I posted this on my blog, but TLDR is that the women on dating sites/apps that men over 40 and older are generally looking at are damaged goods and it really is a waste of your time.

Fellas, you should spend your freedom being the best you that you can be and not chasing after women that turns into a terrible ROI (0%... yes... 0%).

Here is the full blog post:

https://skalliman.com/2024/07/03/women-on-dating-apps-are-nothing-but-damaged-goods/

Here is the first part. The second part I analyze the 11 criterion.

Here is the theme/requirements/must have/must not have criteria for 90% of female profiles in that age range:

  1. Must be OK with them having one (but usually on average two to three) non-adult children in tow.
  2. Must be OK that they take care of their grandchildren as if they were their children.
  3. Goes way out of the way to make it very clear that all guys are heavy drinkers and drug users and need not apply.
  4. Along those lines, they make it very clear that they think all men are cheaters and sex addicts.
  5. Looking for their soulmate.
  6. High expectations from the man but in the same breath says they don’t need you, but then follows up with something along the lines of “looking for their forever/first last date” etc.
  7. Their world is wrapped around trivial and materialistic hobbies/fascinations (ie sports fanatics, world travel, etc)
  8. Covered head to toe in tattoos and piercings and cry that they can’t find a nice, normal guy.
  9. Go out of the way to tell you that they “know what they are worth”.
  10. Feel like they have to tell you that they don’t do hookups, won’t fuck on the first date, or that you have to earn your way between her legs.
  11. Tosses out freely “wants a nice man who treats a woman like a lady”.

So let’s analyze this…

  1. The first is they have one or more younger kids still in tow. This usually means they either have the inability to maintain a stable relationship but are still OK with fucking guys and sowing her oats and now are on dating sites looking for a man to support her or making poor decisions is typical for her. “40% of single women between 18-35 are single moms. 100 years ago not a single self-respecting man would consider dating, let alone marrying a woman with another mans kid. Now, they’re not only celebrated, but you’re shamed, even accused of misogyny, if you dare state your preference to eschew single moms.”
  2. The simple fact that they take care of their grandchildren as their own, while definitely commendable, shows their kids have the same lack of control and terrible decision making skills that they had and think “who cares about consequences?” Now they have a kid at 17 or 18, and grandma is barely out of her 30’s. That’s fucked up.
  3. They go out and drink and party, get knocked up young, and then wonder why the drunks and drug addicts are attracted to them. You draw in the company you keep. Unfortunately, now you are covered in tattoos and piercings, have a kid (or multiple kids) and you realize those types of guys are the only ones interested in you. Even though you now want something more, you are fucked. Watch this video and you get the idea.
  4. Along the with the fallout from above, now these loser men that she attracts are tired of her faded beauty, the fact she has kids in tow, and her desire for something more “normal”. So they look elsewhere. And this woman, now thinks men only want them for sex. Well, she isn’t totally wrong. She has nothing else to offer. Men need and want sex. It is part of the transactional nature of men/women relationships. If the woman is not providing that for the man (just as she has certain expectations, so does the man), he is going to find it elsewhere. That is not a sex addict, that is a natural, programmed desire in all human males.
  5. This is cliché bullshit programmed by society. It is not a real thing and women who at this age think they are some mans soulmate are completely delusional. Read my piece “The idea of a Soulmate… stupid concept…” You’ll get the idea.
  6. This one is caused by feminism that has rotted their brains as well as the fallout from modern dating. These women are attracted to the top 10% of guys, regardless of whether they treat them like shit or not. Those guys know they have carte blanche with most women and that these women will bang them simply because they are in that top 10%. The fallout is these women mean nothing to the guys they chase after, and now those women are left jaded, despondent, and hateful. Now the average Joe is not even an option for them because she thinks men are all like those 10% guys.
  7. While this may not serve as a damaged goods validation, it is, in my opinion indicative of women who value materialistic things and are hidden suggestions that the only guys worth their time had better be typical manly men (involved sports fans) or financially able to give them what they want (travel).
  8. I have tattoos. There is nothing wrong with tattoo’s. There is nothing wrong with having more than a few. However, these women with tattoo’s now are on the borderline of self-mutilation with tattoo’s and especially piercings. Ladies, if your tits are covered in tattoos, you have a pierced pussy, or your face looks like a pin cushion, you better expect only one type of man – those loser drunks and drug addicts mentioned earlier. No normal guy finds that shit attractive and no “alpha” or what you think is a quality man does either. I remember 25 years ago I dated a woman and she got a tattoo on her lower back. Just that one. It was sexy. That was the only one she ever got. I saw her about 5 years ago and she had no visible tattoos. She was, however, happily married to a pretty normal guy, had a family, kids, a normal life. If you are covered in them, don’t expect normal guys to find you attractive or have any use for you other than fun and sex.
  9. This is the false belief that now, simply because they have a pussy, tits, and a pretty face they truly believe the only thing they need to bring to a relationship is themselves. Their value, to them, is the sole fact that they are a woman. Period. You can see this all over the dating sites. The 250lb woman who makes it clear she is worthy of only the best men out there. The adult websites (like AdultFriendFinder) where you see these fat women getting fucked by those 10% guys (or at least pretty well built/good looking/well hung guys), right there tells you the power of women who put out and how sex is the currency. That’s what they bring to the table. THAT is their actual worth.
  10. Look, its a dating site. Yeah, loser guys are gonna send you dick pics, and ask to fuck right away. You’re a smart woman, I think you can weed through that shit without having to state it. If a guy is interested in sex right away, he’ll let you know and if you aren’t into that, then politely decline and move on. Guys being interested in sex right from the start is NOT abnormal and is NOT uncommon. Most of the guys that want that, will ask and if it ain’t your bag, say no. I met a woman once (the chick that got the tattoo I mentioned above), with no intention of anything other than going out, having some drinks after having talked in a chat room (yeah, dating myself) and getting to know each other. However, sparks flew, we ended up making out in the parking lot and next thing I knew we were at my apartment, naked and fucked for hours. My point? You don’t really know what is going to happen, and while you probably will stick to your principles of no hookups, what if the sparks fly and that hookup leads to your “last first date”? Putting on your profile no hookups or that a guy has to earn his way into your bed is a sure fire way for him to find you prudish, undesirable and way too much work for the ROI.
  11. I hate this one. Bullshit. You want a guy to do everything and you just want to show up and “be a woman.” That is total bullshit. So many details to this that I think I will write a dedicated blog post in the future to it. Point is, if you want a man to treat you like a lady (a woman) then act like one. When you show up, babies with multiple daddies, wanting a man to do all the work in a date/relationship and you just have to be “the woman” and then get offended if he wants to fuck, because he finds you have really nothing else to offer, you are the problem he didn’t treat you like a “lady.”

Yeah, I know this was long. I needed to get it off my chest. I’ll probably blog about some of these topics independently in the future.