Do yall think you can date 10's

Shiestypoopy · 2025-04-03T12:30:38+00:00

If you honestly believe you can, you can. Women tend to value confidence and other self percieved values in men way more than actual looks. It’s just you perception of value of women (based on looks) which you’re applying to yourself right now that is creating the wrong sense of value. Women don’t see you in that way. Stop doing that, up your self concept, grow a pair, find a purpose, and I promise, it WILL reflect back on you.

Foreverseeking47 · 2025-04-03T12:32:35+00:00

If there is a chance for a guy to be with a girl who is very attractive to most people, that guy can't have the luxury of entertaining the kind of thoughts you are having. I mean, I get it, I've had those thoughts for a long time and still do, but this is the reality.

By any means necessary, you need to get to the point of full belief in yourself and that you are on the same level as this woman you fancy. There is no other way, unless you wanna get in a relationship with a woman who uses you or doesn't respect you.

Of course there is the luck factor by I wouldn't count on it. Also, if you get "lucky" in a way that that woman sees you as that attractive guy but inside you are insecure you will eventually fumble the bag as they say and will feel worse as a result.

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-04-03T13:41:46+00:00

These girls are sleeping with someone. So obviously people can yes.

Dating a 10 tho is like daily driving a Ferrari. Super cool. Everyone thinks you’re cool. Really exciting sometimes.

Problem is everyone else wants it. Can’t park it anywhere without worrying. Maintenance is insane. Daily ing it is actually a massive headache an it’s just impractical.

Realistic-Load-1302 · 2025-04-03T12:10:51+00:00

Why would you think you don’t ever have a chance with that particular girl? Mind elaborating more for me to understand?

Recurringg · 2025-04-03T12:30:47+00:00

I mean they're just people. Take them off the pedestal and try to see who they are underneath the beauty. Your desire can help too, eventually. You are being honest when you say sweet things to them. You're doing what comes naturally, you just need to control the flow of it. Too much and you come off like every other guy that doesn't see them for them. Too little and you come off like a friend. Be upfront about your attraction but put them straight into a series of qualifications. Ask questions to get to the bottom of who they are and if they're good enough for YOU.

You should have standards. Their physical beauty is what sparks your interest but now you want to find out if they're an awful person, or just someone who's poorly suited to you. Put them on an even level. Don't neg, but don't over emphasize your crazy unbridled lust either. Just remember that you're a male of the same species--a possible partner. You are just doing what is completely natural to you. You're doing it because something compels you--you must. And remember in the back of your head that, while uncommon, beauty of this kind is far from rare. Have an abundance mindset. It's not the end of the world if this doesn't work out. Detach from outcomes and get into a flirtatious groove and have fun and you'll have a shot assuming you're decently well put together.

throwaway-research1 · 2025-04-03T13:53:43+00:00

I have been with lots of 10s, insta models, influencers, OF model types. And for reference I am about 174cm, brown dude from Pakistan living in Europe. However I am decent looking, heavily tattooed and in very good shape.

In my personal experience banging a 10 was never a big deal for me however in my younger years it was always difficult for me to keep a very attractive woman interested in me for a long time because with very hot women I would always lose my frame at some point. However I am 31 now and have a lot dating experience, my body count is over 100 so I also got pretty good at sex over time.

And when you have been around the block that much, all women just feel the same. Now whether she is a 6 or a 10, my simple strategy is to give women the best sex ever and I keep my interest level low as fuck. It literally gets all of them hooked.

LucaCoco_ · 2025-04-03T13:58:19+00:00

She's just another girl. If you'll put her on a pedestal, she'll be out of your reach.

Familiar_Help_5020 · 2025-04-03T12:34:24+00:00

Considering rapport is king yes I believe you can. I know a 5’3 guy who dates the hottest girl in my friend group and every guy is jealous

therealwoujo · 2025-04-03T15:20:13+00:00

First, no girl is a 10. 10 means perfect and nobody's perfect. Even calling a girl a 10 is putting her on a pedestal.

Second, there is no difference between a super hot girl and a normal girl. The only difference is in your own head. In fact, I think it's actually easier to game super hot girls because almost every single guy they interact with is either too scared to approach them or acts weird and insecure around them. Just like you are psyching yourself out, so does every other guy.

Lostmypants69 · 2025-04-03T16:30:02+00:00

Yes, I just keep fucking up. Slept with 2 tens past 3 months and my confidence ended up messing it up

Virtual_Ad_4817 · 2025-04-03T17:18:06+00:00

I have been in this game a very long time. I went through a phase maybe 8 or 10 years ago where I blew myself away with the hotness of girls I could attract when I really dialed it in.

It's an amazing feeling when you get your first 9.5 (I don't believe there's a such thing as a 10). Frankly, it still feels amazing to me. But it's less surprising now as it was back then.

I can say with certainty that if your goal is to bang 10s, make it your goal, and learn the systems and strategies that create success with hotter girls. PLUS commit to working your way up.

The biggest pickup "marketing lie" is that you just learn this "oNe CrAzY tRiCk!" and suddenly the hottest girls want to jump on your dick. That's not the case.

You HAVE to work your way up. You won't be comfortable expressing yourself naturally around 8+ girls. You will biologically self-sabotage. That mechanism is put there by evolution to protect you in a tribal setting from other guys who would bash your skull in for talking to the hottest girls in the tribe.

Working your way up is doable. But you have to commit to approaching and optimizing your dating profile. And constantly refining your strategy.

That's why most guys don't date the hottest girls. They don't stick with it long enough to work their way up, or they plateau and don't have the right information to get better. Or they find a 7.5 who likes them and make her their girlfriend or something.

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-04-03T17:21:24+00:00

Yes, a few times. Don’t drool over them, just treat them like other women.

originalgainster · 2025-04-03T15:36:24+00:00

Yes.

I have a date with one next week actually. 10s only season. Sorted.

Background_Okra_810 · 2025-04-03T14:21:58+00:00

As far as i know i can but if a girl is not putting that much efforts i respectfully walk away like a man … i don’t give two shits then

Less-Pipe-8210 · 2025-04-03T14:39:08+00:00

Yup,

I think i can even fuck 10's

LIVELYVIBEZ · 2025-04-03T14:39:17+00:00

If you gotta ask then probably not.

Thebiggestbigsquid · 2025-04-03T15:17:34+00:00

You have to be realistic. You need the right looks, money, personality, status, and maybe confidence but you still need something with it most times.

PrinceDestin · 2025-04-03T15:26:36+00:00

Well while 10 is a hard thing to gauge I believe I can

You find a 10 at the right time you can get her just like that, the problem stems from

How many 10s are you approaching to get to that one that will go for you

cappz3 · 2025-04-03T16:12:13+00:00

I don't use 1-10. I prefer a binary system for women, 0 or 1. Either I like someone and I pursue them, or I don't like someone and stay home

TerminatorReborn · 2025-04-03T16:34:52+00:00

I've dated some 10s, I just can't manage for them to stay, the competition is too big. Also most them liked the attention anyway so a women like that would never work long term.

If you are not a 10 yourself you are not locking a 10, it is what it is.

ragingrashawn · 2025-04-03T16:45:55+00:00

Why not just try and see?

MrDownhillRacer · 2025-04-03T16:50:09+00:00

I do think I can because I have dated them. But from the evidence I have, I can't date them reliably. Like, yeah, if I ask out enough really attractive women, some of them will go out with me… but that proportion is a lot lower than if I were a really physically attractive guy. The proportion is also a lot lower than if I, say, lowered my standards and went for "accessible" people.

But, well, I like what I like, and I don't want to be in a relationship where I've "settled" and am always thinking "I kind of wish she looked like that." People might say that's shallow and unrealistic, but I'm pretty sure I'd just be setting myself and my hypothetical partner up for future pain and heartache if I went "eh, I'm not really physically attracted to her, but she's nice to me and we both like the same books, I guess… maybe I can just think of England as I lift her belly up to go down on her…" Somewhere down the line, that person will be devastated that I wasted her time.

So, I try to work on the other side of the equation: making myself more attractive so that I can attract the kinds of people I'm attracted to. I do feel like there's a limit to this, though. I dress well, I work out, I look better than if I didn't give a fuck at all, but no amount of muscle or dressing up makes an average guy look like Timothée Chalamet, imo. There's always going to be guys who can wake up, splash water on their face, throw on a t-shirt, and still be significantly more attractive than I am.

Obviously, I try to work on the non-physical aspects of attractiveness, too, but… being social, making a lot of friends, telling jokes, flirting, etc. also only get you so far. People will say stuff like "if you can make a girl laugh, you're in!", but I've gotten quite good at making them laugh and think I'm witty, but that just means that I entertain them and make 'em smile for a bit before they go home with some hotter guy, most of the time. I really think there are no "cheat codes," and the only reason the internet says there are is so people can sell you books and programs.

So, in my experience, its mostly a numbers game: ask out enough 10s and some of them will say yes eventually, but… it's a grind.

b3anz129 · 2025-04-03T17:21:20+00:00

the better question is do you really want to?

Ciabbata · 2025-04-03T17:42:13+00:00

Seduction can definitely help you connect with people you find attractive! If you want tips on approaching and dating conventionally hot women, I have a Telegram bot that can offer some guidance. Good luck!

reechees · 2025-04-03T17:54:31+00:00

No. From prior experience, they’re fucking crazy and entitled. No peace with them except for a minority. I’d rather be with a solid 7 and have some peace

MysteryLiezer · 2025-04-03T17:58:22+00:00

100%

8lions · 2025-04-03T18:32:17+00:00

I think limiting a rating scale to just 10/10 is too simple. Looks are important and I would give about 6 pts to them but I would happily give 8 pts. to personality and then the rest would go to demeanor.

water_reducer · 2025-04-03T18:36:27+00:00

lol i wouldn't hold any stock in what anyone says when it comes to picking up a "10" or hot girls in general.

i've seen the caliber of ass that puas and seductionbros consider to be a 10 and it has always been incredibly disappointing.

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-04-03T18:48:50+00:00

I was married to a "10" physical appearance wise. But she was an absolute mental trainwreck and hid it decently well before we were married. Don't get hung up on going for model level looks. Find someone who makes you happy and you want to spend time with, grow together, etc.

Ninjazxcz · 2025-04-03T19:14:55+00:00

ZEN-AF_Official · 2025-04-03T19:32:36+00:00

I went on a date about a month ago with a girl from a dating app who just recently got into modeling and did a photo shoot for L'Oréal Paris recently and it was intimidating af... plus dudes came up to hit on her CONSTANTLY throughout the night. I guess I'm technically attractive enough but psychologically it was stressful

random_question4123 · 2025-04-03T20:06:27+00:00

10/ are so subjective. I’ve seen lots of men call a girl a 10 when she’s really a 7. Basically, what I’m saying is that these men put these “10s” on a pedestal and assume they’re unattainable. A lot of them can be found at clubs and bars waiting for men to talk to them and yet nobody does.

safailla · 2025-04-03T20:21:18+00:00

Whether you believe you can, or you cant, you are right. sooner or later the man who thinks he can, is right.

Nocturnal_Huntsman05 · 2025-04-03T20:32:52+00:00

Actually it's not about looks as much as it is about the lifestyle. A 10 won't sit at home on a Friday night playing Minecraft or some shit. You need to take her out on fancy dates, you need to have a social circle and hang out with a bunch of people, you need to take her on fancy holidays, you need to have money to afford the lifestyle, you need to have social influence etc. etc... So it's best to actually the best to become a 10 or a 9 yourself first.

somethinlikeshieva · 2025-04-03T20:40:15+00:00

I personally don't want or need to, too high maintenance

burncushlikewood · 2025-04-03T22:17:19+00:00

Confidence is huge, it's been scientifically proven that we are most attracted to people who are similar in looks to us, in fact there's a term called genetic sexual attraction which means we are attracted to people who have similar DNA. I think I can date 10s cause I consider myself very attractive, but what I consider a 10 is different from other men.

TuneSoft7119 · 2025-04-03T23:18:27+00:00

I would be happy with a 2 or 3, I am not even trying to shoot for average girls as they are so far out of my league.

coolkid_hs · 2025-04-04T00:03:54+00:00

ignore her beauty

Odd_Book_9024 · 2025-04-04T00:55:31+00:00

Yeah

AcedtheTuringTest · 2025-04-03T14:03:46+00:00

Not a chance, I'm grateful a woman would even be looking in my general direction without disgust.

Dating a 10 is is about as realistic as throwing a rock into space and hitting another galaxy.

azzurri_1987 · 2025-04-03T12:52:53+00:00

No!!!

Marvinkmooneyoz · 2025-04-03T13:37:25+00:00

Honestly in this climate I don't know if i can date at all

BBC_for_the_World · 2025-04-03T12:38:37+00:00

Yes, but i highly doubt you came across a 10. Is she famous, in the movies, a world model, was she surrounded by an entourage, personal trainers, etc? If not, she wasnt a 10.

Title	Do yall think you can date 10's
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Date	April 3, 2025 12:03 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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