We all know a couple with average looking and hot girl.

probable-deniability · 2024-06-11T10:20:42+00:00

It really is all confidence and enthusiasm for life.

I do stuff that makes me confident. Fresh haircut. Road trips. Read a lot so i can talk about all kinds of stuff. Shamelessly rock out at karaoke. Quick wit to turn anything into a double entendre. Nice clean house. Pretty good at making breakfast just in case 😏

What ever you think helps build your confidence, go do that.

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-06-11T11:17:02+00:00

Pay attention in social settings and you will see that average guys that have hot girlfriends are usually more mature and disciplined than the hot girlfriend. These are the guys that are the only man besides the girl's father that are capable of telling her "no".

If beauty holds no power over you, your attraction power doubles with zero changes to your looks.

Women are attracted to men that they respect. The downfall of Chad and Tyrone is that these guys will say yes to the quick sex most of the time because they can...then the second they decide they like the girl and want to know her or start a relationship...the girl loses all respect and goes on i.g. and finds the next Chad. The only way to break that cycle is to earn respect through sexual discipline...it's usually the average bearded idiots that pull that off.

bented720 · 2024-06-11T15:09:59+00:00

Looks are going to fade eventually. I’m not saying don’t be attracted physically to someone but look for more depth. Sex, talks, communication all gets better when there’s more to it.

I was IN love once just a couple years ago and I gotta say that when I thought about a potential future with her I was more excited about 50 years from now because I thought, “damn, it’s just going to get better because she’s just all around amazing as a person who I can’t get enough of.”

Sadly, I messed that one up and hope to find it again but I learned my lesson. What may seem like “settling” at first glance isn’t always the case.

NOVAcaledonia268 · 2024-06-11T15:22:18+00:00

The key is: social pre-validation. Women are mostly attracted to safety and comfort. Raw sexual attraction only wins when the social context provides immunity for "promiscuous" behavior ( for example: vacation in another country, college parties, parties in general and so on) or the guy is extremely attractive. But those are rare occasions for normal women. And sure, of course there are women who value looks more than anything, but we all know those are extremely rare.

Let me present you with the following scenario: a guy who's a 6 in looks, but has good social skills and is very funny. This guys just happens to be in the same college class as an 8 girl. He has the inside track...he can game this woman basically everyday and if he succedes in presenting himself as a viable sexual option, he's got a way better chance of getting with this girl than a guy who's an 8 and, for example, cold approaches the same woman.

Yoh6820 · 2024-06-11T12:49:15+00:00

First of all, none of the answers here can be “checked” haha

HighPitchedHegemony · 2024-06-11T10:40:50+00:00

Game. Being confidently yourself and knowing how to flirt. Knowing how to make sex exciting. Having a fun life that women like to be part of.

mister_k1 · 2024-06-11T13:49:51+00:00

money status confidence

Jehshehabah · 2024-06-11T12:26:52+00:00

Numbers game and luck

ijustwant2explore · 2024-06-11T15:18:12+00:00

Treat them like they're a normal ass person

epimpstyle · 2024-06-11T19:43:43+00:00

"Birds of a feather flock together"

In Romania money works wonders, so you will see a bald guy with a belly near a hot girl, but this is not a relationship for the future, it is only temporary.

not-quite-seaworthy · 2024-06-12T06:23:26+00:00

I’m a dom. Experiencing beautiful women crumbling and begging you to hurt or fuck them, or thank you for sucking your cock or slapping them, changes the way you see women and sex. You start to sense the ones who want to be dominated. Once you find one you start to sense what kind of domination they crave. There’s a broad spectrum.

throwaway-research1 · 2024-06-11T14:17:56+00:00

5, 10 years ago yes maybe. But now, in this superficial and materialistic world? I dont really know any couples where the guy is considerably lower in terms of looks from the girl

Also if you notice ig male models and their gfs, I always see that guys most of the times have a bigger following than the gf. For example 20k for the guy and maybe 1k for the girl. Once again shows us that women always date up

berzerker5000 · 2024-06-11T14:02:22+00:00

I don’t know any of these. Every guy I’ve seen who’s with a hot girl is pretty hot themselves.

Overwhelmingly, most couples are looksmatched. I really don’t know any where I’m left wondering how this dude got with that woman.

ZenoGeno · 2024-06-11T11:50:47+00:00

I actually know literally 0 people like that(girls I find hot at least), excluding people with a lot of money or status.

DROP_TABLE_Users_lol · 2024-06-12T02:22:51+00:00

I used to think like you till I dated a couple absolutely stunning women. Now I look at an average guy with a hot girl and I feel pity instead of jealousy. It’s not as great as you might think. In fact in my experience it’s a fucking nightmare. You’re placing a lot of importance on looks. In my opinion having basic life skills like cooking, being able hold down a job, and maintain mental stability are all significantly more desirable than being able look good with 2 hours of prep time. And when you start to look at it like, we’re all just people. Instead of omg she’s so hot therefore she must be better than me, then you will A. Be able to pull hot girls and B. Not care that they are hot C. Probably not be into it as much.

I don’t want the stunner, I want the funny one.

Logical_Sans · 2024-06-11T21:58:07+00:00

Confidence and humor, my guy, that's all you need. I will admit I got a good number of girls that were out of league with just that

immaculate-vibe-s · 2024-06-12T01:00:54+00:00

Read modes by mark manson

appolonysian · 2024-06-11T16:13:03+00:00

Guys gotta get it through their heads that being attractive as a man isn’t muscles, money, or looks ALONE. In fact, one can do pretty well without those (or with average amounts of each).

The fundamental basis of attraction for a man is his confidence, social savvy, and his ability (or apparent ability) to offer the woman an emotionally engaging lifestyle/experience.

None of these require wealth, money, or looks to do well. Those are the paint and detailing of the car so to speak - might look nice when idling in the drive, but if the engine is shit, no one’s gonna want it for long.

seducedyourmom · 2024-06-11T23:42:05+00:00

Game homie. Practiced and perfected for many years. Becoming a master of seduction isn’t a short and simple task. It takes lots of practice and a will to improve constantly.

That being said, hot girl is the bar minimum for me. There is no level of looks for a woman that I would consider out of my level. I don’t believe in that league bs that people limit themselves with.

If I’m interested by a woman she already has to be very beautiful, but more than that she has a lot more to prove about herself before I am into her. Looks are merely the surface.

Badguy60 · 2024-06-11T12:58:49+00:00

There's 2 types of hot girls

The standard model and stuck up one's

And

The low confidence and aren't fully sure they are hot.

The average guys you see usually end up with the 2nd one.

itizwhatitizlmao · 2024-06-11T13:58:08+00:00

They treat that woman very well. That’s how.

smind893 · 2024-06-11T16:49:21+00:00

2 things

Dude has money
Mutual interests....particularly unique ones.

My friend is average looking st best and chatted a girl on IG about their love of star wars. She's hot ad!

They're now married in Utah.

Lol. True story.

Personally, I dated a stripper for a few months because of our love of poker.

I'm not ugly but she's way hotter than me lol

Mutal interests , boys.

Embrace them

TRTGymBro1 · 2024-06-11T12:07:08+00:00

Focus on what you want. Just do what you want and have little concern about what she’s thinking. She will follow or not.

2024-06-11T16:53:45+00:00

It's extremely rate that an average looking guy would date a hot girl, unless she's using him for nefarious means.

Competitive-Ask4393 · 2024-06-11T16:26:04+00:00

I’ve seen the opposite way more. Usually a lot more attractive or above average looking guy with an average or below women.

It’s not uncommon to see guys who’ve poured years into the gym or just plain attractive with a women who’s fat or below average and most of the time, her personality isn’t carrying her either. The dating markets have shifted post Covid and tiktok. 7/10 guy is the equivalent of a 4-5/10 woman now.

The only instances of women being more hot than the guy is either

A) she’s only slightly better looking and they usually met young

B) way better looking but the guys either very well off financially / respected socially

C) 5 - 10 years older and mature compared to her and usually a terrible upbringing. She treats him like a father figure

D) in her 30s and very desperate to settle down with anyone who’s slightly respectable

PieceOfDatFancyFeast · 2024-06-11T17:06:00+00:00

Particularly in marriage or long term relationships, don't rule out that he has something to do with her sex appeal. A 10 can easily shrink down to a 7 if she doesn't care to keep the fire alive, and a 6-7 can become a 9 if she's motivated by great sex to exercise, dress and act in ways conducive to sex.

My wife and I got married at 20 and 21 in a religious context. She was pretty but very sexually repressed and inexperienced. After 11 years of ever improving-sex, even with 3 kids, I swear she has a pornstar body, and she always dresses and presents in a way designed to seduce me. She's by far the hottest woman in any social group we've been in. What has happened to her physically seriously feels like some kind of dark magic. She just says that a lot of sex has shaped her body in sexually-convenient ways, and that she's oriented her workarounds around making sex better.

Attractiveness is so much more about how someone acts than purely how they look, though. Sexiness is an attitude.

2024-06-11T18:29:46+00:00

Success in life.

The 22 year old kids will tell you it’s about going to the gym or reading some book on how to pick on

MOordty · 2024-06-11T19:56:24+00:00

Confidence and charisma brother.

2024-06-11T21:51:52+00:00

If you notice this a lot and fail to get women at that level you might want to look into your personality.

There’s a good chance you’re missing a few key ingredients.

CompletelyPresent · 2024-06-12T19:42:18+00:00

Girls in general don't prioritize looks the way guys do.

For Girls in general, social skill is a higher priority. Charm. The ability to walk into a party w/ her friends and family and she knows you'll fit in.

Then, lower income women or "trophy wife" types may prioritize money and assets, or status.

Most women just want a good, fun dude - all the other shit's a bonus.

Zealousideal_Shame66 · 2024-06-11T13:07:27+00:00

not true. it's just women have created this image of perfectly hot men in their merit that they're mid. They actually date upwards in terms of the romantic and sexual value of their partners.

punktfan · 2024-06-11T18:29:04+00:00

Girls don't care about looks nearly as much as guys think they do. If you can make a woman trust you, you can have almost any woman you want.

7thdownhill · 2024-06-11T21:57:31+00:00

ComradeDaddy · 2024-06-12T12:45:11+00:00

I can move my dick without using hands.

DoomOfBoom · 2024-06-12T18:06:06+00:00

Being fun is more than half the win, Trust me.

Traditional_Comfort4 · 2024-06-13T04:28:41+00:00

Dad jokes bro. Girls eat them up. Try it.

Throwaway31427181618 · 2024-10-11T03:16:31+00:00

💰💸💲

MrAnonPoster · 2024-06-11T19:20:25+00:00

Money

Muscle

Social status

Game

Kobe_curry24 · 2024-06-11T11:25:53+00:00

Dude if you want the hottest woman you need two things money and fame lmaooo but you could also just date 6-8’s and have pretty good life don’t over think shit unless your prepared to go to that lifestyle , your looking at that guy and thinks he has it better when there’s plenty of people with solid 7’s doing well

Title	We all know a couple with average looking and hot girl.
Author	Zealousideal_Shame66
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Date	June 11, 2024 9:59 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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