When 2 men compete for the attention of 1 girl

LetsHaveFunBeauty · 2024-08-02T18:05:23+00:00

It may seem counterintuitive, but the best thing you can do is to push the girl towards the other guy by saying stuff like: "He is way better for you than I am", "Trust me, you are better off with him", "Look at his watch, how can you not find a guy with that kind of watch attractive" - Say these things with a cocky smile

And when other girls are coming by, have small conservations with them, be flirtatious with other people. If she begins to feel that the other guy is desperate, and you are just out there having fun, she will immediately jump on you

Becominghim- · 2024-08-02T20:19:46+00:00

Okay I have the perfect example for you that happened last week funnily enough in the sauna of my gym.

I walked in, sat down for a few minutes to sue the vibe in there. There was 1 good looking girl and 2 guys. I read the room and worked out they both wanted to talk to her but didn’t know how to. I too found her attractive and I’m quite extroverted so I started a conversation. It was flowing well, she was laughing a lot and I was just dropping casual chit chat no game at this point. One of the guys just casually jumps into the conversation uninvited off the back of something I just said and makes the vibe completely less exciting. The guy was awful at talking to women and treated it like a job interview or something. I let him drop his weak ass game and just stood up and told the girl straight up , I’m going outside for some fresh air come join me. She stood up quicker than I could finish my sentence.

Sometimes if she likes you or likes the vibe you created, she will want to go somewhere else and carry on the convo. The guy will look like an absolute idiot if he follows you guys.

theasianplayboy · 2024-08-02T18:35:59+00:00

I get AMOGGED a lot (being short and the type of girls I date, literally I’ve been on dates with girls and when I come back from the restroom I find the waiter trying to get her number) so I’ve had to become sort of an expert at dealing with cockblocking guys.

It’s scary for a lot of newbies to think about competing with other men (fear of physical violence, intimidation, etc) so just remember a super simple acronym: B.I.T.

Befriend. Ignore. Tool.

Really easy. If someone comes in trying to poach the girl you’re talking to, ALWAYS start with Befriend.

Like be so bro-y and chummy that it’s fucking annoying. Ask him the most inane questions (“Dude, where you from? That’s so cool! Did you fly here? That’s awesome! How many air miles do you get?”).

And then you follow up with Ignore and verbally cut off his thread or physically ignore him out.

That’s good for most people. If you’re an uncalibrated newbie, I wouldn’t recommend Tooling for now.

Here’s an AMOG drill with a couple of dozen moves: https://youtu.be/uLhEAFk7CA8

mow_foe · 2024-08-02T20:14:39+00:00

1) Figure out the situation. I've been burned trying to big dick guys who turn out to be their boyfriend, gay best friend, brother, or husband. Introduce yourself.

2) Let her spend some attention on that guy. Then get her out. Touching on the shoulder and saying "Hey, I'm headed to [place], wanna get out of here?" Either gets her away with you, or she decides to stay with the other guy and you don't waste your time anymore

Occasionally confronting the guy works and they run off, but sometimes you end up in a pissing match and the girl just leaves. Not worth the gamble most of the time.

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-08-02T18:26:22+00:00

In my experience the girl usually leaves with a 3rd party that wasn't paying much attention to her at all, let alone trying to compete for it.

My old advice was to keep the peace and steer into the skid and steer the other dude into giving her more attention hence letting him be the "try hard" and passively sabotaging him while u sit there and don't give a shit about the outcome, making you appear more preselected than the interuptor.

My new advice is fuck getting walked on.

If some other dude is going to interrupt an A/B conversation, I'm telling him to fuck off, fully knowing I likely lose my shot with the girl over it...because I genuinely don't care about the outcome with the girl, I care about self respect, I ain't taking that shit under any circumstances.

yuuuuurt · 2024-08-02T20:31:55+00:00

What I’ve found to be the best strategy in these situations is you want to go back and forth between talking to the girl for a bit and giving her your full attention, then go talk to someone else or do something else and give that your full attention.

And if another man starts making conversation with that girl, just keep in mind that ‘mate guarding’ is not alpha. It shows that you are insecure and that you don’t have your girl on lock. Let the girl have conversation freely with other men, and act as if you don’t even notice or care.

But if you’ve slept with her before already or she’s your girl, and another man steps out of line while talking to her and makes some sort of an advance that is clearly more than friendly; walk up to the girl and in a concerned tone say “you good?” Or “You okay?” Then look the guy in the eyes dead silent. 90% of the time that guy will realize that’s your girl and say “oh my bad bro” or something along those lines. Then you say “no problem, my friend. Cheers” or “no worries bro, cheers”

Then either he’ll leave, or you can start making casual conversation with him, or you can tell the girl you need her for something, and to follow you. Like “oh we’re playing a game of pool come join. Or “I’m getting more drinks, come with me”

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2024-08-02T19:05:21+00:00

It's only really happened to me once. I was dancing with a girl and he pulls her away. After a few seconds being confused I grabbed got in the middle. AT this point I wasnt gonna fight for a girl but I was def not going to let this guy have her. So she left becuase she didnt want to get in the middle of this situation, I told the guy to fuck off and he left.

some_kind_of_friend · 2024-08-02T18:10:46+00:00

Stay engaged. Don't run from it. Punish them openly for their mistakes and heavy handedness. Use subtle facial expressions and body language with her as he's talking to make fun of him. Him getting pissed or pissy about it plays into your hands. You've got to stay cool and collected if you're to compete on this sort of level and unfortunately the only way to build tolerance to it is to actively put yourself in the position to have to do it. No amount of talking or reading or thinking will harden you against it, it must come from you and your own experience with it.

Liken it to war. Just, a hopefully, gentler version of it.

A roll of the eyes when he says something stupid or a "wtf" facial expression can go a long way.

MrWolffman · 2024-08-02T19:13:53+00:00

Why is every thread getting closed for no reason btw?

Cinamonboy · 2024-08-02T20:15:34+00:00

There is a Jubilee video I remember watching where this girl talks to a bunch of guys and chooses one based on conversations and there is this really annoying pseudo hippie who takes up all the airspace and you kinda think “oh Fck she is gonna go with this nerd” but eventually she basically says I’ve Heard too much from you and ends up picking a guy that barely spoke too her but was chill. Non reactivity is the best way to signal inner security, if it’s a situation where your not having a good time just standing there then just leave and say hey I’ll catch-up with you later

aFalseSlimShady · 2024-08-02T21:59:07+00:00

You're not really in competition. She might enjoy the game a bit, but she's already made her mind up about which of you she likes. Don't play the game, you'll come across as needy and drive her away. If she wants you, she'll gravitate.

appolonysian · 2024-08-02T20:28:01+00:00

The move is this: stick around and don’t be outwardly bothered by his arrival, even engage him a bit with a calm demeanor to let both of them know you’re not threatened. Then, at a socially opportune time just disconnect and get a drink or something - show without telling that you’re not gonna put yourself in a position where you’re gonna fight over a woman you’ve just met. It’s not a good look.

If she likes you she’ll be put off by the other dude’s thirstiness, sense your disconnection and find a reason to re-engage.

Affectionate_Delay35 · 2024-08-03T02:10:58+00:00

I remembered myself when I was 18. There was a girl with almost 20 men trying to talk to her. In the end, I came in seconds talk to her, kiss her in front of all of them, she left me her phone and I continue walking in the big big bar. So, my advice is "don't compete with other, just be yourself (if you don't know who you are, imagine the best character you can). Sometimes, you will have some bad habits but remember this best character you choice.

Cheat of the day

I always remember the part in Matrix, when the man who is wearing the sunglasses said:

-"Why did you get up?

-"Because I decided to do it"

Life is about that.

BananaB0yy · 2024-08-02T18:23:50+00:00

i love these kinds of battles, these bring out the best in me. its about who is more stimulating and gives less of a fuck, while trying to make the other guy reactive.

TonyGTO · 2024-08-02T18:53:07+00:00

I've even been punched in the face because of this. My advice is to learn about amog.

Wing_Inevitable · 2024-08-02T19:28:37+00:00

This must be a cultural thing cuz I have had it happen only twice one time in America and one in England

Anyway just frame him as “weird” preferably by body language. (look at him like he is “disgusting “ or “Are you ok?” )

The only exception is if you two are friends - than you will have to out emotion him

2024-08-03T01:41:21+00:00

Only read the title. Men, never compete for a woman’s attentions . That doesn’t look on you, you just look desperate and weak

Ronnyvar · 2024-08-03T04:12:03+00:00

whip it out and fuck the other dude for max aura

Keniath · 2024-08-02T18:32:45+00:00

Well the fact that another man even has the balls to do that shows that you don't emit much confidence or a strong and stable man to them. They can feel they have a chance stealing a girl from you. It happens very rarely I almost never have someone come interrupt me and if they do I tell them to fuck off because he's interrupting my conversation.

RobustMastiff · 2024-08-03T15:45:58+00:00

What I always do is be overconfident with the other guy and try to befriend him. Not in a cocky mocking way, I shake his hand, introduce myself. Try to include both of them in the conversation, and compliment him. It will make you look more confident. You also have to keep it always in your mind that it is okay if the girl chooses the other dude over you. You should have several other options available or the confidence to get them at any given time anyways, so it really doesn’t matter.

MrAnonPoster · 2024-08-02T19:14:03+00:00

This happens all the time. Everything you want in life someone else wants as well. Whoever is better gets what the other one wants

CharmingRejector · 2024-08-02T22:13:42+00:00

Depends if it's a friend or some random.

Randoms I just casually block out, or I'll eye code the girl or roll my eyes at the other guy. She'll then promptly reject him and go with me. Ignore the other guy and simply talk louder or interrupt him. Or even better, if he's dumb and acknowledges you, then ask him some technical question, wait until he starts answering, then ignore him and talk to the girl instead. That's an instant mood-killer for the guy.

If it's a friend, I'll simply tell him that I like the girl and that he should back off (if I have the initiative or I opened the girl first or whatever - there's a bro code).

Back when I was young and dumb I'd casually rock up next to the girl I liked, but who my mortal enemy was trying to impress. Then I'd just bypass him and ask her accusingly "Wtf are you going home with that guy?" At its best the girl would retort "Oh God, no!" And the guy would just helplessly squirm.

It's a pretty dick move, tho, and you get zero points form the girl to do it. Or the guy, for that matter. But yeah nine times out of ten she'll auto-reject him if you rock up like that.

Hey, you wanted an anecdote... There you have it. I don't recommend using it, tho. It's better to just block out the guy if that's the case. Or allow him to qualify himself why you eye-code the girl by rolling your eyes or whatever.

dobbs1997 · 2024-08-03T06:18:33+00:00

I’d just leave lol tf i mean it should be a no brainer right ? Why would you wanna entertain the situation when you don’t know the woman (yall just met) & this random dude, i’m leaving and talking to the next woman & if the first woman wants me still then she’ll come find me. Also when you say “competing” that shit sounds very sad, like you’re basically saying you’re in a competition to win this girl which is to say you have her on a pedestal so it’s likeeee…are youuuuu the opportunity or is she the opportunity ? gotta watch your wording.

LaloTwinsDa2nd · 2024-08-03T08:36:59+00:00

I just ask if she knows him

If she says yes I’ll introduce myself and find out their relationship

If she says no

You ignore him completely, even take this as an oppurtunity to lead her elsewhere

zebekias · 2024-08-03T15:24:45+00:00

As you get more experienced you won’t worry about other guys - they all just blur into the background. Some girls might acknowledge and talk to them, others will roll their eyes and will want to move a few feet to chat with you! Whatever it is, roll with it. If there is attraction you can always take her hand and move her a few feet.

shinn497 · 2024-08-03T16:08:58+00:00

Look up literature on AMOG defense. The key is to be more reactive to her than him.

The other thing is to just not get so fixated on one woman.

Star-Lord420 · 2024-08-03T20:51:12+00:00

Where was this thread when I needed it the most ;(

eth_call · 2024-08-03T23:32:09+00:00

Just learn boxing and hook bro to the face. Always worked for me.

2024-08-04T08:37:34+00:00

Is there any two men to compete for my attention? F19 I'd honestly like to voice call too

beenreddinit · 2024-08-02T21:13:39+00:00

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Title	When 2 men compete for the attention of 1 girl
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