Has directly asking women you have known for a while to fuck actually work?

Charge36 · 2025-08-09T02:20:54+00:00

I think you answered your own question with your example. Just because you've known a woman for a while doesn't mean you can be this uncalibrated. Asking to have sex out of the blue without building any sexual tension first is guaranteed to fail, and likely insult someone you are friends with

Ancient-Position-696 · 2025-08-09T03:03:03+00:00

One of the few times this would be appropriate is when youre talking to your ex.

Being bold is one thing, reading the room is another.

Then_North_6347 · 2025-08-09T03:11:45+00:00

No. No. No. Flirting, building up tension, escalating touch, that works. Directly asking to fuck only works on guys. It will give you 0% success on women.

No_Client_9726 · 2025-08-09T02:37:21+00:00

This is a great way to ruin an opportunity with somebody who would actually fuck you enthusiastically

Go study female psychology, everything with women communication wise is beating around the bush. Also women cannot be overtly sexual for fear of slut-shaming and rejection

Afraid-Staff-3497 · 2025-08-09T02:18:52+00:00

Nope, because you didn't build any tension and straightaway just asking for sex. Make her feel emotions, if she responds well and reciprocating then may be

DataMambo · 2025-08-09T04:57:53+00:00

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MtFranklinson · 2025-08-09T03:47:09+00:00

Are you autistic???

Noothyy · 2025-08-09T03:09:15+00:00

Are you serious? What do you think 😆

Smitty-TBR2430 · 2025-08-09T03:15:26+00:00

Don’t be blatantly obtuse and invite her to “let’s fuck.” Build up some tension over a couple hours first. Then invite her “back to my place” or “come spend the night with me.”

MutedMinds6 · 2025-08-09T06:17:21+00:00

Do you not think women don't have mid guys trying to throw their shitty dicks on them at every opportunity? She's got to actually be attracted to you first dude. The fact that you're trying to use a 'play' is an indication that she's not

Life-Income2986 · 2025-08-09T02:40:40+00:00

If they've been around you for a while and you have had ZERO indication that they want to fuck you, why would you ask something like that?

Hash_Tooth · 2025-08-09T06:04:41+00:00

It’s still all about tension.

If you had spent the past few weeks going out and having fun, not as a couple but just as rogues, she might have a different attitude towards it.

It’s all about giving them something they actually want, she is probably looking elsewhere for that if you’re just a friend.

creamyturtle · 2025-08-09T03:52:51+00:00

just ask her if she wants to watch a movie at your place

Certain_Process_7657 · 2025-08-09T03:43:30+00:00

Never tried it that direct with a woman I've known for a while. Done it a handful of times with women who were very presumably dtf when I met them and it can work if you're certain they're ready to go.

I also don't ever really do the long game method to be fair.

333ccc333 · 2025-08-09T13:35:10+00:00

These comments are stupid. Yes don’t say “ hi nice to meet you, wanna fuck?” But for me when I got more direct it 1000% worked better. Most girls are actually quite horny and just want to be asked out. Maybe you need a tiny bit of getting to know each other and like standard convo. But most of the time this subliminal million times back and forth is just a waste of time. Some security lady where I used to work, would randomly talk to me. Then once I just said f it, can I have your number. Why. Ok yes. What do you want to do. And I just said I wanna eat you out. She blushed and we hooked up later on. After I realized girls are as horny as men. Don’t be a psycho. And if they say no, move on…

kshades25 · 2025-08-09T19:51:51+00:00

Yes. A coworker and I were working on a project together. She always commented how attractive I was. She then playfully asked... wouldn't it be weird if we just fucked?

I said no...lets do it.

She was taken aback by my bluntness and got red..

We exchanged info and it lasted for a few months.

yanonotreally · 2025-08-09T03:02:57+00:00

Right the last thing a self respecting woman wants to hear is someone asking to fuck like it’s a free for all. Wish you worst of luck.

2oam · 2025-08-09T08:28:01+00:00

If you want to burn the friendship for good then go for it.

No-Compote-2127 · 2025-08-09T07:28:50+00:00

Unlike for men sex is not some limited resource women have to work for. So offering it will not give you much success

Agent_Galahad · 2025-08-09T18:14:54+00:00

The fastest way to make a woman lose interest in sex is to bring up the topic of sex

SnooMacarons6242 · 2025-08-09T06:22:19+00:00

Nope, u gotta do it early or you’re friendzone

Vanko6000 · 2025-08-09T08:35:19+00:00

Only works if you're a 10/10. Or if she's totally desperate for intimacy. For the vast majority of guys and with the vast majority of women it will not work and will backfire even

warlockflame69 · 2025-08-09T10:36:58+00:00

Only if you pay them well….

thegreat4 · 2025-08-09T18:43:52+00:00

If you haven’t had one night stands, weekend flings, fucked women without dates the you shouldn’t be allowed to comment on certain post because it’s a lot of dudes in here that have obviously never had a one night stand because if you plan on having one sex needs to be talked about in order for it to happen, dick doesn’t just end up in pussy.

nocomply001 · 2025-08-09T06:30:03+00:00

This is the classic scene from American Pie “Suck me beautiful”

reallyred11 · 2025-08-09T07:16:30+00:00

That’s one of the worst things I’ve read on this topic. Why would you do that

splittingxheadache · 2025-08-09T11:15:00+00:00

Only if she already has considered fucking you

PlayaNoir · 2025-08-09T16:55:38+00:00

It only works with women that actually want to fuck you.

thegreat4 · 2025-08-09T18:39:13+00:00

For me, actually yes. I have asked women for both head and to fuck and it’s worked but it’s not what you say it’s how you say it!

bigchakrasenpai · 2025-08-09T06:27:20+00:00

Depends on the woman

zephyrwastaken · 2025-08-09T12:27:18+00:00

Horrible strategy. Even the most open minded hyper sexual women would be extremely caught off guard by this. The risk to reward is so atrociously off balance, this is an insane thought process to have. Best case scenario they politely decline, worst case youre in a sexual misconduct case.

Rocko210 · 2025-08-09T17:45:19+00:00

Women generally do not like being asked to fuck, it implies that they’re easy or its all you want.

Women want it to “just happen naturally” after flirting, tension, arousal, four play, etc.

It sounds weird but thats the way it is. You’re supposed to be a mind reader, without being blunt about it.

IslandMan01 · 2025-08-09T02:14:40+00:00

Yeah

WebNew9978 · 2025-08-09T06:37:49+00:00

JJ920920 · 2025-08-09T06:39:56+00:00

well you tried and failed, what matters is how you going to go about it after. If you say “sorry” she will look at you as a coward, if you say “i meant it and i am not going to apologize”, she will see you very differently than before… in the bright side, you are out of her “friend zone”

Remote-Definition-95 · 2025-08-09T07:14:43+00:00

I just looked this shit up bc of yt, WTF 😭🙏

Lord_Who · 2025-08-09T15:08:35+00:00

🤣

mooreba2 · 2025-08-09T15:37:02+00:00

It can work if you’ve already banged her a few times and y’all are in a Fwb situation. Then yes, you can ask her if you’re in the mood if she would like to come over for a bit. Even then you’re not saying sex but implying it and she’ll know what you want.

magicfingers73 · 2025-08-09T15:47:02+00:00

Yes, more thackeray once. Just be honest, but not crass.

Kgb725 · 2025-08-10T12:01:55+00:00

That only works if there's a vibe or some flirting beforehand if youre just gonna do it out of the blue.

guicho_02136 · 2025-08-11T03:33:55+00:00

I've tried this with a few women I've known. I've hooked up with 2 of them so far.

poly_nerdy_panda · 2025-08-11T15:48:29+00:00

bro you never want to ask a girl directly you're not gay.. only gay guys can ask directly.. it has to seem like it just happend... you happend to get naked and she got naked and your dick happend to get inside her... or you happened to eat her pussy....

taht being said its probly a waste of time going for old friends unless you want to settle down with her

Zombi3Kush · 2025-08-09T09:08:12+00:00

It could work but you burn a lot of bridges to get to that chance that might never happen.

Neat-Egg5659 · 2025-08-09T08:46:17+00:00

build tension first. coffee dates work better than "lets fuck tonight" (trust me)

entitledwank · 2025-08-09T14:34:36+00:00

if a woman asked a guy directly it would work.

but women like being seduced. they like the chase. they need to experience emotions.

i’m sure there are women out there that it would work on, but if you want lays then learn how to seduce

Gandoff2169 · 2025-08-09T17:19:29+00:00

I have never done this nor think I could. I am the type who see's sex as a bit more than just an act. How at least some bond is needed. A FWB thing with a real friendship.

But there has been studies to have shown that it is a practice with different results. One says only 1-3% of women would say yes and only 25% of mean. Yet another said 65% of mean would agree to return to a woman's place with only 75% of those men agreeing to sex; will women rates would be 35% to return to the guy's place and only 60% of them open to sex. And this was sober results. SO many odd things you can find online just to answer a random reddit posts.... smh And the real question is why did I feel the need to look the information up? lol

But this comes down to who you ask, as much as how you look. But it is not just a "hey, lets have sex" statement. If you flirted with her and was a bit romantic a bit, then asking her if she wanted to "be together tonight" might have worked.

The way you did what you did, likely ruined your friendship and any chance of anything happening with them too.

bringit_0n · 2025-08-09T18:50:37+00:00

Looks better for me when I don't know her. I'm female

nordik1 · 2025-08-09T20:44:03+00:00

Shocking news: asking woman for sex directly doesn’t work well.

Also why the book “mode one” is the dumbest thing ever written

Roidot · 2025-08-10T20:08:25+00:00

Are you James Bond? If yes then you can try that approach, otherwise no.

bloodhail02 · 2025-08-11T00:45:24+00:00

even if you had a girl you had sex with on the regular, “can we fuck tonight” i think they’d reject you

FlowSurferFromMars · 2025-08-11T07:57:16+00:00

Jesus this girl has been creeped out for life.

TwistAndStir · 2025-08-11T11:06:35+00:00

You just went and asked that out of the blue, a bir rudely too, and you wonder why she said no? At the very least you wanted to start the conversation and then suggested that it was something that you were thinking and that would be nice to perhaps sometime chill together and maybe, just maybe it would have happened down the line. You can't expect a woman you know for a while to simply say yes, just like that out of the blue, is self respect.

LeatherDonkey3806 · 2025-08-11T14:46:34+00:00

This never works. Ask to get drinks first, its a relatively innocent first step and any one whos dtf will agree to that

2kokuoyabun · 2025-08-12T03:18:48+00:00

nope. knowing for a while is not exciting.

Throwaway31427181618 · 2025-08-12T03:53:16+00:00

No...unless you're Leonardo DiCaprio or some other A-list celebrity.

AwkwardDog9207 · 2025-08-12T22:45:02+00:00

Hi my name is John and I would like to meet you

AwkwardDog9207 · 2025-08-12T22:55:44+00:00

Hi my name is John this is my first time could you would you like a chat

Emergency-Ad1006 · 2025-08-15T12:50:06+00:00

It works only if: - she is much older, divorced and/or has been single for a while

she is young and has self-esteem/body image issues
she is a sex worker
you are a supermodel/celebrity/pro athlete
she is a lesbian (needless to say, you have to be one too)

2025-08-28T01:51:30+00:00

Yes, but you need to make a slight adjustment. Switch from absolute directness to what I call "semi-covert." The idea behind semi-covert communication is that you don't directly say "let's fuck" but it's obvious that's what you mean by what you're saying. I'll give you an example.

My friend was talking to this girl online and when they were gonna hang out for the first time he asked her to bring a friend for me. So she did. Long story short we basically went directly to my house after we picked them up to drink. My friend is a total natural so within 30 minutes he was already fucking his girl in the bathroom.

At first my girl didn't want to sit on the couch with me so I just gave her the chair and some space but started having a brief conversation with her. It honestly wasn't even a flirty conversation. Eventually she sat down next to me on the couch. We just chilled for a bit. Then somebody turned the music way up and I used that as an excuse. I said the dumbest shit too. I put my arm around her and pulled her in and whispered in her ear:

"It's getting kinda loud in here. You wanna go in the other room?"

Now the reason why I chose this example is because it perfectly illustrates my point that, even though I didn't say "let's fuck" girls are not stupid. They know what the fuck "wanna go in the other room" means. The "it's loud in here" is just a random excuse. I could've used any excuse no matter how dumb. But you NEED AN EXCUSE. You can just be like "let's go in the other room". You gotta make it feel more natural even if the excuse is absurd like "it's kinda loud in here". Or "I wanna show you something." Yes literally "hey you wanna go in the other room, I wanna show you something." Is 100x better than "let's go in the other room" or god forbid your "you wanna fuck" line.

So anyway the girl said something like "Damn, why you moving so fast? I just got here." Which proves that, even though I NEVER mentioned sex, she knew exactly what I meant. She wasn't confused. She knew I wanted to fuck her and I was inviting her in the other room to make a move and she refused because she felt I moved too fast. Now, crucially I didn't apologize or let myself get affected by the rejection at all. I was just like "ight, we can just chill until you're comfortable and ready." The she literally replied "we can fuck later, just not right now." And I was just casually like "okay". Long story short we end up fucking like 20 mins later.

Another time I had a girl over and we were chilling in the living room and I said "hey you wanna see the rest of my apartment? I feel like I should give you a proper tour so you know where the bathroom and bedroom are." Completely ridiculous excuse. Why does she need to know where the bedroom is for any reason other than to have sex. Though, she said "sure" and then I showed her the bathroom just to sell it and then showed her the bedroom. Immediately told her when we got in the bedroom that "I just wanted to get you alone so i could do this..." then started making out with her and it ended in sex.

The point with these examples is that I am technically being super direct. I'm inviting girls to have sex with me. The key is that I'm using "semi-covert" communication. Where the words give plausible deniability, but it's obvious what I'm really saying is "let's fuck." Girls know it and if they want it they'll go along with it.

shittybillz · 2025-08-09T17:46:39+00:00

Only time this will work is if you know for a fact the girl has been fawning over you for a while. For a strictly platonic friend, no bueno.

Maybe if it was during a night out and you’re flirting throughout the night, kind of a spontaneous situation, but that’s not quite what you asked.

My opinion is a hard no to this strategy

Illustrious-Aerie-36 · 2025-08-09T17:27:49+00:00

Asking a woman to fuck directly is like asking a man for $100 (No I’m not saying sex = $100, just hang in there a minute). Why would you presume you have the right to ever ask that from someone? Who cares if you’re being direct?

UltraAirWolf · 2025-08-10T00:17:15+00:00

Hey instead of going to dental school can I just buy a sledgehammer?

Title	Has directly asking women you have known for a while to fuck actually work?
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Date	August 9, 2025 2:12 AM UTC (11 months ago)
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