Dating is a population based matching and sampling activity . Even in the case of online dating , the radius is limited often to 20 miles or so. But in most cases , your chances of success are primarily based on the other nearby choices someone has .

If you take handsome , well built , tall guy but he spends all his time in a computer science lab/ basement or study hall, he is going to have way less sex than if he was the frat president . Similarly for a woman, spending all her time in a research lab or staying late at the library studying won’t get nearly as much men approaching her like at a bar or in a Greek party .

And similarly , if a man is around the average height of other men in the area , he is average . But if he’s 5-6 inches taller than the average man, say if he moves to Japan or Vietnam , now he will be treated like an nba player . But if he moves say to the Netherlands , with the tallest men in the world , he will probably be a loner.