If she doesn’t leave immediately after the date for ****’s sake GO FOR IT

evolving-arabe · 2020-12-06T17:13:35+00:00

Girls will do everything but telling you they are interested

WanyCaleb · 2020-12-06T10:41:42+00:00

Bold of you to assume we make it that far. Noted regardless.

concernedad420 · 2020-12-06T11:48:41+00:00

I didn't make a move and now she's with someone else.

Make the fucking move, don't be like me

renang · 2020-12-06T14:00:01+00:00

Out of the blue, a lead I got from Happn sends me a message saying "Wanna build a snowman?" and I of course accept, and we head out to the nearest park. We build one together (it was a super fun first in-person date) as we finish we proceed to a bar. At the bar, she was silent for the most part. I made most of the talking. She wouldn't look very much at me but would still allow me to proceed with my KINO routine. The date is over, the bar is closing, and here's where it becomes really interesting.

This was my most awkward/funny farewell ever! As we were outside we are facing opposite of each other for a few moments of silence. I say "Okay then, see you later" and would then give a hug but noticed she wanted more and gave a gentle less-than-one-second kiss on the lips. I never do this. If I go for a kiss, it will have a tongue. She seemed to enjoy it. I, on the other hand, didn't feel like going for more due to how she didn't express much during the date. We take our bicycles (yeah, I live in Amsterdam, and dating on bicycles is a thing) and cross the street where before actually parting our ways I gave her another two of those kisses.

I came to realize that she was just very shy and didn't voice much, something that doesn't really attract me. The moral is that I agree with OP. Not every person will give you clear signals, and just not leaving when the moment comes to fruit is enough of a signal.

Edit: Just look at this atrocity.

Badnewz18 · 2020-12-06T13:28:18+00:00

You take them on a date?

BearzBeatz · 2020-12-06T16:47:23+00:00

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Ket_om · 2020-12-06T12:56:26+00:00

I've talked to my friends a million times about this the worst that can happen is she wont want to kiss but she most likely will. If you're nervous about kissing then ask her! Say it in an affirming way "you know I'd really like to kiss you". If she says no apologize for potentially moving too fast then move on to say you had a great time with her. The best moments and the ones thatll create character in yourself and build a genuine connection with someone else will be those risky moments where your hearts beating and you feel like you're stepping out of your comfort zone and she'll love it because you're doing all that for her.

pancho_pantera · 2020-12-06T15:51:25+00:00

By the end of the date you should have a pretty a good idea of how far you can escalate. Was she relaxed, laughing/smiling, not looking at her phone, attentive? Then go for it. A while back I walked a girl to her car after drinks and we kept chatting for another couple minutes, so I just went in for the kiss and she invited me to hop in to listen to music. We ended up fooling around for a couple hours. Point is, if a girl is interested she'll give you a small window to make a move so just do it. Sometimes you get shot down but who cares? Never know what might happen

Bull-2KD- · 2020-12-06T13:35:16+00:00

Ah yes I can tell you that’s true. My best date to this day lasted 8 hours. I’m the type that gives you hints that it’s going well, and trust me I’m one of those people that my social battery runs out real quick. Maybe the end of the date isn’t the epitome of romance for most people but this is what we wanted apparently as we were found to be having sex at 6am lol. But yeah, to this day it blows my mind that he said to me “during this whole date I couldn’t figure out if you were interested or not” and I was like “do you think I would have spent that many hours on a date just to play with you? Boy I knew we would end up on top of each other 1 hour in the date”

TheWisedGuy · 2020-12-06T12:38:13+00:00

I tried to make the move but then she backed away and said after the date she’s sorry for distancing herself like that but she don’t feel like she’s ready for romantic relationship yet and she just wants to friends so my man it’s already a friendzone

Dutch_econ_student · 2020-12-06T19:43:04+00:00

Female her, if you don't make any move at all, of course I'll friendzone you because you made me feel like there was nothing more, so why would I see you as a potential partner?

And that is why you should do something like giving a kiss (even if it's on the cheek it is a sign that you are interested).

nomadiclives · 2020-12-06T12:46:04+00:00

Waiting till the end of the date to kiss is a bit of a mistake imo. Try and do it at some point on the date if it’s going well. Leaving it to the end is a lot of pressure on you, firstly, and it also doesn’t give you a chance to calibrate if she’s not ready or feeling it yet. Needless to say, there’s no kissing without building chemistry and gradually escalating, non-creepy kino

ecntrk · 2020-12-06T20:18:53+00:00

My gosh feels like we're diffusing a fucking atomic bomb rather than dating.

Pudding_people · 2020-12-06T11:35:08+00:00

You want to go for it? Then go for it. Simple as that.

Forget about trying to decipher what shes thinking.

I_Was_Fox · 2020-12-06T19:42:57+00:00

How about if a girl wants something to happen, then she should make something happen? My last girlfriend did that and it was honestly the best first date I have ever had. I've never felt "desired" before. I mean I had girlfriends before her and I had been intimate with them but this was the first time a girl kissed me first and on the first date nonetheless. It was amazing. I rode that high for years

Descarteb4DeHorse · 2020-12-06T11:59:27+00:00

Instructions unclear, women is currently in my freezer. Do I have the go ahead to make a move captain ?

hello-bitchlasagna · 2020-12-06T23:11:36+00:00

As a woman, I can confirm. If I linger around and take my time to leave, I can guarantee it’s because I’m genuinely into him I’m hoping things progress. If I say a quick but polite “Thanks so much for taking me out, have a great rest of your night”, then I just didn’t feel that spark.

SSJSempai · 2020-12-06T11:38:38+00:00

Solid advice, it's usually pretty easy to tell if you'll be reciprocated positively

Intrepid_Duck_4832 · 2020-12-06T23:05:17+00:00

Honestly just ask. There’s nothing wrong with asking “can I kiss you?” In fact nothing more sexy than consent.

Devansffx · 2020-12-07T07:38:44+00:00

Why does all the pressure need to be on the guy? If the woman is interested she is fully capable of saying something, too. I can say this because I'm a woman. I love the times I have been on a first date and I have surprised my guy with, "Would it be ok if I kissed you?"

raquelmckay · 2020-12-06T17:20:05+00:00

Never had anyone linger for me, but when they do i’ll keep this in mind

its_whot_it_is · 2020-12-06T18:56:16+00:00

Maybe she doesnt want to get out of the car cause you parked in the wrong neighborhood

LockdownBrowser · 2022-07-21T20:05:24+00:00

For any of you guys reading this, he is right. I did it myself and it is real good advice. Fucking do it, scary af at the beginning but do it.

uniquan · 2020-12-06T19:32:03+00:00

Wish I saw this a long time ago.

HailTheFuckingMoose · 2020-12-06T19:41:53+00:00

I’ll tell you if I ever get that far😂

exuberancemethod · 2020-12-06T21:50:43+00:00

Literally you only live once. I would rather deal with a rejection than deal with the pain of missing opportunity

thebear96 · 2020-12-06T15:48:43+00:00

How does one even go for a sexual move when all you're doing is literally talking and laughing like kids

orukoh · 2020-12-06T15:01:20+00:00

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CypherMX · 2020-12-06T18:54:23+00:00

Alternative version of this is preparing an extra date on top of the main date. This isn't "let's go to my place.." but rather a mini date thing close by you could do as an encore to the main date activity. Watch her reaction when you ask this, if she is all in then that's a green light to go for a kiss and maybe even more.

GoldSmith64 · 2020-12-07T00:43:13+00:00

Yeah that’s a good point, if she’s sticking around for the whole date that’s a good indicator of interest. But if you don’t capitalize on that well of course she’s gonna give up. But I would ask for permission first.

OleRed143 · 2020-12-07T15:26:59+00:00

Sometimes I’m just chatty.

bluewhitepenguin · 2020-12-07T23:18:22+00:00

You know what? I would have if she wasn't wearing a f****ng mask

tru3boy · 2021-03-04T11:49:00+00:00

Did this and she just backed up. Even after staying in my car after I parked in front of her house and stood there for a good ten minutes. Weird how it works sometimes

njugiste · 2020-12-06T14:35:18+00:00

Most of us aren't mind readers.

beingblazed · 2020-12-06T16:53:28+00:00

"Just go for it!" Yeah, it's kinda hard to do that. Why doesn't she try to go for a kiss on me? :)

GiannisPelle1 · 2020-12-07T05:54:59+00:00

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SolarTortality · 2020-12-06T18:33:00+00:00

Based.

Bull-2KD- · 2020-12-06T13:14:10+00:00

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OwlBeYourHuckleberry · 2020-12-06T19:21:50+00:00

I needed advice on how to even make it to the date before getting ghosted but thanks for the solution to the problem I've never had.

_itsrude · 2020-12-06T15:05:53+00:00

i went then i woke up

Anal-little-cool · 2020-12-06T15:38:29+00:00

Lol true

GeezusKhryst · 2020-12-06T21:58:32+00:00

Instructions unclear, slept with her mom instead xD

/s I'm 21 and still a kissless virgin :')

InnocentPerv93 · 2020-12-06T21:59:06+00:00

Ehh, this kinda bad advice. It’s never good to just assume.

ottocraig · 2020-12-07T00:28:49+00:00

Wish I had read this like, before my date earlier today

notLOL · 2020-12-07T02:34:27+00:00

Yeah I've slipped up on this. I won't disappoint you when this happens again

2020-12-07T04:33:11+00:00

This isn’t always true. I’m a woman and I tend to linger because I’m bad at ending a date. Even when I’m having a bad time lol. So take this with a grain of salt..

racoongirl0 · 2020-12-07T09:42:04+00:00

Men really watched Hitch and didn’t pick up any advice smh

InnocentPerv93 · 2020-12-12T05:43:34+00:00

This is kinda toxic masculinity tbh.

esmitia · 2020-12-23T11:02:49+00:00

A kiss? maybe.... but start the sexual tone? That doesn't sound like great advice.

6ran9eee · 2020-12-25T04:14:20+00:00

You guys barely noticed this?

Silly_Randy · 2022-08-03T14:34:43+00:00

Scenario: you are on a date with a chick. She's talking. You've looked at her eyes deeply and glanced at her lips with lust. You go in for a kiss mid sentence.

Do you lean slowly with tension or quickly to leave her dizzy?

Title	If she doesn’t leave immediately after the date for ****’s sake GO FOR IT
Author	designer-gas
Upvotes	3190
Comments	202
Date	December 6, 2020 10:04 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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