy and rejecting at the same time • Never interested in having a real date

And after they tried to use me as a distraction from the drama with their exes, they usually end up in the next guy’s arms for a 6-12 months long relationship. After they get dumped for their toxic traits again, they drunk text me or meet me at the next party and the story begins from new.

I don’t know why only this kind of women feels „attracted“ to me. Maybe it’s because I appear more like a nice guy than a fuckboy and it’s easy to get my attention and use me as a emotional punching bag. However I refuse to sleep with drunk and depressive women, because I have selfrespect and deserve better than getting used like that.

PissedBlackGuy · 2021-03-27T15:23:51+00:00

If they're black, quite attractive women. If they have another racial background, they're quite often overweight/fat.

So I stick to black women, but they're not that easy to find honestly. Life as a black dude in Europe. Conclusion... Idk.

gofigure62 · 2021-03-27T16:48:23+00:00

I usually attract sexually reserved Christian men who want to get married and have children.

I'm an alternative, childfree, atheist, with a high sex drive.

In my case it boils down to demographics. Where I live and in my age group most people are Christian and want families right now.

I'm an open person and can and do make friends with literally anyone. Most men don't get any attention or human acknowledgement to any degree, so they fall for me just because I'm around and nice. They can be themselves and are given a platform to share their personalities with me, which they otherwise don't get.

A little attention goes a long eay with people. These guys get hung up on the fact that I'm not "judgy" and automatically think my lack of criticisms for their personality is a sign of compromise in my personality. They're not concerned about our complete lack of compatibility. They insist that I could become religious or that I will indeed have children.

I could be any woman. They're just happy to have the company and attention from a woman in general.

While I can connect with anyone platonically. It's difficult for me to find people who are on the same page with my core beliefs. So it's difficult for me to find romantic and sexual partners.

2021-03-27T14:07:27+00:00

They're very self-critical and prone to anxiety or depression.

It's obvious to me why -- I'm cheerful and positive and encouraging. Even people with no romantic interest in me comment on it. I have a coworker who says "The sun has risen" every time I walk in. I guess that energy is appealing to the doom and gloomers I date.

And they've all had brown hair but that's probably just because brown hair is pretty common. 😆

Demasii · 2021-03-27T13:25:28+00:00

When I was younger going to parties and clubs, I attracted white men with blue eyes and blonde hair consistently.

I'm of mixed race so I thought maybe I looked different but white enough that attracted them.

ChadsBastardSon · 2021-03-27T20:23:09+00:00

It also seems I quite possibly attract girls who aren't into traditionally masculine men. (which kinda sucks for me, but it sure beats having literally no one attracted to you)

Lmao my favorite way to annoy men is to explain to them immediately after we've had sex that I'm exclusively attracted to effiminate men, which is 100% true. Most of them respond along the lines of "yeah that checks out" but a few of them get annoyed by it. It's also worth noting that by and large these men have had a fair amount of sex in their lives, so it's not like the lack of traditional masculinity is hurting them much. The terpy focus on hyper-masculinity seems more like a power fantasy than an actual strategy sometimes.

Anyway my two major trends are atheists who grew up very religious and men close to me in age who have a history of dating much older women. I think that both groups are after something non-traditional and different, which checks out.

2021-03-27T15:41:24+00:00

I've been hit on by a variety of races, ages, and socioeconomic backgrounds. Who is hitting on me depends mostly on my location over anything else.

The only commonality I've noticed is the white men who are into me are almost exclusively blondes with blue eyes. I'm the polar opposite--black hair, brown eyes, lightly tanned.

Draggonzz · 2021-03-27T16:26:40+00:00

I don't attract anyone. The conclusion I draw from this is I'm unattractive.

renfsu · 2021-03-27T15:00:50+00:00

I tend to attract Big boobed younger women, stout older women (especially older white women who are the most aggressive by far), and extroverted women, especially at parties. I'm introverted. I feel as if I'm attractive but not in a head turning kind of way. I have very light skin (I'm black) and I feel like this is the biggest contribution to people's perception of me.

MasterTeacher123 · 2021-03-27T16:01:22+00:00

Sexuality=Usually very open and DTF. I usually smash the people I date very quickly.

Personality=Fun Quirky etc

Race=White, a disproportionate amount of the women who have openly hit on or asked me out have been asian though. I don’t date them however. Religion is usually Christian but that’s mostly a lie though lol. Like they claim to be Christians but they don’t actually practice what they preach. My GF says she’s one but hasn’t been in a church outside of a wedding in like 5 years

Treatment of me=Regular

just_a_place · 2021-03-28T00:06:08+00:00

I have no idea because I attract polar opposites. Mostly I say I attract girls that work in minimum wage jobs who got nothing going in their lives like cashiers or waitresses who aren't in college and still living at home. But I also attract women who are older and earning 6 figures - not as often as younger girls though but I do attract them. My ex was a high earner, intelligent, and independent and she was over 30 (I'm in my early 20's).

But one thing I have noticed is that older more intelligent women who are financially successful and independent only want me for a fling, at first, and then only take me more seriously after getting to know me more personally. The other girls who have nothing going in their life fall for me way faster and start pushing for a LTR and a boyfriend role.

It's also hard to say who I am attracting because women are just friendly overall and they have to be very overt and loud in their flirtation for me to get a hint that they are flirting withg me. A lot of girl will casually flirt which I never take seriously. I only take a hint when it is prolonged and with girls whom I have a lasting relationship with whom I see day to day. If a cashier at walmart flirts with me I do not count it as attraction because chances are I'm not going to see this girl again. But if it's a girl I see every day at the same store or close to where I work then this is different, there is consistency I can work with.

Also I have noticed that women who I attract the most are usually women who are looking for a deeper human connection. This is why I attract women who are career women who are very educated and very successful and who tend to intimidate most men. These women feel isolated and mostly just want a man in the house who is there for them and supports them. They are hungry for a genuine human connection. Sometimes it's sad how they mention that they just want another heartbeat in the house. I guess these women are attracted to me because I am not a meathead and I actually understand them on their level. I don't really know but like I said it doesn't happen immediately it always comes as a consequence of having a long term friendship with them where they get a chance to know my personal life better.

philomexa · 2021-03-27T15:27:17+00:00

I don't know, I'm a reasonably attractive woman so all sorts of men have expressed interest in me, but of those who have pursued:

most were white (or white passing), middle class +
all came from stable married households
were either athletes or leaders of some sort of 'official' club
leaders of their respective friend groups
seem to enjoy dismantling my 'snobby ice queen' persona
treated me as a friend first before things turned romantic
nominally religious
normal expression of healthy male sexuality; no weird porn sick behaviors or attitudes.
gregarious, affable, social; kind like human golden retrievers
treated me well, no hard feelings after the romance fizzled

I'm not sure what conclusion I'm supposed to draw from this. Happy stable people attract and date other happy stable people? I've never had drama in my romantic life, and everyone I've dated is to some degree sane. All the boys have now grown into married fathers, with careers, houses, and attractive wives. Good for them, I wish them well.

cowfishAreReal · 2021-03-27T13:28:51+00:00

According to most of my friends I'm completely oblivious when guys are trying to hit on me and I just think they're friendly. So maybe not very aggressive would be a trend. For tge ones I actually know were into me at some point, usually the nerdy type, including the one im dating now. Witch I think is fine, it makes sense that playing games and and being into stem shit attracts nerd dudes.

2021-03-27T15:19:47+00:00

Going back to the women I’ve dated, there is very little they had in common with each other. They were different races, religions, came from different income levels. Different personalities too, and different mental levels. Different family lives. They did however treat me well, and if they did I just stopped standing for it and either would voice it and/or leave in general. They were all the same level of sexuality as me, never felt the point where I was longing for more sex or more attraction.

Going to be honest, I think the only thing they had in common were that they were attracted to me, which is a very small pool considering my experience while in relationships

MajesticMaple · 2021-03-27T18:22:00+00:00

I mean, I only go after one particular type of woman so I have no idea if I attract other types of women in addition to that particular type.

The few women who have approached me have been mildly alt or skaterish which is weird to me because I am neither. Septum piercings tattoos etc. I figure they just are more likely to approach people in general, idk. Not my favourite aesthetic but you don't judge a book by it's cover so I give it a shot, usually they end up not liking me.

geyejoe7 · 2021-03-27T20:15:00+00:00

I tended to date:

not overly sexual people
more down to earth girls that aren't complete normies
atheists
that laughed at my jokes and liked me as a person

Believeinyourflyness · 2021-03-27T20:16:33+00:00

Mixed race Asian/ white guy. Most of the girls who are attracted to me are black girls and chubby white girls who are into kpop

Mimoxs · 2021-03-27T22:18:27+00:00

Severe mommy issues. All either have 1) no mother in their life, 2) abusive mother background, or 3) mom didn't love them

Notsonewguy7 · 2021-03-27T22:49:15+00:00

Sexuality and/or sexual behaviors Mostly Straight Girls but some bisexuals here and their

Demeanor/Personality All of them are nerds. Every last single one from poetry to anime. The most recent was into games.

Race, religion, cultural etc. White women overwhelmingly which sucks because I tend to like black or mixed race women. Other than that Latin or Hispanic are next in terms of approaching me.

Treatment of you This is going to sound so messed up but I've heard a lot of other mixed race people and black people say this but even though there's a lot of fetishization, t the emotional element of the relationship has been better with the women that approached me especially if they were white versus the woman I approached if they were black.

My worse experience with a white woman was her wanting to hide being in a relationship with me. The worse experience with a black woman was being stabbed.

2021-03-27T15:32:59+00:00

Since early teens I've been attracting creeps. It's got a bit better with age, but I'm afraid that overall I have more experience with being approached and in some cases harassed by older men rather than with being approached by my peers. I guess it's the result of being an Asian mix and looking like a kid during my teen years and as a teen now.

XtoDoubt · 2021-03-27T13:22:45+00:00

I emphasize alpha (arousal) traits, so the women I tend to pull have their shit together in terms of coming from stable families and having comfortable incomes and careers. They're sweet (to me) and come in all shapes, sizes, races, and ages (20-30+).

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wtknight · 2021-03-27T14:02:34+00:00

I attract either quiet, nerdy women or Asian women. I am quiet but intellectually confident myself, so the women I tend to attract are the ones that value intellectual confidence over other kinds of confidence. I'm also not traditionally masculine looking, although my facial features are not unattractive either.

disayle32 · 2021-03-27T14:35:52+00:00

Women I attract tend to be significantly younger than I am, bisexual, and with interests similar to mine. I don't know what conclusions to draw from that.

Ohmaygahh · 2021-03-27T15:02:46+00:00

No common thread. It spans all of the socioeconomic spectrum, all countries, all personalities.

I do tend to do better with independent thinkers, and women who work in, or have a passion for, numbers and are in some sort of finance field.

SaBahRub · 2021-03-27T15:30:11+00:00

That I’m normal, boring, and slightly below average

flapperfemmefatale · 2021-03-27T16:43:30+00:00

Who I attract/am attracted to is pretty mixed. But for the people I actually choose to date, here is what they have in common:

Never super muscular. Either lean and skinny, or total dad bod.
Nerdy about at least one thing. I find that combination of passion and expertise very attractive. With my current partner, it's baseball and Old Hollywood
They are not traditionally masculine

Goodthingstartssmall · 2021-03-27T17:57:05+00:00

The girls i "attracted" were all chubby/fat. Only one was a bodybuilder is now my gf.

Edit: Although on tinder i seem to be a chad for asians.

2021-03-27T20:28:54+00:00

A lot of goth/alt type girls like me. And then also shy girls. Sometimes drug/lowlife girls like me a lot too. A few latino and black girls liked me too

I guess im versatile lol

Visual-Pension9446 · 2021-03-27T23:20:51+00:00

I attract and date no one.. so.. I guess a pattern of zeros tells me I’m unattractive? 😅

2021-03-28T04:04:15+00:00

I am 5'10,in India and the women who are attracted to me are either chubby,dark or short.

Nothing wrong with those features. Merely have observed this commonality.

deathbecomesme123456 · 2021-03-28T04:38:24+00:00

Men I attract:

Sexual abusers, psychological problems, extremely smart/educated

_Neon_Shadow_ · 2021-03-28T07:00:55+00:00

Sexuality and/or sexual behaviors

Straight or bi. They were all very submissive and wanted to be dominated.

Demeanor/Personality

Intelligent, introverted, creative, chill, nerdy, and very fucking kinky.

Race, religion, cultural etc.

I dont discriminate, but all of the white women I attract are fucking weirdos, so I've learned to stay away. Non-religious.

Treatment of you

They treat me pretty well, no complaints.

Expensive-Guitar3609 · 2021-03-28T07:25:33+00:00

Well... "People I attract"?

They like tall, buffed white dudes
They are quite more dumb than me, excepting the ones that have dicks which I refuse to date (yet)
They are all affeminated and have stupid annoying voices
They are humans... Mostly...
They all suck dick but few of them do it well actually
They all feel like they are better than me, even when they are shorter than me, affeminated, have annoying vocal pitchs and can't suck dick properly...

I mean I have a theory that I can suck better than them. I can't prove it yet, but I have strong suspicions.

_symbolik · 2021-03-29T23:33:52+00:00

Daddy issues... every....single....one....of them

DerekMorganBAU · 2021-03-30T02:29:25+00:00

They're all sexually liberated or repressed and I bring it out of them cause I'm a freak that watches porn 24/7 for new fun ideas to try.

All ranges. Neurotic to anxious to cool and level headed. No real "pattern."

White/Black/Hispanic.

Women are way too comfortable around me. I'm not a Tyrone or anything like that. I'm 5'5 average face and build, but I'm a huge flirt. I can't turn it off. Women that know me really well intimately become obsessed with me because I fuck them better than anyone else ever could while also being thoughtful and I don't judge people.

It's eerie because I lose attraction to women that think they figured me out after one month of talking/fucking me. I'm not a good dating prospect, I will lie, gaslight, manipulate, etc. But they tend to overlook it cause I'm always down to fuck.

2021-03-30T19:01:39+00:00

So far all the men I've attracted have not been suitable partners for me. Other than that I enjoy music amd am a musician for fun so I tend to pair with men who travel in those circles.

Also lately way too many old ass dudes who think they're hot shit (I guess cuase they're not fat?). Those are always a hard pass for me. I dated a man who was 6 years older than me once and never again.

Noodlecase91 · 2021-03-31T12:17:15+00:00

In my experience (only 30) I have a consistent trend (kind of knew it since I was little) in attracting older women who still have a ton of sexual energy left/attractive. I was a cheeky bugger and have a very disarming face (asian) even now. I certainly don’t look my age.

I get the sense there is some conscious/unconscious almost definitive maternal instinct that rears it’s head out uncontrollably (longest time was about 20 mins before her guard was fully down. Other women told me she was the biggest b**ch at work. I have seen it too many times where behavior just changes especially if they have strong innate natural maternal instincts. Probably has something to do with my childhood past

It got to a point recently where I’m much more dissident and off setting (introverted anyway) legit 4 older women were around me chatting away. Knew them all but one and the one was the most flirtatious to me.

Oh and having sex with a person near where you live can have domino effects. I live in a very very quiet area with higher than average socieo/eco house/status. So there’s a lot of older women around walking dogs/kids etc.

It’s different from a younger women per say. It’s too much sometimes. I’ve slept with 5 older women who were over 5 years apart in the past three years. Two more in which it was abit too dangerous for my liking (personally too close)

Btw if you’re young and have a chance with an older women go for it. I’ve found in the bedroom it is much more comfortable at least for me. Also be ready though it can be wild

I’m trying to dial it down but recently it’s getting a little out of hand maybe it’s a scent thing who knows.

Throughawayman80808 · 2021-03-31T18:10:46+00:00

A lot of the girls I've dated barring my current GF have been emotionally distant and victims of sexual abuse, usually childhood sexual abuse. These are the girls who are either the most into me or the most receptive to what I'm putting out.

I have no clue what conclusion to draw other than that I should have learned my lesson much sooner.

LiberalCombatVet · 2021-05-31T02:10:02+00:00

I'm rather dom and don't try to hide it. I generally attract subs 10-25 years younger than myself (I'm 53). Generally either they're cool but sub or deranged and sub. Most of the deranged ones don't get a second date. I prefer single women who have never been married, pleasantly plump body type and I have a thing for redheads and blondes. I have slept with married women who become friends with benefits but I try to avoid that situation now because one caught feelings and if she'd cheat with me, she'd cheat on me.😁

Title	What patterns have you noticed in the people you tend to date and/or attrract? What kind of conclusions could you draw about that?
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Date	March 27, 2021 1:06 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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