The BEST possible text you can send when she flakes (doesn't reply to you asking her out)

Xeno505 · 2011-05-27T21:22:20+00:00

[permanently deleted]

puaCurveBall · 2011-05-27T19:50:21+00:00

bonus points if you actually make other plans in those few hours

CuilRunnings · 2011-05-27T20:05:41+00:00

I avoid this by never making plans with a girl. I make awesome plans, then let the girl know what they are. If she misses, it's her loss and I'm not really worried about it.

razqel · 2011-05-27T21:07:42+00:00

You've single-handedly answered 50% of the posts on Seddit. Thank you.

blueeyedtongue · 2011-05-28T03:11:53+00:00

I've done this plus upped the ante.

Made plans with this girl for a Halloween pub crawl. An hour before I told her we would take off I give her a call to make sure she was ready.

No answer. No problem, I leave a voice mail and start my pre-drink for the evening.

An hour passes and there is no word from her. I call one more time. Since our departure time has arrived and she is nowhere to be found I invoke the Seinfeld 15 minute rule.

Half-way through an amazing night I bump into two girls dressed as sexy nuns. My costume happened to be the devil. These two things equal to perfect photo op.

I send the girl who flaked on my a picture of me sandwiched between two hot slutty nuns with the caption "Wish you were here!"

A few days go by and she calls.

"Looks like you had a good time."

"It was fucking awesome! [pause] It would have been really cool if you were there."

And with that I was reengaged. I few days later I sealed to deal.

throwaway-o · 2011-05-27T21:25:04+00:00

RADIO SILENCE.

sockthepuppetry · 2011-05-27T21:52:51+00:00

I bow to you, sir. You've told her off for her flakiness without being spiteful. Buy this man a beer.

2011-05-27T23:05:43+00:00

As someone who would otherwise just forget about her and move on, I will definitely give this a try. I can't even count how many times i've met great women who flaked on me after the number close/k-close.

2011-05-28T01:19:30+00:00

thedude108, welcome to Seddit! Ignore the haters and thanks for the tip... I'll field test it asap.

yollamasmama · 2011-05-27T22:56:16+00:00

I'll try it. This past Tuesday evening, I asked some girl to go out on either one of two days next week (only days I'm available next week), and she said she'd get back to me after the next day because that's when she gets her work schedule. Sooo...she should've gotten back to me yesterday. Might as well shoot her the text. Not much to lose.

danielvago · 2011-05-27T21:15:00+00:00

Sent this off to a girl who flaked once it came time to make plans. We'll see what happens.

chosonhawk · 2011-05-27T22:38:18+00:00

its a good approach for some. its still respectful, but curiously assumptive at the same time.

msing · 2011-05-27T22:34:46+00:00

best possible text is one that's not sent

ctopkis · 2011-05-28T05:57:25+00:00

The "xo" makes very little sense, especially since she's flaking.

Rolfthedog · 2011-05-28T21:53:22+00:00

I have a similar situ going on - used "Hey didn't hear back from you so I made other plans for ze weekend...lets make it up next week!"
We shall see how that goes...prob won't hear back from her, but one never knows with a flake.

beejwise · 2011-05-28T00:46:19+00:00

this is good. anyone who gets a bad response has already fucked things up on their own.

but remember, these things aren't result-based. if you're looking at pickup like that, you're missing the point.

warpcowboy · 2011-05-27T23:00:10+00:00

this is a good response if she replies hours later, but i don't like the idea of chasing an unreplied text with this.

ideally, you'd make new plans. but why would you substantiate them to her?

dpd888 · 2011-05-27T23:46:21+00:00

I wish I knew that a couple of months ago. Thank you!

Katra182 · 2011-05-28T03:10:58+00:00

Sounds pretty good. I'm not quite sure if it's the right response for my situation though but sounds close. So what if you got this girl's number and she texts you as soon as you get back to the apartment saying she had a great time and that we'd do something the next day. I texted her partway through the next day and didn't get a response. We talked about going out tonight but I haven't said anything or heard from her since.

Should I send something like this or just wait to see if she gets back to me tomorrow? It's graduation time so it's quite possible she was just really busy.

JohnDoe06 · 2011-05-28T10:12:39+00:00

What about not replying at all and just making other plans without telling her about it until later?

itsmejared · 2011-05-28T14:31:09+00:00

not hating, serious question - why the "xo"?

liberal_elitist · 2011-05-29T09:22:05+00:00

Abundance mentality. nuff said.

jamonman · 2011-05-31T18:04:22+00:00

Hey HB7! I didn't hear from you, so other plans filled up for Mon and Tues of this week. Let's [do that activity we talked about] some other time soon. [They] won this time, but we'll get 'em next time! haha Happy [some holiday] Day! Hope you at least got out in the sun. :)

That was what I went with, and it worked pretty well. She replied with a summary of her weekend, and why she's busy this week, and asked me what my schedule looks like.

hipnosister · 2011-07-28T12:58:59+00:00

Maybe just don't ask her out by text?

glassuser · 2011-05-27T22:26:30+00:00

how about texting "where the fuck where you?'

MindOverGrind · 2011-05-27T22:19:47+00:00

[permanently deleted]

TofuTofu · 2011-05-27T21:56:44+00:00

I like :)

ThrowawayPUA · 2011-05-27T20:24:42+00:00

I figure the best response would be "sorry can't talk now I'm busy fucking your sister." But only if it's actually true.

betsapp91 · 2011-05-28T03:04:30+00:00

I do this to dudes. Because normally, by that point, I have made other plans. I'm not going to wait around for someone who's obviously uninterested.

sibly · 2011-05-28T03:56:08+00:00

what if you said: "hey I didn't hear back from you so I'm going with [insert girl's name]". Good because it gets her thinking of pre-selection or bad?

LazlikesAlly · 2011-05-28T14:14:24+00:00

Honestly, if one doesn't respond, neither do I. She's out of the rotation - in my book.

Ironically, with this mindset, they end up texting me back a few days later with a "Hey!", or something of that sort.

Funny how nature unfolds itself.

badondesaurus · 2011-05-28T15:26:06+00:00

what if, you're already out, having a good time at this thing you're at, you text her to come on down and check it out, but you get no reply... this is someone you've already been on 1 on 1 dates with, and now asking them to hang out with yer friends, watch some live music, drink...

herpasaurus · 2011-05-28T16:52:32+00:00

"Hey, you didn't answer so I made other plans. You stay at home and figure out how to make it up to me! :)"

otheryam · 2011-06-01T02:12:56+00:00

Same situation as OP gave, but what about her reply: "sorry i thought you were going to call"?

classic101 · 2011-05-27T21:48:40+00:00

This is gold! Thank you!

reph · 2011-05-28T04:44:10+00:00

"I'll make it up to you" implies you did something wrong, when in fact, it's entirely her loss for not spending time with your Royal Super Awesomeness. I agree with "Radio Silence" guy: withdraw your attention for a couple days; never, ever "promise" her stuff after she ignores you. Especially not within a couple hrs of the original text. High value guys don't even have time to tell random girls what they're doing. Let her infer that you made other plans.

Every unsolicited text that a girl receives from you, in her mind, indicates your interest and increases her power over you.

TheLotusEater · 2011-05-28T08:43:02+00:00

haha, so theories on the psychology on why this works?

TheWolfofMibu · 2011-05-28T01:46:35+00:00

Why are people asking people out via text? That's only one step about asking someone out over facebook...

2011-05-27T22:30:55+00:00

It's good for our community if stuff like this is considered, New, advanced, or unique

MAC_TRUCK_HITS_BABY · 2011-05-28T01:27:27+00:00

That reeks of desperation and butt hurt.

sanfranlive · 2011-05-28T00:21:09+00:00

Good one. UpVote!

TheLotusEater · 2011-05-28T15:41:17+00:00

To further refine your idea, I would just say:

"...didn't hear back from you so I made other plans. Let's try again sometime."

bleedgreen314 · 2011-05-29T06:02:43+00:00

And when she replies to you a couple hours later that her phone was dead/in the car/she was working/... Then what? Silence is golden, this seems desperate. Being comfortable cutting your loss makes you seem more mature=desirable.

Title	The BEST possible text you can send when she flakes (doesn't reply to you asking her out)
Author	thedude108
Upvotes	382
Comments	231
Date	May 27, 2011 7:41 PM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/hlr9h/the_best_possible_text_you_can_send_when_she/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/the-best-possible-text-you-can-send-when-she.1318690 https://theredarchive.com/post/1318690

Comments