Does anyone know guys who insult women after they reject them?

DonnyBomeneddy · 2022-07-21T05:42:43+00:00

This was mentioned in the book No More Mr Nice Guy. These men are so used to acting in a people pleasing way and not being themselves, that when it doesn't work, they can go from being overly nice to angry and bitter in a split second

Technical_Hawk8547 · 2022-07-21T01:44:38+00:00

It’s pretty obvious. It’s a lack of maturity. They aren’t able to handle there emotions. When they get rejected they take it personally and lash out. In there mind it helps them “get over it” even though in reality it just makes them look like an insecure man baby.

Penguinsphen · 2022-07-21T03:05:47+00:00

Guy at my job threatened to kill the girl who rejected him and half the line. He left, came back, said he be back if that she still worked there. Never came back again, but called and said he was gonna make people pay.

We now have a buddy system for when we take out the trash.

saulisdating · 2022-07-21T07:51:57+00:00

These are manchildren who do this to try and protect their own ego.

You know when a child asks another child to borrow/take some coveted toy and gets denied and then lashes out at the other child saying “I don’t even need it, it’s a shit toy anyway!” ?

Well that’s exactly the same thing these same children do when they grow up and get denied by women.

I actually read a while ago a study behind the psychology of this phenomenon but I can’t recall the exact details right now.

They haven’t developed the right coping mechanism to hearing the word NO and they try to cope by lashing out and PRETENDING THEY DIDN’T NEED that person/thing in the first place. While actively trying to put down/denigrate that person/thing to justify their action. Something like that.

BenefitUpstairs5610 · 2022-07-21T09:52:27+00:00

A guy I rejected threatened to rape me, so there's that. :)

inline6throwaway · 2022-07-21T02:28:15+00:00

I personally do not. I don't know anyone who insults a woman after she rejected him, nor do I do it myself. For example, let's say a guy gets rejected then he says "you ugly anyway." The woman can say "ok then why are you talking to me anyway?" Then the guy looks even more stupid lol

ShaidarHaran2 · 2022-07-21T04:39:40+00:00

I don't think any of my close friends do, I'd be disappointed if they did. As far as we've all said a rejection is a ok cool, have a good night, and move on

jazzageguy · 2022-07-21T06:00:48+00:00

Your pronouns are ambiguous and I first thought you meant the men had rejected the women, but I figured it out. It's not logic, it's emotion: They need to devalue what they cannot have. As for surely being aware of the consequences, you'd be amazed what men can be unaware of.

anxiouspotter · 2022-07-21T17:27:10+00:00

One time, while out and about after bars, a guy yelled at me where I was going. I didn’t pay him any mind and he then proceeded to call me a fat bitch (ftr I’m 5’4” and 130). I have no idea the reasoning behind it. I’m guessing it’s a way to self protect your ego after rejection by belittling the person you were interested in, and to comfort yourself by making the girl seem below you

Pr1nceCharming_ · 2022-07-21T04:50:55+00:00

I don’t get why anyone would care if they get shot down by a woman. The world is chalked full of hot chicks, everyone knows it’s a numbers game

Tyler_Durden_Says · 2022-07-21T07:59:18+00:00

There’s a whole sun dedicated to this r/niceguys

Necrosaro_123 · 2022-07-21T17:02:25+00:00

I dont know if this happens to you guys, but sometimes i fear the guys i meet at the gym. There are these guys that are so narcissistic, that they are scary. They behave aggresive with guys, play the nice guy with the ladies and when they get rejected, they get angry at them.

I always keep myself out of their way.

TheKillingMoon31 · 2022-07-21T23:05:32+00:00

do and most of them were really nice initially and then became rude/mean/defensive/etc.

thats why so many ppl talk about the “nice guy” stereotype. i would say that these are guys that think that being a nice person comes with rewards, that doing nice things means you are entitled to a prize.

Spoiler alert, it doesnt.

If someone believes they are a nice person but most of their actions are done with the expectation that they will get something back or that they are ENTITLED to a reward then they aren’t nice at all.

Sorry for the rant but it just pisses me off.

AntiFeminismAU · 2022-07-21T04:39:55+00:00

Nope. But I’ve experienced the opposite where a woman insulted and threatened me for rejecting her.

Women take rejection even worse than men because they aren’t used to it and don’t know how to deal with it.

Old-Sheepherder-1176 · 2022-07-21T06:10:10+00:00

Immature and cant handle rejection. Their problem not yours.

2022-07-21T07:55:50+00:00

Not many of them, probably just some inexperienced, low self-esteem that can't control his emotions. However, there are plenty of guys that are angry at girls for wasting their time, giving mixed signals, playing with their emotions.

itsondahouse · 2022-07-21T17:14:02+00:00

Some friends did it way back in high school. There was no reasoning, just spite.

Horror_Occasion6579 · 2022-07-21T17:53:40+00:00

Dancing with a girlfriend in Weho and some random walks up to us and tells us to join him. We weren’t really feeling him, so I kindly decline and even offered him a very much unmerited explanation, “we’re gay!” His response was to insult my appearance, “you’re ugly anyway.” 😭

Moto_Guzzisti · 2022-07-21T20:44:45+00:00

I see this happen far too often, and as a guy, I call them out, to their face. I've tried talking some sense into these guys to get them to act like adult men, but it usually doesn't help.

kathruins · 2022-07-21T21:19:07+00:00

no emotional regulation, immaturity, lack of experience in human connection. basically they're a toddler throwing a tantrum.

NPC1990 · 2022-07-21T22:21:40+00:00

They have low self esteem and take it personal. Sometimes it isn’t you or you just ain’t compatible. A lot of times you’re dodging a bullet anyway.

2022-07-21T23:02:25+00:00

Used to be friends with a dude who did something similar, except insulting them he'd just say something like "Fucking bitch playing games with me" under his breath.

He was not the sharpest tool in the shed, nor the most mature.

Jamiepappasatlanta · 2022-07-22T00:27:58+00:00

I’ve been insulted by a man when I rejected his offer to hook up. It was so pathetic. He came off as such a loser.

jazzageguy · 2022-07-21T06:04:05+00:00

tldr: You're playing chess, and the guys you're talking about are playing checkers.

TuckerTheCuckFucker · 2022-07-21T03:04:13+00:00

I don’t insult but I have no problem treating women how they treat me lol

For example.. Anytime a woman says “fuck you!”

I just say “fuck me yourself you coward!”

I smile when I say it and walk away but I always end up with the last laugh

If they’re mean, I’ll also go with: “wow I’m sorry you’re having such a shit life that you’re willing to go out of your way to be intentionally rude to someone.. have a nice day”

and it just makes them feel shitty about themselves.

flananagirl · 2022-07-21T06:45:48+00:00

First off, when a guy says this to you, they never liked you. They just wanted to stick it in you. It’s not the same as liking you. That’s why it’s easy to detach and tell you to fuck off or call you fat and ugly. Did the guy put a lot of effort and try? Did you do something to make them think it was going to work out even when you knew he was waisting their time? Maybe some guys have a reason to be pissed and your generalizing little rant doesn’t really do or say anything? Or are we just upset that someone was just treating us like a flesh light with more effort?

Nullroute127 · 2022-07-21T07:15:21+00:00

It's guys that are being reactive and butthurt. Many times the guys that react this way weren't be REJECTED, they were being shit tested - and they failed. It's subconsciously why women do the shit testing, to see if you can keep it together if challenged.

I try to live by the mantra, "People are people off for having met me."

It comes from needing external validation. It's not a good sign.

ftdrain · 2022-07-21T03:48:35+00:00

Women are generally much worse at handling rejection, I dont even get an emotional spike. Meanwhile if I reject a mythical landwhale she somehow has the bravery to call me gay, the level of dellusion and lack of acceptance is off the charts

HarbringerxLight · 2022-07-21T17:54:42+00:00

Women are worse at this. They take rejection worse than men because they aren’t used to it.

Delicatestatesmen · 2022-07-21T06:53:01+00:00

I have cussed girls out on the regular.. in bed.

Top_Professional4545 · 2022-07-21T07:06:51+00:00

Yes an I've seen more women do this to men. it was wild cause my perception is they other way around

Lotus_82 · 2022-07-21T18:36:02+00:00

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Beneficial-Tip-4044 · 2022-07-21T07:05:44+00:00

eh Ive never done it but plenty of times i wanted to so let me explain why: because i was lying 😂. i told her some bs compliments to appeal her ego & get into her pants. which she then takes, but then gives a dry response or something that I take as a bitchy response (an actual rejection would be better than the way some of them reply).

Other times, when i genuinely meant my compliment and they responded in the same way I didnt feel a need to take it back because I actually felt that way, just unfortunate she didnt feel the same towards me.

towards the women that I didnt feel that way towards, I hated the idea that I massaged their seemingly already inflated ego with nothing in return. So I, in a sense, wanted to take it back. Hence the feeling of wanting to insult them😂 but to actually insult them is over the top and even more waste of my already wasted time lol

truthbomb999 · 2022-07-21T18:35:01+00:00

For those who do know guys who do that, what’s their reasoning?

It's probably the same reasoning that women go apeshit if you reject them. You want to see bad behavior in humans, reject a women from something. It goes back to our tribal roots where being socially ostracized is equivalent to death, especially for women.

Ever hear the phrase hell hath no fury like a women scorned?

DontTakePeopleSrsly · 2022-07-21T11:28:45+00:00

It’s not reason, it’s emotion from the rejection. The best thing a day can do is have a “your loss” mentality, slam the door on any possibility with her in the future and move on with his life.

The big problem is most guys allow themselves to be turned into betas in waiting for when women hit their 30’s and decide to cash out before the lights come on at the club at 2 AM. If every guy had a one shot at the title mentality with women, they wouldn’t act so shitty; because there would be consequences to their rejections.

As it is now they believe that once they reject or dump a guy they can always go back because he in some way belongs to her. I had this happen to me several years ago and when the girl did this I was dating someone else & showed no interest. The level of interest and effort on her part went through the roof & she tried everything to get me into bed.

Domin8u315 · 2022-07-21T08:15:01+00:00

To make themselves feel better

Dizzy_Violinist563 · 2022-07-21T08:36:39+00:00

My flatmates does the same thing and he makes my life so miserable in the last 5 months. Yesterday he was so violent that I had to call the police. Then I found out that he recorded our conversation because I told him to fuck off or leave me alone. I am having anxiety and mentally exhausted. I still have to suffer this for a week until I move out.

blackchivalry · 2022-07-21T10:17:29+00:00

What are you going to do about it

theRobertOppenheimer · 2022-07-21T13:12:34+00:00

I think that's pretty obvious. Being rejected hurts, so it's only natural (although immature) to want to hurt the person back who hurt you. Obviously if you think about it for a second it becomes clear that it's the worst way you could react to a rejection, but those guys act impulsively and don't think before speaking.

It's not even the girl's fault as we can't really control who we're attracted to, but again those guy don't think that far.

Uncut1369 · 2022-07-21T13:54:56+00:00

theres a guy at work who's referred to at least 1 women as a whore because "she led him on", despite being at least 10 years older than her. He's almost 40 and chaces every girl he can, and stops talking to them when they won't sleep with him. it was amusing at first, but now it's just sad.

Blaphrodite · 2022-07-21T15:38:40+00:00

Yes. Many immature men do this.

Some also insult the woman after she has slept with them.

hagakurejunkie · 2022-07-21T16:03:10+00:00

Not personally but I've seen it in action. Weak behavior all around.

ilovefootball49 · 2022-07-21T16:51:01+00:00

I used to do that. Now I get so many matches I don't really care what one girl thinks.

Icy_Rich_3749 · 2022-07-21T17:01:38+00:00

What if the women cheated on you. Don't you confront them?

magnateur · 2022-07-21T17:23:04+00:00

Noep

CanUnusual8729 · 2022-07-21T17:30:59+00:00

Some guys unfortunately have consistently been rejected by women their whole lives. So they start to associate women with pain.

tonyferguson2021 · 2022-07-21T17:45:23+00:00

Ego, insecurity etc

BlackBirdG · 2022-07-21T19:50:54+00:00

I don't know anyone personally who does that because I would never associate myself with someone like that but they do that due to their own insecurities.

cangero0 · 2022-07-21T22:05:15+00:00

In a patriarchal society, anger is often one of the few emotions men are permitted to exhibit, when in reality it's feelings of hurt that's behind that veil.

naughtychick9999 · 2022-07-21T23:13:19+00:00

There's a whole ass sub for it r/niceguys

FranciscotheBull · 2022-07-22T00:43:01+00:00

For me, I don't get mad or retaliate when a woman rejects me. For guys, it is front end rejection and how a guy handles it. Anecdotally, guys I have hung out with never did acted out after rejection.

Some guys just don't take rejection well and are angry and immature.

I am not justifying the reaction, but rejection hurts and some women do it too hard which may explain that reaction and part of the reason why guys don't approach women.

I think those two dynamics play into why some guys react that way after a rejection. Again, I am not justifying it; just a possibility explanation.

Social_cynicism · 2022-07-22T23:35:00+00:00

Because being rejected too much is degrating and this is how people react when they are degrated

peacheeblush · 2022-07-23T01:00:59+00:00

I had man say “oh well she’s fat anyways” about me to a friend because I said I was no longer interested in him, years later, he’s married to a plus size woman… funny how irony works.

Title	Does anyone know guys who insult women after they reject them?
Author	Lotus_82
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Date	July 21, 2022 1:38 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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