Her boyfriend reached out to me

LashkarNaraanji123 · 2024-09-25T06:30:51+00:00

The enemy of my enemy is my friend.

I'm actually forgiving of guys because most guys just want some attention both to the heart and 'downstairs', and society/media hammers home the message of "The Strong Independent Modern Women are the real victims, always". It's so prevalent everywhere at all times I feel less anger at those who believe the song that is sung to them.

Good on ya for listening to him, you are now stronger for it, and to boot allowed him to make some amends.

qmriis · 2024-09-24T19:48:57+00:00

Meet him in a PUBLIC place. Ask to go over everything again.

Record the conversation. You can record in public regardless of state.

Subpoena him as a witness. Have him testify to these facts.

Have recording ready with his answer for each question you ask so you can impeach him if it is a trap.

Bipolar_investor · 2024-09-21T18:02:22+00:00

Can it be a trap ?? 🪤

👀👀

Cool-Tone · 2024-09-21T16:36:05+00:00

Nice played 🤝

BlackPowderPodcast · 2024-09-21T12:31:21+00:00

Solidarity towards taking down a common enemy.

DivorceRecoveryMen · 2024-09-21T10:39:48+00:00

Karma is a dish served slowly and warm.

upvotersfortruth · 2024-09-21T04:50:55+00:00

If your lawyer plans to use words like "stole money from a joint account" - you need a new lawyer.

beezo123 · 2024-09-21T02:15:09+00:00

I'm sorry but this story made my day.

Perfect_Lead1883 · 2024-09-21T02:05:39+00:00

As I’ve been going through my divorce, and dreading a decade of alimony..Ive thought there is a niche business opportunity in having a fleet of handsome gents available for hire…that can get inside (so to speak) and steer the STBX to a hasty and less favorable divorce agreement. The ‘agency’ takes a fee based on the likely court ordered maintenance and the actual judgement.

mr21vp · 2024-09-20T22:04:16+00:00

Build her up big time and manipulate him to marry her so you're off the hook for possible alimony (evil laugh: muhahaha)

deadBeefCafe2014 · 2024-09-20T21:46:49+00:00

As much as we want to kick his ass, it was her choice. Bro is doing you a solid.

stupididiot78 · 2024-09-20T21:31:08+00:00

When my ex's boyfriend first startrd sniffing around, I very nearly kicked his ass. Once I saw how she was responding, I was thankful. He let me see how she really was and I wish someone would have done that years ago. I still thought he was a piece of shit but that's OK because he is now with someone who is a known liar and a cheat. Those two pieces of human garbage deserve each other.

xadmin1 · 2024-09-20T21:30:19+00:00

Its not her bf fault dude

merchant604 · 2024-09-20T19:54:21+00:00

Don't get mad.

Get even.

Plastic_Efficiency35 · 2024-09-20T18:58:57+00:00

I bet all of us here can write books after books regarding these ____! Funny, all them women are always asking for good men…..yet, they are the ones pulling all these ___! Well, oh well

playerknowmore · 2024-09-20T17:28:54+00:00

This sounds like "Bros" before ho's after they figure out they stole a ho!

Human-Dependent-7586 · 2024-09-20T17:04:34+00:00

Man bro this some wild shit sorry this happened to you

Training_Ad1368 · 2024-09-20T17:03:31+00:00

You have a talent finding good woman.

CulturedGentleman921 · 2024-09-20T16:49:34+00:00

Gee, she sounds like a real winner.

Please tell me you don't have kids with this crazy h00ker.

Reflog1791 · 2024-09-20T16:33:27+00:00

Interesting. You have an inside man. It’s like a disgruntled ex employee sharing the trade secrets with a competitor. There may be information to leverage or it may be a waste of time.

If there is nothing useful, there is still an opportunity to knock your opponent off balance. I would play this card very carefully for maximum benefit.

Maybe at the right moment you throw out a wildcard. Don’t show your cards all at once play this one very cold and calculated.

Gr1pp717 · 2024-09-20T16:24:37+00:00

Honestly man, it sounds like you're lucky to be getting out of that situation. Crazy never works out..

Then again, I had married my soon to be ex specifically because she wasn't crazy. Very wholesome and level headed. Yet, here we here...

rsmiley77 · 2024-09-20T16:16:57+00:00

Great piece of advice I was given at the start of mine. Your beef is only with the person you married. No one else. Keep your cool with everyone else if they want to talk about what they know. There’s so much you don’t know that they can fill in the blanks with.

RichardCleveland · 2024-09-20T16:02:40+00:00

My buddy got divorced and a few years later his ex remarried. Then some random day he got a message on FB from her husband. He wanted to ask if she had shown any signs of mental illness during their marriage. They talked back and forth for awhile about her, but he didn't have a reason to hate this guy. It seemed weird to me though.

disgustinbrother · 2024-09-20T15:58:55+00:00

I think the only thing better would be if I could get him to testify against her lol

yourcarlosdanger · 2024-09-20T15:50:11+00:00

Dude who used to be your friend who then got with ur ex is a very feminine guy. Stabbing you in the back to get with ur wife, then finding out that she's crazy he comes running back to you and tries to commiserate and form an alliance with you against her. All feminine behavior. Especially the last part.

yourcarlosdanger · 2024-09-20T15:41:25+00:00

Beware of the law tho. The law states that the party who was born with a vagina wins. Period. Doesn't matter what she did or when she did it. The legal system focuses on the goal, take money away from the horrible man and give it to the vulnerable precious woman.

Gay divorces must be Hell for judges. They can't just fuck over the man and call it a day.

tbodyboy1906 · 2024-09-20T15:39:38+00:00

Dish best served cold buddy , you done well

itsallright_now · 2024-09-20T15:29:07+00:00

Way to keep your cool. Reading your first sentence, all I thought was “Let him talk and use it against her!” And you did. The only thing I could have thought to do differently (which you might have done, idk) would have been to record it. But, great job.

BanjoKfan64 · 2024-09-20T15:27:39+00:00

Not my Marriage/Ex Wife...But similar thing happened with my First Love.

She left me for another guy..Like 2 years later he reaches out and is like "HOW TF did you last so long? SHe is a nutjob and liked you, but hates my guts"

dpch · 2024-09-20T15:22:41+00:00

Flawless victory

TXJohn83 · 2024-09-20T15:13:46+00:00

Do you have kids with her? If so this sounds like a slam dunk for custody for you... If you don't have kids, just be happy you don't have them with her and stay strong my friend.

ColdEstablishment172 · 2024-09-20T15:12:56+00:00

Classic case of the enemy of my enemy is my friend. But you're smarter. He is only a temporary ally in this fight against your ex. You will deal with him later and only if YOU decide if he's worth dealing with. Cause you're in your power right now. The archetype of The Emperor is behind you. Use it.

Title	Her boyfriend reached out to me
Author	disgustinbrother
Upvotes	161
Comments	57
Date	September 20, 2024 3:08 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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