CMV: Women want a man that they feel like “could” cheat on them, but wouldn’t actually do it.

Basically what the title says. I’m probably a slightly below average, mid 20’s male. And I’ve had relationships and hookups before, although my success has massively decreased the last 2-3 years or so.

And in the last couple years, I’ve been very close with a girl who lives in another country. We speak/call everyday (and have done for 2 years), get on really well, same sense of humour, care for each other when we’re not well, and have even done sexual things on the phone multiple times.

But the only thing stopping us from being together in my opinion, is she doesn’t consider me a “high value man”. Because we’ve been so close, I’ve always been too open and honest with her, and there’s been times where I’ve admitted to her that girls around where I live don’t really fancy me or find me attractive, and I told her that I’m not speaking to any other girls apart from her, because I didn’t feel like I have any options around here.

And I believe me revealing that information to her was the worst thing I could have ever done. Why?

Because I feel like women want a man that can attract the interest of other women. Obviously they don’t want you to cheat on them, but they want the feeling of other girls staring at your man when you walk past them, and they know that THEY’VE got you, and the others can’t have that. If she’s dating a man that no one else wants, or finds attractive, I don’t think that interests her at all, and I feel like she might even question if she even finds him attractive, given that nobody else seems too.

So yeah, I revealed to her a while ago that I struggle with girls locally, and since then (at the start of our speaking she seemed a lot more into me than now) she’s never really given me the impression that she wants to be with me AT ALL. And she’s even met other guys during the 2 years who she considered hot and interesting (probably the high value guys I’m speaking about in this post). And I’m not bothered about her seeing other people btw if anyone was confused about that, since we aren’t in a relationship, and I have seen a couple people in the 2 years we’ve been speaking, but not many as I don’t have many options tbh.

But regardless, do you guys agree with what I’m saying? I feel like a women wants a man who she feels like she needs to work for, like she needs to put in effort to keep him, otherwise he could leave for someone else. If she’s with a man that she KNOWS couldn’t cheat, and would never leave her, she’s not excited as she’s already won the battle.